Successful and happy
- a letter to Chinese youth students
June 02, 2004 02:28:17
Microsoft Global Vice President Microsoft Asian Research Institute Premier Dean Li Kai Fu
Previously, many exchanges with Chinese students were around how to achieve excellent and excellent, how to become leadership.
Expand. Recently, in the chat room of Sina.com and many emails I received, I found more Chinese students need
It is not to know how to excel, but how to be active from the confused to success, from failure to success.
From the happiness, from fear to optimism.
An extreme example is Magujue incident that occurred in Yunnan University in February 2004. Ma Jiajue killed himself
4 classmates. But from Mahajue being captured and the psychologist's conversation content, he should not be an evil person, and
It is a lost direction, lack of confidence, and children closed. He is the same as many college students, I urgently want to know how
Can get success, confidence and happiness.
My letter is written to those desires, but I feel that success is indiscriminate, and I'm eager for self-confidence, but I always complain.
Students who are eager to be happy but I don't know what happened. I hope this letter will bring the reader a new new
Definition, encourage readers to know and affirm themselves, be a happy person.
Success is the best yourself
US writers William Folkner said: "Don't do our best to compete with your colleague. What you should care is, you
It is better than you now. "
There is a common problem in the Chinese society, and it is to hope that everyone will develop, and we will measure whether each person is "success."
It is also a diverse standard: study scores in schools, entering the society to see fame and fortune. Especially in today's China, people are
Personal successful evaluation, more than personal wealth as an indicator. However, with the best results can tribute to society.
Will it? Is there a happy family?
Real success should be diverse. Success may be that you have created new wealth or technology, which may be you bring to others.
Happiness, maybe you get the trust of others in your job, or you may be you have found back yourself,
Strive for lifestyle. Everyone's success is unique.
Successful first step: grasp the goal of life, be a proactive person
In the Sina chat room, when the netizen asked my life's goal, I replied: "There is only one life in life.
, I think the most important thing is to have the greatest influence (IMPACT) to help you, help the family, help the country.
Home, help the world, help the future people, can make their days better, more efficient, able to bring happiness to them
And happiness. "
For me, life goals are not a slogan, but my best thinking, it has helped me to solve work and life many times.
Puzzles in. I gave up my work in the United States, I only came to China to create a Microsoft China Research Institute, because I feel
The latter work has a greater influence. When I received a letter from a blurred student, I also wrote back to my letter, I also
I will think: "How to make a bigger influence?"
Ma Que also realized his life goals, but he was a pity that he was in the case of being arrested. He said: "Sister, now
I told you a truth. I am the biggest problem this person is what I think life is for what ...
... After this thing, I understand at this moment, I am wrong. In fact, the meaning of life is that there is truth in the world. "Such as
The fruit Magua can realize the goals in a few months, and he may not take a lot of arrival.
So how do you find your goals? Many classmates ask me what their goals should be, I can't answer,
Because only one person can tell you what the life is, that person is yourself. Only one place can you find
Your goal, that is your heart.
I suggest you close your eyes and record the ideals of the first one in your mind, because the answer not thinking is the most sincere. Or, you can also review the past, in your happiest, the most accomplishment time, there is a certain
Some common? They are likely to be the best to motivate your life. Moreover, you can imagine, 15 years later
When you get the perfect life, you will be in what environment? what's your job? The happiest thing
What is the feelings? Of course, you may wish to talk to your friends and relatives and listen to their opinions.
Successful second step: try new areas, discover your interest
In order to become the best yourself, the most important thing is to play all the potential, chase the most interested, and most passionate
Best. When you are interested in a certain field, you will not forget it when you walk, class or bathe, you are here.
It is easier to succeed in the field. Further, if you have passion for this field, you may be able to sleep for your sleep,
I think of a idea while sleeping, I will jump. At this time, you are not working for success, but for "
Enjoy "work.
