Later, when I served as an adviser for individuals or companies, I often borrowed this experiment because it enabled us to have a more thorough understanding of the nature of people and interpersonal relationships. The most important thing is that it fully reflects how much influence on our thinking. In just 10 seconds, this effect can be produced, and the constraints that continue to lifelong can be imagined. Affects in a person's life, the influence from home, school, work environment, friends and relatives, religion, and pop charm (such as personal charm), all of which do not know us, around our thinking - Mind map.
This experiment also shows that thinking is the foundation of behavioral and attitude, and our words are unfolded from thinking. Take Figure 1-2 as an example, if you think that it is a young woman, it will naturally not think that she will pass the street. Your attitude and behavior must be consistent with her views.
This can highlight one of the basic defects of personal charm, that is, emphasizing the fur of behavior and attitude, but ignores the root cause.
From this experiment, we can also understand the role of views on interpersonal relationships. The average person always believes that his own point of view is correct and objective, but the experiment has proved that although others have different conclusions, they do not mean subjective, wrong.
In fact, we overestimate yourself, because we are looking at the outside world through colored glasses, that is, use itself to see. Therefore, when someone is inconsistent with our opinions, we feel that others have problems. In fact, the differences are different from the views, and it is a completely normal phenomenon.
However, this does not mean that there is no objective fact existence. For example, in Figure 1-2, both sides have seen white-bottom black lines, and they also admit it to the existence, but everyone has different interpretations based on past experience. These facts do not have any meaning without interpretation.
Once we have the basic thinking (map) and experience to add our influence, more understandings, you can be responsible for your thinking, and check. At the same time, the views and thinking of others can also be accepted, so they can get a more objective view.
Thinking conversion, establish a new point of view
In the inspector of this experiment, the most important thing is the experience of "epiphanity", that is, suddenly understanding the other party to watch this picture. This phenomenon we call "thinking conversion". The bigger impact on you is bigger, and the more stimulation of merits is also bigger.
The word "Paradigm Shift" Thomas Kuhn is first proposed, seeing the book of the "The Structure of Scientific Revolutions" in his extremely influential classics. Kux is explained in the book, and the major breakthroughs in each scientific research, almost all of them broke the tradition, breaking the old thinking, and then successful.
● PTOLEMY believes that the earth is the center of the universe, but Copernicus advocates the sun to the center of the universe, so I inspire the conversion of thinking. Although the latter has incurred strong resistance and persecution, but in the blink of an eye, humans have completely changed the interpretation of the universe.
● Although the physics principle of Newton Newton is still the foundation of modern engineering, but it has not been exhausted in the border. The relativity of Albert Einstein has brought a revolution to the scientific community.
● Many women died before the bacteria did not appear, many soldiers died of injuries and non-enemy attacks; until the bacteria brought new concepts, modern medicine has advanced possible.
● Today's US is also the result of thinking conversion. Traditional monarchy, monarchic authoritarian thinking, replaced by the concept of democracy, and civil society, which promotes democratic constitutionalism and freedom.
But not all thinking conversions are positive. For example, we have mentioned that it is emphasized that the product is to emphasize personal charm, but we deviate from the right track of truly success and happiness.
No matter the profit and disadvantages of thinking conversion, it is not necessary to pursue it gradually or suddenly. In short, it will change our attitude and behavior, and power is amazing, this is not doubtful. I personally had a small thinking conversion experience. I remember that, on Sunday morning, in the Metro in New York, passengers sat quietly, or read newspapers or meditation or small, and a calm and peaceful scene. At this time, suddenly a man came up with a few children, the child's snout, destroyed the entire atmosphere. The man is sitting next to me, letting his children learn, still indifferent. This kind of situation will be angry, the people in the whole car seem to be very dissatisfied, and finally I finally couldn't bear to say: "Mr., your child bothermar, can you manage them?"
The man lifted a sluggish, as if the dream was awakened, he whispered: "Yes, I think I should manage them. We just came back from the hospital, their mother passed 1 hour ago. I have six gods, no Lord, The children probably don't know how it is good. "
Can you imagine my feelings at the time? Instantly, I have changed the angle of this matter, the idea, the feeling and behavior also change. My anger is full, and I can't help but feel sad for him, sympathy and mercy. "Hey, your lady has just passed? Sorry! Can you talk to me? Is there a place to help?" All everything will change.
Many people will also praise the meaning of life in the face of life and death. This phenomenon sometimes occurs when you suddenly enter a new role, such as your husband, wife, parent, supervisor or leader.
View and essence
Of course, not all thinking conversions are like me in the New York subway, my experience in educating their sons in the New York City is a long, hard and feminine process. At first we were in the traditional and customs, and the success or disgrace of the child was on behalf of the parents. Until the later, thinking changes, seeing the angle of things, it completely adjusted himself and around the environment.
In order to look at your son with a new point of view, we must re-do people. We invest time energy to cultivate morality and establish different thinking than previous thinking.
Thinking and morality are closely related, so "what kind of thinking is what kind of thinking." If the nature does not change, thinking is difficult to convert.
