闾 闾 露 薇: Where is my marriage?
Chinese Women's Newspaper (2005-03-16)
Life is constantly changing, and our two people are constantly changing. We have more and more choices in life, we have become more and more different from the views of life, and our choice is not the same.
At this time, we didn't see this in a timely manner. He didn't stop. Everyone communicated well, see how to solve it, but she kept in front of themselves. So suddenly we found that we became more and more strange, and there is more and more unhabel. The past love has fallen in our unknowing.
闾 闾 露 薇, can be said to be a "bath blood rose" in Phoenix TV. She is the first Chinese female reporter entered Afghanistan, and the first Chinese reporter entered the territorial battlefield of Iraq. Such a woman walking in the sword swords and shadows, the same is the same in their feelings. After taking the bitterness and helplessness of the failure marriage, she wrote a story that belong to her own in "Rose" in the walk ...
We have been married less than three months.
From the first love to get married, every feeling always makes me feel hard, never considering the consequences. It's like getting married, we just know less than three months, add up for less than a month, just because I want to get married, so I get married.
The process of me and my ex-husband knows a bit like a plot in the novel. At that time I was still working in a businesses. We met on the train from Guangzhou to Shenzhen, he and his friends sat in my opposite.
They chatted with my mother, I sat quietly. For these young people, I didn't have a little interest at the beginning, just suddenly, he made a move. In fact, this action I have already remembered, but I still remember that this action makes me suddenly touched, there is an inexplicable touch. So I began to pay attention to him. Next, maybe we really have a fate, his documents have fallen, can't go back to Hong Kong on the same day. So my enthusiastic mother said, it is better to live there.
In this way, we met in order to enroll. After that, he got the document and then returned to Hong Kong, and then came back. We started to interact, everything happened quickly. After another, my mother knows what we have dragged, I feel that he is too poor and there is no job, so he will try to oppose this. To this end, I have turned it with my mother, I will move out from my mother.
So we quickly married it so quickly. He found a job in Hong Kong and came over every week.
At that time, my life between him was very practical. I rented a house in Shenzhen. Every time he came over from Hong Kong. When we were together, I thought where to eat something, or where to sing and drink. Sometimes, we will travel with his friends to other citys, but the show of travel, nothing more than playing, singing, eating.
The work of the accounting firm is very busy, I often travel around the country. Sometimes, we can see a face for a month, and the time together is very fast.
For everything, he is doing something, he has done something, I have never learned. I always think so, I live with me, is now him, what have been done in the past, who loves, what people like, and I have no relationship with me. As for what is doing now, I think everyone is an adult, and each should have their own circles, and we live in different cities, so those that should be not too much. Relationship. And I have a relationship, just that that appears in front of me.
We have been in this way for two years. At the end of 1995, I immobile arrived in Hong Kong.
The process of finding a job is quite smooth, after the foot of Hong Kong, I still have to go to work in a TV station. This is my ideal, and I have never thought about it after graduating from college, I have never thought about it.
My work unexpectedly, after 3 months, I jumped to another Hong Kong local largest TV station.
Like our lives and most of the Hong Kong people, go to work during the day, go home at night, on Sunday, go out and drink tea, then visit the shopping mall. Sometimes, go out with his friends, listen to them talk about the horse.
But we rarely talk about our own things, whether it is his work or my job, we have no interest in each other, but it seems that there is no problem like this.
Our dialogue is getting less and less
Originally in my eyes, he is a person who knows a lot than I know, but slowly, I found that there is more and more things, so my problem is getting less, our conversation is also Being less and less.
Soon, we have children. Although it is a bit sudden, I think I am lucky and happiness when I see my child is born.
The child has not been full of full moon, I changed my work and entered the Phoenix TV. And since then, I started my master of communication. The time of the two years is quite tasty, because you have to work during the day, there are two nights to go to class every week. Although the child is helped by the old man by the old man, I still insist on my child with my child. So, two of us began to turn around the child.
In the days of Phoenix, because people are still very small, there are many opportunities, and the pressure has also begun. For a while, I am very unhappy at work, my emotions are very low, and I have been crying in front of him. But he doesn't understand at all, he thinks, I am in your own trouble. So, I will never talk about anything about work in front of him.
Perhaps when a reporter is, it is necessary to decide on a lot of things, and this style has begun to bring my life. After a while, I found out that it was in life, whether I decided to eat, or the home is not a piece of carpet, it has become something that I need to decide.