Relatively speaking, things that are not interested are only half a matter, there is something possible. Even if you rely on qualifications or
Talents can do it well, you will definitely don't release all the potential. Therefore, I don't agree with each student chases the most
Popular majors, I think everyone should understand their own interest, passion and ability (that is, what is said in lovers. "
Conscious ") and give full play to their potential in the field you love.
Bill Gates once said: "When you wake up every morning, you will have the development of technological progress to human life.
And the improvement is excited. "In 1977, because of the enthusiasm of the software, Bill Gates gave up mathematics major. If he
Stay in Harvard to continue reading mathematics, and become a professor of mathematics, can you imagine how his potential will be suppressed? 2002
In the year, Bill Gates took the leader in Microsoft 25 years, but resolutely handed the work of the CEO to Ballmer because only
In this way, he can devote him to his favorite work - serving as the Chief Software Architect. Although Bill Gates is once
An excellent CEO, but after he changed its chief software architect, he made a heavy tribute to the company's technical direction.
offer. More importantly, he is more passionate, happier, which also encourages all employees' morale.
Bill Gates's good friend, the world's second rich, Hua, Fatte, also recognizes the importance of passion. When a student please
When he indicated the direction, he always replied: "I have no difference with you. If you must find a difference, then
Can be the opportunity to do my favorite work every day. If you want me to give you advice, this is the best advice I can give you.
. "
Bill Gates and Hua Sheng Fei Girl give us another revelation that they love is not vulgar, one yuan
The fame and fortune, their fame and fortune is their ideals and passion. A famous Economic Academy of Economics, America has done a tone
According to the results, it was found that although most students wanted to chase fame and fortune during school, there is a alumni with most fame and fortune.
90% is chasing ideals during school, not people who are chasing fame and fortune.
I just entered the college, I want to engage in law or political work. After more than a year, I found myself not interested in it.
Grade is only in the middle. But I fell in love with the computer, and I am crazy every day, I will soon attach the teacher and classmates.
. Finally, the day of the big two, I made a major decision: giving up the top three in the top three in the top three in the past year.
The college legal department has been studied, and it is transferred to the University of Columbia silent computer system. I told myself that there is only one life in life, and it should not be wasted in a field without happiness and no sense of accomplishment. That day, my heart was blooming, and my spirit was excited.
I promise yourself that every homework is taken in three years. If it is not the decision that day, I will not have it today.
The achievements made in the computer areas, and I am likely to be just in a small town in the United States.
lawyer.
So how do you find interest and passion? First, you have to separate your interests and talents. Doing yourself with talented things is easy
Out, but don't think that it is your interest. In order to find true interests and passion,
You can ask yourself: For something, are you very eager to repeat it, can you have a happiness, successfully complete it? you
Is it always forwarded from it? Do you always learn it quickly? Does it always make you satisfied? Are you sincere from
In my heart (not just from my mind)? Is the happiest thing in your life? Is it related to it? As you like this
When you ask yourself, be careful not to integrate your parents 'expectations, social values and friends' impact into your answer.
If you can express the above questions clearly, then you are lucky, because most students are exploring in the university.
Or remorse. If you still have not found the answer to these questions, then I have only one suggestion: give yourself the most opportunity to contact
The most selected.
I remember that I just entered the doctoral class of Carnegie Mellon, the school has a mechanism that allows students to pick up the teacher. In the first month
In all teachers, they will take the whole body to attract students. Because of this mechanism, I was lucky to meet my grace.
Professor Xi Di, I chose my doctoral title "speech recognition". Although not all schools have such a mechanism,
But you can learn from different schools, professional, topics and teachers, then pick your interest. you also
You can find interest hobbies through libraries, networks, lectures, communities, friends, email, etc. but
There is contact you to try, but you can try you to find your favorite.
My colleague Zhang Yin once said: "Those who dare to try must be smart. They will not lose, because they
Even in unsuccessful, you can learn from middle school. Therefore, only those people who don't dare to try are absolute losers. "
Successful third step: for interest, order, step, step by step
Find your interest, the next step is to develop specific phased goals, step by step to your ideal
.
