This balance is that the process is not a result, and it is constantly pursuing from a balanced direction.
D.quinn Mills, Sasha K.mattu, Kirstin R.hornby
First care, the home, this is often wrong. "Since the beginning of college, my goal is to become a president of a large listed company. I also give it to this goal," Peter said, "In the process, I have never let anything, whether marriage The child is still anything else to interfere with me. I plan to do the company's executive layer, and then rest, put some time to give a family life, share the fun of Tianlun. "
"Aliering my dreams, I am willing to pay for the company's high level. But suddenly, my big child is already a teenage teenager, and my wife threatens to divorce me. My life strategy, career And the time schedule of the family did not develop in accordance with the planned track. "
"I have witnessed many people in my class, I am tirelessly pursuing the development of the cause, but I often got marriage. Their heart usually full of guilty. I couldn't re-refurbish it. It is a sorrowful thing to have something. "
Peter's problems are not individual. Many people don't realize that they can make better choices between balanced family life and career development, and when they recognize this, it is often covered in water.
Only the successful career development and the warm family life are both, life is really satisfactory. It is necessary for fish and bear's paw to master the balance, but seek a balance requires a process. We can't enter a constant balance, but we need to hold a balance.
The balance of work and family life is a challenge, we need to develop a step-by-step action plan to seek. Here is such a plan, each step will break the fantasy, reveal the reality, and list key success factors.
step one:
Reconvestment of things priority
Reconvestment of things priority
Fantasy: We can reach our career goals and home goals in different time periods in a lifetime.
Reality: Career and family goals cannot be biased, must be completed at the same time. If we sacrifice career objectives to achieve family goals, then we lose our balance. Similarly, if we only focus on the career, ignore the family, and lose the balance.
Reality: Career and family goals cannot be biased, must be completed at the same time. If we sacrifice career objectives to achieve family goals, then we lose our balance. Similarly, if we only focus on the career, ignore the family, and lose the balance.
Sometimes, you may think you have to make a choice between successful career and family life. But a wide range of surveys show that you can take care of any one of two important two things that are equivalent to the priority. The first step here is to establish such a belief: it is necessary to have a good family, you can achieve these two goals in the same time frame; don't put it backward, sacrificing its reasonable time Used to achieve another goal.
I have to consider it, what you pay attention to, what you want. In the process of seeking and maintaining a balance between business and family life, you must actively take responsibility.
To be a successful person needs to invest in your career, which makes the balance of maintaining career and family life are particularly challenging. The success of career means additional many other requirements, which often complicates life, such as successful people need to consider employees, customers, and suppliers, and these people's requirements will increase their pressure; and they may also need to participate in more meetings. More business trips, more negotiations, will also face more contradictions, which will be reduced accordingly.
Although there is the above requirements, success for maintaining business and family balances should be an asset, rather than a liability, which is active. This is because, for many people, the biggest value of success is that it gives us opportunities to exercise our leadership, helping us to achieve themselves. This exercise of leadership challenges require us to define the balance pursued. Those qualities and skills needed to have a rich return in the business are also necessary for developing stable household relationships, and vice versa.
Balance is the process of continuous adaptation of changes in adjustment, in which we strive to make a harmonious relationship between the most important things in life - family and business. This balance can only be maintained because of the impact of our lives. For this reason, we say that balance is a process, not some state.
Balance is not average, and the balance does not mean that the energy or time is divided into five or five in the career and family. Some people think that 60% of energy is put into work, and 40% of energy is put into family life is balanced, while others may choose to put more attention to their families. In this regard, you can choose from the steps listed here.
Step 2:
Pursuing the process of creating balance
Pursuing the process of creating balance
Fantasy: Balance will be automatically reached.
Reality: It is necessary to actively take responsibility, seek work and life balance. Don't sit waiting for other people to bring you a balance between work and life.
Reality: It is necessary to actively take responsibility, seek work and life balance. Don't sit waiting for other people to bring you a balance between work and life.
Jensen said: "I always believe that the balance between the heart, the work and life is able to achieve. As long as I need, I will adjust my time arrangement. Later I realized that if I don't active Actively seek a harmonious balance of work and family life, work will dominate my life, especially for those who love competition like this, and those who pursue sensational effects. "
Jensen has made a common mistake. When he arranged the priority of the event, he considered that the balance of the cause and life was water to the stream. In fact, this is one of the most serious mistakes we may commit. Getting balances depends on the pursuit of such a process, this process includes arranging event priorities, realizing forward-looking expectations, delineating the boundary between action, and setting up internal standards. The bottom line here is that you have to use your own point of view, what is the success of your career and your family.
First of all, we have to face this simple reality, the balance of career and life will not fall, but to manage it by us.
At the same time, we should set up the work and life of their respective boundaries. Work can be like water, full of space you give it. This means that you have to set the boundary, qualify your work, which can take up.
One of the ways to set the boundary is to set the priority of the event, we have to know what is the most important, what we must give up. In the process of choosing, we must consider the perspective of the industry, but also from the point of view of the family.
Don't suffer from being lost. What are our truly desirable for life, we have to make a major choice and persistent at a certain period of time.
Finally, the success is defined according to your own conditions. With the growth of personal wealth, our concept of "how much money is enough" may be constantly changing. Among the people we have intended, the more people we are rich, the more we tend to think that the state currently is not enough. Leaders will be promoted with their careers, especially in this climb.
Depending on your own conditions, refer to internal standards --- Your self-feeling, your family members' self-feeling, your contribution to others, your self-growth, etc. Stop using external standards --- Other people's success, income, status, wealth, assets or things.
Step 3: Make a choice without complaints: we can make up for things that have been put on hold as before.
