The fourth letter of Li Kai Fu to Chinese students: University four years should spend so
Microsoft Asian Institute of Asian Institute of Premier Li Kai Fu
Today, I replied to the first 1000 questions since I opened the student network. After turning off the computer, there is always a student to believe in my mind, can't go:
Opening a teacher: I have to graduate. Looking back at your so-called university life, I want to cry, not because of the leave, but because I haven't learned anything. I don't know, what should I write? If I will make it blank if I have ever. The biggest harvest may be ... Tolerance and adaptation nothing ...
This is a lot of the heart of the three, and the three students. During the university, many students let go of their own, vain, and many students have never found the correct learning direction. When they were awakened by the first completion of the test, when they received the first seven refused to apply for the company, these students were surprised to find that their future is so embarrassing, everything is hard to be too late ...
This "fourth letter" is written to the college students who wish to wake up from the unbenders, and those who have never sucked and want to grasp their future and fate, and those who are about to enter the university threshold. In this letter, I want to say to all my classmates:
The university is the most critical phase in people's life. From the first day of enrollment, you should have a correct understanding and planning for the four years. In order to enjoy the biggest happiness in learning, in order to find your favorite work in graduation, everyone who just entered the university campus should master seven learning: learning self-study, basic knowledge, practice, cultivate interest, Active, control time, for people. As long as this is done, the biggest gain of college students will never be "patience and adaptation to anything", but should be "confident and desire to anything." As long as you do this, you can become a great graduate with potential, ideas, valuable, and promising.
University: the key to life
University is a key stage of life. This is because, entering the university is the first time in your life, the burden of the college entrance examination, began to chase your own ideals, interest. This is your first time to leave the family life, independently participate in groups and social life. This is the theoretical knowledge you are no longer simply or reciting books, but there is a chance to practice. This is the first time you no longer arrange everything in life and learning in your parents, but there is enough free disposal of life and learning, and dominate all your own time.
University is a key stage of life. This is because this is the last time you have a chance to systematically accept education in your life. This is the last time you can build your knowledge wholehearted. This may be the last time you can use the life stage of your life to learn, or it may have a higher plasticity in the last time, you can constantly revise your own growth process. This may be that you can last in relatively tolerant, you can use the ideal environment that is studying as people.
University is a key stage of life. In this stage, all college students should carefully grasp every "first", let them become the cornerstone of the future life road; in this stage, all college students should also cherish every "last", don't let yourself not Far in the future regrets. In the four years, everyone should strive to weave their dreams, clarify their own direction, lay their own basis.
Everyone in the four years is only once, and the university should spend so much ...
Self-repair: from the other side of three to no teacher
I remembered that when I was aimed at the University of Columbia, I had a parent of Chinese students complained to me: "What are you taught in your college? My child has finished reading a big second computer system, actually even Visicalc (note) will not use "
I replied at the time: "The development of the computer is a new year. We can't guarantee that any technique asked in the university is still tuned in five years. We can't guarantee that students can learn every technology and tools. We can guarantee that Your child will learn to think and master the method of learning, so that no matter what new technologies or new tools after five years, your child can swim. "She then asked:" The latest software is not educational, then What is the essence of education? "
I replied: "If we have forgotten the things, the last thing is the essence of education."
I was said at the time from the famous educator B. F. Skinner. The so-called "remaining things" is actually the ability of self-study, that is, the ability to give a non-three or no teacher. The university is not a "professional training course", but a platform for students to meet society and adapt to different jobs. During the university, learning expertise is important, but more importantly, it is necessary to learn the way to think, cultivate the ability to raise a reflection. Only in this way, university graduates can adapt to the rapid future world.
When you go to Middle School, the teacher will repeat the key content in each lesson again. But after entering the university, the teacher will only serve as a leader's role, and students must study, explore and practice independently. After walking on the job, self-study ability is more important. Microsoft has done a statistics: only about 10% of each Microsoft employee, only about 10% is the accumulation of employees in the past learning and work, and other knowledge is re-study after adding Microsoft. This data sufficiently indicates that a person who lacks self-study ability is difficult to stand in a modern business like Microsoft.
