Genius and success - Chinese education vs old beauty education is too stupid to study abroad Time: 2004-07-01 Loulan Click: 326
Genius and success - Chinese Education VS Oldest Education
In the United States for many years, I am very interested in observing the differences between Chinese and American cultural concepts, especially if they are parents, and do children work, and more opportunities to collect numerous stories about children's education. There is such a real story: a Chinese family has two sons. The boss has since sincerite from a small body, but the parental investment is general, parents' investment and cultivation have not seen the talents, so that the aunt is disappointed. The little son is smart, the aura is full, not only in the school's achievements, but also talent, music, play, art, etc., what will be learned? It is conceivable that this little son competes for the parents, and it is also an object of praise. Parents gave up the big son of unrestrained, and investing time money to focus on cultivating the little son. Select a good school for him, and we will also spend a golden gold in the class. High expectation, the old small, very envious of brother, but he is still listening, until high school graduation is a good student in all aspects, and enters Harvard University, and parents are more proud. . However, after graduating from Harvard, I don't want to do anything. He told your parents: "I have paid you to you. You have a son who graduated from Harvard. It is enough to have faces. But I will live in high pressures from small pressures. Now I am exhausted, I am relaxing, according to my own The way is time! "This Harvard" Anti-Industry "has been idling for many years. And the inconspicuous boss, parents did not apply too much pressure for him, but in contrast, there is space time to participate in easily multi-euphratic activities. He didn't force his parents to force the class technology class like his brother, but he used a boy army. Have the opportunity to contact a broader project in mainstream children's organization, gain comprehensive knowledge skills, find yourself, and good at the field, and Cultivate self-confidence self-reliance and know how to achieve achievements. Although he read is a very ordinary state university, he has the opportunity to show and exercise the leadership. After graduation, he was not good, and his work started from ordinary position, and it was very good, and later, he started a world. Today, this parent is proud of it, it is proud of the son, and lift the little son. Recalling the opposite scene of the year, is it a parent to take a look? Choosing the wrong cultivation? Or is there a problem with education? Or the social environment has changed the children? This kind of soul is a dragon, and the dragon is not very competitive, and there are few more than the proportion of Asian, perhaps because Asian parents look like Jackie Chan, in other ethnic groups. It is, "There is a flowery flower, no flowers, no heart, and willow." In fact, it is necessary to use the seasonal environment and variety characteristics, it is inevitably, and it is inevitable that it will be counterproductive. To date, overseas Chinese communities have short-term cultivating consequences of high pressure expectations. Chinese people are in the school, and the proportion of Asian students in the famous colleges and universities are much higher than the percentage of Asian population. If you continue to track, it is also a lot of Asian, which is a good aspect in the professional field after graduation, but is mostly engaged in the general technical work, and it is very small to enter the senior management and some social influencing profession. Below the percentage of Asian population. Compared with other ethnic groups, Asian seems to be excellent before, and it is insufficient. What is the reason? This is not full of racial discrimination, but should find the problem corrective deviation from the goal of the Asian cultivation method and the struggle. It should be acknowledged that even in the United States grows up in the United States, many people's overall quality (especially leaders, social power, communication skills, creativity, etc.) are still defective. The reason for this shortcomings, mostly with parents still chase the oriental idea, the film pursue academic and related to their own will.
