There is a thing that will be a long time, this is the Internet. It is "online love" like the Internet. With the changes in society, the cost of seeking love is getting higher and higher, people are eager to love, and on the other hand, it is afraid of the insecurity brought about by love, and has produced new contradictions. With the popularity of the network, due to some kind of fit between networks and love, people discover the virtual network space to meet the needs of love and security - online love.
What exactly is an important condition or element that makes love? Is appearance, wealth, status, romance, sex, trust, pay attention, appreciation, praise, intimate, passion, commitment, communication, mutual growth, loyalty, respect, care or understand? Everyone has its own set of views or understandings, and different disciplines have different interpretations.
The online dating model is a common point in love in the real society, plus the characteristics of network anonymity, which is easy to make the two men and women who don't know each other quickly established intimate relationships, and then develop In order to mutual spiritual dependence, it is the reason for the rapid development of network love, making it easy to wipe out the spark of love:
First, imagine the world that is intertwined
"Absence is more loved to be loved", and the philosophy of lovers love their love is more than the daily trivial things that they have to face them. Keeping the distance makes people more easy to understand someone: "I always avoid reality in love ... Is it a prerequisite for illusion?" [9]. Every love is the sincerity of both parties to this feeling. People in love are the most often ask the other party's usual. "Do you love me?", "Do you really have it to me?", "" Do you love me more or I love you more? ", But really defined there? How do you measure how love is? Everything is just a love world that loves to each other and imaginates the world.
Similarly, in the online world, all the awareness, understanding of the other party is all the words "feelings" played by the other party in the computer, all the feelings are "identified"; network love is made by each other The product of fantasy interactive induced, with the fantasy interaction, the insufficient information should be filled, but because this is the two sides intertwined together, it is a happy or painful impact on himself in the network. It gives us any feeling, the growth of growth experience and daily life is true, and there is no difference in love with the real love.
In addition, the fantasy of online love is the space you can choose, there is no burden in the real society, and there is no need to cope with the trivial matter in life, so network love in the network world can avoid the real society. When you fall in love, you can only enjoy the beauty of love, and the hard side of love is.
Second, the approach of preferences
Due to the network, the space selection of everyone enters is selected. In most cases, the objects known in the virtual community must have some character, preferences. Law of attraction pointed out that between two people, the higher the ratio ratio of the attitude, the stronger the mutual attraction between each other. In real societies, the establishment of interpersonal relationships is because of regional approaching, or is extended by the original relationship (EX: relatives, friends, students ..., etc.), is not attracted by the attitude of the other party; But in the interpersonal relationship of the network, it is definitely to talk to the other party. It feels that it feels good to establish a more intimate relationship with the other party; the same, it is easier to seek to himself " "If you have the same feelings, like it, you" the other half of the soul ".
Third, mutual favorite cycles
There is a real feeling in the virtual world. When the network is given safe, emotion, mutual support and growth, the activities are met, the individual is very easy to occur as a "attachment relationship", the virtual indenter space provides the heart of the wind [10 ]. In actual daily life, when others smile to you, most people will be happy, give each other to the other party with a positive attitude, but due to social norm restrictions, self-protection, we usually choose "Gift, appropriate" feedback attitude. When communication is communicating, due to the characteristics of network anonymity, we usually express in a more enthusiastic approach, not afraid of harm or shy, embarrassed, interacting with each other. Under the cycle, the level of the two sides love the other party will become more and more strong, and the progress of the feelings is even more fast. Fourth, the disclosure of self-emotion
The network has the none of the neutralization, so that people get a higher sense of security and the intimate feeling when they talk to others, and it is more likely to convey their true ideas, feelings and emotions, and more willing to give their own hearts. The other party shared. In addition, in front of the computer screen, people don't have to worry about their appearance, it is not appropriate, but the instrument is not appropriate, but it can focus on their messages, and the content of self-disclosure will be more detailed.
In addition, when the other person tells himself about his own privacy, when we are also easy to give back to the other party about his more private message, in such a one, the two sides will expose the message will be more and more The privateness of the message will be higher and higher, and the two sides have a good feeling of each other, and emotional dependence will become higher and higher.
Although there are many convenient and profitable conditions of network love, there is no better result with all network love, just like the love in the real world, there is a risk and failure of failure; just in the network In the world, love is more likely to develop than the chance of the real world, and the process of developing to intimate hand is also relatively fast; because the above network and love is, it makes network love development very fast, and gradually become a society. common case.
Non-commentary
"Is there real love on the network?", It has always been the doubt that most people have caused by online relationships. Since the network has a parental name, hidden real identity, the other party knows the authenticity of the resolution content, there is always a great self-imagination space via the interpersonal relationship developed by the network, in the eyes of the average person Network love is always full of high uncertainty, and the feeling of feelings is not stable enough.
Although some people may think that online love is only in people's hearts, they are unsatisfactory, but for the parties, the emotions are thousands of true [11]. In network love, we will create extremely intimate love for another feature object (or ID), which cares about his existence, his words, will be excited, happy, thinking in his heart. It's a sweet feeling, and there will be emotional reactions such as exclusive, obsessed, and jealousy, just like the love in the real world.
Although the online world is virtual, it is considered unreal, but the feeling of feeling on the Internet is very real, there will be memories, and feel scratch up, and it is true.
Five types of "online love"
This kind of online lovers fantasy can get a secular innocent love in the Internet. People who have such mentalities tend to be easy to fall in the Internet without self-extricating. However, since they have a lot of falseness, this unrealistic thing is their mystery, just as the "distance generation of the" distance ". Moreover, this kind of love in lovers, there are fewer bumps in life, and there are fewer responsibilities, and there is a contradiction, and there are many free and freedom. On the Internet, "people" can be unrestricted, "love".