Self-learning ability must start cultivation during college. Many students always complain that teachers have taught well, know much, and school's curriculum arrangements are not reasonable. I usually advise these students to say: "It is not as bright as the curse, not as bright as a candle. College students should not only follow the teacher, but should take the initiative to walk in front of the teacher. For example, a university teacher usually covers the information content of tens of pages in the textbook, just through the classroom, and it is impossible to learn all knowledge. The best learning method is to ponder the relevant questions in the textbook before the teacher lecture, and then make up for the shortcomings of understanding and understanding in the classroom.
Middle school students are more in learning knowledge, and college students should request their own knowledge and be good at proposing issues. For each knowledge point, you should ask a few "why". Once the theory or method is really understood, everyone can learn other knowledge, solve other problems, and even achieve the realm of non-secret.
In fact, many problems have different ideas or observation angles. When learning knowledge or solving problems, don't always start a thought model, don't let yourself become a slave of textbooks or experiences. Only in learning is dare to innovate, it is good at thinking about problems from a new perspective, and students' potential thinking ability, creativity and learning ability can be truly excited.
"Books • Sudden" said: "Site school and no friends, then ignorant." In other words, college students should make full use of talent resources in schools, absorb knowledge and methods from various channels. If you encounter a good teacher, you can take the initiative to ask them, or ask them to recommend some extracurricular reference books. In addition to senior professors, young teachers, doctoral students, master students, and their own classmates are the best knowledge source and study partners. Everyone does not have the same understanding and understanding of the problem, only to help each other, everyone can make progress together.
Some students have told me that they envy me to have a master of the Master who has obtained the Trum-winning. In fact, although I am very advocating my teacher, he didn't teach me how much expertise during the university. He just gave me a big direction, let me share his experience, give me the resources of research, and teach me to be a man. He has no time to guide me to learn specific expertise. The expertise that I have accumulated during college is obtained by self-study. When I first started, I have repeatedly red face to ask my brother to ask the most basic knowledge content. When I discussed, I have asked a lot of superficial problems. I also took the initiative to discuss and learn from my class. "Three people must have my teacher", and the surroundings around the college students are good fortune. Just cherish these rare opportunities, boldly ask, often learn, we can learn the most useful knowledge and methods. College students should make full use of the library and the Internet, cultivate the skills of independent learning and research, and prepare for future work or further study. First, in addition to learning the curriculum prescribed by the teacher, college students must learn to find books and literature in order to get more extensive knowledge and research results. For example, when we discovered the topics of interest in a class, we should actively go to the library to check the relevant literature to understand the problem of the dragon and the current research dynamics of this topic. Proficiency and fully use library resources, this is one of the necessary skills of college students, especially those who are interested in scientific research. When reading, you should use some English original textbooks. Some original textbooks write deeply, with a large number of examples, which is also suitable for self-study than Chinese materials. Second, in addition to the book, the Internet is also a huge repository, and college students can find all kinds of information online with the search engine. "Opening Student Network" has been opened for half a year, I have found that many students don't have a good to master the Internet search skills, sometimes they ask questions as long as you simply retrieve it in the search engine, you can easily find the answer. Some students are easily believed to believe in rumors on the Internet without using the search engine to check the test, and try to. In addition to search engines, there are also many websites and communities on the Internet, are also a very good study garden.
When I am self-study, don't be complacent because of the requirements of the school, don't think that I have a good job in college. Today, in the 21st century, talent has become an international concept. When you are satisfied with your own grades, I suggest you start reading some international first-class courses. For example, the open course of the US MIT (MIT) has been released online. You may wish to see the MIT's online course, do MIT online test questions. When you can master MIT courses, you can face international challenges more confidently.
In short, be good at raising a non-hospitality, learning is not sent, this is the best gift for yourself in the four years.
