- How do we do your parents now? When the sheep saw this, I gave him two pieces, or a few cents, don't let his rusty cups bloom. That cup is actually the hope of detecting the human space. With the child's feelings, Moro (hereinafter referred to as "Motor"): My child just four months old, since he was born, I went to where I held a child. There is a feeling of having a family. I have to go to the city several times, people say that I don't want to go so late, live here. I said: "No, I have to go home to see the child!" Going out ten hours will come to the child! " If a person is not a father, improper mother, the concept of family may have always been relatively light. When my father, after the mother, the concept of home will be strong. Jiang Denxing (hereinafter referred to as "Jiang"): Modern people are highly cost-effective, many people don't want to be home, don't marry contractual relationship, and rather choose the informal relationship between the same life. In this relationship, people's responsibility awareness is very low. There are many crises in marriage. Once there is no contract constraint, it may go to break up. Another is to choose a marriage, but don't have children. And this family who don't have children, I am afraid I can't achieve a very good state of happiness. Mocha: From my own experience, after having a child, I feel that I have a real home. Home is always together with the specific space. The house I got, although I stayed for a few years, but I never got home with that space because it was rent. Now I have children, I feel different, I feel that this space is my home, because the child lives here. So, no matter where you go, I have to go back here as soon as possible. Every time I go to the outside, I am exhausted when I am exhausted, the strongest wish is that I returned to this space, holding a child - the feeling of home is to this extent. Jiang: Mencius said: "There is no constant body", "can also be used in the family. If there is no more concern in a family, there is no hope, then the happiness of the family will not be stable. Moto: Before having children, my wife is very sensitive to age and time, I feel old, it seems that I will enter the elderly tomorrow. After having a child, our mentality has changed. When the child was born, I held him, there is a very instinct desire, I hope he grows up early. I am more than him than him, I am sixty-year-old when he is twenty years old, this is our relationship at age. But I am willing, as long as he grows up, I don't have a good fear. My wife is also like this. She told me that she had a feeling of age, not afraid of being old, only I hope time is coming, so that the child grows up quickly. I am very moving. When I was born in my child, this feeling was very strong. When the child was crying at night, I was worried about where he was uncomfortable. I hate everyone's pain, everything is bad, I will bear me. Then I hope time is faster, the child will grow up quickly. Moreover, my child is one year old, I have a big one year old, and the child has a big one year old, it seems that I have made a look. I have a big one year old, it is so important that the child is one year old. Jiang: You have written "Experience Happiness Experience" before. At that time, this experience may be the idea inside your mind. The happiness now is very practical. Mocha: Now all this happens in my daily life, let me experience this.
The family-oriented happiness is now, now many families have their tables, saying that I am using a friend, "I really don't want to return to this home!" I recently just read "Marie Jones and her Bible" this Book, it is telling a story of the early Industrialization of Wales in the UK. This book has changed my concept about family and happiness. According to the current concept, we must have a very high income, you can buy a house, and some people will be willing to marry us, then raise children, send him a good school. During this process of preparing for family life, maybe our youth has passed, and the real happiness is lost. After reading this book, I found out that there is not much wealth, and people who are very realistic between people, they can make people happiness. And our previous happiness, more, what is the status of society, and the social achievement. "Marie Jones and her Bible" The happiness of this book is based on the family. This book describes a poor, but very happy family. Marry Jones is eager to study at the age of eight, but there is no condition at the time. Parents did not fight her, but encouraged her. Parents respect her, regardless as a person with independent personality. When Marie Jones is eager to get a Bible, the parents will encourage her. In the process of hard work, she encountered difficulties, but parents did not help her solve, but let her go independently. She spent six years, she earned money to buy a Bible. At the same time, she has also developed independence and the ability to take responsibility, which is healthily growing. After Marry Jones grew up, she also gave birth to eight nine children. Once I asked her, I saw that you didn't make any money, why can you make a home so well? Marry Jones replied, because I spent six years of spending for six years, I have made me learn to save. I don't spend the money, I spend money on the blade. This allows you to maintain a happy family with less money. Looking back around us, one of my friends have been educated, her child is six or seven years old, watching a lot of TV, CD, knowing many of his mother does not understand. But this child has a problem, rarely goes outdoors. So one day, he called me and said, "I would rather my child and the children of the people who sell vegetables on the streets, maybe it is mud, but they have haha laugh. It's a happy face! "Recently, my friend, really took her children to ride a tricycle, and saw the child played sweating, she laughed. Give your child a liable opportunity: I think you look at "Marie Jones and her Bible from the point of view of the family, this is a good angle. Mary Jones's parents really can respect the will of the child. If you don't read this book, we don't know how difficult it is so difficult at that time. At that time, a little girl who did not know hopes to get a Bible, and her ideas is very unrealistic. As a parent of the textile, it is not criticizing her ridiculous, but supporting her to achieve the desire, it is very difficult. Those who grew up in the pool of the pool, I am afraid that I have exposed such a request when I was lasts, but I was pressed by my parents. Parents will teach us the reality, let me realize that in this environment, our wishes are impossible. It is always possible to tell what it is possible, what is impossible, but can't respect the child's own imagination of my own life, this is actually the growth of the child. The child has no space to express his wishes. Over time, it lacks imagination, lacks creativity. Mary Jones's parents are not very cultural people, but they naturally treat children in this way, this shows that they have such a tradition.
