How to try to figure out the mentality of others [57] Recommenders: Flybird 2005-3-17 11:29:19 The opinion color is the basic technique of manipulating the exactly in all people. Will not understand the color, equal to it's not known that the wind is turned to turn the rudder. The country has no talk, and it is not good to turn it over the small wind. Intuitiveness, although sensitive is easy to accept people, know how to reason, and judgment is the top skills pursued by the opinion. The words can disclose a person's character, and the expression of the expression will let us peek the hearts of others, clothes, sitting, gestures will sell their owners in unintegration.
Talk to tell you the status, character, quality, and arrogant inner emotions, so good listening strings is the key to the "inspector". If you say that the view is like to see the weather, then a face should look like "watching the cloud", there is a deep understanding, because not all time and occasion can be angry, the opposite is "laughing On your face, cry in your heart.
"Yes" is the focus of "Face". It is best not to tell us to tell us the truth, people's sitting posture and costumes also help us in micro, and then identify others, if they are watching the inner intention.
1. Can identify the wind to make a good helm have passed through three subjects, and participate in candidates, got a position in a county county in Shandong. For the first time, I went to meet the boss and I can't think about what to say. Silent ~ will, suddenly ask: "The big people respected?" The boss was very surprised and barely said. The county is now looking for a long time. "The county is standing again and said," Which of the adults is in the flag, "the boss said:" Zhenghong flag. "The county is said:" It is best to be yellow flag, how can adults are not in the yellow flag? "The boss is very angry, asking:" What is the province of your county? The county said: "Guangxi. "The boss said:" Guangdong is the best, why are you not in Guangdong? "The county is ate, and this discovers that the boss is full of angry, hurry out. The next day, the commander returned to the school, and the reason why it did not understand the color.
If we can really understand the color, random response, and it is also a skill. For example, in the visit, we often meet some unexpected situations, visitors should talk to the owner, and at the same time, the information is keenly perceived by information other than some intentions.
The owner talks to you, and the eyes are going elsewhere. At the same time, someone speaking in the whisper, this shows what is important thing to interruption, the owner, remembers this, although he is receiving you, but it is absent-minded. At this time, your most wise method is to stop, and throw a down one of the most important requests: "You must be very busy. I will not bother, I will come back to the echo!" You are gone, the owner is in your heart. It is grateful, but also guilt: "Because of his own business, he did not accept people." In this way, he will try to complete your commitment to make up.
In the process of conversation, the doorbell, telephone bell, you should take the initiative to talk, ask the owner to accept people, listen to the phone, can not listen to the end, make the owner left and so difficult.
When you visit the good news that I want to hear the thing you have already, I find that the owner has been trusted, although the heart is quite, it is not satisfactory, even the progress is very slow. At this time, it is inevitable, but you should have a thank you for your mouth, fully affirmed that the master is your efforts, then tells the current situation to make understanding and sympathy. At this time, the owner will realize that although the time is expensive but has not really solved the problem, it has made a good person to make a determination to go, and will further run away. In interpersonal interaction, there is a more depressed observation for the words, expressions, gestures, movements and the seemingly unrecriminal behavior of others. It is a prerequisite for the other's intention to measure the rudder. For example, when you deal with the boss, the observation of its eyes can make us insight into his heart:
1 The boss does not look up when talking, does not look at people. This is a poor sign - despise subordinate, think this person is incompetent. 2 The boss see people from top to bottom. This is a superior performance - good dominant, proud. 3 The boss will look at the next time - he is waiting for more information, his impression of the lower level is incomplete. 4 The bitch looks at the next genus, or sometimes it is very capable of blinking the next blink - the subordinates, I like it, or even mistakes can also get his forgiveness. 5 The eyes of the boss sharp, the expression is constant, and the sword should be worn. This is a power, indifferent and superior display, and it is also awarded down: Don't want to deceive me, I can see your mind.