This is a common educational misunderstanding in Asian especially Chinese groups. "The two ear will not smell the window outside, only read the sages." With the price of the child's childhood, in exchange, it is often cultivating a deformed talent that is not integrity enough. This approach is more incorporated in Western educational concept. "Being a person you want to be!" Is a criterion of American schools and school children's organizations from small teaching children. And many of the Chinese parents who have been beautiful in adults, they have not received except for middle education in the United States. They often do not understand this concept. They also teach children according to the traditional Chinese way. It is intentionally to force children to develop future volunteers according to parents. It is inevitably caused by the disgusting of children who grow up in Western education, and they will resist this morning and evening. Some children have a master to see the parents during the middle school period, and some children have more pressure to make the parents for a few years. The little son like this will endure the college graduation. In fact, the longer the endurance time, the greater the damage to the children. Some children have entered the university (even a famous school) in order to obey the parents (even a famous school), and they will choose the majority of their own (which is a popular profit industry), and then transfer to school, or the lack of enthusiasm for the occupation of all. Wasted time, energy and money, the speed is not reached! It is also a tragedy because of the long-term can't act in their own will. But even after the tragedy occurs, the Chinese parents and all communities are often on behalf of the matter, rarely chasing the source of the source of hidden in our ethnic culture. Through the typical example of these two brothers, Chinese parents can at least check their own as their own, compare the differences between China and the United States, educational concept. One. Do you provide equal opportunities for your child? Although parents will love all their children, because of their different characteristics of children, parents tend to deal with different ways. The problem is that education can be diversified, starting point and opportunity should be fair equally, that is, it cannot be "biased". Traditional Chinese parents have a habit of male and female, and the knowledge of the son is looking forward to higher, and there are more opportunities to provide. However, in modern society, this usually does not have a long-term method for the majority of people. But parents may prefer and pay attention to smart children, especially the so-called "prodigy", and ignore children with mediocrity or defective children. The parents in this example are not equal opportunities for two children, and they have left unbalanced shadows in two children. However, it has become a positive incentive to the boss, but the negative effect on the old small is a negative effect. Due to the mistakes of parents' education, they did not get expected results. If the home is a only child, there will be unequal phenomena because children will compare with other students. Sometimes parents will so let their children learn this, and the children don't have their feelings, think that they have been deprived of childhood joy and free choice such as other children. If your child has physiological defects or behavioral problems, it is not only to give up them, but should pay more about the cultivation of heart-keeping, but still have the same opportunity to create and normal children. There are many examples of such children to become excellent talents, and they are not open to the long-term concern of parents and society. Parents should remember that when training children, they should "teach unscad"! Two. Do you know your child's potential and interest? The two children of this family are actually capable and talented, but the performance is different in the morning and evening. The parents have passed the early conclusion without respecting their interests and develop their potential in a suitable way. Early educational theory advocated attention to the intellectual development of 0 to 3 year-old children. In fact, we must learn from parent-child personality characteristics and potential ability, not to teach such a small child to learn or play the piano.
However, many Chinese parents don't know where their children have, and they are hobbies, but also mistakenly think that the children learn the skills, the better, send the young children to all kinds of classes, in fact, this is "揠 揠 助 助" . Because young children learn is dominated by interest, if the child is originally interested in music, willing to imitate the piano or dancing, let them play freely. Over preliminary, you can get a class, they are likely to be boring and dying, but even if you are educated. Even if it is a little longer child, if you don't pay attention to their special interest to cultivate, it will cost money. I listened to many Chinese friends, let the children learn that the piano is really wasteful. But every year, there are still many Chinese children to urge the piano of the piano after the parents. How can I find the child's talent? In addition to more concerns and observe children, parents should also create more opportunities to allow them to exercise and display all kinds of talents. Every parent is not universal, and it is impossible to take children to do all civil and military activities, which requires resources of social children's groups. Many Chinese parents believe that the US extracurricular children tailor often play more than teaching, do not learn practical knowledge, rather to let children participate in the classroom tutorial. In fact, for children to create a diversified environment, let them experience all kinds of activities, is a way to cultivate a comprehensive quality of the United States. It seems that the American extracurricular children's organization is now playing sports tomorrow to work in the world, and everywhere is not asking for it. The children have the opportunity to get in touch with a variety of projects. From it, they find that they are good at sports or love art. It is also useful to see the "Wanjin" "Wanjin"! When the child has reached a certain age, if I really like what, I will take the initiative to learn, as long as the child's requirements are healthy, parents must have fully supported. Parents also have to create democratic environments, and children dare to say their preferences and requirements. Although the child's interest is often transferred, the parents should not force the child to learn anything according to their own will, but should affirm the hard work of the encouragement, while positively guiding the child how to find the field that really suits you, and persisted unremitting achievements . three. Do you love an advertisement to show off your child's achievements? It is a "bad ha" that is Chinese parents who like to use children's achievements. Under the guidance of traditional consciousness such as "Wangzi Chenglong", "Yaozu Guangzong", Chinese people also love the advantages and disadvantages of their children, as the elements that measuring whether parents are competent. However, the US education advocates personal weight, and children learn knowledge is to enrich themselves, rather than to achieve parents' expectations. Love climbing in the Chinese society, the face, the father is waiting for the cold, still in overseas. This comparative comparison is not only caused the "arms race" of the child to expect the value to the child, but also the child's mind leaves unhealthy shadows. The child doesn't care about this, if the child is affected by the family culture, how can they meet the mainstream culture of the West? In the American school, students are more than those who have a score, name, winning, and so on. People who have this habit will be isolated in society. When parents promote what the child has a prize or name, when there is a key middle school famous university, the children are blaming the boring of the mother. The little son in this example, I am afraid that the behavior of the parents who have taken it as a showing off capital will be disgusted. People must learn to properly treat the fame and setbacks. Parents first can lead, and children can grow up healthily under the correct impact. Otherwise, it will repeat the same mistakes. Many Chinese I am afraid I still remember the reverse emotions of the parents in my childhood, but now I am a child, but I have suffered from the children. I hope that my own "genius" or "God" is proud of this, not a healthy teaching view. The competent parents should do the best for their children, and they provide the normal people should have, especially the essence of family, happiness.