So their children are not only depressed, but they have a little more than the ability to take responsibility, because from the little parents give him a chance to take responsibility. And we are in the mandatory development of parents. In fact, this is a chance to deprive our responsibility, because in force us, we don't have to take responsibility. Therefore, the strategic society is facing the emergency response energy, because everyone is not responsible, only the rulers are responsible. Because you usually press me, I don't have to be responsible for the country, don't be responsible for the collective, responsibility is on your person, and there is an emergency, I will not think about it. I will not have awareness of me to find a way, because I have not participated in the rights and conditions ... In fact, our growth environment and later living environment are too liable to take responsibility opportunities. Therefore, we have no responsibility for this world. The "Marie Jones and her Bible" are described in this book. It is a little girl who has the opportunity to make their own choices, and there is also a chance to take responsibility for himself. This is her luck. Jiang: I remember Lu Xun wrote "How do we do your father? Moto: When Lu Xun, "May 4" said that it is necessary to abandon old culture, introduce new culture, and new culture is the Western culture. Simply put, the "May 4th" new cultural movement is the introduction of Western culture. Lu Xun is a Chinese who borrowed Western culture. He felt that he would see his children as a separate life to respect, and it is necessary for the child's needs, not the convenience of adults. Chinese parents are often a choice to see their convenience. In fact, it should not be the case, but it is very important to use the child's needs and wishes. If this is adjusted, then China's parents are adjustably adjusted. The problem is that we have never ignored children's needs, this concept is a deep rooted background, which is rooted. If the root is unchanged, the background is constant, this concept will not change. Therefore, there are many people who read Lu Xun's book, I am afraid it is not too much like Lu Xun. More than "Fu Leijiabook" is more worth advocating: Lu Xun's idea is one of the representative thoughts in the "May 4th" new cultural movement. Unfortunately, despite our culturality today, the impact of "May 4th" new cultural movement is so big, but in the attitude towards children, we are afraid that it has inherited the idea of "May 4". I will give an example, there is a book that affects a lot in China is "Fu Leijia". Everyone said that Fu Lei is so good to his child, then follow the development of the kids to guide the child! Fu Lei is so learned, not only understands literature, but also understands the aesthetics, music, art, so many things talk to children, how good! Also, you look at him, how is it for this country, how is it! So much about writing letters to children, how good! Since the birth of "Fu Leijiabook", it has been sold many times, and it has been very high in China. Fu Lei has grown in the spiritual background of "May 4th" new cultural movement, but I think Fu Lei is at least in the issue of children, there is no "May 4" spirit. His education for children is too embarrassing, too mandatory, is completely the image of a Chinese-style powerful father. What stories say to your child, should be like this, should be as clear, and there is no room for discussion. This kind of father's gesture, I think it is bad. I have always wanted to speak a few words to "Fu Leijiabook", pointing out that "Fu Leijiabook" is not worth advocating. Compared with "Fu Leijiabook", I am more willing to advocate the "Mali Jones and her Bible" to do their parents' style.