Basic knowledge: mathematics, English, computer, internet
I have said that a major advantage of Chinese students is a solid basis, such as mathematics, physics, etc. However, in recent years, students have witnessed a lot of quick examples (such as Ding Lei, Chen Tianqiao, etc.), and urgently hopes to drive a successful expressway. This gradually formed a pursuit of fasting impetuous. Many college students will immediately be "managers" after graduation, and many college students have chosen "management" professional when they enrolled, because they believe that they can become a company manager after graduating such profession. . After many students entered the management of the management, they found that they were not interested in this major. In fact, like management and other majors are places where basic knowledge and basic methods, no major can guarantee that students can take a leadership position when they graduate. Regardless of which professional learning is learning, university graduation is the real beginning of personal careers. Students who want to do business leaders or to do management work must also start from the grassroots, and must first learn to be people in terms of character, and lay a good foundation in schools. If a college is a platform for learning and progress, then the foundation of this platform is the basic course in the university. During the university, students must learn basic knowledge (mathematics, English, computer and Internet use, as well as basic courses required by this major, such as financial, economic, economics, etc.). In today's new day of technology development, many seemingly high-profile technologies will be replaced by new technologies or tools after a few years. Only learning for basic knowledge can be used for life. On the other hand, if there is no good foundation, college students are difficult to really understand the adequate application technology. Finally, in many Chinese colleges, professors have more teaching experience over the latest technologies.
Mathematics is the basis for the essentials of the scientific students. Many students think that mathematics is the most difficult to learn in high school. In the university, once the professional requirements for mathematics are not high, they will completely relax the learning of mathematical knowledge, and they do not see what is the real application of mathematical knowledge. Or employment prospects. But don't forget, most of the knowledge systems of most science and engineering are based on the cornerstone of mathematics. For example, if you want to learn a computer engineering, you should learn from discrete mathematics (including aggregation, chart, proactive logic, etc.), linear algebra, probability statistics and mathematical analysis; to further study master's or doctoral degree in computer science It may also require higher mathematical literacy. At the same time, mathematics is also a smart crystallization of human beings for thousands of years, learning mathematical knowledge can cultivate and traine people's thinking ability. Through the learning of geometries, we can learn to use interpretation, reasoning to review and think; through learning probability statistics, we can know how to avoid drilling thinking, how to maximize the opportunities in front of themselves. Therefore, everyone must learn more to learn mathematics, can't perfine things. Learning mathematics can not be limited to elective multi-door mathematics courses, but to learn how to learn mathematics, to master awareness and thinking from learning mathematics.
The most important communication tool in the 21st century is English. Some students learn English in the university. Some students only use English as a job-seeking skills. Even people think that learning and use English is equal to Chongyang. In fact, the fundamental purpose of learning English is to master an important study and communication tool. In the next few decades, the most comprehensive news content in the world, the most advanced thinking and the highest and deep technologies, and the mutual exchanges between most intellectuals will be carried out in English. Therefore, English learning is crucial unless you want to be a person with international outset. In the software industry, not only, the most important textbooks, papers, reference materials, the user's manual are mostly written in English. Learn English is never equal to Chongyang. China is going to the world, China needs to learn the advanced ideology and advanced science and technology of Western countries, and learn English is true patriotic.
Many Chinese students' English exams are good, and they have also been high to examine four, six-level, TOEFL, but it is difficult to understand the curriculum when studying in the United States, and it is more difficult to communicate with foreign students. How do we learn English well? Since English is the most important communication tool, then the most important learning method is to combine with practice, can't just "learn" not "use", and learn English only. When reading, everyone should read the original professional textbook (if the English is not good enough, you can look at the teaching materials of China and Britain), and properly read some professional papers that you are interested in, this can increase the knowledge of English and related majors. . Second, the best way to improve English listening and speaking is to talk directly to foreigners who are native in English. There are many foreigners who have learned and work in China. In order to learn Chinese, they are willing to talk to Chinese students, this is a good learning opportunity. In addition, don't take English as a bitter thing, you can learn English with interesting methods. For example, you can look at some celebrities' dialogue or speeches, see some novels, dramas, and even comics. Beginners can find English original teaching programs and video to learn, there is a certain basic basis to read English TV or movies. When you look at a Chinese film, it is best to look at it once when you have subtitles, and check the words, familiar with the sentence, and then look at it again without subtitles, just relying on ears. Listening to English broadcasting is also a good way to practice English listening. You can best take halfway to one hour of time to listen to broadcasts and try to understand the content, and if necessary, you can also record it repeatedly. There are also many interactive English learning sites on the Internet. You can use games, self-test, bilingual reading, etc. on the website. In short, courage is practical, it is the only way to learn English. The information age has arrived, and college students have become one of the necessary foundations of the information science and information technology. Although not every college student needs to understand computer principles and programming knowledge, all college students should be able to use computer, internet, office software, and search engines, which should be able to browse information and find expertise online. In the twenty-first century, using computer and networks is just like using paper and pen. Don't learn your computer, you can't get the knowledge or information you need in a quick and comprehensive.
