Personality only has no shortcomings (three people in Hongbin)
A speech changed his destiny, and Yang Bin was described like this when recalling the scene of the day: "At that time, I sat more relying on the post, because I had a very indifferent feeling of this world. So I was sitting there with a suspicion and picky vision, soaring the Erlang legs, I thought about seeing this guy. "
At the end of the speech, the teacher talked about the dream, which made Yang Bin feel very strange, because the teachers on the stage have been 40 years old. Yangbin Xin thought, this is still talking about it, is this not a child? He felt a smile in his heart.
I didn't expect this teacher to give you a story. He said that ancient Greece's big philosophers Socrates' disciples he asked him: "Teacher, I want to ask you, what is the dream?" Yangbin, who is sitting under the platform, dreams, this is difficult to explain, isn't it ideal, ideas and wishes?
Listening to the teachers on the stage, the Socrates brought his disciples to the river. He suddenly grabbed the hair of the disciple, pressed his head and pressed in the water, one second, two seconds, three seconds ... until half a minute passed Socrates will be loosened. After his disciples come out from the water, the big mouth is breathed.
At this time, Socrates asked him: "What do you think when you are in the water? And there are no longer want it anymore."
"Want to point the air." His disciple replied.
"You are sure that you really don't want it, do you really want it?"
"I am sure that I thought it was only able to breathe a fresh air so that I lived." His disciple represented.
Socrates said: "That is your dream."
This is a very simple story. I didn't expect to hear the end, but I deeply touched Yangbin's mind. He suddenly felt that he had never had such a strong dream like Socrate's disciples in his past life.
From that, Yangbin began to think about what they do. He found that his own values are to become a happiness and people who have help others. In the end, they will become a rich person, so only make money is not what they like, can inspire others's thoughts, use themselves Knowledge to change someone else's fate is really wanting.
In the time of revealing the prostitutes, he did not lead people to a deeper theoretical level. He pays more attention to the performance-based speech, and in depth, it will show the true meaning of the character to everyone, giving people a deep The impression, thereby thinking about this issue. My mind is now often emerged in the beginning of 2002, when I listened to him for the first time in the "Learning China-Century Success Forum", the kind of scene that was deeply infected was also infected. Everyone I want to be present. There is the same feeling.
Remember when introducing the characteristics of the live-packed person, Yangbin played this type of person. He invited a listener to come to the stage, and found a chair, and then he showed a party when he was invited by friends who were invited to go to a party. I saw that when he entered the scene, he left carefully, and the people who saw the knowledge came to hug, while the hand was still touched, and the family was touched.
Yang Bin said that in the view of the living, this action is a friendly manifestation, but for the perfect person may not be able to do this, they will say: "Do you don't touch me? "From you will find that the reactions of people with different personality are different, because the perfect people most hate others to violate their space, especially his body; but in a lively person seems to have this friendly expression. It is normal.
He then pointed out that the lively people will not be idle after entering the venue, they especially like to talk, always talk, the mouth is suspended, the mouth is endless, the lotus lotus, there will always be a group of faithfulness next to them. audience. If the company in the venue stands out to interrupt him, you will find that the lively person will sit on the chair like this - say Yangbin, starting a demonstration action, only half of his butt sitting on the chair. The other half ass hangs outside the chair, and his hands and feet are still shaking.
At the same time, Yang Bin also made a question to the audience: "Do you know why the live-packed person is sitting on the chair like this? Because he is ready to start." His voice just caught the whole game Sounds and applause, because everyone thinks he has played a lively person, and he is three points.
"Different live people are also very easy to make friends, he knows that friends just three minutes seem to have met him three years. Although his friends, he is easier to forget friends. The lively person will hold a big business card in the backhand, but on the table, he can't expect who is who is, this is the characteristic of the lively person.
Because when the business card is exchanged, the average person will take a look at the name of the other party, and the lively talent doesn't care about it. The most important thing for them is to leave your own charm and good feelings to each other, so change When he didn't look at it, he didn't even look at it.
The people who have a lively person belong to the kind of person thinking after the first mouth, they often start thinking after the export, so it is easy to say more, but the advantage is that they know that they will apologize, but they commit The wrong speed is always much greater than the speed of the apology, so I will make mistakes again. They have to say something 'sorry, sorry, I am wrong. "His voice just fell, and the picture painted Just arouse a warm applause.