First of all, what should you objectively assess from your interest and ideals? It is necessary to learn a class, read a copy
Book, do a more inclusive person, control your own temper or become a better speaker? Perfect self-fulfilled self 15 years
What is the difference between myself and today? You should try our best to make up these gaps. For example, when I decided my life?
When I maximize my influence, I found that I have the lack of speech and communication skills. I used to talk to people.
Come blush, students who will speak on the stage will fear. I am very poor when I am teaching assistants, and students have even give me a "opening"
The nickname of the theater. Therefore, in order to achieve my ideals, I set a number of improved speeches and communication skills.
specific target.
Secondly, you should start the stage, specific goals, and give full play to the traditional virtues of the Chinese - diligent, up
And perseverance, strive to complete the goal. For example, I ask myself to do two speeches every month, and every time I have to be my classmate or
Friends go to listen, give me feedback. I promise yourself, I don't reheal it, I will never go to the stage. I ask yourself every
I will listen to the speech month, and ask the excellent speaker.
When I repeatedly practiced the speech skills, I found a lot of secrets, such as: I don't have to speaking, I will express better when I tell the story, so I still prepare for speech, but I only use it when I use it. I found me back
The ability to answer the question exceeds my speech, so I generally ask more time to answer questions; I found yourself
I can't talk about something, so I will no longer agree with the topics I have no interest. A few years later, I Zhou
The people surrounded me to speaking, even some people think that I am a natural glower.
Any goals must be actual, measurable, can't just stay in the slogan or empty talk. Formulate
The purpose of the goal is to advance, you can't know if you have made progress. So, you have to take the pump
The like, unaffected, unbalanced big goals simplify becomes actual, measurable small objectives. For example, a few
Before the year, I have a goal to expand my interpersonal relationship between the company, but "more people" or "increase the influence"
The goal is unable to measure and implement, I need to find an actual, measurable goal. So, I ask myself "
Every week and an influential person eat, in the process of eating, this person will introduce an influential person to me. "
Measuring this target is "Every week to eat a meal, then I know one after the meal." Of course, I will not satisfy this
Some basic "indicators". The purpose of expanding the interpersonal relationship network is to make the work more successful, so I will measure from "weekly week
How much information has been obtained in a meal, how many people I hired in the interpersonal network. One year later
In these measurements, I did see my relationship network has been significantly expanded.
You must understand your ability when developing a specific goal. Target settings are not practical, but the goals are not fixed
Too low. Timely adjustments to the goals: If you exceed your expectations, you can improve your expectations; if you don't reach yourself
It is expected that you can lower yourself. After reaching a goal, you can make more challenging goals;
Conduct, earnestly summary.
Confidence is conscious and arrogant
Confident people dare to try new areas and can develop their own interests and talents faster, easier to succeed. confidence
The people are also happier, because he will not always worry and be aware of failure.
Many people think that self-confidence is success. A student is old, he has confident. An employee is always enhanced,
He also has confident. But this is just a diverse success and a yuan.
In fact, self-confidence is not necessarily a good thing. There is no conscious self-confidence will become proud, but will lose the respect of others and
trust. Good confidence is conscious, that is, it is clear what you can do, what you can't do. When you consciously confident, he
The probability of work is very large; when consciously people are not confident, he can still try to try it, but will tell others honestly. from
People don't need to rely on success to enhance confidence, and they will not lose confidence due to failure.
Confidential first step: Don't underestimate yourself, give yourself more
If you always think that you can't do it, you can't get confidence. For example, Magua once said: "I think I can't fail."
, Students can't afford me ... Many people practiced than me, let me feel inferior. "Although Maja is very smart, it is very good."
But he never really confident.