Parents in the Chinese environment lack such things. I should learn that Mrs. Ivans: When I read "Marie Jones and her Bible", I was old stared at Marry. Jones, this child, because I am from the countryside, her resources are scarce, very easy to cause my sympathy. Marry Jones wants to see the Bible, because you have no, every week is going to go so much, go to Mrs. Ivass, how precious. We originally, isn't it in this unparalleled environment? Marry Jones also knows that there is a very good book in the world - the Bible, we have never been known in the world, do not know that there are other books outside of the textbook, we have the conditions for reading the wish. nothing. So our cultural environment is more close than her. We can't think of your own life like Marie Jones, and we are related to our ideals. We lack this impulse, lack such guidance, lack of Christians like Mrs. Ivus to say to us: As long as you are willing to walk, you are here to read! I am very envious of Marie Jones has such a chance. There are still many people who are still lacking in culture, and the smart knowledge is lacking. Is there anything possible for them? This is my usual problem. After reading this book, I strengthened this idea. Can we do that Mr. Ivans that makes Marry Jones to her home to study, who is willing to come to my home, I will give him some convenience? This is simple, in fact, it is very troublesome in daily life, because a child ran to his own home to read books, everyday life must be disturbed. This is actually a huge effort. Can we like Mrs. Ivis, to meet the wishes of others like this? If you can't do it, you should try to learn from her. In addition, have we possible to do more? The Church circle later established a Joint Bible Guild, specializing in printing and spreading the Bible for people. We can not learn this spirit, such as rural children in lack now, providing more cultural resources, allowing them to get at least a little better book than poor textbooks? Mary Jones's home's bright background: indeed, we are all looking forward to doing something for children in culturally poor. In addition, although children in the city have a lot of information resources, there is not much health information resources. This is where we can do something. Lu Xun said how to let children develop swimming in the future of the future, which is our father's responsibility. "Marie Jones and her Bible" this book, Mali Jones's parents Jacob and Moli are doing this. For example, a little Marie Jones went to the town to buy things, and the black has not come back yet, Molie wants to pick her up. Jacob said: We can't be a blocking of her growth. That is to say to make the child in the face of difficulties, because what kind of challenge is to face in the future, parents don't know. If you are too helpful, you will block her growth. So Marry Jones parents restrained themselves, don't go to help children take responsibility. Later, Marie had a six-year money, and finally, when she had money to buy the Bible, she had to go to 50 kilometers to buy the Bible, and there was a very desolate place in the middle. Her parents let her walk. At this time, Marie is only fifteen years old. In "Marry Jones and her Bible", in addition to their parents' attention to their independence, their families also show a bright background. For example, there is such a scene.
Mali is eight years old, in the garden, her mother saw her hand holding her mind, asking her: Mary, what do you think? Marie said, I am looking opposite the mountain, I think it is like the Bible story that heard last night, Jesus mountaineering. Her mother said a word very much, she said: "Mary, the Lord bless you, you will never lack your happiness!" This scene is in our Chinese family, it is very It is difficult to see. Many people I have seen, they spend a lot of money to learn foreign languages, learn piano, train children a lot of skills, but rarely pay attention to how to give children a healthy mind. The so-called healthy mind, is not abstract, it is living in the family and is the delivery of life. Any constructive thing is a small matter: overemphasizing the skills of skills, ignoring the growth of the spirit, this problem is very serious in China. Now that social competition is more and more intense, parents will cultivate their skills more desperately, and ignore children in spirit, psychological development. Maybe these parents, lack that experience, and lack that resource. From the actual situation, we have added it to the child, and everything will be held for him. During the process of the package, it was forced him to experience the world according to the parental empirical model, and force him to develop according to the ideal development of parents. From the resources, China is lacking to respect the child, let go of the tradition of making children. When the child grows up to become a teen, when the development is not good, be a father, and the mother knows that it will fail. At that time, one is likely that it is already unable to remedy. Two even at this time, there is still no resource for parents to make remedies. I said this, is a review of traditional drawbacks and resource lack. At the same time, I also think that we can't always review what is missing, what is the lack of the right review, and the review has been criticized, and a few words. After review, we have to do a little bit of income to introduce resources and do a constructive thing. Constructive things are often very small, very specific. We can only do a lot of small and small things, slowly accumulating into a scale, making into a situation. And bigger maybe, there is no size, no situation, can only be silently silently. Doing a little thing is to start from a very minute point, starting from a very minute angle. Destructive things are shocking, often exploding will lead to destruction. Constructive things are slightly insignificant, and it is made in silent silence. We don't want to do the earth-shattering thing, but you should be unknown to do this kind of constructive little thing, and you will introduce resources at a point, let us have some new things at a little bit. When introducing new resources, we can't expect to change a large group of people, can't expect a generation to change generations, which is impossible. Like the "May 4th" new cultural movement, it seems that the momentum is very vast, and the surface has changed a generation, changed the fate of the nation, and actually led from the deep psychological structure of the nation, it changed very small. However, despite small, but after all, there is change, this is what we should be sure, not to criticize. We just be more patience and then do it. So we don't have to have too high expectations, I feel that I have the ability to change the way, or at least at least shocking power. It is a self-cultivation of a person who can be unknown in a small matter. Jiang: This reminds me that Marry Jones is ten years old and will be determined to make money through his own efforts to buy the Bible.
