[Qianlong Net reporter Zhao Wei reported on August 20] Although it is a student in the summer vacation, but in the classroom of some universities, people on self-study are endless. Recently, the reporter visited some universities and found that they did not have the "heterogeneity reading" in addition to the singularity of the monolig. Why do college students are willing to choose "Alien Accompany Reading"? "Alien is accompanied by reading" is a disadvantage? This topic has attracted many people's attention and debates in society.
Holiday campus "heterosexual reading" continues to heat up
On August 14, the reporter came to a classroom of Beijing University of Technology, and there were many men and women that were born in addition to their students. Student Xiao Zhou (pseudonym) tells reporters that in these one-to-one men and women, some are couples, and some are all I didn't know. "There are many benefits of self-study together, such as occupying the seats, giving meals, can take care of each other, I can help each other in learning, basically the students are still more agree." Xiao Zhou said.
In Beijing Normal University, the grace of the graduate student told reporters that this situation is quite a little in the school. Students who want to find a companion is generally postproof on the BBS of the campus network, which will explain that their situation and the conditions that need to be accompanying. Some people will reply quickly, agree to contact, and meet the time and place.
"This situation has long been there." In July this year, the students who graduated from Beijing Business University graduated in the interview with the Qianlong Net report, and they had a few students who found the opposite sex. According to her, I want to find an opposite sex. In addition to the method of posting posts, I can find it through fellow or classmates, some are my own chances to recognize. "The conditions of accompanying are very simple. As long as the contacts are mentioned, they can meet them together."
Men's and women, learning is not tired, take the required?
The Xiao River studied in Beijing Normal University has just found a female "companion". He told reporters that they met when they were in the school. After graduating from Xiao Jiang, I wanted to go abroad, but the English foundation is relatively weak, and a small piece of learning has just been upgraded. It is prepared to apply for the graduate students of the Beijing Normal University. The two people are very tight, so they will work together with the summer vacation.
"People who have read college know that in the university, it is difficult to take up in the university. Sometimes, if you can't find a empty seat, you can learn together, you can divide, one, one person, one People buy meals, take each other. "Xiaojiang said.
A male and a woman has been here in colleges. Recently, experts from the Psychological Counseling Center of Harbin Institute of Technology pointed out that in general, the anisotropy of Science and Technology University is more. Experts believe that the University of Science and Technology often has serious male and female proportion, while the opposite sex is one of the ways to solve this contradiction.
Little Xie (a pseudonym) at Chengdu University of Science and Technology came to Beijing last month. She told reporters that she was preparing to apply for the graduate students of Tsinghua University, but the situation of Beijing is unfamiliar, and the fellow in Beijing will help her to find a companion. . "Find a 'to accompany you', he can introduce me some schools, professional and mentor, have a certain help to my postgraduate, I will try to help, and I have to take a need."
"Generally speaking, there will be no more jrants between boys and girls, and there must be a sense of freshness." The students who studied in Renmin University of China said. The small party believes that the opposite sex is studied, boys tend to maintain "gentleman's style", girls will also be more beetle, and learning efficiency is relatively higher. "Men and women are mixed, and it is not tired." Xiao Song summary said.
"His Alien Accompanied"
In an interview, it was found that although most students who were "opposite sex" declare that they were simple learning relationships, there were still some people say that if the two sides are more time, the feelings are deepened, and they may become men and women couples. . "The life in the university is basically the classroom, canteen, bedroom three points, too monotonous, find a 'companion' can enrich the university life." Student Xiao said. She told reporters that now in schools, "heterosexual accompanying" has three ways. The most common is the traditional "one male and one female", that is, the two sides reached a tacit understanding, together to go to classroom self-study, the relationship is more closely look Movies, dating, gradually developed into men and women.
Die said that there are two men and a woman studying together, but not many. In addition, there are also "multi-men and more women", just a few boys and a few girls agree to go to class self-study, but this type is often 1-2 months effective, and it is possible to slowly differentiate. Gradually disintegrate.
"The couple's relationship is relatively simple. It is often possible to talk about it. The two people learn together every day. When they get along, they will have a good feeling. If you have a good thing, you will simply become clear." .
And the small grandchildren of Beijing Business and Commerce told reporters that many of her classmates believe that love and school can be two, so if you can find a suitable partner, you can self-study, don't delay your studies, of course, you are all happy, this is also "heterosexual Read the reason for "
Will the "Alien Accompanied" becomes a "emotional fast food"
Two "companion" shadows are in the classroom, canteen, some teachers, parents and society, and some people have even issued questions: "Alienity Accompany" will become "emotional fast food"?
"I am definitely not agreeing that the child is looking for the so-called 'accompanying'." Ms. Sun Yixing, who worked in a publishing house, showed his attitude. Ms. Sun is currently thinking of universities, because the family is in Beijing, and she is home to school. "Students should be based on learning, to learn a person, find the same sex, why do you have to find an opposite sex?"
Ms. Sun also got some experts' support. Professor Lin Jie engaged in psychological counseling believes that young students are in a strong and energetic period, sometimes not good to control their emotions and emotions with reason, with "accompanying" The psychology can be comforted, but if the accompanying time is long, more or less will have an dependent psychology, which will interfere with emotions and life.
Professor Forest told reporters that in some schools, students regarded men and women as "face", blindly compared, social psychology called "performance love". For a single college student in the living environment, find a "heterosexual companion" has become a way to change the men and women.
Some students do not agree with this view. The small side believes that the society has focused too much attention in "heterogeneity", and ignored the effect of "reading". "College students are adults, you can be responsible for your own behavior, and two people get spiritual in knowledge complementaries, knowledge, double harvest, what is bad? Big, you will be so sensitive, see a man and a woman reading, It is considered that the motivation is not pure. "
Beware of "heterosexual reading" becomes "double-edged sword"
About college students looking for "heterosexual accompanying reading", Yang Aiping, who has been engaged in educational psychology has her own opinion, she said when they interviewed reporters: "Look for 'opposite sex to accompany", indicating that he is not strong enough, It is also necessary to have two possibilities for positive or negative effects. "
From psychology and age characteristics, the opposite sex "accompanying" can have a certain promotion, and even the opposite sex is invisible, it is difficult to estimate. Especially for classmates who have discipline defects to find some of the heterosexual complementary learning, more, but also promote the role. However, Professor Yang pointed out that the key is still in what the fundamental starting point for "accompanying read" is what. She believes that students must be able to grasp themselves, if they are forbearing, to find the opposite sex "companion", it is possible to reach the purpose of continuous excavation of personal potential, and it is a kind of promotion; if it is just to find a "object", Then the effect will be a big discount.
"'The opposite sex is very difficult to break the pros and cons, is a' double-edged sword. Therefore, society and school should still have a generous attitude towards this, and the school should actively guide, it is best to provide students with good psychological counseling. And the community, etc.
In addition, some experts also reminded that they are not safe through the network, so students must be vigilant, beware of criminals through the name of "accompanying". "Students must learn to protect themselves, don't understand the identity of the other party, there is no verification, to avoid alone with him, so as not to be deceived."