Finally, each particular professional has its own basic course. Taking computer majors, many students are only passionate about learning the latest language, technology, platforms, standards and tools, because many companies will require these aspects or experiences in recruitment. Although these new technologies should learn, the learning of computer basic courses is more important, because language and platform development is changing, but as long as they learn basic courses (such as data structure, algorithm, compilation principle, computer principle, database principle, etc.) Do not leave it from its Zong. There is a student to vividly compare these basic courses as a computer professional, and the new language, technology, platform, standards, and tools are quprine. Those students who only know how to pursue fashionable students will only know some moving fur, without internal accumulation, they can't become a real master.
Although I have always encouraged everyone to pursue my interest, but still need to emphasize here, there are some things in life, even if they are not interested. For example, laying the foundation, learning mathematics, English, and computer use is what must do this. If you are interested in mathematics, English, and computers, you are lucky, you can enjoy the fun of learning; but even if you are not interested, you must also make these foundations. The foundation is hard work, I don't want to have a hard work.
Practice penetration: "Tale to understand"
When high school, many students will propose "why? What is it used?" To the teacher, usually, the answer given by the teacher is "not allowed". After entering the university, the answers to these issues should be "not allowed." In college, students should understand the knowledge, theory, methods and specific practices of each discipline, how to combine, especially engineering students. There is a saying that the proverb is said this: "I will forget, I can remember, I really understand it."
Regardless of the professionalism, what kind of course, if you can work hard in your studies, you can integrate the integration, we can understand the knowledge system more deeper, can firmly remember the knowledge you have learned. Therefore, I suggest that students choose some professional classes related to practice. When practical, it is best to cooperate in a few students so that it can only learn professional knowledge, and can learn how to cooperate with people to cultivate team spirit. If you have the opportunity to do some actual projects under the teacher, or go out of the school door, as long as you don't affect the course, these practices are worth encouraging. When working or doing projects, don't just look high (unless there is really difficult to live), sometimes, even if you are not satisfied, there are many opportunities for training and practice, we are also worth a try.
Taking computer majors, practical experience is essential for software development. Microsoft wants to apply for programmers to have more than 100,000 lines of programming experience. Reasons are simple: practical technology should be improved in practice. The computer is inserted into the end of a practice, and it is always going to learn. Therefore, the most important thing is not a high score in a written test, but practical ability. However, in the communication process of Chinese students, I was surprised to find that students in China's computer system have not been programmed. The teaching methods and courses in these universities do need updates. If you can't study in such schools, you should seek opportunities for learning and practice from working, self-study or online. Many practical items can be found online, for example, students with a batch of hobby programming have established a website (www.diyinside.com) to discuss software technology, share their knowledge and practical experience, and successfully organized many events ( If the campus technical education conference is held in major universities), they also published a book that helped students improve technology and answer difficulties. The website has multiple members to obtain the title of "Microsoft's most valuable expert".
Cultivate interest: pioneering horizons, settled
Confucius said: "The people who know are not as good as those who are good, and those who are worse than the people." I was deeply discussed in the "third letter to Chinese students" in depth. The key to success is a key. If you are full of passion on a field, you may play all your potential in this area, or even forget it for it. At this time, you are not studying for success, but learning for "enjoy". In the "Third Letter", I also talked about how myself gave up my legal professions I didn't interested in the law.
Some classmates ask me, how can I find my own interest like I? I think, first of all, I must objectively evaluate and find my own interest: don't take social, family or friends as their own hobby; don't think that interesting things is your interest, but you must experience it. And make judgments in your own mind; don't think that you are interested, you can become your own career. For example, you don't mean that you will like or have the ability to develop online games; don't think that you have interest, you mean that you have this Tombs, however, you can try to find the best combination of talents and interests, for example, if you have talents for mathematics but also like computer majors, then you can do research work in computer theory. The best way to find a point of interest is to open up your own field of view, contacting many areas. Only contact you can try, only try you to find your favorite. And university is such a unique place that allows you to contact and try many areas. Therefore, college students should better grasp the school time and make full use of the resources of the school. By using library resources, listening to the course, searching online, listening to lectures, working, participating in community activities, communicating with friends, using email and electronic forums, etc. Different ways touch more fields, more work types and more expert scholars. In this year, if I just went to the legal system, I didn't try to listen to the computer system, I won't go to the computer center, and I don't go to the computer system to learn, I will not find my computer. Strong interest.