Because the perfect person is always exported after a deep thinking, they think that everyone in the world should be like this.
So when the live-packed person said that the wrong words were mistaken or crossed, they can't understand these people, saying that these people are very bad, not friends I want to pay. Today's courses, you should understand, tolerate these people, because this is their nature, let us give them a little applause? "It's so big that people slowly understand the power of character after a laughter and applause.
In fact, Yangbin raised so many cases, just in order to let people realize this: Everyone seems to like people with their own similar people, there are many bosses, they must not transform their employees. The same person is the same, but this is precisely the misunderstanding of character. In fact, the most unlike yours, people you do the least, maybe it is your team's most needed.
For example, if there is always a person around you saying "11,000", you may give you a small, pessimistic impression, and even make you feel upset. But perhaps because of a "case", let you see that things have been ignored, thereby avoiding certain losses.
Therefore, the character is only characterized without a shortcoming, because the disadvantage is nothing but the excessive extension of the advantages, just as brave excessive turns into blind movement, the confidence will become conceited. The key to the problem is that everyone should understand their own advantages and disadvantages. I have to know who I am, but people who often don't know the most people are yourself. People who don't believe it is yourself.
Yangbin once gave everyone an example when the course was started, I still remember. He said that a stunt expert came to Niagara Waterfall in the United States and Canada to perform a waterfall for everyone on-site. Before the performance is about to begin, he asked the audience present: "You don't believe that I can go?" At that time, Yangbin left this question to the audience, but there were very little voice, Yangbin said: "The answer to the audience is the same as you." But this stunt expert didn't care about it, I saw him turning around and took a step on the wire rope, two steps, three steps ... Finally he finally Successfully walked over. At this time, the audience boiled, when the stunt expert asked whether the audience believed in him, the audience broke out the warm applause.
Last last time, the stunt experts still have not ignored everyone's response, and still walking forward step by step, and finally he succeeded. The whole game boiled again, people can't help but shouted: "You are great!" "We believe you!"
However, the stunt expert still didn't give it, he put his 3-year-old child in his shoulder. When he once again proposed the old question, the audience had heard the sound of answering, because everyone They were shocked by his "crazy". This stunt expert is still unsatisfied with the past, and people who are bold and frightened are shocked by their hearts: "We really believe you!"
"Is this this? That's good, this time I have to do an attempt, I still don't take any safety equipment, and I have to carry a child again, but I want to ask you, who Willing to put your own children in my shoulder? "The voice fell, the audience became a silence of death, because there was no courage to do this in the scene of the scene. Therefore, Yangbin pointed out that it is difficult to believe that others are more difficult.
Yang Bin said to me, in his lectures career, the students asked him the most problem with "My personality is not good?" And he gave the answer to the actors' answer:
The character itself does not have a good disorder, and no one is wrong, just like a famous saying, optimistic and pessimism contribute to this world, the former invented aircraft, the latter invented parachutes.
Each of us has the advantages and deficiencies, so don't feel blame for your own shortcomings. It should be advocated is that there is no perfect individual. Only the perfect team, everyone can achieve each other to meet the team's perfection. For each life individual, you should take the initiative to understand your own advantages and disadvantages, so you can love yourself, tolerate yourself, you can love others, rather than want to transform others into yourself.
How can a person can understand themselves? Yang Bin pointed out that first, we must think about what your needs is, what is the most want to do it; second, if you can't reach, what resources need to be integrated, learn which things are learned.
First understanding of ourselves, it is also necessary to change the shortcomings in the personality, so how to change? According to the principle of the water drums, how much is it to see this wooden barrel, but to see the lowest ave of a hole in the barrel, so it is necessary to change a person's character, Because it is your short limit for your length; it is also to find those who are your shortcomings but is the advantages of others, so they change themselves through each other. In the end, Yang Bin also emphasized: "Which personality is best, if you want me to give an answer, I will say that the character of water is the best. Because it has the same bridge. Cheerful, there is a toughness of water drops; there is a river, and there is a sea with a sea.
He also used such a sentence as a summary of the personality problem: "Thousands of people have thousands of faces, people have different; strive to be perfect, good, we are a good self, all of which are the world's championship."