3 The boss will invigorate it, and then see it later with the subordinates. If you do this, you can affirm that the boss will still eat this subordinates. 1 The boss stares in the room, nodding from time to time. This is a very bad signal. It said that the boss should be completely obedient from him, no matter what the subordinates say, what he wants, he is not ignive. 3 double-handed palm, from top to down, body balance - representation and slow. calm. 2 Plug in the waist, the elbow is bend, which is a traditional human language of good or orders, often in the posture of the specific power issues. 1 The boss sat on the chair and put the body behind, after the hands were put on the brain, the elbows opened out, which would although he is very relaxed at this time, but it is very likely to be responsible. 3 The index finger extends to the other party - a kind of naked superiority and good fight. 3 The hands of the two hands are mutually engaged, and it is also a sense of performance. 3 The boss patted the shoulder of the subordinates - the recognition and appreciation of the subordinates, but only from the side shot, it truly admits and appreciates. If you shoot from the front or above, you will indicate that you will look at the subordinates or display power.
@ 手指,,, hands constitute the shape of the pyramid, the fingertips are opposite to the front - must reject the other party. 1 Hand pinch into a fist - not only to scare others, but also to maintain his own point of view, if you use the fist, it is simply trying to not speak. Of course, we must do a good job in the "weather forecast" in the social intersection, and need more detailed "weather" knowledge. In the next section, we will introduce a division to the reader. 2. Be good at capturing "String String" has a poor person, the condition is gradually heavy, the doctor said he didn't hope. The patient prayed to the gods, saying that if you can sick, you must set up a hundred cows, and give gifts. His wife is standing next to him, listening to him, asked: "Where did you get this money?" He replied: "You think that God is sick, it is sick, just to give me these What is something? "This story says that people don't want to do, people are the easiest to agree, and people sometimes do not have the mouth. From this point of view, the inspector is very learning skill. The heart of the people, sometimes I will not know how to expose oral, so when talking to others, as long as we pay attention, you can know the inner world of others from the conversation.
1 Know the topic. People often show their emotions unconsciously from a topic. The type of topic is a variety of shape, and if you want to understand the personality, temperament, ideas, the easiest steps, is to observe the relevant status of the topic and the speaker itself, from here you can get a lot of information.
When talking to middle-aged women, their topics are mostly them, because they feel that they are the biggest concern. Sometimes I talk about the Chinese cafes or children, that is what they regard their husbands or children as their own incarnation, talking about them are also equal to themselves. For such middle-aged women, you have to appear as a listener, admit that they are the wives of the virtuous wife, great mother.
In the world of young guys, their favorite topics are car. About the magazine of the car is also best sold well with music and football magazine. The topic of the young man is almost all related topics related to the brand, itinerary, speed, and the like, although most people in them can't afford to buy. In fact, they are so keen on the topic of the car, nothing more than saying that they have the ability to buy cars in the future, or to understand these, this is a fashionable topic, nothing more than displaying themselves. Therefore, you have to pay attention to the gods to listen to them, it is best not to put hate or impatient faces, your patience can satisfy their vanity.
2 "Secrets" exposed by the habitual flow of words. Language indicates that in addition to social, class or geographic differences, there is also a difference in psychological wording due to individual levels. The deep psychology of people 's rigs will be unknowingly reflected in the means of self-expression - wording. Even with self-image you want to behave, you can always see the real image of this person through analysis, in this sense, it is the characteristic of the words that I don't realize than the word is far away. Tell us himself.
People who use the first person singles, independent heart and strong autonomy, people with commonly used multiplexes are more common in lack of personality, buried in the collective, with a person with sound. People always think that they speak with their own words, write articles. In fact, inadvertently borrow others, there is self-expanding, and in turn to explore this, you can see the depths of its people. For example, there will be confused by people who use unknown words and foreign languages. In fact, this kind of person is mostly a shield that hides its inner weakness. When choosing a business, it is necessary to fully show that you can make it necessary, but if you are too corrected, you can draw the snake to add enough, let others fall in the cloud. This situation is often referred to as the inferiority of your own intelligence, and the word is shielded as a shield, covering your own feelings. Mr. Zhang in "Besieged City" sells his own foreign language in front of Fanghong to show yourself, in fact, only reflecting the poor of its knowledge. 3 speech can reflect the real idea. Generally speaking, a person's feelings or opinions are clear in the way, as long as they carefully try, even if they are string, they can gradually reveal under the curtains of the speech. (L) Slow talking is an important key to demultiplexing. If you are dissatisfied with someone, or when you hold hostile attitudes, many people's speech becomes slow, and the feeling of oily oil. If you are a heart or lying, the speed will naturally get up.
