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My confusion! Teacher Tu: Hello! I sat in front of the computer to look at your website for a whole day, or I can't help but write a letter.
(Teacher Du: Thank you for your attention to this website!) I have to study second in September. But for the future, there is no feeling of a point. In fact, think about it, from small to big, it seems to have been walking step by step, reading school, don't think about why, just step by step. If the postgaster is also a decision, it is also very shallow: just blurred thinking that graduate students can find a more good job, this is only.
(Teacher Du: This is a lot of people's ideas, as long as the degree is high, just!) I am born in a small city, my parents are not high, the family is not very good, from the small family infused the thoughts that I am infused from the small family is a good book. University of Exchange. And my achievements have been OK, but the college entrance examination is not good, I entered a key university of the last move. After entering the university, it is very embarrassing, because it feels that the ideal and reality gap is high, but it can't say what the ideal university life should be, but I don't think it should be like this, and the university is very fast, and I also surprised my own university life. On the one hand, I am not willing to find a job that I am not interested in (there is also a kind of feeling that I have fallen for four years, I haven't learned what I can't find anything. I have a kind of escape. I think about it.) On the other hand I don't want to stay in that small place to spend a lifetime, at least I want to go out the world, so I chose postgraduate. The professional is selected for the network security. In fact, the postgraduate selection is also very confused. At that time, the communication was comparative, but because the interpersonal relationship between the university failed, I made me very sad, I didn't want to pay too much about people, so I didn't apply for communication (Du Teacher: What is the relationship between interpersonal communication failure?), But what is the relationship between network security?), But the choice of cyber security (on the other hand, the movie is more feeling that hackers are cool, faintly feel like learning, you can do online The same thing as the police) now thinks that it is really true, I don't know what I think when I think. Because of cross-professional, there are also some inferiority in the bones (Teacher Du: Cross profession? What is the logic?), I have got a postgraduate, I always feel that I am a dwarf, and I am not good at self-propelled, and I am more than others. I have access to the laboratory for half a year, and it is also possible to do this project group. There is no practical work to do, and I can't learn any professional skills. So I have been very depressed. I really want to know what others are planning to future, because I really don't know. But most of the answers have taken step by step, few people have a clear plan for the future.
(Teacher Du: Touching the river, this is the overall mentality of the Chinese after the 1980s. But all people have no life planning, definitely wrong. Is it not right? Is it related to you? Group score, is it very difficult to get the true thoughts of others?) When the university, I will be trapped from time to time, "Why is it to live?" "What is the meaning of life", but never found it answer. Later, the model is ambiguous, there is an idea "life is a history. The meaning of life is the accumulation of another experience." I don't know if I really find the answer, or to not let yourself fall into the distress and look for one Excuse. (Teacher Du: Such problems should be thought, but don't drill the horns, life is a life, the key is that you have to think about it, what is the goal in this life, if not, you have to calm down, think about it ... What is the meaning of life? Everyone in each era can think of it, there is no absolute truth. Ideally, I'm doing it, I am afraid it is a better life.) However, now I am calamating. Among them, if the meaning of life is to experience, what should I have experienced? Do you have a plan for life? Is the planning is a constraint for life? Does people have an ideal and struggle? But why so many people have no ideals, and where is my ideal?
(Teacher Du: I think you think it should be more profound. Life is definitely planning, planning should not be a constraint for life, just contrary, planning can make you generate the power of life goals, time And the total space is limited, not planning, then life is like a duckweed, and it is loose, and the final thing is nothing.
You mention a very important point of view, why are so many people don't have ideals? Every family has a difficult experience, you see that others are laughing, just prove that he is really happy? That is just your idea. The biggest problem in this era is that people have no ideals, there is no ideal, but can have quality, this is not your smile, you can see it. Besides, you have a good life, why do you want to take someone to do a reference?
Many people have no ideals, and they can have a good job, but there is no ideal person to achieve something.
