Young men and women have met their love until they walk into the wedding castle. I tried, are you talking about whether the wedding condition is mature when talking about marriage? This must be decided according to the extent to each other and the development of love, where psychological factors must pay attention.
Men and women should understand each other, including the ideals, life, knowledge, capabilities, temper, life hobbies, moral quality, family background, social relationships, etc. Whether love development is mature, mainly watching the two sides can not conceal their thoughts, feelings, whether to understand and adapt to the other's ideological quality, life style or habits, can help each other when they encounter difficulties. Young friends who are ready to marry, please answer 25 questions designed for the psychologists to guide youth before the preparation of preparation before marriage:
First, about the ideals and career of each other:
1. What kind of person is he (she) wants to be? 2. Is it planning to achieve a certain achievement in the near future? 3. Is there a high sense of responsibility? 4, are you afraid of failure? 5, do you support you?
Second, about the interpersonal relationship between the other party:
1, he (she) likes to dominate others? 2, is it good to inject your mood? 3, who is the best friend outside of you? 4, what is most hate? 5. Is it harmonious with your colleagues?
Third, regarding each other personality psychological characteristics:
1, what skill is the best? 2, what book is loved? 3. Is it easy to see frustration? 4, can you better control your temper when you are angry? 5, is it often hesitant?
Fourth, about the other party's love marriage view:
1. What is the condition for his (she) thinking about the ideal love? 2, which little like you? 3, what are you most unsatisfactory? 4, what is usually done when conflicting with overtime time? 5, do you often buy some what your favorite thing is given to you?
V. About each other's life features:
1. Have him (she) do spend money? 2, what do you like? 3. What do you like most? 4, what kind of entertainment activities do you like? 5, is you living with a home business?
These 25 questions are not very comprehensive, but they are quite representative. Some people can't fully answer these questions for many years after marriage, and find that they have not fully understood their lover.
Can you answer all the questions clearly? If you can, then you can say that you have a very understanding of your own intention, you can predict the trend of family life after marriage; if you can answer more than 20, it is more thorough; if you can only answer 17 ~ 19, then you can only calculate Comparison, you need to be further familiar with each other; if you can only answer 16 or even 16 can't answer, it is recommended that you should still postpone a decision to make a marriage, because you have just been over half or even Half of it is not. Marriage is based on love, and love is based on each other. In order to create this premise, we should carefully observe the other party's words and deeds in the usual interaction. From many ways to understand the other party, you can't just feel the love, don't hurry to make a light decision.
