Marriage is just like your garden, you need to take care of it, and you have to talk about skills. For your own lover, you must give full trust and you must be confident. She told me that while holding a certain space for both sides, I must learn to communicate, be good at listening to my husband's heart, and give each other a listening to yourself. Marriage without communication is like a pangry water, no angry.
From the perspective of growth, most people have their own growth in marriage. There is a saying in China called "acquaintances", because each other is very familiar, when expressing, often do not pay attention to the other party's feelings, no longer choose expression, it is easy to stab the other party. In response to this, the experts put forward some strategies to avoid the "seven-year itch"
First, prevention before marriage, that is, when choosing the spouse, you can contact the other party, learn more about the advantages, shortcomings, family background, listen to the elders, some people say: The time to be dragged can be long, get married May wish to be late. This is reasonable.
The second is to dedicate the concept, don't picky each other, don't want to reshape each other and change each other. Maybe you will ask yourself: What can I bring to each other? It is necessary to have something to do in the heart, even if it is a hug, a smile, let the other party feel your love and warmth.
The third is to leave space, don't expect to have the other party, and give yourself a certain space. Don't think of marriage as your own wish and pin, to open your own living space, build a support network for yourself, and communicate Continuously improve your wisdom, constantly adjust yourself, adapt to marriage.
The fourth is to adjust the expectation, and the excessive expectation will form a contrast to the reality, causing pressure on both parties. The other party is not necessarily the best, but it is definitely the most suitable for you. It is enough to do this.
