The successful life of the business - summarizes the teacher with Du teacher! Like everyone is a person who is trek in the fascination, I am very fortunate last week to talk to Du teacher. Now I feel that I am going to be healthy, positive direction, as my nickname: a light as bean, illuminate the millennium. Looking back from the previous performance, you can only describe it with "Mangoti in the back". Let's write about the conversation with Du and this time and some thinking and some thinking, I hope to communicate with everyone. A proactive, what is confidence confidence? I have never understood it. Just in many cases, people who have come into contact with me will tell me: Your confidence is insufficient. Conversely, many people say: You don't lack confidence. These two distinct evaluations, I am willing to believe in the latter, but I can't convince yourself. Because I know, they said that I didn't lack confidence, in fact, because I was very proud. And proud, always accompanied by strong inferiority. There is a kind of person, you can't find a reasonable reason, but you do things, give people a feeling of being bound, and retreat. When I personally want to calmly, I feel that I have no need to worry about my strength. If they don't understand themselves, but they also know that their strengths are, they also believe in their ability. But when playing, it is to play a very large discount. It is found that it is the foundation of self-confidence. If you have no eyes in your own eyes, it is obvious that there will be no confidence. An exam for junior high school made me remember that everyone is chasing the answer when they are paying. I found that there is a question that I am different from the results of several other people, I have rushing it. When I gave a review, if I didn't change it, the whole class only had a person's practices and answers were correct. I will remember the psychological state of the time, because I know that I have a heartless problem, and everyone is a very good student in the class, so I think I am wrong. In fact, the topic is the reverse thinking. For me, the idea is natural and smooth, there is no stagnation, so I think it is the same for others; in fact, others have learned from learning Find a match in the formula, and finally didn't find it, I have to make a formula, and everyone has got an error result. I understand that I caught my heart, but I didn't find my thinking because elementary school did not receive the model education in the city, but retained flexibility. It is more important than understanding your weakness than to understand that your own weakness is. At this time, it is mediocre and the best difference. However, I think confidence is different for everyone's meaning, this and people's personality is related. The outgoing person may lose confidence because of a time setback or unusual, for them, find their strengths, and discover your own talent is confident. For those who are in this, I know my talents from a sense, but I can't take the initiative. At this time, confidence is "active active" attitude. Active active is a style of people and doing things. This style and self-confidence are interactive, which is unparalleled, so I am equal between them. Since Into the laboratory and my mentor in contact not for a month, two mentors told me: You are very serious, but you must take the initiative. I have been remembering this review, but I understand the meaning of "active" until now. The initiative is conscious. If you look at this perspective from being an academic research, the initiative is to consciously inspect the market, consciously discover the problem, and collect information consciously. More importantly, the core is to pay immediately after IdeA, not to find someone to approve, find a successful case, find evidence that can be psychologically affirmed this idea, and do not need to consider very mature, very perfect.
Many times, you can make achievements from any blurred IDEA, and if you are superstitious, superstitious experts will stifle a creative results, at least. The difference between confidence and pride is: self-confidence is conscious, is active; and proud is because of a little grade and advantage. Confidence is accompanied by modest and progress, arrogant and inferior, self-improvement. Two people are good, and if you answer the narrowness, if you answer "Successful Success", the answer is not diligent, not a talent, not lucky, but: because most people want them to succeed! Success is a team. Teacher Du told me that the winner has a 2-8 law: 20% relies on their own ability, 80% rely on interpersonal communication. These days have also seen some successful information, and the US Stanford Research Center has made a survey in the world's richest people. The result is to find that this ratio is not 2/8, but 12.5 / 87.5! Unfortunately, I didn't pay attention to interpersonal exchanges, or I didn't understand what "Interpersonal Communication". For me, maybe there is a majority here, I heard the word "interpersonal communication", or more or less the words like eight-sided, smart, and the words such as the small people, but not willing to develop in this direction. In fact, this is a very large misunderstanding. The highest goal of being good at communicating is "Be a good person", and people who describe the above three words are not good people, so they can't say that they are good at communicating. Building a healthy and powerful interpersonal relationship network is a personality charm, it is never a flower saying. After walking out of this misunderstanding, you can explain what is "good" with people. " According to Du teacher, it has a gold law in terms of interpersonal relationship: I hope that someone treat others will treat others. Now, talk about Platinum: Others hope that you will treat him for him, how to treat him. Many people seem to be very "reality", talking about "interpersonal", is "mutual utilization." In fact, there is no need to describe the society so cruel in such a negative attitude. If you sincerely treat others, there will be no feeling of "being used". Conversely, if you always go to the weaving network of the "mutual utilization" attitude, that can only explain that you are a little person. "Sincere" is always the foundation of the interpersonal. Only we can understand the needs of others; only to understand the needs of others, we can win the trust of each other; only on the basis of mutual trust, we can truly have a reliable friend. "Pizza" often belongs to the world, in fact, they are real loneliness, because they are in "mutual utilization", and in critical moments, no one can use it. For our livelihood, it is not "full of world", but a few real friends. Recently, I have seen a best-selling novel called "Business Road", telling the story of 19th century Korean businessman Lin Shangwo. One of the plots is this: Lin Shangwo is a ginseng business between China and Dynasties. Because the North Korean Political Bureau is unstable, the emperor is regulating the people, only 5 places are left. If the forest is not one of them, he means he is going off. In order to strive for this place, Lin decided to go to the chance of peace. Lin Yu, the father of the Quan Yichen, sent a gift to the power. If the power of the power, the people who give gifts are not counting. When they find out, he discovered this unusual gift, and the signed name is "Yizhou businessman Lin Shangwo". The next day, the Wei Chen called all the guests, and Lin was also in it, sitting in an unopened corner. The power is lazy, and if there is anything, it will be scattered. The next day, it is still like this.
