Http://www.sina.com.cn 2005/02/01 10:39 International Online Voice Explain: If you don't listen properly, please click here Administrators and Authoriity Figures Like to Speak in Clichés. All my life I heard the Same Trite Line: "You Can Tell a Lot About a Person by the Friends the Black of The Honors Program, i Hung Out with the so-caled" DURINGY FRESHMAN YEAR, NOT A Day Went by When A teacher or family member did not deride my closest friends and warn me that by hanging out with "bad seeds" I would fall into a downward spiral, never graduate college, and have a miserable life. They thought that they had me figured out. One day, while my ninth grade math teacher, Mr. Pedersen, was reviewing some math concepts with me, my friend Mariam ran by the classroom, stuck her head in the doorway, called out: "Hi Yassee," and then ran away Mr. Pedersen Looted At Me Coldly and Said With A Scowl: "How Can You Call yourself an HONORS Student? A real Honors Student Doesn't Associate with people like like this!" I Wante d to ask him how he could call himself a teacher; after all, a real teacher is supposed to want to help everyone Instead, I sat silent, stunned by his ignorance and cruelty He wanted me to drop my childhood friends simply because they.. DIDN '
t place the same importance on schoolwork that I do. If he had thought before speaking, he would have realized that people like him, rather than people like my friends, are better able to turn good students into poor ones by discouraging them with ridiculous comments . I would never slight Mariam. One of my closest friends in freshman year, she was also a below average, non-college bound student. Many of the adults in my life, especially my parents and teachers, would look at those closest to me : Mariam, Alisa, Zena, Lianne, and Marvin, and ask how I could call these "low-life losers" my friends But such questions show a lack of understanding of the nature of friendship friendship is unconditional and uncritical, based only.. on mutual respect and the ability to enjoy each other 's company. These authority figures never saw the way one of us could do something outrageous, and the rest of us would joke about it for days. We could have fun doing absolutely nothing at all -Because the c ompany we provided each other with was enough. Rather than discussing operas, Lewinsky, or the weather, we enjoyed just hanging around each other without any one of us trying to outsmart the others. Still, I realize that these adults had a point to be Concerned About The Direction My Friends Were Heading; I Also Was Concerned for Them, But I WASN '
t about to leave them. Many times I would advise my friends that some activity may be dangerous or to think things through before doing something, but I would never claim to hold the moral high ground and to condescend to them. When Marvin would begin rolling joints, when Alisa would tell me she skipped school because of a hangover, or when Mariam would tell me that her new boyfriend was in a street gang, I expressed my discomfort with their actions. However, I never blackmailed them with the threat of taking my friendship away. Contrary to the commercials on television, you can have friends who use drugs. In fact, probably everyone does without realizing it. In my junior year, AP US History class, the teacher, Mr. Jacobsen, addressed the class saying : "I Bet None of You Have EVER Seen A Drug DEAL!" With a Look of Absolute Certainty and An Odd Smile on His Face He Scanned The Room. "IANSWERED. Everyone in The Room" Room Turned to Look At Me, Either Gaspi ng or in disbelief. I realized that maybe my experiences thus far were atypical of most of my honor student friends. Despite our varying experiences, I still maintained many friends who were excellent students. Yogita, Nitin, Hans, Vishal, Saurabh, Anuj, Nick, and I have had almost every class together since eighth grade. Nitin and I both love to shop and eat. What is different about shopping with Nitin, however, is that we argue about the necessity of a high sales tax or discuss the effectiveness Of The Acting Welfare System. Yogita and i always go to the library together and "pull all nighters"
at her house. While I do enjoy accomplishing my academic goals and working with this highly motivated group of friends, I also enjoy "the losers," who to me seem much more sincere and loyal. In retrospect, I would not change my ninth grade experience, because I learned many of life 's important lessons from my friends and the ignorance of teachers and administrators. It's sad to say, but in many of my friends' dangerous actions, I saw what I never wanted to become. in the future, I 'd like to continue helping adolescents, in addition to my studies. I have been fortunate thus far in being able to reach out to them through programs like CHANGE For my efforts, I have been recognized and was honored to receive the 1998 Operation Pride Youth Award for my dedication to helping other kids live a substance free lifestyle. My familiarity with teenagers from all walks of life greatly enhances my ability to both identify with