The mysteries of character (2 III of Yangbin Interview)
1. What is the character?
Yangbin: The character refers to a recurring behavioral characteristics, as well as the inertia of the environment due to adaptation. Personality includes dominant behavioral characteristics and implicit psychological tendency.
2. Is the reporter personality and character?
Yangbin: Psychology believes that character is composed of three aspects of ability, temperament, and personality, so personalization is only part of character. Some people say that individuality is actually part of the difference in personality, in addition, there are differences, such as some people can sing and dance, versatile; there are also temperament, such as some people are warm, there is The person is calm, less words.
3. The reporter said that "Jiangshan is easy to change, it is difficult to move", do you think character can change?
Yangbin: "It is difficult to move", it can not be changed, so character can also change. According to research results, the genetic formation of a person's character has only accounted for only 40% of factors, and the other 60% of the factors are affected by the living environment, the accepted education, beliefs, parents and life history, etc. Change yourself, to see the size of our determination.
4. How do reporters understand the sentence of "Beyond Excellence"?
Yang Bin: Everyone I said is a superior you, which is that everyone has a flash of flash, such as the strength of the power-type person has a positive life, and it is often very persistent, no Retreat; the lively person is often very creative, always bringing joy to others, and they are also a very positive person;
The perfect person is often very strict, profound, analyzed, scientists are often the type of personality; peace types are very stable, strong, this point is generally unable to do. In fact, these four people will play their own advantages, and then improve their disadvantages, they will surpass themselves.
5. Reporter How do you see success?
Yangbin: Talking about success, maybe everyone's understanding is different, some people who fall to the money will think that there is a success, in fact, success should include the harmonious family, healthy body, and good interpersonal relationships. .
The famous successful school master Carnegie has said that a person's success is 15% depends on his expertise, and 85% depends on his interpersonal relationship. In fact, understanding character is helping you understand yourself, understanding others, better Improve your interpersonal relationship, so your life will be better.
66. Reporter How do you see the value of the personality?
Yang Bin: "The character is destiny", although it is an old suit, but the feeling of this sentence is very deep, it can be said that this is very strong. Because it explains some questions that make me feel confused, many problems have become clear and cheerful through character.
For example, it has emphasized people-oriented, but you don't even understand what others do and tell you people-oriented, and through character success, you can tell you that everyone is actually different. You can truly people-oriented.
In addition, my book name is called "The power of character", why do you say this? Because the character itself has a positive and negative role, each weak point can also find the corresponding advantage. For example, it is too clear that the first is the same, so only to understand this positive and negative role to reach a balance is a happy life. We don't have to feel inferior because of your own weaknesses, from this point, the value of the character is self-evident. 77. How can reporters can change themselves?
Yang Bin: First, you must respect yourself, fully accept yourself, love yourself, this is the most important; second is to respect others, love others. The second step is based on this, and the advantages you have not played yet have been played out, and the strengths you have limited.
The third step is to replenishment, this depends on how big the motivation you change, you can integrate into a team, change yourself by external force. The so-called "there is no perfect individual, only the perfect team" This sentence is here.
One story is like this, an auction site in the United States, the auctioneer took out a violin to announce: "This violin's auction start price is $ 1." I haven't waited for him to start shooting, an old man Just come to the stage, I saw him two words, I didn't say it, and the violin was played, and the beautiful voice of the violin and his superb playing skills made the people listened to the audience.
After playing, the old man put the violin back into the box, or walked to the stage. At this time, the auctioneer immediately announced that the pirate's starting price was changed to $ 1,000. After the start of the official auction, this violin's price is constantly rising, from $ 2,000, $ 3,000, to $ 8,000, $ 9,000, and finally this Violin acts at $ 10,000.
Why do the same violin do this price difference? Obviously, the help of the external force make this violin to achieve its value potential, in fact, the same for our human personality.
8. Reporter Why do you believe that you are more difficult than I believe others?
Yangbin: I believe the limit is from the extent of confidence. Self-confidence generally have two: one is blind self-confidence, this is an ignorant manifestation; the other is a sensible confidence, this self-confidence is known, is based on the full understanding of the self, know your own advantage What is, not enough. Only confident can be understood.
Some people can't believe in others because they are afraid of feelings or they are deceived. There are only two people in this world: a kind of person is trust until it is wrong, and a kind of person does not believe everything until I have proved myself Yes. The former is often seen by others as naive, the second kind of person is often joke as stupid.
Because there will never have a chance to them, there will be no friends, they always live in loneliness and pain. I believe it is actually equal to your feelings, including your ability to support yourself. So, only believe that others can believe in themselves.
. Is there any advantages and disadvantages in the four personality types?
