Perfectionism is not good, there is a child who specially loves the pointers in a very small time, carefully doing things, meticulous, and before, parents feel good, doing things. But now, when he wrote homework, it also requires particularly clean. If there is a little unsatisfactory, you will cut off the whole job and reopen; running is not the first unhappy, if you have 99 points, you have to cry. Parents began to worry, do he pursue perfect? There is a child who specially loves the pointers in a very small time, doing things carefully, meticulous, before, parents feel good, doing things, it should be. But now, when he wrote homework, it also requires particularly clean. If there is a little unsatisfactory, you will cut off the whole job and reopen; running is not the first unhappy, if you have 99 points, you have to cry. Parents began to worry, do he pursue perfect?
This child is actually excellent, but his self-setting standard is higher, so it will feel inferiority, plus a setback without the ideal goal, and he naturally will have an forced behavior. If it is not corrected in time, if it is not corrected, light learning efficiency Decline, the heavy people may also develop into perfectionist disorders, as well as a variety of psychological diseases such as depression and anxiety disorder.
In response to this child's status, parents can start from two aspects. The first is to change the family education concept, don't pursue your perfect, you should encourage your child to see progress, mother should not be too meticulous or anxiety (if parents are cleansing or anxiety, should be treated first), and give some free space for children. People with perfectionism, almost all family education, their parents set the standards for their children too perfect, easy to discover and criticize their imperfect places, so long time, these children learn to love Looking for your own fault, think that you are not perfect enough.
Second, it is to help him re-establish the standards of their own standards, change the original, harsh, tend to be perfect, establish a reasonable, tolerant, pay attention to self-affirmation and encouragement, learn more, Column the success of the past in the paper, calmly accepted the praise of others and express thanks.
Shanxi Daily