Romantic online love
In real life, love and marriage is usually an inevitable connection, but you can love to die online, but you don't have to talk about marriage. Therefore, there is a super-psychological romantic online love, it is hovering online. They flexibly tap the keyboard with their fingers, talk about life, talk about ideals, talk about work, talk about romance, talk about love ... Only don't talk about love. Perhaps, they feel that this feeling is the most super-off, the most romantic love experience, so it is deeply involved in it. Game type deception online love
People with such psychology just want to experience friends and even fun on the Internet, they have no heart to love each other, and they are not intended to have any responsibility for their words and deeds. They just want to be happy on the Internet, and never really treat this matter. So they are very clear, so-called "online love" is playing, it is impossible to invest at all. Maybe in real life, I said that "I love you" is too difficult, but I can knock out "I love you" thousands of "I love you" on the Internet. "I love you." This kind of experience can be addicted and safe, because as long as one shutdown can be retired. It is worth mentioning that there are now many people who have a bad person, using "online love" to fight criminal activities, fraudulently fraudulent, make a lot of online experience in social experience deeply suffering, this should cause people enough Be alert and valued.
Practical realistic online love
Since the network has advanced convenience, there is a practical psychological online love, and he hopes to find his life companion through the Internet. They seriously put "online love" as a real means, and will take the initiative to explain their conditions and requirements to their lovers because they don't want to waste time. Such online lovers are often immersed in "online love" time, they are more important, often asked the other side to meet. However, many people with practical psychology often hope in reality because of the unique and beautified features of the network. In their hearts, talking about, the wind and glamorous online lovers can actually appear flat or all kinds of unreasonable, ideal and reality, often make them happy, and return. In fact, since I am looking for a lifelong companion at the beginning, then the eye-catching gaze may also be reality, so you can be less disappointed.
Spiritual Plato online love
Such online lovers tend to pursue and uniquely thoughtfully, they will be able to enjoy the spirit, far exceeds the requirements of substances. What they are looking for is Plato's online love, that is, both parties just keep the "love" on the Internet, not to have any contact in real life. They have different "romantic online love" mentioned earlier, and their experience of spiritual emotions is higher, and attitude is relatively serious. In addition to the online love, they don't call each other, do not write, don't see, don't know the name of the other party, and don't even know the gender of the other party; they don't seek seek in reality, the real contact, but I hope to accompany the horizon in the hot online love. In their opinion, Plato's spirit is a human most holy feeling. It doesn't need any external material conditions. It is the natural contemporary contemporary feelings of people in the heart ... However, reality is a reality, this kind of online love The infatuation of infatuation is often rare to go to the head. Therefore, human feelings will vary over time, as long as one of these online love has new requirements in spirit and psychological needs, Plato's online decline will be broken. In reality, "Love is in love, it is the same sex" is not rare, and "said words" is often the most real portrayal of this kind of online love.
New dreams and nightmares
Through the network, people can make friends through the computer, as long as they pass a few instructions, the original unfamiliar people can talk to a song, and the unfolding of the relationship is no longer subject to time and space. Broad, more and more people are involved in the online love, whether there is a reality, novel or drama, online relationship, no shortcomings, but the deliberate network crime is a lot, making most people have quite cautious about online love. attitude. In recent years, there has been an endless communication between network erotic and criminals. When using the Internet to defraud, there is a case, the most famous case is the high surname girl of Taipei County, October 1999, with advertising models The photo is done on the Internet and scams to scam. It is in the big chat room. It is awarded that he is a graduate student and has a model, and left a mobile phone. Let the call, first defraud the feelings, then fraud money, including the internship doctor , Postgraduate, pharmacists and traders are therefore deceived, and even someone will break up for "online lover", willing to have more than ten years of girlfriend, until it actually meets, this case is sensational, so that everyone is There is a negative impression in the online dating. June, June, June, college students, used online chat rooms to seduce minors, and the network seems to be a crime.
The third grade of a university in the middle of Taiwan, a third-grade student, Huang Wenliang, using the online chat room, called himself a basketball school team of Donghai University, and the conditions for "20,000 yuan in the package", in just four months, more than ten years Adult girl. Seven-day police work searches, according to the regulations of children and teenagers, and suspicion of suspicion of suspicion, including taxi, etc. Huang Wenliang, half-year-old, with a hundred and eighty centimeters, with black frame glasses, long appearance, starting with the wolf of the network in February this year, publishing a girlfriend message through the chat website, and pretending to be willing to 20,000 The yuan accept the package, four months, actually successfully abduct a dozen unsuccessful girls, the mobile phone carried by the girl, the wallet is also in the "One Night", and theft is attached. According to the police investigation, Huang Wenliang usually meets with the deceived girls meet at the gate of Taichung City Railway Station or Hongguang Science and Technology University, and then the ride car carries the residence of the victim to the residence or hotel, and then then I have something to do, I have to leave, and secretly steal each other's mobile phones and cash. After being cheated, I have been waiting for no one, and I found that the value of the validated items around him didn't see the world. It is known that the victims have two countries in the 14-year-old country, and the sixteens and seventeen high school students are also deceived. After the police receive the case, they will check the mobile phone records through China Telecom. Finally, the circulation is arrested Huang Wenliang and has four actions in their residence. Huang Wenliang homprped to use the network of friends, with more than a dozen girls, but remember that only four names, the rest were impressed, and the police called on the victim to see a recognition.