Yang Bin: It seems that the character of peace is the least successful, because this kind of person seems to have no pursuit, but in fact, many leader characters are peaceful, such as the old Ford, Song Jiang, Liu Bei and others. What explains this again? In fact, these people's success is more successful in interpersonal relationships. Their common feature is that the mind is, and it is possible to handle interpersonal relationships, and understand people. Let people think that the most powerful power of success is always, so I want someone to follow them. It is difficult to do things together. It can be seen that the character has no good dissemination.
10. Reporter Parents should pay attention to what issues should pay attention to in children's character?
Yangbin: Parents play a crucial role in the process of childhood formation. As the saying goes, "Three years old, seven years old", I think is a parent, in addition to regulating children's most important social guidelines, don't interfere with children, and find what they are suitable for.
When I gave birth to Malaysia, they were often a school, parents and children, listening to my class, and have some parents in the class. In the past, they always felt that they were all good for children, they were wearing their own colored glasses to see children.
This is like a family playing "struggle" playing card games, after winning, the child's mother must tribute a card to the child, do the mother's best card in his hand - "Dawang" Child, but the child said unhappy: "In fact, I just want to be a red peach." So my parents always think that the best gives children is good, in fact, it is not necessarily the most needed.
Although some parents do not necessarily change after listening to my class, at least they can start recognizing this problem. In the past, there were few people in this area, and there were not many people understood. As for those who applying levels. Many people will have some problems to rise to the essence of the problem before they are not listening, but they will understand that some problems are not so serious, so contradictions will decrease.
11. Reporter One person has a double or multiple personality? Is it good?
Yangbin: People's character will have real my side and wearing a mask, which is very common. The formation of some of the personality wearing masks is often because of the needs of communication, there are some because "required". Some of this is required, some are required by their parents, in addition to this other special factors.
Take me as an example, I am a lively person, but my mother is a careful, all kinds of well-matured people. When I was a child, I wore a mask like my mother, I went to my mother. like. For example, when you are squeezed, I am used to crowding from the middle, but this is often awkward, and in the end, I have to change my habits, just squeeze it from the same way as my mother.
If I can make a reasonable balance with a side of the mask, then the person's personality is better, and it is relatively easy to succeed. But if I have a contradiction between my side and the mask, it will fall into chaos between thinking and action, and even cause significant splits, unstable and hesitating, and life is hard.
12. Why is the reporter why many conflicts in life are due to personality reasons?
Yang Bin: Many conflicts in life are actually derived from personality. Different personality have different thinking patterns. Most people can only understand people with their own similar patterns, but lack the understanding of different personality characteristics. It is difficult to do with other people's way to do things, and have grinding in all aspects of life, work, households.
For example, when a powerful husband is working at home, if the live-spherical wife is familiar with his personality, it will take a new idea to take it immediately, but will wait for him to complete the work. Then say it later. This will avoid her husband to blame her for her work, or her own enthusiasm is spapped with a cold water, thus reducing unpleasant things happening. For example, in the company, your boss is a powerful person, and it is very impatient, it is very impatient, lack of patience. But you are a perfect person, everything is slow, so you may have conflicts between you. But after knowing the knowledge of the personality, you can improve the efficiency while doing things, so it will change the unfavorable situation.
13. Reporter After understanding these characteristics of character, what practical effects on our lives?
Yangbin: "Analysis" as a tool for human psychological exploration, its basic principles have attracted many individuals, business and companies in foreign countries, because it inspired understanding of themselves, family and interpersonal relationships .
By choosing tools for exploring human psychology - personality analysis to understand self, understand others, eliminate successful obstacles, release personal strength, can enjoy the happiness of life. This society is people-oriented, all things are inseparable from people, to solve problems, first must understand people, this is the root of the problem. A key is opened, and the different people should treat it in different ways.
14. Reporter In your previous, many people have studied their character's problems, what do you think of your discovery and their research?
Yangbin: Indeed, there are many people in studying character, including everyone like accommodation, Xibo Lee. I think I have different from them that they tend to post labels, into the box in the box, some experts have proposed six categories, and even more than 30 methods of classification.
I think this will break the growth of the people itself because people's own will also change. I tried to explain the character's law, that is, the attention is not placed on a simple life, but tells people what human nature; let everyone know itself, manage their strengths, but also replenish Thus, harmoniously handle the relationship with others, and ultimately get the happiness of life.
15. Reporter Do you have some cases that have changed after listening to this course?
Yangbin: There have been a couple from Northeast, two people are four or five years old, there are two children. They belong to strength, quarrel every day at home, and they are not admitted to be their own mistakes, and they even have a closing of divorce.
After listening to my class, they found that in fact, contradictions were derived from the individuality of two people, rather than anything else, so they began to understand each other. In the future, when they have to quarrel, I think of the reason for the reason, and the contradiction between them will slowly resolve.
There is also a boss of a beauty salon. It is also a powerful person. She always behaves very tough in the company, so that employees are very afraid of her, between the two sides. After listening to this class, she wake up: How can I do this? In fact, it is just a side of my appearance. So after returning to the company, she began to try to change her own, and her employees also went to love her now.
