The famous American psychologist Syrgman proposed a happy formula -
Total Happiness Index = Congenital Genetic Quality Environment After the day You can actively control the psychological strength
The expression of English: h = s C V
The contemporary people live more openly, we frank happiness, we pursue happiness. Where is the happiness? Contemporary psychology tells us that happiness is also an index, and the total happiness index refers to your more stable happiness, not temporary happiness and happiness. I saw a comedy movie, or ate a meal, this is a temporary pleasure, and the happiness is that you feel sustained happiness, stable happiness, she includes the overall satisfaction of your real life and you The quality of your own life refers to your full affirmation of your own survival status. This overall happiness depends on three factors: one is a congenital genetic quality, the second is the environmental incident, the third is the psychological power you can control.
Congenital genetic influence happiness
How can happiness be associated with congenital things? A pair of two-child student research proves that a person's mood may be affected by parents, such as the birth of a depression, it is not happy, but there is nothing bad things to bother them, but they are unhappy, negative for life. The dark side is very sensitive, and it is easy to be infected by bad things. Even good things can not make them happiness.
● 20 million US dollars, Rose is only happy for less than a year.
The famous American psychologist Tell Gman told a story. Rose is middle-aged woman in the suburbs of Chicago. She is divorced for many years, in order to make her life more hope, she spends five dollars a lot of lottery tickets every week. Since she is always in the low mood, she has to rely on a drug that is anti-depressed. This bad mood started from the Middle School, for more than 20 years, only three years ago, her husband has been abandoning her more seriously. However, the miracle happened. Rose won the lottery prize in her state, a whole, $ 2 million. She is excited to be almost faint. She resigned from the work of washing workers, purchased a villa with 18 rooms, and sent two children into the best private school. But amazing is that her happiness is less than a year, she has been deteriorated. At the end of the year, her depression has reappeared, she is not happy like it ...
● Wealth and success cannot be happy, and the emotions of Lotte are a stable money, but also can't buy it happiness? Psychologists have investigated 22 people with depression but have a lot of lottery prizes. After winning events, they quickly returned to the pre-depression state and felt unhappy. But it is gratifying that if a naturally optimistic person encounters a temporary traumatic event to their negative impacts is also a short-lived, after a few months of unfortunate incident, they returned to the normal state of the past. The survey shows that even a patient in a high paraplegia, if it is an optimistic person, his positive emotions will be restored after eight weeks of sickness, and the negative emotions will beat. After several years, the happiness they report is only slightly lower than normal people. It seems that the emotions of the musician people are stable. The overall level of money and wealth is not big.
● Bilateral marriages are not bilateral happiness, the most happy people are willing to share life with others.
As the saying goes, marriage is a surrounding city, some people want to go in, some people think. According to the US survey of 35,000 people, 42% of the people who married people think that life is very happy, and there is only 24% of life very happy, divorced and spouse died. In individualist culture, people who are living but not official marriage feel very happy, while people in collectivism have no feelings. But to note that if your marriage is not happy, then your happiness will be lower than those who are not married or people who have been divorced. Overall, people who marry are more happily than those who are married. In terms of social life, Selgman's studies have shown that 10% of the happiest people have a variety of shape, but their common feature is a rich social life, and one of the people who distinguish between ordinary people and unhaneous people are willing to be with others. Share life, not one person. This is a bit associated with marriage, a person who likes to be with others, is willing to get married, and a person who is willing to be alone does not tend to get married, can say a happy person is a person who loves to communicate, has a rich social life.
● Young is not as important as the past, and life satisfaction increases with age increases.
Does age have an impact on happiness? Wilson has been studied more than 30 years ago, and the age is an important factor affecting happiness. Young is not as important as the past, an authoritative study examined more than 60,000 people in different countries, and three aspects of life satisfaction, happy mood and negative mood, study found that life satisfaction increases with age Increase, but the pleasant mood is slightly declining with age, and the negative mood does not change as the age changes.
● Educational level, climate, race and gender do not affect happiness
There is no evidence that these factors have any effect on happiness. The educated educator is not more happier than those who are not educated, and the intelligence is true. Whether it is sunny or a humid climate, there is no impact on people's happiness. The race does not affect happiness, and all kinds of people have happiness and unhappy people, and gender is also more than men in happiness, women happiness and sorrow are more than men, so they are the same as men's happiness. .
Wealth, especially the increase in wealth, and only low related to happiness. Rich people report that only more happily than ordinary people. In the last half, the per capita income of developed countries has increased a lot, but the happiness has only increased.
The recent revenue increase can increase happiness, and increasing income in the general sense will not increase human happiness.
The appeal of appearance does not affect people's happiness.
In summary, if you want yourself more happiness, you may wish to choose the following environment:
1. Life is rich; 2. Have a happy marriage; 3. Enrich your social life, more with friends; 4. Belief.
The last part of the happiness formula is also the most important thing that you can master, how to control your psychological power.
Dr. Liu Xiangping, Professor, Psychology University, Beijing Normal University