On the night of the decision, she went out to pick up firewood and encountered an old lady with rheumatism. She took her own firewood to her, and the old lady gave her half a penny. She is willing to give the firewood to the old lady, but in order to buy the Bible, she is willing to accept this half a penny. Then she was in six years, raising the eggs, homes, giving people a curtain cloth, giving people a child, sweeping the kitchen, is a one-line work. For six years, it has also encountered setbacks in the middle. After reading this book, I have an anti-provision. We are easy to think of great, but it is an idle. And this little girl reflects a very simple spirit: there is an ideal, then do it in the earth. Going back, small things may not have a big impact. Marry Jones inside the mountains of Wales, silently saving the Bible, this little thing has been in the six years, but it affects the world, and finally leads to the establishment of the Joint Bible Association. This is an earth-shattering event, but the little girl is doing this, but she did not think that "I want to change the world". Her motivation is very simple, I hope to have a Bible and then pay for it. We want to review our way of thinking today. We look forward to your behavior in your mind, you can bring an earth-shattering result, and don't want to do it in practice in practice. In fact, a work can bring more results, our rationality is not known, we can do the responsibility. Don't let the rusty cup empty: Yes, the concept of fulfilling your duties is important. Don't look forward to it too high. The results of too high often don't do anything, because you don't have a great goal. Many people don't want to pay attention to suffering, his reason is that there are so many people in the world, are I managed? In fact, don't talk about all people who have suffered the world, we have no ability to save a poor person. But if we can help a little bit, then you will help a little bit as possible, don't be shy because it is too small to help others too small. We helped him a little bit, and did not change his destiny, but at least let him eat a cake at night. More importantly, we have effectively helped him, and it is also a bit of responsibility to fulfill your own. There are a lot of people in the world, and we have no ability to help so many people. But when I saw this one, I gave him two pieces, or a few cents, don't let his rusty cups bloom. That cup is actually the hope of detecting people. Everyone is willing to make a little bit of little things to the cup, indicating that there is still a warmth. We express love from the world, maybe you can start from the hand, the empty cup begins. A basic complexion in Chinese reading people is to save the world. This kind of complex is easy to confuse a bloody and rushing young people's mind. I have also received this kind of confusion when I am young. In fact, this thing does not necessarily give people how much benefits. It may only, first, let you become unreal; second, let you suddenly don't want to do anything. Because there is always one day, you will wake up and know that you can't save the world. You are likely to be desperate because of this feeling, and you don't want to do anything. I am now in this age, I know that the idea of saving the world is not good. Don't always read the story of a great person's youth era, and then become like him to save the world like him. We are not a great giant, and we don't want to think about the great cause of the giant giant to achieve the world. When we introduce resources, we may also have misunderstandings. We always introduce those things that great people, read the great story of great people. Readings that are currently provided to youth will make it easy to think about this. In fact, a society does not necessarily want this, and the story of reading ordinary people is also able to get inspiration and motivation.