If a man is going home on time, and this day he got on get off work, he left a colleague in the office. When he returned home, he immediately told his wife to overtime, and he also cursed why there are so many The alcohol is not finished. His speech will definitely be more fast than usual, so he can relieve potential uneasiness inner heart.
When you encounter a man, you must be cautious, once you have the beginning, there will be next time, you can't fall light. (2) From the inhibition of the tone and look into the other person's psychology. The "overtime" man, when he returned home, the tone of his speech was not only fast, and it was impassioned. It seems that today's "overtime" did make him very disgusted - he is very reluctant to "overtime".
When the two people have opinion, a person raises the tone of the speech, that is, he wants to overwhelm the other party. For those who have a heart-catching figure, he will definitely incense, and create a feeling of distressed feelings. There is a desire to attract others, and self-showing is about to disclose.
(3) Variety is seen by the other mentality. The premise of constituting the conversation includes the existence of two different positions, that is, the speaker and the listener. We can break through the deep psychology of each other according to the various reactions behind themselves. If a person is very serious, he will roughly sitting, and the line of sight is always on each other. Conversely, his sight will inevitably be scattered, the body may also be tilted or chaotic, this is his mood.
Some people listen carefully to each other, wait until the storyter is finished, he will also reveal your voice. From this point of view, this listener relies entirely on strong patience J and one with a curious heart can finally Break through the secret of the speaker.
If you want to know the news in someone, you will be with him from an ordinary topic, then listen, ask questions, listen ... Step by step to achieve your own purpose, the other party is happy, and I forgot to beware. On the contrary, you will think you are a very good listener and understand people. 3. The expression on the face, the sky in the sky refers to the observer's face, which is known to the other party's emotions. This is a truth with the change of the old hunter to see the cloud. Husband small A and his wife are just married, the feelings are very good, often shadow. However, as life is growing, each other is familiar with the life after marriage, and there is no freshness, but it is often quarreled with the trivia of Chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar.
It is dissatisfied with the beginning of the small A and Xiao B, and they are arguing each other, but they have not made, but they have not been in the past few hours. However, as the quarrel increases, this is like a home, and the little A and Xiao B are not willing to ignore each other, and they have experienced an indifferent stage.
But this is not a way, Xiao A and Xiao B have to face family and friends, in order not to let others see, they gradually transition to someone else, there is a good relationship with each other, very loving, and once they only have them At home, the family is quiet and not disturbing each other. Gradually, no one is there, they also started talking, but this is not forbidden, but sometimes there is something that I have to say. With the irregularity and development of each other, unhappy expressions have gradually disappeared, and their faces have shown a smile, and they are also despicable and intimate.
No wonder, a judge who often handles the divorce case says that when any side of the couple showed this attitude, the relationship between husband and wife has arrived. Human psychological activities are very subtle, but this subtle often comes from the expression. If you encounter a happy thing, the muscles of the cheeks are relaxing. Once you have encountered sorrow, you will naturally tears. However, some people are not willing to make these inner activities to see others. From the surface, they will judge the mistakes.
For example, at a meeting, the other party smiled completely a full monetary expression, making people feel unhealth to success, "I understand, you are very reasonable, this time I will consider it." But The final result is ended in failure.
From this point of view, we cannot simply judge the true emotions of the other party from the expression. Pay attention to the following two aspects when breaking through each other's psychology: 1 No expression is not equal to no feelings. In life, we sometimes see some people don't care what others have said, what did they do, and he is a faceless face. In fact, there is no expression, because of the inner activities, if you don't present it on the meat of your face, it is very unnatural. The more you don't have an expression, the more impulsive feelings.
For example, some staff members are not full of words and deeds, but they don't dare to say, I have to deliberately put it out of a table, I don't care. However, in fact, his inner dissatisfaction is very strong. If you carefully observe his face, he will find his face is wrong. When you encounter such a person, it is best not to blame him directly, or it is ugly. It is best to say this: "If you have any dissatisfaction, let me say it!" This can appease the subordinate feelings that are trying to suppress.
