[Jia Wen recommended] Grow up in the ear of life - these years, rebellion, compromise
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One day, I chatted with a master of a university era, chatting our lives, our problems, our struggle.
Her lover told us a story.
Many years ago, a team of young soldiers were sent to their country's labor to help farmers contained wheat. The company stipulates that a week of work is over, and even the long said that the remaining time is returned in advance, the remaining time acts as a reward for the holiday, can imagine that the young men who eat nine steamed bread are in a kind of enthusiasm Invested in labor. They only used two days, ending all the work, and reported the situation in the upper level ... so long wait begins, they gathered in the village as a group of children, waiting for the distance from afar every day Sound, five days, hope like the sea water of the retreat, anger icon plus coal fire.
The prescribed time is here, the team's truck is coming, the young people are angry with the car, and the question is to pick them up. The car said that there is no new instruction to pick up the soldiers in advance, he just executes the order of the team as usual as usual.
They were angry, perhaps for this long five days, maybe because they were fooled, they broke all the items in the dormitory, broke all the beds ... The result is that the original vacation is canceled, everyone Dedified and accept the inspection.
In theory, in this story, there is no one wrong with anyone. The military command is specified as a week of week, whether it is a team or a car soldier, strictly executed according to the prescribed time. If you can act as an incentive, even So, are those boys who are sorted? Nor did it, they completed the task five days in advance, they should be commended, and when they were fooled, they had power to express their anger.
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However, objectively, there is indeed a violation, and some people must be responsible for this.
who?
Young kids. Because they smashed those beds.
"This is the cruelty of life." The story of the story is flat, and the feeling of his speech makes me a sense of intuition, he is one of those young men.
Yes, life is such a cruel, it has many rules, with a set of game rules, a trajectory. These things are often with our young mind, our ideal is in contact, even apart, until we hurt us.
I saw it in a book written in the West Point Military Academy. There can be three answers when the new grade new students answer the school leader:
1. Chief officials, sir.
2. Chief officials, not, sir.
3. The chief, I don't know, the chief.
When a newborn is answering the school's question about "why your shoes is dirty", "I am sorry, the chief, because John John just in the corridor stepped on my feet, you can't, You can only answer the three ways, there is no room for excuse. In early education, West Point is infused to give his students, no one cares about the process of concern, but only cares about things. You have to achieve the task, and others are not important.
Is this like this? I think life is like this, not only the army.
Will the boss ask your collapse computer? He just wants to report. Will the director ask your love? He just wants you a charming smile. Life will never be what we imagine, or hope, it is just that it looks like.
I thought I had always been a love for rebellion. When I was university, I often heard the class. In order to express my disdain to the teacher, I deliberately stand up, and I walked out of the classroom. When you graduate, because you don't love your communication, you can't stand the compromise, even if your grades have already lost a lot of opportunities. Later, I never cooperated with people who didn't have to be invited, and I was not happy. When you interact with girls, you will not speculate more than half. Look at Beijing, always messy, always a chicken flying dog jumping down the mildew is everywhere in garbage and clown ... A lot of problems are now like this.
However, what will it? You will have no chance, if you refuse, you will never start, if you don't start, you will never know the facts of things. Life is impossible to rely on imagination.
Then, you will be afraid, because I lost the power of the contest for the realistic province, simple refusal to deny the reality, then lose the belief, I can't see the hope, I can't see the light. Over time, you will habits, and even hide in the dark, hiding in a narrow world. Imagine the abandonment of life, then love yourself. In that, you are safe, you can curled up in the swell, endure despair, enjoy desperation.
Really refused? Really rebellion? No, just because you are afraid. In addition to the mean personalization, it may be simple, romantic.
Wisdom, where did you come?
compromise.
This compromise is not the principle of loss, but it is a good and bad admitted to the life of life.
Only if you have done all everything in life, including it ugly, its feelings, it is unfair, not just its bright sunshine, its beauty ... At that time, you really Understand it, you have power to improve it. This is like a love, you want to kiss a girl, you know that the lips are beautiful, then, you must also endure her bad temper, otherwise only change one.
As is a business, there is no cheap, the girl, and life is like this. Where is it only good? You Hu Jun, the girl will give you the light and life, and it is setback.
In the compromise, we abandoned the simple and naiveness, the romanticism of passion, we started reasonable, calmly understand life, no longer worry, began to learn to respect, learn to analyze, then find yourself, perfect your own Method, improve your existence and close to happiness.
Compromise, those smart compromises, not allow us to stay away from the heart, but will return us in a broader way, making us more powerful when maintaining yourself. Because it is no longer a simple emotion, but, wisdom. Unlimited rebel is ultimately not caused in endless fans, it is extreme, because the rebellion is, the farther, and finally, the rebellion will lose the object, and there is no reverse.
I used to have a book, Keben, he has everything in life, money, fame and fortune ... Finally, it is still unbearable, so he chooses to leave, enough rebellion. I used to have a rumor, saying that he was killed by his wife with a shotgun. At that time, I hate this saying, it ruined the perfect people I loved. However, now I can't now, I hope that he is killed. Easy to choose to leave, too cook, too martial arts. I have a friend before I said that I have to learn "obedience", I don't understand. I understand it now, I will learn to compromise. People are always contradictory, otherwise there will not be painful. We need to admit this, this is the way to re-learn to live. It is also growing, and re-has new power, the beginning of the new belief.
Joe Hong said in Xiao Fang in "Women's Four", life is very enjoyable. I think it is like this, I don't easily, I don't think it is. The power of people, that kind of dignity, because it is not easy, only blooms.
I saw some people in life, they were as much as I am like me, sensitive, fragile, they have never lacking the ability to compromise with many people in this society, they are either very serious, or very stubborn. I am not worried that they will no longer go to rebellion, refuse, they are people who are very concerned about their own minds, they always have more or less need to stick to things. The only thing I worry is that these good people, they can't come to compromise, can't accept the end of life, then, they have no strength and courage to get wisdom, keep them the most valuable thing.
I hope that those who cherish the inner life can grow up with me. I can learn in the light of life, I can learn to compromise, then learn to compromise, then when they can't get rid of habitual face to live their passion There is sufficient courage and wisdom, making their soft ribs to resist the impact of life.