Through the development of perspective and contact, if you find your true interest hobbies, you can try the possibility of tuning, try to learn lesson, elective or listen to relevant courses; you can also find some working or holiday internships Opportunities, further understand the nature of the relevant industry; or try to take the professional graduate students who are interested in and re-conducting a professional choice. In fact, the undergraduate reading is not fully decided to decide the direction of the work after graduation. As I emphasized, the learning process during the college is your learning ability, as long as this ability, even if it is a new job You can also get enough knowledge and experience in the process of making sides.
In addition to "choose your love", everyone may wish to try "Love you". Some students regret that they choose the wrong professions when I entered school, so that I have no interest in the professional lack of interest, no learning motivation; some classmates "I will" go into the magic "after graduation, and I have discovered the lessons of this major. Some students have been excused because they have encountered difficulties in learning or to this profession, they are excuses, they are not willing to face their own majors. These practices are incorrect. In the university, the transfer may not be easy, so everyone should try to take this major to read this major, and gradually cultivate their own interest in this major in the learning process. In addition, there may be a lot of different fields in a professional, maybe you are interested in a certain field in your professional. Now, there are many majors to develop cross-disciplines, and the combination of two majors is often new growth points. Therefore, as long as you contact, try, you may encounter your own direction that is really interested. Dr. Wang Jian, inventor Wang Jian, the "Digital Pen", is responsible for the user interface of the Microsoft Asian Research Institute, but who can think of him from undergraduate to doctoral, and the user interface is also a computer and psychology. Professional best combination point. On the other hand, even if you graduate, you can take your own professional reading, which can also be your advantage in your new industry. For example, there is a classmate who doesn't like reading work. After graduation, I will enter the service industry development. I suggest that he first reads the engineering department, in the future, in the service industry as its own specialty.
Life is very long, everyone can have a lot of different hobbies. In addition to interest, it is more important to find a message that you don't change your life. One book has visited hundreds of success, asking where they have already understood today, but there is a regret when they are young. In respondents' answered, the most is: "I hope that my seniors tell me when you are young, encourage me to pursue my ideals and ambitions." Compared with the key, it is more important. . For example, my ambition is "maximizing influence". For many years, I have a lot of hobbies, such as voice recognition, game software, multimedia, research to development conversion, management, to meet user needs, speeches and writing, Help Chinese students, etc., interest can be changed, but my ambition is always constant. Therefore, you don't have to put some interest as your last goal, or you don't have to completely cut off any of interest, under the guidance of ambition, different interests can be developed in parallel, and it is necessary to make the best when necessary. Choice. Zhimiang is like a compass, interest is like sails, the two complement, is missing, they can let you go to the ideal harbor. Active: decisive responsibility, create opportunities
When you create a "Remote Student Network", my original intention is to "help students help themselves." But I am surprised that more students hope that I will help them directly, even after a short story, I will tell me directly: "Only you can tell me, what should I do." Is there a stranger to know what you should do more than you? I will slowly realize that this passive way of thinking is cultivated from a small educational environment in China. Passive people are always habitually think that their current situation is caused by others and the environment. If others do not point, the environment does not change, they only have a negative life. People who hold this attitude have not started, they have been defeated, I have never seen such a negative person can achieve continuous success.
Starting from the first day of the university, you must take the initiative from passive steering, you have to be your future owner, you must actively manage your academic and future career, reason is simple: because no one is more careful than you Work and life. "Let the university life value for yourself" is your responsibility. Many classmates have only begun to be a life and professional planning, and an active student should start planning their future from entering college.
Active active first step is to have a positive attitude. Everyone can use the methods recommended in the "Third Sense" to actively plan their own life goals, pursue interests and try new knowledge and fields. A survivor Victor Frankl, a survivor in Nazi Germany, said: "In any particular environment, there is still a final freedom, which is to choose your own attitude."
