The success of morality emphasizes that the successful life and basic moral morality are not. Only cultivating yourself with morality can enjoy the truly success and a long time.
There is no normal life, there is no real life.
- David Starr Jordan, American Biologists and educators
For more than 25 years, I have been in business, university and serving as a family marriage adviser. I have been touched by my heart, but I am very eager to have a harmonious, successful life, and enjoy continuous development. Good interpersonal relationship. I believe what they face is also your concern:
● I have set a lot of goals for myself, and I will also reach one by one. My career is very successful, but I sacrifice my personal and family. Not only is the same as the wife and children, but I don't even know that I don't know yourself, I don't know what to do. I have to ask questions - do you worth it?
● I have begun to control the diet this year. I know that my body is too heavy and I really want to change. I have read all the new information, determine the goal, motivate yourself with a positive attitude, saying that I can do it. But I didn't do it. After a few weeks, I failed. I don't seem to have my promise at all.
● I have across the courses that have been effective for the employees, I also want to treat them, and I want to maintain a good relationship with each other's expectations. But I always feel that the employees are not faithful. If I have a sick at home, they will do nothing to do. Why can't you train them into independence and responsible employees? Why can't I find this employee?
● My teenage son does not listen, and also take drugs. No matter what I said, he didn't listen to me. What should I do?
● I have to do too much, but I always feel that time is not enough. I feel nervous every day and hurried. 7 days a week, every day. I participated in the time management seminar, and I also tried that there were no six planning time, although I can't say it, I still feel that I can't live a full and comfortable life.
● I want to teach my children to understand the value of work, but every time they want to do something, I have to move around, I have to endure their complaints from time to time, and the result is not as simple as you do. Why can't the children can't use others to remind others if they are happy to enjoy their own things?
● I am very busy, I really busy. But sometimes I don't know, from the long run, what I do is meaningful. I really hope that it is meaningful in my life, I hope that because of my existence, things will have something different.
● I saw someone else, or I got some kind of affirmation, I will piled up a smile on the surface, and I have a self-conceivement. However, it is hard to have it. Why have this feeling?
● My personality is very strong. I know that almost in any interaction, I can control the results. In most cases, I can even affect other people through the resolution I want. I carefully consider every situation, and I feel that the recommendations I propose usually the best for everyone. But I feel uneasy. I often don't know what attitude towards me.
● My marriage has become dull. We did not worsen the opposition, even big hands, just no longer feelings. We have taught marriage consultants, and we also tried many ways, but as if it is unable to re-ignite love sparks in the past.
These are deep, painful problems, not to solve one day two days.
A few years ago, my wife and Sandra were a similar problem. One of our son was in the school in the school, his achievements were terrible, and the answer sheet on the exam paper couldn't understand, and I thought it was high. In communication, he is immature, often makes those who are very close to him very embarrassed. On the sports field, his body is thin and is not flexible. When playing baseball, the ball is often waving yet, and every time I have a mocking.
Sandra and I do try to help him. We always think that if you want to be a "ten beautiful", we have to be a perfect parent. So we change your attitude and behavior, and try to change the son, we try to use a positive attitude to inspire his self-confidence. For example, encouraging him: "Come on, you can do it! We know you can. Hold the stick, look at the ball, wait for the ball to come again." As long as we have a lot of progress, we must not stop It is praised to enhance his confidence. If someone laughs at him, we must blame each other: "Don't laugh, let him come, he is still studying." And then our son will cry, insist that he will always learn, and he is not Like baseball.
All the efforts seem to be in vain, then we are really anxious, see all this effort, but the self-esteem is a blow. At first we tried to encourage, help, affirm him, but after repeatedly failed, finally gave up. Just try to look at this thing from another angle.
At that time, my main job was to design leadership training courses for customers around the United States. Because of this machine, I have to be the supervisor of the International Commercial Machine Company (IBM) every two months to teach courses related to communication and cognition.
During the process of preparing the textbook, the formation of thinking, how to think about the view, how to be around, and these are interested, therefore further research the theoretical theory. I realized that every person's thinking is deep. And, it is understood that the perception is not only to recognize the external world, more "lens" through our time, because this lens (ie thinking) is often around our interpretation of the outside world.
I talked to Sandra to these concepts and take it with the troubles you encountered. Finally, we often don't feel unhappy about your son. After the anti-buds, we admit that in the depths of the heart, I really feel that my son "is not as good as people." Therefore, regardless of their attitude and behavior, it is limited, and the effect is limited. Because the surface's words and deeds can't cover the information that is really conveyed, "You can't, you need the protection of your parents."
At this time we realize that you have to change the status quo, you have to change yourself; you have to change yourself, first soon to change our views of the outside world.
