Enjoy freedom from 13 years old
Source: Author: [US] Anne Lambert Liu Chang Liu Yuting translation
Willing to be responsible for your life, this is a manifestation of self-esteem.
I will teach me everything from a young mother asks why. She is a mother who is never endless "why" never eats.
However, my mother never gives me an answer, but let me think about it. Gradually, I learned to analyze all the possibilities before doing things, and I often ask questions when I am in trouble: "If someone is so for me, what do I think?" Mom's tualing and strict requirements for me to form a good The character is a solid foundation.
I was 13 years old birthday, my mother called me into her room. "Annie, I want to talk to you." Mom took the bed around him. "Something wrong?"
"I used it for 12 years to cultivate your values and morality," she opened the mouth, "Do you think I have the ability to distinguish it?" "Of course." I replied. This unexpected opening white makes me feel hidden.
"Today is your 13th birthday. From now, you will no longer be a child, life will become more complicated." Mom said heavyly, "I have already laid the foundation for you, now you start my own ideas." It's time. "I am unreasonable - what idea is?"
Mom laughed. "From now on, your own rules I have, when I got up, when did you sleep, when you write a job, and who make friends, these are determined by yourself."
"I don't understand. Are you angry with me? What do I do wrong?" Mom reached out to my shoulders: "Everyone will do itself later. Many young people who are strictly managed by their parents, often leave them. University, no one has given the terrible mistakes when they guide them, and some even destroy their lives. So I have to give you freedom as soon as possible. "
I stared at her, and all kinds of ideas flashed together. So, I will go home for more night, I will participate in various gatherings, no one urges me to write homework ... this is great!
Mom stood up, smashed, remember, this is a responsibility. The family is watching you. And only you are responsible for your own fault. "
"Why do you trust me so?" I am very excited. "Because I would rather you now make mistakes, now you are still at home, I can give you suggestions and help." She said with hard to hold me, "Don't forget, I have been by your side. At any time, if you need, if you need, I will help you at any time. "
Our conversation is over. As in the past, this birthday is spent with your family, with a cake, ice cream, a gift; and the time of the mother and daughter is the most meaningful birthday present I received. I understand that my mother has not completely went out of my life, just give me space to stretch the wings, ready for the future.
In the following years, I have also done a lot of wrong things, but that is the life experience of each less male girl. I sometimes don't finish the job, occasionally, and I have participated in a dangerous party. Mom never scolded me for these. When I decline, she will calmly point out that I want to enter the ideal university is decreasing, the worse the results, the less chance. If I get a night, she will smile in humor. Is it a bad mood? At that time, she just asked me what my friends did it after 10 years, wanted to be the same as them. I certainly don't want that. When I understand this, I will constantly change my behavior to make up for the loss.
Life is like a brocade, mothers always use the best suggestions to help me repair cracks. I have never had a rebellion and resentment of parents like many young people. In fact, mom's education methods make us more intimate.
A few years ago, I also brought her a similar conversation in my house. In her adolescence, we have always been intimate. My son also talked to his father at this age. Although the children have made a lot of mistakes, they have proven that they are just a milestone. At the same time, more serious mistakes are therefore avoided because they are seriously thinking and discussing with us. They regard their parents as a good friend, rather than regulators, and the relationship between the two generations is healthy and harmonious. Life and wisdom continue to continue in this family. Love, honor, and respect for experience, the respect of wisdom has been cherished. These have benefited from my best friend - my mother.
Source: Author: [US] Anne Lambert Liu Chang Liu Yuting translation