The lack of ideals and beliefs is a big problem in this era. Don't shake your eyes, don't be obstructed by the bustling of the material, this problem is gradually formed. It is as if human beings are not paying attention to the environment, will have a heavy price to this. Always have a prosperous prosperity, and there is a thinking of life and humanity. Whether it is developed or developing countries like China, there is such a way. In fact, there is a survey show that recent books on the comfort of the mind are well sold, which proves that more people have renewed their people itself after the material guarantee.
Essentially, if people are only a substance chase, then people can't call them, and they have no essential difference with animals. ) In fact, there is no specific idea for the future, and the belief that has always been awarded is nothing more than hoping to earn some money outside, let the family live a good day, but how to implement it, it is not very clear. If you have a good job after studying research, maybe I will not consider so much, but the realistic dissatisfaction makes the confusion that I caught a long time again: What is the meaning of life? Is there any plan for life? Is there any ideal? If is my ideal? What should my planning? Not afraid you joke, I don't even know what I want. People say interest is the biggest teacher, but I can't find my true interest. I made a professional test on the forum. The result is very unexpected. I know that I am a very sensible person. I like humanities, but I don't realize that I am interested in artistic activities, but At the same time, the reality is that I am almost zero in artistic work. I am a science and engineering student, I can't eat it, and I am just interested, there is no meal. Another point, I thought I have been closed, but the test results show that I am more interested in social activities, or more likes to deal with people, like people close. And the ability is barely, (10 hooked 6, it is already very high compared with the other), the art and the highest social type, but I lack the courage to abandon the existing professional, abandoned the courage from the text, with Du A teacher's sentence: Why postgraduate is so afraid, because it can't afford it. The biggest hopes, the bigger my pressure, the bigger walking this step, I really feel that I have no way to retreat, because the reason for the family, because I can't afford it, I can't afford it. Don't like high-risk work, don't like high pressure, there is no big ambition and ambition. But contradiction is that I hope to be rich in future living materials. . . (Teacher Du: There is a problem now, the key is that you have no good understanding of yourself. The family believes that the postgraduate is good, you will test the postgraduate, you should have a reward, you should have a return, and you don't know how to return In fact, it is very simple. Can you live for yourself? Your postglass has an important factor is that you escape the pressure of reality, this is an ostrich's escape. This is fundamentally can't be problematic. With age Growth, your problem will be like a snowball.) It is too chaotic. I don't know if you can understand my depression. You can also see it, I am a girl, there is no big ambition and ideal (test shows that I am typical, there is no leadership and creativity), but I hope to plan my profession, even life, this There is no direction of life that makes me feel very floating, very uneasy.
(Teacher Du: This feeling is very normal. When the netizen big land gangwl is looking for me, I said that I have "not in the sky, I don't want it", and he graduated two years after the top university master It has been falling in half of the air, but it is better to find yourself. Why have you recommended the article "Cao Bo and Work"? Because of the subtitle of the article - Retrieve yourself, change your way, you The future is bright!) The family can't give me any suggestion. When I go to college, they also hope that I can be a teacher, and now I will no longer discuss my future. I have thought that I have been a teacher in colleges and universities. I feel that they don't have much pressure. Time is more comfortable. You can accompany your family, you can also develop your own hobby in your spare time (I am very interested in human mymitology, I have always thought about it. Waiting for the money to go to study psychology) but will feel that when the teacher makes money, it is difficult to travel in the holiday (I always want to take the parents, I will take them around, I will stay in my life. That small place ...) (there is a sister at home soon, I must give her a reason to give her) On the other hand, I feel like a teacher is an escape to life. (Choose any escape risk?) Is A default for yourself (because the instructor once said, "I really can't do it, I will do a teacher", so I have been worrying about the money, the money, I can enter the company, the money is more than the teacher, but I am afraid that the pressure is bad, and there is no way to take my parents to travel. (Teacher Du: I think your ideas are reasonable.
