Perhaps you need to experience your feelings before you really know how to share. Many people pay only the mechanical style for family or marriage, otherwise it is completely unknown; this may be due to the significance of them from having self-ownership, lack of self-identity, and low self-evaluation. Therefore, it is really good for children's education, it should be in full patience, cultivate their feelings, and teach them to "Leashi Good" value with sufficient wisdom, and often as usual.
The problem of the problem is that the standard is not true
The average person is always admiring for successful individuals, family and groups. They envy others's ability, mature, family unity and cooperation, and the organization of the team spirit. But they really want to know, but the secret behind the success, ask the successful person, nothing more than how to make immediate, consolidate the method of solving their own problems.
People with this idea have people who can provide such answers. Sometimes a quick approach is still useful, temporarily eliminating some items. It is only the true crux still exists, and the problem of a long time will emerge. Moreover, more help to "special medicine", the condition is dragged, and the condition is more deteriorated.
Now let's review the examples mentioned in this chapter.
● I have across the courses that have been effective for the employees, I also want to treat them, and I want to maintain a good relationship with each other's expectations. But I always feel that the employees are not faithful. If I have a sick at home, they will do nothing to do. Why can't you train them into independence and responsible employees? Why can't I find this employee?
The manager who is eager to constrain the employees but have no handlessness, the personal charm is suggested that he takes a fierce means, and the big event is rented, forcing employees. Or let employees accept related training to improve their enthusiasm, even more exciting foreign monks.
However, the employees of Yang Baiyin violates, may be questioned by the boss, there is no thinking for them, have you treat them as a machine. The idea of employees may not be airless, and the boss has indeed seen them so, and the competent attitude deviation may be one of the reasons for managing poor management.
● I have to do too much, but I always feel that time is not enough. I feel nervous every day and hurried. 7 days a week, every day. I participated in the time management seminar, and I also tried that there were no six planning time, although I can't say it, I still feel that I can't live a full and comfortable life.
For those who are not enough for time, personal charm is guaranteed to have a solution, such as various time management plans and lectures, is designed for need.
But if you think about it, improve efficiency may not solve the problem. Complete more work in shorter time, is it really so important, or instead will make you more close to the grassroots and things? Is there a thing is really worthy of your understanding and experience, including some thinking? Is enough to affect your life, life and self-essence?
● My marriage has become dull. We did not worsen the opposition, even big hands, just no longer feelings. We have taught marriage consultants, and we also tried many ways, but as if it is unable to re-ignite love sparks in the past.
For those who have entered the plain period of marriage, the personal charm pagada pointed to you, a book or some course helps expressive ability, can enhance the relationship between husband and wife. Or, simply think that this marriage has been like this, it is better to stove, to reinitely feel the feeling of love.
However, maybe the problem is not in the other half, it is the shortcomings of each other, indirectly leading the treatment. Your basic idea of spouse, marriage, love may be the root of the problem.
From the above example, have you spotted how personal charm is deeply rooted, completely left and right, and the way we see questions and seek answers?
Regardless of whether the average person is realized, in short, there is no more increasingly people, and there is no more fantasy for these voids. I have cooperated with all kinds of organizations in the United States, I have discovered the attention of the attention, and the style of only the stories or empty singing is high-profile. They are actual and gradual approach, not the suggestion of Aspirin and the first aid box. They want to solve the problem of long-term fundamental issues and put the focus on the principle of long-term future. Reversible, from inside out
The famous scientist Einstein once said:
When the major problem occurs, according to our ideological level, it is often unable to solve.
When we look around, we will examine the inner, and found that after the pursuit of fast-growing special effects, it will be understood that some fundamental problems cannot be solved in a superficial way. Therefore, we need more in-depth new ideological standards, which is a correct behavioral standard, guide us to solve fundamental problems, and pursue a satisfactory life. This new ideological standard is the seven habits of high-efficiency people. It emphasizes the principle-based, moral basis, and "interpersonal effectience" cultivation .
"Inside-Out" is reversible, and by the most basic part of the individual - thinking, morality and motivation.
If you want to have a happy marriage, then you will be a person who can boost and non-resistance, don't give it for each other. If you want adolescent children to be more obedient, let's like it, then do a good words and deeds, parents who have love and understand. If you want to enjoy more freedom and autonomy at work, then you will be more responsible for diligence. If you want to get trust, then you will be trusted. If you want to be buried, then the basic product morality is first cultivated.
It emphasizes the inside and outside, first pursuing personal success, in order to have the achievements of interpersonal relationships; first keep the commitment to our own, in order to abide by the promise of others. Anyone who is focused on the product of morality, or cannot be made by personal cultivation, and expects to improve interpersonal relationships.
Outside the inside, it is a process that follows the natural law of mastering personal growth, and constantly exceeding the process. It will form a benign loop to upgrade us to a higher level of self-reliance and interdependence. I have worked with many talents and people who are long-awaited, including business executives, college students, religion and folk groups, couples. From the experience of contact with them, it is often not a test for the happiness, success, or solving problems that have been governed by them.
This kind of idea is often made of people, and only sees the shortcomings of others or causing the objective environment that is not related to each other. I have seen some marriage, the couple, the couple only want the other party to change, busy to expose the other party's "sin", and hope to control each other. I have also experienced some labor disputes. The two sides would rather spend a lot of time energy, and set various regulations to constrain each other, but in fact, no one trusts.
My family has lived in the world's three most "lively" places - South Africa, Israel and Ireland. The conflicts in these areas have not been resuspend, I believe it is inevitably because the public cannot reverse themselves. Every party believes that the problem is caused by others. If "others" can "speaking" or suddenly "disappear", the problem will naturally solve.
As for the revitalization of our own revocations, we have the body's style, because of the style of personal charm, plus traditional conceptual impact, the parties often need a large self-admission to convert thinking.
In fact, from my own experience and experience with people, I am convinced that the seven habits of this book have long been deeply rooted, and the principles they cover are in line with the average people's conscience and common sense. But in order to confirm these principles, and play to relieve the depths of the heart, we must change the idea, convert thinking, and improve our own new realm. When we conscientiously understand these principles and integrate into life, I believe that the famous American poet Eliot (tseliot) will continue to emerge:
We must not stop exploring, and all the ends of all exploration are the starting point and have the first understanding of the starting point.