four. What is the standard of success? Another mistake in the parents in this example is that it is not possible to understand what is "genius", what is "success." "Genius" is the end-weef of people, the little son has a day in the year, and these can not disappear, just see what he thinks, will not play it out. Just like the parents, the parents should not be a little son, there is no need to sigh for the little son. It is might wish to say that both sons have lived in their choices. Such young people like this little son are still a potential talent. For children that have grown up adults, parents should give them free space and fully trust, let them choose their careers and life. When I was a child, "Godboy" grew up to become a mediocrity, and the reason is that the reason is due to improper education. The United States has also been 11 or 2 years old to enter university prodys, but in the lack of the same age people, these children often do not have normal attention, psychology, and feelings that are suitable for their age. And experienced courses are difficult to digest, and some will become a victim of the incompetence; some have to grow back to the university after a few years old, but delay the time; if there is a comprehensive integration, social integration The skill is extremely lacking, and it has lost normal life. At present, wise American parents and students know that life is unpleasant, do not want to choose early graduation or jump, and hope to enjoy the childhood, teenage, youth, or elementary school, middle school, college time. China has a prosperous class, and overall is not successful. In recent years, this heat has been reduced, and the university's god childbirth is reduced year by year. However, some Chinese parents still look forward to their home to have a "God", those who introduce how to cultivate "Harvard girl", "Yale boy", and even more than 100 years ago, a foreign person has become a "genius". There is so much hot market. East and West is very different about "success". Chinese people often measure success or not, "the" name "," profit "," right "," status ", etc., seeming to entering the school to make a lot of money, a good name is successful, becoming the so-called" people "more For successful idols, ignoring people's true preferences and happiness of life. The parents in this example are the goals of the standard life of successful schools, so the little son responds to the parents in "big work" after reaching this requirement. In fact, good, good middle school university, only a process of learning knowledge in life, which is inverted by the goal of the struggle, and does not have the success of success. Most of Americans are not like old Chinese who care for famous schools and career. They believe that one person only wants to make things like, through their yearning life, no matter how rich, it is a successful life. Americans who pursue democracy and equality will not agree that "eat bitterness, party is people", they also advocate hard work, the purpose is to change their own challenge. If you say that the purpose of cultivating your child is to expect them to become a "people" on the head of others, it will be considered to be uneven. Today's new generation defines the standards of success and life, and it is different from the seniors. Therefore, if the parents are successful if the Chinese standards of the older generation will be successful, they will have mainstream culture in Western generations, which will be laughed by the new generation. It can be said that people with genius qualities are not necessarily successful. And the so-called successful people are not necessarily geniuses. Those discussing the discussion of "cultivating genius" and "success of success", in fact, it is impossible to talk about it, because it is impossible to put all people in a "genius" or push " success". As a parent and educator, you should work from the moment. According to the children's characteristics, create a self-potential environment for them, and have a footprint for each growth stage of life. Stepping on a footprint. .