Active second step is to be responsible for everything that yourself, bravely face life. Don't put down uncertain or difficult things. For example, some classmates think English is important, but the school does not study English; or some students feel that they need to participate in the association to hone interpersonal relationship, but because they are shy, they are not active registration. However, we must realize that it is also a solution that is not to solve, and it is also a decision to make this solution and decision will make your chance to lose. For this negative, timid style, you will pay a price one day.
Active third step is to make full preparation: everything is intentional, doing things, don't wait for opportunities; to grasp the opportunity, create opportunities. The academician of Zhu Qingxuan, the president of the China University of Science and Technology, was assigned to Qinghai to make cast workers in the third day. But he doesn't give up learning like other students, playing poker all day, drinking. He still dried a diamond and English at the end of the day. Six years later, the Chinese Academy of Sciences must be an important project in Qinghai. At this time, Zhu President stood out and started his brilliant career. Many people may say that he is lucky and is assigned to the Qinghai lack of talents. However, if he has no effort to learn, it will not seize this opportunity. So, make full preparation, when the opportunity is coming, you can catch it. Active fourth step is "in terms of end", actively planning the university for four years. Any plan will become the end of your stage, will also become the starting point of your next stage, and your ambitions and interests will provide you with direction and motivation. If you don't know your own ambition and interest, you should immediately use a plan to explore and interest; if you don't know what to do after graduation, you should immediately develop a plan to try a new field; if you don't know what you are, what you are, you You should write a resume immediately, find your teacher, friends to score, or review it, see where you need to improve; if you graduate, I want to go abroad for my country, you should think about how to make specific research experience before you apply for abroad. Academic papers; if you want to enter a company after graduation, you should collect the company's recruitment advertisements so that you can compare your own resumes to see which experience is still launched. As long as you carefully develop, manage, assess, and adjust your life plan, you will get closer and closer to your own goals.
Controlling time: It is proneous, people should be self-control
In addition to positive active attitudes, college students must learn to arrange their own time and manage their own affairs. A classmate is such a college life:
"There is no difference between universities and high schools, it is still learning every day. Every time I still worry about the test results every time ... Different is just a lot of time and sleep time, and the pressure is also small. a lot of."
This classmate didn't understand, "there are many time many" is a huge difference between college and high school. More time, you need to arrange your time, plan time, management time.
Arrangement time out to do a schedule, more importantly, "Subject is proneous". In the book, the authors of the seven habits of high-efficiency people, the difference between "important things" and "emergency" is one of the biggest reasons for people. Because people's inertia is to do the most urgent thing first, but this will lead to some important things. For example, I think that all kinds of learning in this article are "important", but they are not necessarily the compulsory course arranged by the teacher, and the students who adopt my suggestions will still emergency because of the exam, handling operations. Things are bad, and it is important to learn to be important. Therefore, a good way to manage time per day is that in the morning, it is necessary to make an urgent thing to do today, review before going to bed, and there is no balance between the two.
Everyone has many "emergency" and "important things", wanting to do everything best. I suggest that everyone will separate "what must be doing" and "try to do things". The thing you must do is best, but try to do things as much as possible. It is recommended that you use good attitudes and broad mind to accept things you can't change temporarily, pay more attention to what you can change. In addition, pay attention to the operational law of the biological clock, work on time, combine work and rest, so that there is the best state in learning.
The university is the most prone to the direction. College students must have self-control ability, let them do some good friends, learn some habits, don't be addicted to the habits of themselves (such as online games). A active, active Chinese student advised other students in "Remove Student Network": "Don't play games, at least don't play online games. There is no online game in college friends. Emptive in online games is an escape for reality. I don't want to face my deficiencies. I think, I have to get away from online games, I have to cherish my precious university time, find my own direction, do some meaningful and energy Give yourself a sense of satisfaction. "" For people: cultivate friendship, participate in the group
Many college students have left their parents for the first time, leaving their own growth. After entering the campus, how to get along with colleagues with classmates, friends, and associations, have become part of college student learning content. University is a chance to train, cultivate, training, training in a relatively loose environment. In the future, people in society, the ability to get along with people in the work will become more and more important, and even more than the work itself. Therefore, college students should take the opportunity to cultivate their own exchange awareness and team spirit.