I think, marriage life may be this. Until one day, I hit a university class with university, I have never met, my one, the best friend. He looked at me said, is this you? The university is cheerful, confident, happy? That pursuit of love, pursuing your own happiness?
I have become unfortunate that I have become dead. I started to reflect on my life, I start thinking that I have always been reluctant to touch the problem: I still love him? Is this the marriage I want?
Finally one day, I said: We break up.
For love, I have always had my own imagination. Perhaps it is a child, I saw too much love novel. I believe that love should be the kind of immersion every day in passion, let people open their eyes every day, see every different good morning. Love should be able to make people feel beautiful and become inspired. In a happy marriage, two people should not be alone, but should be a confidant of the soul; there should be a topic that is incomplete, there are countless common sharing. At least, everyone should have similar values and world views.
However, between me, from the head to the end, we are always living in a full realistic. Whenever I want to touch some things deep, I know that there is different between us, so I wo it, I only see it. I started to reflect on our beginning, and the province I didn't want to get married. I think, a big reason is because I have been divorced from the little parents, so I have been eager to have my own home. The mother's opposition has added my determination. And younger yourself, don't know, what kind of people are suitable for themselves. Just, know what this marriage is wrong, what should I do?
Two years later, I have been struggling on this issue, and I should end this marriage. Because he is innocent, he is a kind person, just don't understand me, we are not suitable for each other.
I asked my friends, they said, in fact, we will know, you are not suitable. But how to do it, or you will decide. As your friend, no matter what decision you do, we all support you, or your friends.
My father advised me, for the children, still cautious.
Finally, one day, I said to him, we broke up.
That week, for me and him, it is a quite painful day. Say this sentence is courage, and he wants him to accept this sentence, he also needs courage.
He asked me, is it because of a third party. I said no, I really don't, but he can't understand it now, and I don't believe it.
I want to say to him, just because I think, if a marriage doesn't have love, it is the disrespect for marriage. And if you barely maintain a unhappy marriage, you don't stand if you are unhappy, your child will not be happy.
But in the end, I didn't say it. I just quietly moved out of our two people.
I have never doubted the existence of love.
Now, we have been separated for four years. There have been a lot of things in this day. We occasionally communicate, discuss children's things, I will still drink tea with his mother, I still call his mother.
Time is slowly putting the pain at the time at a little bit.
Many times, I will ask yourself, have you regret it. I think I can very certainly say, I don't regret it.
In fact, I have never regret it as soon as possible, because I think life can't live in regret, and many things at the time, there is definitely the reason and background. I think, I clearly know that when I decided to get married, there is a love between us. At that time, two people are really truthful, I hope we can live together in the future.
Just, living is constantly changing, and our two people are constantly changing. In our live environment, we have more and more choices of life, we have become more and more different from the views of life, and our choice of life is not the same. At this time, we didn't see this in a timely manner. He didn't stop. Everyone communicated well, see how to solve it, but she kept in front of themselves. So suddenly we found that we became more and more strange, and there is more and more unhabel. The past love has fallen in our unknowing.
These years, although my marriage failed, I think a big reason is on my own, but I have never given up the existence of love. These years, I also encountered people I love, just, not everyone with me, regarding love. When love and other things have conflict, they choose, always not love. Sometimes, I will doubt that I am too persistent. Just like singing in the song: behind the world of adults, there is always an incomplete. It may be that if I am not in the principle of my own, my marriage is also able to maintain the present, like most people. However, if this, is I live honest? Will I will be happy?
Many times, my heart will feel lonely. The more people are more, standing in the crowd, the more I feel that I can't see it. This lonely heart, waiting for a person who also believes in love.
Maybe there is something unreal, but I really have encountered, although it is short, although I finally lost to the world's desire and temptation, after all, I have been sincere, love once stayed around me.
In now, I still believe that this world has the existence of love; I still believe that there is a person, I believe this as I.
Just "Love is always crying, let people feel unsatisfied, the sky is very big but not clear, so lonely ..."
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闾 闾 may be like this: It is like a web page to make a master, love is like a network domain name. When you are young, there are countless free domain names to make you choose, but when the merit name is re-examined, the original .com can only marks the years of young dreams. Love, I originally planned to catch up with changes, it is better to be a silly child who believes in love. (Deng Haijian)
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