On the third day, Quan Chen asked the guests with an inadvertent tone: How many people in the city gate of Kyoto every day? What are their surname? Many guests are confused, and they are also a variety. The Wei Chen looked at Lin Shangwo in his corner. He asked him with a chest with his chest. "Who are you? Do you know the answer?" Lin stood up and said: "Adults, small people Lin Shangwo. There are two people in the city gate every day, one surname Li, a surname". Everyone can't understand, even feel ridiculous, how is two people? Is there a "sea" in North Korea? And the power of the people nodded, asked him to explain his answer. Lin said: "The 'Lee' and 'Hai' is actually 'Lis' and 'harmful', the adult is also a person who is beneficial to himself and the person who is harmful to him. It is nothing more than 'interest' and 'Harm' two categories. Many guests, which one is not a heart? After listening to this, many people didn't dare to look up and the right to touch. Lin Shangwo he sent a check, not to write specific numbers, meaning that there is no matter how many numbers are filled with the check, Lin has is obliged to pay. The Wei Yushen sent guests and left Lin Shangwo alone. Continue to ask Lin: So you are still harmful? Lin Answer: I am not a benefit. Wei Chen: So you are a very useless person? Lin Answer: The meaning of the gentleman, the profit of small people. Xinyi is a starting point for the other party, and it will not cause ill; and the interests will only have a bad and resentment. As a result, it is analogous. With the number of checks that have not been written, the forest has been completed by the first power of the chance, and finally a generation of luxury. Wei Chen obviously won't fill in an astronomical figure, the property of the light forest, because he has no benefit in except for the pen. Those who are really charming can get along with a variety of people. At this point, I think Westerners, especially Americans, can be seen than us, from many details. Talk to the Americans, although there is obstacles on the language, but there is no pressure. For example, they rarely said "you are wrong", unless he is very disagree, it will say "i can't agree", or "this is not right". If you don't understand his words, reveal the gods, they will slow down. If you encounter a problem, they will encourage you and will tell you that "you have done very well." In short, they don't make the other party feel embarrassed. This is a habit. The King Kong said: "The saints are different from nothing". "Bible" said: God loves the world; the Buddha said: Puyi sentient beings. Any religion has arrived in the big relationship. More realistic, my mentor has a famous saying: Be a scientist first to be a good person. As far as I personally failed, I didn't learn to understand the needs of others, because I didn't learn to be able to get the shortcomings of others, because I didn't learn to accept people I don't like. This is also "not enough to act" in interpersonal, I rarely went to observe others, realize others, even if I try to learn the active saying, I just talk, it is just on the surface. In the process of talking to Du, there is a plot to be very interesting, and it is also very deep to me. When we watched the girl outside the window, Teacher Du pointed to everyone asked if I could see her characteristics, or if I went up and talk about how to open. In my eyes, they really can't see any characteristics, and Du teacher pointed out their hairstyle, clothes, temperament, etc. If most people are standard, I really didn't see the beauty.