Confident secrets believe that you have your ability. Chinese ancient prides: "Born my materials must be useful", everyone has its own special
Sex and strengths, it is worthwhile and played. I remember that I didn't understand in the classroom 11 years old, I can't understand in the classroom.
The teacher asked "1/7 conversion into a decimal is equal to a few", I don't know English, but I recognize "1/7" on the blackboard. This is what I used to "back". I immediately raised my hand and answered this question correctly. American teacher who will not "back book" is surprised
I think I am a "mathematical genius", and send me to participate in the mathematics competition, encourage me to join the mathematical summer camp to help classmates
Xi Mathematics. Her encouragement and classmates gave me confident. I started telling myself, I have a math of math. At this time,
I especially want to learn English well, because only this can learn more mathematical knowledge. This kind of education is not only improved
My confidence also helped me have made great progress in all aspects.
Chinese-style education believes that people's growth is the process of continuous overcoming the shortcomings, so teachers are more criticized for students, let students
Make up the worst discipline. Although each department should learn "enough good", the value of talent is to give full play to individuals.
The advantages. US Gelph has recently a bestseller "now, discover your advantage." Gelp's student
The staff found that most people tried to "change their shortcomings in the growth process, hoping to make the shortcomings", but he
They have encountered more difficulties and pain; and the secret of a few happiest and most successful people is "Strengthening their own advantages.
And manage your own shortcomings. "" Manage your own shortcomings "is good enough in shortcoming," strengthening your own
The advantage is to give most of their efforts to be interested in things, thus gaining incomparable confidence.
There are still many examples of "Growth" in Ling Zhijun, and the Director of the Microsoft Asian Institute Zhou Ming
When I was a child, I brushed 108 bottles in "Student Labor" and broke the record and got confidence. He said: "I originally
It is not self-confidence, but this matter gives me confidence. This is the happiest experience in my life, exudes a fan
The power of people has continued until today. I found all the secrets of the genius, in fact, only 6 words: don't look at yourself.
"
Confidence is a feeling, you have no way to use the method of "learning" confidence, but only rely on "learning" to improve confidence.
The method is to "train" your brain in an example. To get confident, you must be your best Lara team, every night
Before going to bed, you can think about it. What happened today worth your pride? Have you got good results? You help others
? Is there anything beyond your expectations? Does anyone praise you? I believe everyone can find a success every day.
Things, you will slowly discover that these "small success" may become more and more meaningful.
Confident second step: use perseverance, courage, to get confidence in success, increase consciousness from failure, you may not
Doing something, I don't know if I can make it. At this time, in addition to perseverance, you still need courage. I used to work
There is no problem in the general communication, but in front of the president, I always don't dare to speak. Until one day, the company wants to discuss reorganization
The president convened more than a dozen people to meet, and he asked everyone to speak in a turn. I thought that since I must talk, it is better to
He said in my heart. So, I was brave and said: "Our company, employee IQ is higher than anyone, but we
The efficiency is poor than anyone, because we reorganize the whole day, regardless of the feelings and ideas of employees ... "After I finished, the whole meeting
Vocal charm. After the meeting, many colleagues sent me email: "You are so good, I really hope that I also have your courage.
so. "As a result, the president not only accepted my suggestion, and the company has changed the company's policy, but also often
Quote my words. Since then, I am full of confidence, not afraid to speak in front of anyone.
At the same time as courage to try new things, there must be courage to face failed. Everyone can not only do the destined thing to fail with the courage. But when you are afraid, you may wish to think about it, what are you losing? What is the worst place? you can not
do you accept? In the above example, if the president denies my view, will he not respect me? Not only don't, others
It is likely to think that I am courageous. Moreover, conscious people will learn from failure, recognize what they are not suitable for
Things, then improve your own consciousness.
A confident and conscious person, if you can do your new things, and perseverance to do it well, he will succeed
Self-confidence, add consciousness from failure.
Confident third step: consciously set the specific goal, listen to others' evaluation
Cultivating self-confidence also sets specific goals and moves step by step. These goals must also be measurable. I used me.
