Teacher of Taiwan Tsinghua University teacher - About mentality and choice
Many students should remember the anxiety on the eve of the team: a difference may fall a few volunteers, even the fate of life has changed! In the big four, this anxiety may be stronger and complicated: go to the soldier, employment, or the first research institute? I often encounter students with anxiety to ask me. However, these anxiety is really unmolieved! Life is a long-term and sustained accumulation process, never ruined a person's life because of a single event, and will not save a person's life because of a single event. It belongs to us sooner or later; it belongs to us, even if it is lucky, it is impossible to keep it long. If we see this fact, many so-called "major choices in life" can be taken, there is no need to worry. And the so-called "dilemma of life" is often incomplete to teeth.
I am an active example. From the university, I decided to negotiate research institutes, so the university is more than half years of time in human science. After graduating, I have been working for a few years and I decided to study the research institute. After graduating from the master's degree, it is determined that it is no longer a book. Who knows that the world is difficult, and after five years of lectors, I was in turn, and I installed Dr. Guo. When I go abroad, a college classmate laughed at me: The most late doctors of the whole class must return to China. You are going out now? Two years later I came back from Cambridge, I feel that there is an impermanence of life. It is not even: a person who has decided from the big one and no drilling a degree, even the master and doctors are got! It is usable to us, which has been too late? And how much is it in life? What is we know? Since then, I can't do things about it. During the lecturer, some attitudes were extremely extremely visible to show their disdain; when they came back from Cambridge, they were considered by students. The big fall in this surface is actually a good thing, completely can't see the truth of the truth. From the surface, I got Dr. Cambridge in two years, which seems very much. However, before this "two years", I have already spent reach a year, I finished reading the theme related to the research topic, and identifying the research direction; and I have spent three years to do control research, and in the international famous Popularization in academic journals. From the graduation of master's degree to Dr. Take, I never stop research and self-study during seven years. Therefore, this doctor is actually accumulating the results of seven years, or only I spent at least five years at least five years, and there is nothing surprised.
The ordinary people do not look at the life of life from a long-term and persistent accumulation process, and the old love is exaggerating the discussion on the surface, so it is sorrowful every everything in a strange event. But for me, when the lecturer is looking down, it is just a look like a classmate when the Cambridge just returns. The truth is: I only care about the accumulation of bit by bit twenty-four hours a day. Master or Ph.D. is just an external display of these results in a specific time. The real accumulation in people's lives never ends or added due to these events.
Meeting me asking me: "Teacher, I really want to be the leader first, work a two-year study. Is this good?" "Very good, this will have the opportunity to confirm the learning, you can read At the study, it will know what you want than others. "" But I am afraid that when I finish work, I will lose my fight, so I can't take the research institute. "" Then you will take the research Institute. " "But if I first read the research institute, I am afraid that I will be like a university, so I don't want to do it." "Then you will work well!" "But ..." I can completely Experience their anxiety, but can't suppress the feelings of this kind. In fact, it is a two-year study in the two-year study in the second year to deepen the deep knowledge of knowledge and acquire practical experience. Work or first enhance the school, on the surface, in fact, the difference in the bones can be ignored. In the idiom story of "three", the owner originally fed monkey's order is "three in the morning". Later, it was changed to "three", and monkeys were unhappy and insisted on reaching back to "four". " In fact, the first work or first promotion, the difference is like "Dynasty Three" and "Dynasty Three Three", the original is not worth more. However, we often see the long-lived accumulation of this life process, and old love will exaggerate the small differences in the moment to the point of life and death.
The Raissing is: When we face two possible programs, while anxious, when you don't know what to choose, it usually said that these two programs may be as good, or as bad, thus actually choose which one, the only difference is just Successful. Moreover, the more it makes us anxiety, the smaller the difference, the more it is not worthy of anxiety. Instead, there is a significant good and bad difference, we know how to do it easily. However, we often see the future of the long history, staring in the short-term staring in the short term: Want to choose a case, and will not be the benefits of it-. If you want to choose B, you will not be beneficial. If you look far enough, everyone is eight, ninety, short five, sixty years, what is the relationship? Even after the soldiers work, spend another year's preparation research, what is it great? Of course, some people will still worry about: "I will be more difficult to advice because of the family tired or memory recession after work," I can only answer this: "I can't take the research institute. There are only two possibilities: or he is not smart enough, or he is not smart enough. Not smart and not examined, then there is nothing to complain. If you are smart, you can't take the Institute, then you can say your determination. Not strong enough. If you are determined to be strong enough, it means that there is still other possibilities in your life, and its importance is not in the master's degree, and you must not leave him. In this case, there is no need to feel regret. No? "
There are so many roads in life, why do you want to have a possibility? I have the most good friend in high school, a life of life: high school test twice, high school, university is two times, and even the locomotive driver's license is taken twice. After graduation, he told himself: I have no one, and I have no qualifications, I can only rely on double sincere and efforts. Now, he has a company with a year of income tens of millions.
A person is not going well during the promotion, and in the career, this is a common thing. With talented people, they will not have to lose his talent because they are refused by the school, but they don't have to find out where they are performing. Conversely, a person is too smooth in the development process, and it is inevitable that there is no way to start a business, but can only lead the salary. How is the blessing disaster, who can know? What are we doing? What is good worries? Life is not clear, sometimes it is unclear, sometimes it is simple: we get the results accumulated on weekdays, and lose we have never worked! So it's important to achieve more than others, but try to do what you want. Don't donate, and finally shouldn't be less than you, don't get more you will be more. It seems to be the previous year, I met a high school classmate on the road to the Art Center. He has increased the deputy professor of the motor system in the South, and he was hired by Tsinghua Electric to open a short course. From the high school era, he is very useful. After the first volunteer is on the large motor, it will take a book prize in four years. I believe that his professional research has also been made up. When I recall high school enrollment, the intellectual test scores of our two people were first separated in the first, second place. However, from the high one, I have never give up my favorite literature, music, calligraphy, art and philosophy, but he never distracted, so the two people will only get better and more. Conversely, I have been satisfied in the human field for more than a dozen years, I am afraid that it is far from what he can understand. My wife has asked me, if I am willing to focus on a research area, is it at least to catch up with this classmate? I don't think so, two different temperament, destined to take two different ways. If we don't have to get it, we are not getting. If you take two people, you only see what he is got, but you can't see what he is lost. What is the meaning? Some Tsinghua Radio visited me: "How do you face your dilemma in your life?" I was there on the spot. I can't think of my life. Later, I recruited it carefully, I found that I didn't have a predicament, but I was treated as a "dilemma", I was treated as a moment, I didn't think about it. When I first served the military service, the eldest son has been born but can't find a job. I have anxious, but I feel that I will have work sooner or later, the reward is not low, I have never put it too much. During the Master of Masters, the family relying on the salary of the wife, saving and eating, nothing to do with me. As soon as I am very energetic, I know that all this is to make my own opportunity to go to teach (do what I want to do). Thirty-one is going to go abroad, and classmates are going to be taught, I am very nervous (I don't know how to ask the Cambridge), but I have never been killed. Because I know that I have been working hard, I have a very satisfying experience and achievement, but others can't see it. I have not been predicament, because I never care about the loss of external, and I don't worry about it with others, but only care about myself. I have not been predicament, because I really understand that life is a long-term and sustained accumulation process, which will never have dramatic fluctuations because of a single event. At the same time, I also believe that it is about us, sooner or later, it will not be able to get it, even if you can't increase it. If you can hold the same belief, then life will be broad and long, there is no "dilemma", and there is no anxiety.