"Interpersonal skills are not strong enough, there is not a wide range of interpersonal circles, but there is no specialty can cause everyone to pay attention, do not know how to establish contact with others in the community." This is some college students often encounter in interpersonal communication. Confusion. I have recommended interpersonal communication skills during college, my suggestion is:
First, treat people with sincerity, personally defend oneself, to yourself. For others to hold sincere, tolerant chests, they have to criticize themselves, have the attitude of it. When you interact with people, how do you treat others, how others will treat you. This is like the mirror, your own expression and attitude, can be seen from others to the expression and attitude of you. If you are looking for people, others will treat you with sincerity. If you host others, others will host you. The most sincere friendship and the most difficult hatred are gradually caused by this "reflection" principle. So when you want to correct others, you should fix yourself first. Do you want someone to you, how should you be to people? You want others to understand you, you must first understand others.
Second, cultivate real friendship. If you can do the first point, many friends when I will become a confidant you have a lifetime. On the road to study and seek its own development, such friendship is precious. When making a friend, don't just find your kindness or only people who are kind of sex or you will be friends. Good friends have a lot of kinds: optimistic friends, wisdom friends, friends, humorous friends, motivating your friends, enhance your ability, help you understand your friends, friends who are telling the truth, etc. . In addition, when a college, fall in love, you can also teach you how to take care of others, improve the sympathy and self - control, but love this thing, you don't have to talk to love in love.
Third, learn team spirit and communication skills. The community is a micro-social, and participating in the community is the best hood before entering the society. In the community, you can develop the ability and leadership of teamwork, and you can also use your professional expertise. But more importantly, you have to be a sincere and sincere server and volunteer, or actively play the role between the bridge between students and teachers when they are working as students, and exercise their communication skills, for classmates and teachers. service. Such a learning process will not be very easy, setback is certain, but don't be discouraged, the interpersonal relationship between the university community is a study that does not have to "pay the tuition fee", and it is also possible to turn over.
Fourth, learn from the people around them. In the class, in the community, you can observe the surrounding students, especially those you feel very strong and have a particularly strong communication skills, how they are getting along with people. For example, see how they handle the conflict in the interaction, how to persuade others and affect others, how to play their own cooperation and coordination skills, how to express their respect and sincerity, how to express their thumbs up or oppose, how to do not charge others Fully display personality, etc. By observing and imitating, you will gradually discover that your interpersonal communication skills will not intend to improve. In the school, every friend can become your own master, their enthusiastic, humor, wit, knowledge, straight, communication, courtesy, etc., can become your learning object. Of course, you should also help every friend and try to do their own nursers and models. Fifth, improve your own cultivation and personality charm. If you feel that there is no special, there is no hobbies that may become an obstacle to the improvement of your interpersonal communication. So, you can consciously choose and train some hobbies. Common interests and hobbies are one of the way you build deep feelings with friends. Many people who have a trees in the career will only close their own nerd, most of them have their own interests and hobbies. I have a master of painting, bridge and sports in colleagues in Microsoft Asian Institute. Amateur hobby is not only a way of interpersonal communication, but also allows you to discover your potential outside your reading. For example, physical exercise can use your sports potential, or cultivate your teamwork spirit. If there is no hobby, then, read more good books to enrich your knowledge can also improve your interpersonal communication skills, because there is nothing more than wisdom and profound, it can reflect a person's personality charm.
Therefore, learn to get along with people, this is also a "must-have course" in the university.
Expectation of college students
When walking into the university school door, you are still a busy, green, passive, a middle school graduate who is cared by the score.
When you study a college, you should master seven learning, learn from self-study, basic knowledge, practice, cultivate interest, proactive, control time, for people.
After four years, you will set up self, seek truth from thinking, experience the truth from the independence, grasp the time from the plan, from the expression, the taste is mature, from the dating, win value, from practice Happy in your interest, get strength from the pursuit.
When you leave the university, as long as you do this, your biggest gain will be "Confidence and craving for anything." You can become a hostess with potential, ideas, valuable, and promising Chinese future.
Therefore, the university should spend so much.