I don't want you to say, I didn't dare to say big words now, I must take my parents where to play. This is not to say that you have no money to play, but first solve your problem first, parents don't want me to take them around the world, my parents have the biggest hope that I can break out myself. Tiandi, often tell me "The body is the first", because my parents know that my career is particularly strong. I think the mood of my parents in the world is the same? If you have done your parents in the future, you will be the same, I hope your child is well-being is the greatest happiness for the parents.
You don't even know how much you have, you think so much thing is really unnecessary. Just say, a person saw another to Shenhe, first thought, is my swimming ability? If not enough, call people to save. Please don't jump in the so-called "big righteousness", and you will be in the same way as you follow the man at the same time!
In the process of consulting students, I found that many students thought too much. A graduate student thought that she had a good profession. I thought I could make a lot of money. I want to get married immediately. I want to buy a house immediately. I want to immediately put my hometown. Parents took over and wanted to pick up their sisters to Beijing. . . . , The key to the problem is that the key to the problem is that he doesn't understand his ability, and it is not very important to understand that Beijing's competitive pressure is very large. Zhumen wine is odor, the road is frozen, this is the current situation of the rich and poor in China. Who is rich, who bought a car, who is a swollen face to be fat? Equivalent is not to bring you wealth. This thinking does not change, you will be imbalanced. Why do I have a lot of people with the wind, and I lost myself. You can ask, people who really earn big money in the stock market, have a few with wind? You don't understand your ability, don't follow your own card, the loser is who is, at a glance. I also know that I am just here, I don't know how our professional employment prospects, I don't know where the brothers have graduated. (Our laboratory is divided into a group of groups, the relationship between the group and the group is very indifferent), it seems that there is no much graduation truly online security work? In fact, I know what I should do now is to learn professional knowledge. This year is really wasteful. I haven't learned, my mood has been very depressed, and I am very emotional, I don't want to learn, I don't want to learn. The self-control power is poor. But I now seem to have fallen into a dead cycle. I don't know what I want, I can't see the future and hope, I am more embarrassed, I often fall into this pessimistic emotion. (Teacher Du: The coldness of interpersonal relationship, this is also a sickness of society, but I don't want to explore its cause here because it is difficult to change a climate, but change yourself. Question still want to find yourself. Your communication skills are not good, this can't blame others. Many people do things to do things, use people, they are good, they will hide others far away. Think carefully, you are Not a bit this tendency? This kind of interaction is extremely failure. Who is willing to be used by the tools like a tool? People are emotional animals, if they leave their feelings, then this society does not exist the value and meaning. Your key is to improve your interaction. A person who has no friends help is very sad.) I want to give my life a plan, but I don't know how to plan. Sometimes I think: life is uncertain (most people tell me this, really confused)
(Teacher Du: Life is determined, if you look at some psychology and successful learning books, why do you determine fate? Why do you determine everything? Why is the character of 1-16 have formed? The impetuous society makes people The soul becomes fragile, it becomes unclear? In fact, this is also related to your interaction circle. You are with those who have sighing into the sky, and you will definitely see the future. You are very confused with those yourself. The problem will get more and more confused. Let your eyes are let go, then your world will be full of sunshine. Learn from a person to see who is talking to him, this sentence is very reasonable.) Sorry, It is too chaotic, I don't know if you can understand my present mood. If you can receive this letter, if you have time, I hope that you will give me a letter, give me some guidance suggestions, thank you very much!
(Teacher Du: I have said for a long time, summed up, life is necessary to plan, the premise of planning is that you know yourself. You can't change it, but your values can be changed, improve your interpersonal communication skills is the urgency. Abandon Unnecessary pressure. Lightly, find yourself in practice, as long as the mentality changes, establish the goal of life (according to your own interest, character, hobby), step by step, you will find life Significant. I wish you success, happiness, happiness!)