and influence others. I will be a successful adult in the future BECAUSE I am Willing to work with eveningone and to give every a chance. Hopefully, I will also have the chance to change other kids' lives for the better. Friendship friendship - my most precious wealth is short-shaded and authoritative Use some Chen to abuse lesson. It is always in my ear: "There is a class, people with a group." I am an alternative to excellent students, and I often have a so-called "post-evolution" into one. When the university was first grade, no one day was not in the teacher or the elders of the family, they were spent about my close friends, they warned that if they continue to mix with these "bad things", I will be trapped in the territory, since then. Decheng, university graduation, no hope, a miserable life. In their view, these are all loyal to the ear, and I teach me to identify it is not black and white. One day, the ninth grade mathematics teacher Peterson is reviewing the concept of mathematics, and the friend Mary An just has passed the classroom, and the probe called "Hey, Yas" ran away. Mr. Peterson is cold, I am unfortunate: "How do you match the title of 'excellent students'? The real 'excellent student' will not be stirred with these people." I stunned. I would like to ask, how can he be called a real teacher; after all, the real teacher should be happy to help others.
However, I chose to keep silent, just sit quietly, shocked it shallow and cold; he hopes that I have a clear line with my childhood, the reason is just because they don't pay attention to the school as I have. If Mr. Peterson has been thinking about it after thinking about it, he will realize that it is not my friend, but they are doing this colorful glasses, and the words that are thin and thin will make students become a poor students. I will never look at one of the first grade friends, although she is a result of the university, with the university. Many adults around me, especially teachers and parents, it is difficult to understand how I can be with Marien, Alisa, Zona, and Mawen these "thorough losers" so close. Their doubts showed that they lack understanding of friendship nature. Friendship is unconditional, no prejudice; each other respects each other, and likes to be with each other, it is friendship. These authorities will never understand why we will be happy for some small things. When we are together, even if you don't do anything, you will be happy - because everyone gathers together is enough; don't talk about drama, Le Wenuski or the weather, everyone just enjoy the shade of it. No one has to race the brain, think of how to do a higher, and it is better than the best. However, I know those adults are worried about my friend's future; I also have the same feeling, but I have not intended to be with them. So I often remind them that some activities are very dangerous, or I want to think about something before, I will never participate in them; when Ma Wen wants to try the taste of marijuana, or Alisa told I escaped between the class because of the hangover, or Maryan said that her new boyfriend is a small confusion on the street, I just felt uneasy, but I never thought of threatening them. Unlike TV commercials, you may also make friends with drug abuse. In fact, perhaps everyone has such experiences, but they don't realize. At the United States, the American historical course is jumped. - Now historical overview, a total of two semesters.) The teacher of Yabosen said to the whole class: "I bet, you have never seen drug transactions!" Then use the confident eyes to sweep the whole class, and face it on the face. Strange smile. "I have seen it!" I replied. Everyone's eyes are focused on me, or in a breath, it is absorbed or exhibits distrust. I realized that I might be an alternative in excellent students. Although we have different, I still have some good friends. My friend Jida, Nesi, Hans, Visa, Saro, An Net, Nik, almost never missed after the eighth grade. I like to visit the mall and eat with Nitin. The difference between shopping with her shopping is the need for we will argue to levy high sales tax, or discuss the effectiveness of the current welfare system. My friends often go to the library, and I review it before the exam. Successful success makes me feel a sense of accomplishment, I like to work together with a friend who is full of friends; but I am also very happy to play with "postgraduate", in my opinion, they are more sincere and loyal. Looking back, I don't want to change the nine-grade experience, because I have learned many of my life from a friend and the prejudice of teachers and leaders. Of course, I am very sad to say that many of the dangerous behaviors of my friends have become my former car. In the future, in addition to learning, I am still very happy to help youth. So far, I am fortunate to get more people through courses like c.a.n.ge. I am committed to helping other children build a meaningful and free lifestyle, and I have gradually been recognized, I have obtained the 1998 Practice Outstanding Youth Award.