But this time should not talk too much, avoid the frontal confrontation, but should also pay another time, open from the public land and subordinate exchange, this will be successfully solved with this low tide relationship with the subordinates, and the good image of the supervisor is established. There are two cases without expressions, one is extremely unsatisfactory, the other is not in the eyes. For example, here is talking, some people see this side, expressing unknowing how to be a good look, this is an expression that does not look at the eyes, which is likely to represent a kind of kind. Especially in women, if they are too good, it is not good, it is better to show an almost indifferent expression.
3 I will smile sadly or hate to the extreme. This situation is different, usually people say that my face is laughing, and my heart is crying is this type. Even if you are hostile, but on the surface, you have to put it on the laughter, and the action is also generous. People have to do this, I feel that if you express your inner desire or idea without reservations, it is not seen in violating the rules of society, and even causes the phenomenon of discontinuation, or becoming the crime of public accusation, I am afraid it is subject to society. Sanctions, there is no.
It can be seen that the candidates often generate errors. It will rain, and people who laugh will not be happy. Many times, people go to the belly, but the face is a sweet look. On the other hand, when the face sinks, maybe I am laughing in my heart.
4. Through the "eyes", there is such a story in Greek mythology: If the Musha in the monster is like a look, it will become a stone immediately, and it is white, which is the power of the eyes. From medicine, the eyes are the most sensitive in five sensory organs, probably accounting for more than 70% of the sensational fields, so they are called "the king of the five senses." Mencius: "People who save people, Mo Liang in the scorpion, can't hide the evil. The chest is positive, then the scorpion is lowered, the chest is not positive, then the scorpion is dazzling." From the eyes, it is reasonable. " window".
The desire and feelings of deep psychology are first reflected on the line of sight, the movement, direction, concentration of sights, etc., express different psychological states, observe changes in the line of sight, which helps people with people. Climbing the windowsill will not be difficult to see the situation in the Qing house, you can know the hearts of people.
The way to see people in the eyes has been long. The personality is constant, regardless of how it is far-reaching. As the saying goes: Jiangshan is easy to change, it is difficult to see, and the personality of people is still simple, and the performance of the value is not. Inner, emotional, sexual body, emotion, sexually protected, hair, stimulation different. The most distinctive part of the situation is the most significant, the most difficult part, not a language, not an action, is not a attitude, but the eyes, the speech action attitude can be blocked to mask, while the eyes cannot pretend. We look at your eyes, don't have a small length, and you will be in the eyes.
You see his eyes cool, you can understand that he is an urgent problem with you, and has already become a bamboo in the chest, and set up a life. Just ask him to ask him, express anxiety, if he does not understand, this is because it is related to the secret, it is not necessary to ask, just waiting for him to fall.
If you see his eyes, you can understand that he is also unwarable, and it is unilaterally, please ask him, it is useless. You have to be calm, and don't want to pay for it. Don't ask more, this will only increase his level of helish, then you have the opportunity to show your own, so I will try it out! If you see his eyes, it can understand that he is extremely cold. If there is a request, you don't have to say to him, you should quit from the speed, even if you stay, you are not suitable for you. The reason for refreshing, and seeking to recover the way.
You see his eyes gloomy, you should understand that this is a fierce signal, you have to negotiate with him, you must be careful. His poisonous hand is being placed behind his back. If you are not ready to see you, you will be able to collect troops from speed gold.
You can see that his eyes are usually in us, you can understand that he is a thought, I want to give you a bitter taste. At this time, it should be step by step, don't be close, you may be the trap he arranged before and after, and you will fall in his hands. Don't believe in him sweet words, this is the bait on the hook, is the sugar coat outside the poison, it is necessary to be extra care.
You see his eyes, the lip is all white, you can understand that he is fearful about the current problem, although he doesn't matter, he is not desperate, but it is still thinking, but it also wants to come. You don't have to ask more, you should retreat, if you have a way, you should have proposed him and indicate that there are a few grasps.
You see his eyes seem to be angry, you can understand that he is burning in anger at the moment, the meaning is extremely prosperous. If it is not intended to break with him, it should indicate that it can compromise and speed. Otherwise, it will cause a long step, it will cause a positive violent conflict.