Reality: This is impossible, we can't remember the sheep. If we are persistent in a career and spend the family as the expense, miss the child's growth process, we can't turn the time backward. On the contrary, if we are in order to raise a family, it is basically difficult to return to the original career track, we will thus lose the opportunity to achieve our business goals.
Reality: This is impossible, we can't remember the sheep. If we are persistent in a career and spend the family as the expense, miss the child's growth process, we can't turn the time backward. On the contrary, if we are in order to raise a family, it is basically difficult to return to the original career track, we will thus lose the opportunity to achieve our business goals.
Now you need to make a difficult choice, because balancing is achieved by giving up those things you are not so urgently thinking. The art of balanced careers and families is to minimize trade-offs, which will make us can do better in both ways.
How can I do this? The method is that through some things, these things give us feelings seem to be very important, and facts are not the case, including those who don't have good but don't do, and those who have no sense, they can't make you feel Spiritual glow and do more important things in a better mental state. These things should be returned to their second (even completely faded, if they do have no light weight in our lives).
At Harvard University, we often eat a lot of people after a few years of studying, and discovering successful completion of their choices, the importance is better than having many things in life. In fact, many people recognize which people in their lives, which places, which things should be placed first.
As a leader, we tend to take responsibility for more than our ability. Therefore, it is necessary to cultivate skills, say "no" for the responsibilities of certain responsibility. A small commitment may rush down the most important thing in our lives. For a new car, then the plan of the new house may bubble. I want to regenerate a baby, a new job may become bubbles. Want a new job, then further deep departments may have to give up.
Give up you is not an urgent thing that you don't have to regret when you decide. The secret of happy life is the necessary hits, we don't have to regret for those things we can't ask.
Step 4: Select one
You can achieve a balanced occupation
You can achieve a balanced occupation
Fantasy: Don't consider family factors, choose any of my favorite work or careers, I can finally take time and enjoy family life.
Reality: We must carefully choose our work and career to ensure that our work is allowed to take enough time to take care of the family.
Reality: We must carefully choose our work and career to ensure that our work is allowed to take enough time to take care of the family.
If you want to seek your career and your family, you need to select your career. Some professions are more beneficial to realize the balanced occupation of their families and careers. It is difficult to achieve career and home balances like investment banking (too long working hours) or consulting (due to frequent travel).
If you have been working in a row, it is difficult to change the truth, you have three basic choices:
Solution 1: Continue your current work. But this may mean you have to actively actively, rather than passively change the company culture, so that you support your balanced career and family needs.
Solution 2: Mobilize in the company. If you like the company, it is impossible to change the current workplace culture, try to mobilize in the company, it is possible that you will find new positions more suitable for you.
Solution 3: Leaving the company. If you can't play, then leave. Looking for new careers or posts, you can pursue your time and space you most want to get in your career and family life. Ability to have the ability to choose from. If you choose a solution 1, you can expand and maintain the space you need to balance your career and your family through the following ways:
The test must be creative. Simply gain more flexible working schedules by convince the superiors. She proves that more flexible work arrangements are conducive to her work, and her work is more efficient, better impression of customers and employees.
It is necessary to have an alternative to cultivate a single person who has a key element of key elements in business or corporate customers, with other people's lack of skills. Working hard will only make the company feel that you have valuable but not an alternative.
Trust and authorize the leaders to understand their own and honestly admit that some people are strong than themselves in some ways, so they will be authorized. Authorization requires courage, but also trust, but from a long-term perspective is worth doing this.
Reduking the pressure must have a strike, for a problem that may be handled, you should plan in advance. Work should be distinguished to be a priority, first do the most important thing. When dealing with things that are especially urgent for you, they may wish to guide others to complete. For example, Jenny realizes that he is indeed tapping too many duties, so it will be charged by some items responsible for himself. Of course, this is not so easy, because she has a list of their own work attitude to accept any challenge. But Jenny realized that as leadership, we must balance your career and family, she can't do things.
Defending the weekend time to make people confident that the working time is not necessarily meant to reduce the production output. To guide the company culture, everyone supports the balance between work and families.
When you have completed the above four steps, there are two steps to do. This is:
Let the people you love with you to create a balance between careers and families.
It is difficult to obtain the balance of career and family by oneself. If you launch your main family members and workmails to improve your balance plan, you will have a bigger success.
To understand what everyone's expectations and paying attention to things, helping everyone get balance. Both husband and wife can balance their careers and families.
Exview your balance you, it is decided to continue or reopen.
The balanced status of you may be broken, so it is necessary to regularly review your balanced state. Those events that may break the balance include: family members' accidents, diseases or deaths; your company merges with other companies, generic or bankruptcy.
Other events also make you lose balance: the partner relationship lost romance; product or service lost the market; the company's profitability is not good; excessive sinking is a good habits. When you recognize any of the above problems, you have to decide which adjustments must be made.
In case you lose balance, you have to have a balanced plan.
Remember: This process allows you to achieve your goals and achieve the balance of career and family life.
The original text is taken from D.quinn Mills, Sasha K.Mattu, Kirstin Hornby Having It All ... and Making It Work: SIX Steps for Putting Both Your Career And your Family First Book, located in Upper Saddle River, NJ Company 2004 registered copyright in 2004. Translation of Yuan Xiaomei.
D.quinn Mills Original Alfred J.Weatherhead Jr. is a professor of the Harvard Business School. Sasha K.Mattu and Kirstin Hornby are a sore student from Harvard College.
D.quinn Mills Original Alfred J.Weatherhead Jr. is a professor of the Harvard Business School. Sasha K.Mattu and Kirstin Hornby are a sore student from Harvard College.