In the case of the president, the example gave me a daughter, because her teacher thought she was very shy, speaking at school, speaking,
I hope to encourage her to speak. She agreed to try it. I made a measured, actual goal: her
Another hand in the sky, if you have a reward for one month. Then we slowly increase the number of times of raising hands. One year later, the teacher
Note that she has enough confidence in the classroom.
Self-confidence is not self-default, not allow you to make mistakes, or over-self-centered, lose objective position. I have a top
Smart colleagues, he looked for "I will never be wrong". He is very confident, once the certificate
Ming him is right, he will remind everyone that he has already said it a few months ago. But because he is almost confident
And alive, once it proves that his sentence is wrong, he will pay attention to him, or at all. Although his positive
The rate is as high as 95%, but 5% of the mistakes have lost their reputation and others.
There are two levels in the emotional business: someone will not excessively criticize themselves, and they will not be optimistic, they
It is objectively assessing yourself. So, they will frankly face their own capacity limit and will not easily accept their ability.
Outside work. Of course, they are still willing to accept challenges, but they will be an objective risk assessment when they accept challenges. such
The people are not only honest to themselves, but also honest with others. Facing the failed to get the trust of others because they know
You accepted the lesson. Facing your shortcomings will also be respectful, because they know that you will not
force.
The conscious person not only evaluates himself fairly, but also takes the initiative to ask the people around you to criticize and feedback. They understand, though
However, yourself very much, but yourself in your eyes is more important. On the one hand, some people in the eyes are more objective,
On the one hand, yourself in the eyes of others are really existing, that is, if others think you are wrong, only
You think that there is nothing wrong, then in the eyes of society, school or corporate, you are wrong. So you have to understand
And accept other people's ideas, and the idea of others as the ultimate goal. For example, my daughter can assess myself every day.
The statement, but in the end, she only reached the teacher and the students thought that she was a cheerful, there was a thoughtful student.
Final goal.
It is not easy to get frank feedback, especially negative feedback. So, you can best have some brave frankly.
Friends, they are willing to tell you truth in private. Of course, you can't have any dissatisfaction with negative feedback, otherwise you will
I can't hear the truth. In addition to private feedback, there is a "360 degree" opinion survey in the United States.
It can be investigated to the employee's boss and subordinates. Because this survey is anonymous, it is often able to get real opinions. If many people say that you still have to improve in some way, this way is more than your own or boss.
persuasive. Although there is no such formal investigation in the school, you can still try our best to understand others.
idea.
Ma Jiajue said: "The classmates can't look down on me." In fact, if he has the courage to ask him to trust the classmates, he may
I found myself wrong with my classmates, and I might discovered that my friends would confirm that my classmates didn't look at him and learned.
The reason, then self-improvement. Honest exchanges and sincere friends may have helped horse Kajue to avoid tragedy.
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Happiness is more important than success
Scientific research proves: people with good mood make up the potential; happy can improve efficiency, creativity and correct decision-making probability
Happy people have an open thoughts, and willing to help others. But with it brings success, it is not as good as the purpose of success.
Yes bring happiness. I have suggested that the students chased their ideals and interests, in fact, do their own ideals, interested things
It is a kind of happiness. So, happiness should be our ultimate goal than success.
Happy first step: accept your parents, the environment, yourself
Unhappy people always have some helpless things, do not like themselves, parents and teachers, don't want to read boring books,
Don't deal with the exam. For these helpless things, I hope that the students can learn to accept them calmly.
In all "Can't change things", the least change is the parent, and the most receiving is also parents. Have a lot of learning
Life said: "Parents don't understand me, don't accept me, don't experience my thoughts, I always ask me to use their values and philosophy.
Do things, read, and study. So I always avoid them, more and more loneliness. "For these students, my answer includes
Two aspects:
First, you should accept your parents, don't be self-enclosed because you feel your parents don't understand you. Parent's growth
The environment is different, the way thinking is different, and their definitions of success may also be different, and the expectations of you with you.