But which girl is not beautiful? Just like singing "Every girl is not simple", we can't expect that every girl is as such as Tianxian. If you can't communicate with ordinary girls, what can you see? These days, I have been paying attention to the girls you can see every day, looking for them different every day, then praise them. It is not difficult to find this, and it is a very pleasant thing. :) A girl also told me because I am commendable, let her follow the confidence and happiness of her face in the end of a man, and many people have misunderstood. They are a couple. :) I know yourself, awaken the passion before seeing Teacher Teacher, I have found my long sleep since I have been admitted to this school. I am very tired, but I have not reached the achievement, but it is not as energetic and vibrant in the third-class school. I have never understood the reason, is it really physical strength? Now I know the real reason is to lose my goals and lose your passion. There is no passion, it will be passive, and you can have no things, so that all efforts have to be lost and missed. In the undergraduate, my goal is very clear: postgraduate, the introduction of the current mentor belt, this once created a myth. I also understand what I am interested in myself: research. However, after coming in, the first two years is very smooth, and since the third year, due to some problems in the laboratory, the reason for my body, the values, the values, gradually lost their own . I am a wild, but I don't have a clear goal, I can't talk about success. I have seen a discussion of "expected strength". If the intensity of a goal is 0, or don't want, don't dare to, it is natural to get it; if the intensity of the expectation is 20%, you can pay some actions, but it is not very obedient, play. I always have given up, I can get it, but most of them are not until; if the strength is 50%, I really want, I am not sure, pursue, I don't have to pay, keep the road, then the result is completely luck And the success or failure; if the strength is 99%, I want to give up the biggest efforts to fight, but the hibiscus will give up the thoughts, it is likely to cause the loss of the loss; if the intensity is 100%, must get, not more than death It is uncomfortable, so it will be able to make your own creativity, physical strength, and various potentials to maximize the maximum extent, and finally find a road to success. 99% and 100% difference, not 1%, but 100%. This kind of intensity has an example on me. For example, the postgraduate study is 100% expected strength. The previous period of time writes a doctoral paper, and it is 100% strength. I put myself in the room, defining myself must be completed before that time, really "If you don't know no positive, you can't afford this" . In the end, I didn't finish it, but more miracles, in the process of writing, there is a lot of advanced, very creative IDEA. 99% of examples are probably college entrance examination. My high school score has not been very boring, and the goal is the school that can be admitted to a key point. At the end, my grade rose straight, each time the collections are ranked, and ranked 100 in the whole school until the last first place. At the end of the last sprint, I thought of this domestic top school.
However, the subconscious sense is true, there is so a piece of "can't be tested. Anyway, it has been well done, and now I am going to be enough", the result is that the result is that a single result has caused life. regret. 0 intensity example, I am a single love, huh, huh! Don't talk carefully! I believe many people can imagine. Now, I think my goal has been retrieved, and passion wakes up, although I missed many times. Life is short, but it is more to make it burned. Four courage to change, surpassing ourselves have a negative self. If this negative covered the front, then the whole person will depress, which will depress, will be confused. It can take a look at the negative in the above three parts: Because of the lack of confidence, always find a score to comfort you, and then have arrogant; arrogant, the past achievement is covered, so it is self-closed; I always see that others are stronger than themselves, so I feel inferior; inferiority, confusion, things are afraid, so they are passive; passive doing things, passively do people, so lonely, lonely, not confident, not confident, so I can't open my thoughts, I don't dare to explore new goals, so I lost passion ... This series of things are intertwined, forming a vicious circle, occupying the whole soul, then the whole person is awkward, clumsy, wretched. Maintaining the status is a shame! How to change all the negative factors? Unclear which is the culprit, but they have a root, that is: heart. "I have changed" in "four training", so discussed: What is the change from the heart? There are thousands of times, but the heart is created; I can't move, and I have a born? Scholars in good quality, good name, good goods, angry, all kinds, do not have to seek criticism; but when they are good, they are looking forward to the front, and evil thinking is naturally pollution. Such as the sun is empty, 魍魉 魍魉 魍魉, this is a true biography. After being made by the heart, it is also changed by the heart, such as the poisonous tree, straight according to its roots, the branch of the branch, the leaves are picking up? Big arrival, the most cured, the moment is clean; the only thing is to feel, I feel that there is no; I don't want to be able to send it; it is not possible, you must do things to ban; the above is unwise. At the perseverance, it is awkward. Mr. Li Kai said: If there is a courage to change the things that can change, there must be a measure to accept things that cannot be changed, and there must be wisdom to distinguish between the above. The change is the courage, and the change is uncomfortable, so the Buddha said: bravely refine. We often hear the words such as "difficult to move", so let go of yourself, "I can't change anyway, it is so confused." In fact, human nature, and human nature. The nature determines the good evil of people, so it is also a large extent to determine the ideal of people. It should not be an ideal resistance. However, in the process of growth, people will always wear a layer of clothes on "I", and "character" we see now is not its own "nature". So there is a "lost yourself". If a piece of clothes hinder the development of self, it is a shortcoming that it is necessary to revolution. If you don't change, things are existing. If you don't change, things are not to be developed, which is called let go, and also passive performance. The nature of the inverted nature is not only "accepted", but also "develop" and "use".