You see his eyes are quiet, there is a smile, you can understand that he is very satisfied with something. You have to discuss his joy, you may wish to say a few words of compliments, you have to ask, this is also a good opportunity, I believe it is more likely to meet your hopes easier than usual.
You see his eyes four shots, God does not work, you can understand that he has been tired of you, then says that there is no effect, if you don't hurry ~ Paragraph, or take the opportunity to tell, or look for new topics, talk about what he is willing to listen thing.
You see his eyes, you can understand that he believes that you have a need to listen, you should use your scheduled plan, gentle Chen, as long as your insights are not bad, your way is feasible, he is willing to accept.
If you see his eyes, it is touched down, and you can understand that he is a worry, and it is very painful. You don't want to say something to him, then you will add his pain, you don't tell him, because you have more troublesome, you have to say something comfort, and from the speed of retreat, it is also boric.
If his eyes are rising, you can understand that he is untenited, no matter how your reason is fully, how do you say ingenious, or not, there will be a good result, it is better to stop, and you will be close.
In short, the eyes are scattered, there is quiet, there is a flow, there is a gloomy, sluggish, sagging, rising, after carefully refreshing, you will find out the human feelings. 5. Painting with the seats "people's heart map" in the relationship between people and people, what seats are sitting, how to sit, reflect the deep psychology of people. First, where is the position, directly reflect the society, the traditional epistemites or advantages, the awareness of disadvantage, is now, in the form of a party, the elderly, who is sitting, who is sitting, to make the host headache, Unnecessary mutual push or disputes often occur between participants in conference participants. Second, all people have the psychology of their own dedicated space around their body, and if they are infringed, they will not be happy. This space is called "physical range". Usually, people do not violate this range. It is not difficult to see that the position of a person's sitting position is marked, analyzed, and it can draw a "topographic map". Let us take a look at it. 1 The physical distance of the seat also expressed the psychological distance with each other. This size can indicate that the degree of subjectivity wants to invade the other body field, so that he can judge some of his mental ideas, know what he wants to do. For example: a pair of people who have met Qing Qing, my couple, even in a wide sofa, they will also sit down around the other side, this is certainly not enough space, but reflects them like a soft knee. Mentality. Like this situation, if you are a couple around you, if you don't want to be annoying, you will see someone, leave someone a little space, walk away.
For example, in the classroom in the university, if someone wants to actively participate in the discussion, most of these students will sit in front of the classroom, but in turn, some students are not often coming to class, occupying the time to work out, they will be sitting behind For those who are not interested in undergraduate, they will also choose to sit behind.
2 The direction of the seat means that the direction of the deep seat is two aspects: one is sitting opposite or next to the other party, and the other is where the population in the room is sitting in the room. Sitting on the front or side, the psychological state of its performance is different, and there is a feeling in the face to face. At this time, there is a table or something such as a table or something like something more comfortable.
When sitting on the side, there is no such limit, most people use intimate distances and shoulders, with each other towards the same direction, watching the same object, in which case, it is easy to generate some kind of joint sense . The face-to-face sitting, both sides are in the best position of the other party, and it is easy to produce a line of line of sight and a feeling of confrontation.
The same is true in men and women. A table is placed in the middle, and the two are sitting on the face, which may be a quite intimate lens, but this kind of sitting means that they are not enough to have a depth of each other, showing that they have a kind of mutual mutual Understandings. On the contrary, two people sitting side by side, in general, they will say less than face-to-face men and women, because they have already learned each other, even in some cases, it is also very likely. .
So, we can speculate on the psychological activities of others and related information through the direction of them, so if you want to take any action, you will have a countermeasure. Seeing a pair of men and women sitting, you don't have a non-thought of the love of people. Only if they have a lover, they will have a good job of you. If you see a pair of men and women, it shows that they still have to communicate further, if you are interested in one, maybe there is hope. 3 Sitting with a shallow sitting position to see the other party's psychology. For humans, standing is the most suitable of the general state of the event, so people will stand up immediately in sitting. Take shallow sitting on the chair, that is, one of them. Some people are because they only dare to sit on the chair, often in the emergency of action.