There is a big difference. But their life is more than you, experience is better than you, you can't premise him
. In addition, you must understand that parents are the people who love you in the world, and they are the only unconditional for you.
People, you should accept your parents unconditionally. If we despise, exclude parents, no different sources of life
Different, how can it be happy?
Second, you can try to change the idea of your parents, but you should first ask, do you understand and accept your parents? you
Can you realize my parents? When you complain that your parents always expect you to perfect, don't you also expect your parents perfect?
? So, before you ask them to understand you, you should first understand them, so you can communicate more successfully. phase
After mutual understanding, maybe you still have different opinions but can understand each other, maybe you or they will change the original opinion.
consensus.
In addition to accepting parents, you should also accept things that cannot be changed in the environment. Some students expect that they don't have to test them.
Using the topic, don't have to go to the class that they don't use, you don't have to listen to the teacher who doesn't trust. But survive in society,
We must learn to accept things that cannot be changed. Ling Zhijun said: "If I encounter 'should do what I should do' and 'Hi
The conflict between the creation ', I will arrange a timetable for yourself and complete it in the specified time every day.
What to do '--- Timelate can motivate you to concentrate and improve efficiency. Then go to do 'like doing things'. "
Life is limited, everyone should use limited time to "like to do things", but must first
Love "is good enough.
When you start living with yourself, accept and like yourself, accepting and approaching your parents, you will find that you can't change in your environment, you will find that you start happiness.
Happy second step: vent your emotions, control your temper
The psychologist believes that Ma Jiajue "" is always lonely, because he is always unwilling to communicate with people, do not want to say
The true feelings ... "Mashajue wrote on the letter of loved ones:" I can't tell the words of this person. "
"If Ma Jia is directly venting his feelings, he may prevent tragedy. Afterwards, Ma Kajue also thought:
"When you escape, I feel stupid, you can choose to quarrel, there is no need to kill."
Chinese people always think that they are in a rich. But I think that in today's era, straightforward communication is more important.
want. When you turn your corner, you don't feel the heart. If you look at it, you don't say that it is bad habits. There is a Chinese boss
Quarrel with his subordinates, he asked me if I should ask the third party to mediation, I have given him the advice: because this is an emotional thing
You should go directly to the subordinates; the third party may tell you the will of you or your subordinate will
For example, you have already admitted, but in fact you are not), this will cause more trouble.
Of course, on emotional issues, directly communicate also requires techniques. For example, if the boss says the first sentence
"You are wrong, but I don't care with you." So subordinates will definitely feel. If the boss said: "You are so many people
I am obviously what you want to grab me. "The result is even more imagined. Obviously, when you communicate directly, no
To be wrong, don't guess others' motivation, don't take the opportunity to make up. The most effective communication is to talk directly to you.
Feelings, such as the boss can say: "When you are in so many people, I feel lost dignity, very difficult
. "This sentence cannot be refuted, and it may even cause understanding and sympathy.
When you are burning in anger, it is not easy to transform the angry words into sensibility. To do this, we need it again
Rely on "conscious" and "self-control". Conscious people know when they will be angry and sorrow, and they also understand the trays of joy and sorrows.
What consequences are made. If he feels angry, he will not explode instantly, because he knows the consequences of the explosion, but he will not press
Self-care, because it will cause great harm to the soul, he usually uses the most constructive part as possible
Processing. Positive, inductive communication can reduce the atmosphere of the fire. Feelings and communication are most infectious, you are completely
You can use constructive, tolerant attitude to communicate with others and affect others.
If you think self-control is not easy, then you can ask your friends to keep your friends. I have passed a boss
It is often a pump, and he is angry with a precursor: he will take you with a diamond problem, then he opened
At the beginning, he finally made a temper. But he wants to change this problem, so he asked me to use it every time I see it.
"Secret" (such as "Let's go to Zheng Zheng") to remind him. After a few times, he had a reminder.
The ability to feel the self-control, no longer need someone to remind it.
Happy third step: someone shares a happy double, some people share pain and halve
Scientific research tells us that the best way to regulate your mood is to find a close-time person and communication. According to yes
The feelings are from the LYMBIC system of the human brain, and the system mainly rely on contact with others. Scientific certificate, together
Two people who talk will slowly reach the same psychological status (emotions and sorrows) and physiological status (body temperature, heartbeat, etc.). therefore
If you want to achieve your feelings, we must understand the others. Communication with people is the only way to enhance your emotions and happiness. People who are isolated from the world will only get more and more depressed. There is an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an an ancient.
Signature of hardship. "
So if you are emotional, or when you are wronged, you should talk to your parents, friends, don't always be like Maja.
I am bored in my heart, just talk to the diary. Ma Que is very depressed, but there is no channel of depression. He said: "I am studying
There is no one in the school, I am so falling in school ... in various lonely, people are most afraid of spiritual loneliness. "horse
Duo Jia has encountered many obstacles in interpersonal communication, and these obstacles bring him a bitter, and these depressed and no channel ventures are discharged.
Caused a bigger depression. This malignant cycle eventually led to the occurrence of tragedy. In fact, Magua's inner monologue, certificate
He is a conscious person, he can see his own dilemma, but unfortunately, he locks himself in a self-enclosed cage, let
Hatred took him to destroy.
To get happiness, you need humorous, optimistic ideas and communication. In all communications, "laugh" appeal is the most
big. The study of Yale University found that "laugh" appeal exceeds all other feelings, people will always reflectively
Smile returns your smile, and smile is more quickly created a relaxed atmosphere, in addition, humorous laugh can promote
Imperial trust and inspiration. Optimistic, the power of positive thinking is endless. In recent years, depression has become a worldwide.
Psychological diseases, and their negative thinking has great relationships, some people get used to drilling the horns, pessimism and helplessness
I want to think, sleepy in the dead alley. If you can change a angle, half a cup of water is half a full rather than half the sky! It's better now.
Means, representatives with unlimited growth. Learn to check yourself, often protect your mind.
Whether it is expelled sad or getting happiness, we need to get positive incentives from tone and communication. Native
Communication objects may be your loved ones, especially your parents. I believe that all parents are willing to listen to the child's talk.
However, "At home, you can rely on your parents, you will be friends", so we also need to communicate with a close friend. make friends
Don't look at your friends' hobby and personality, more importantly, you need some people who will encourage people, optimistic, humor,
Sincere, there is sympathetic, helpful, willing to listen to friends who tell people. Maybe you will say: "I have no such thing.
Friends, I don't dare to find friends, if someone refuses? "If others refuse you, you have not lost anything
West, but if others accept you, you may find yourself.
I hope that you will be in the process of finding your friends, let yourself be an encouragement, optimistic, humorous, sincere
I have sympathetic, helpful, willing to listen to people who tell people, and try their best to help your relatives and friends.
. Only more people are willing to pay, and happiness can spread more quickly.
Blessings to Chinese students
I have always believed in the three principles of doing things: there is courage to change things that can be changed, and there is an impercale acceptance.
Things, there is wisdom to distinguish between the differences.
Blessing China's students, when you encounter setbacks, use these three principles to help you with metrics, courage, and wisdom.
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Blessing China's students, when you pursue success, confidence, happiness, don't forget that success is diversified, don't forget
Confidence is conscious and arrogant, don't forget happiness people can always understand, accept and like themselves.
Blessing China's students, when you gradually get successful, confident, happiness, you will find a benign loop: from success
Get confident and happiness, get happiness and success from your confidence, get successful and confident from happiness.
Blessing China's students, when you have success, confidence, happiness, don't forget to help others get success, confidence and happiness.