When the person is relaxing, it will sit in the chair, and the feet are reached, it is very leisure, saying that it will not immediately stand now. This can see this view from the lion and horses: the lion is very fierce, powerful, so it can sleep all day, seem to have a confidence. The lion likes to prey in the horse, so this horse is standing in the whole day, but still can't escape the bad luck.
So deep sitting people have an advantage in spirit, at least he hopes that he will be high. And shallow people, sit in the position, often uneasy, showing a state of hazardous disadvantages. Shallow sitting people, there is unintentionous to show a kind of mentality that obeys the other party, in front of this person, don't seem to be too strong, arrogant, because they will resist. On the contrary, if you express your friendship or concern to him, he will love you in your heart. Willing to get close to you, this laid the foundation for the development of the expansion, in fact, what people can use. If many people are willing to be close to you, this has caused you an advantage. At least you are better in interpersonal relationship. Your work, work, and learning are easy to succeed, and you will be appreciated by others. Not far away.
4 Deep mental phenomena exhibited by human sitting position. Some people will sit down and will sesson the Erlang legs. It is said that this kind of person is deep and not losing. However, this is a man's situation, and women are slightly different. The woman boldly raised their legs, which showed her relatives of their appearance or clothing. Such a sitting, very comparable to the attention of the man, and also said that she showed her strong desire, this woman is very strong, passionate to be the boss, she is very easy to follow the man, not easily A man.
6. From dressing through the inner people, it is naked to naked to this world. In order to hide their true face, wear clothes. In fact, human beings have not thought that in order to wear their favorite clothes, including colors, quality, reverse themselves without concealing themselves. Because everyone purchased by everyone will expose their psychological state.
1 The clothes of the clothes are strong, and they love the limelight. In the large capital, we can find that some people always wear a fascinating gorgeous costume. This people have a strong self-display. At the same time, this kind of person is particularly urgent for money. So, when you see this kind of people in Chinese, or when there is such a person in colleagues, you can inspect the psychology of him (she), and praise him (her), satisfaction Its expansion is a good way, this kind of person will not easily be enemies with you. 3 clothes is simple, lack of confidence, like quarrels. There is a kind of people wearing simple, don't like to wear gorgeous clothes, this kind of people lack the main character and lack confidence in themselves. I hope to give a majesty for others, I want to make up for myself feeling. If you encounter such a person, don't compete with them, because the more you want to hide your own inferiority, the more you can't quarrel with people, in order to save the remaining face, this is not conducive to others. Maintenance relationship.
At this time, you can greatly admit his views, he will feel your tolerance, you will get unexpected results. 3 I like trendy costumes with a lonely, emotional fluctuations. There is a kind of person, it is completely ignorant of your hobby, and even I don't know what I really like, they are only hobbies, and they are popular. This kind of person often has a sense of loneliness in the heart, and the emotions are often uneasy.
4 ignore fashioners often use self-centered and standard. There is a kind of uncomfortable situation. The personality of this person can be said to be very tough, but some people don't dare to face the outside of the flower world, and it will take themselves in the small black house. This kind of person thinks that if it is toned to others, isn't it equal to ourselves? This kind of person often has a self-centered, often makes everyone feel odorless.
5 Mutant clothing haze wants to change lifestyle, and there is also an ingredient that escapes. A company staff, who has been wearing fixed-style and concurrent suit. But one day, he changed to a chic jacket, bright trousers, bringing companies to work with a completely different colors. From the perspective or spiritual aspect, the inner heart of Xiao Zhang will inevitably have some kind of stimulus, so that he has changed in the idea, so in their deep psychology, there is usually a new meaning. Colleagues are curious to guess: "Is there anything today?" "What is the problem he encountered?"
For this kind of person who suddenly changed its own clothing, if you want to keep a good relationship with him, you should be unhappy, or praise what he wears is very good, I believe that his soul door will open to you. Your admitted attitude is stronger than the attitude of others, you will win the rewards of others - praise.
3 There is a kind of person who is neither frenzy and will not set up, and it is also gradually improving. This type of person is more empirical, the emotion is stable, and it will generally not do anything. They are rational, but they are not blindly fashionable. This kind of person is more reliable and worth it.
