Green life original love
Zhang Guoqing (a young scholar, a Chinese Academy of Social Sciences, China)
Many years ago, the campus streams a "good woman is a school" article. Although it hastily through the campus every day, the open-minded text of this paragraph of the ear is a different opinion that I have different opinions with the past, began to realize the responsibility of love and love.
It is also from that time, in the "green life" I pursued, the original color love has always played an extremely important role, which is the purest color in this life, and the most simple and powerful in life. power. Just like Yasbeles, "A person has only seen it in the eyes of love his eyes, because the real love is not blind, it makes people's eyes bright." A true and beautiful Love is not only a great way to develop self-potential, but also the spring rain and sun of the soul.
After witnessing a lot of emotions, I gradually realized that the most essential power of this primary color love lies in it's true, this kind of truth is close to the heart and heart, and it is also close to people and nature. the distance. When a person can truly face yourself, when you face your own feelings, he will not only rejoice because of the direction of life, but also trust the feelings and sense of responsibility for this feeling. This feeling makes people feel more. Far, no matter how hard and hardships can be unswerving, it is fun.
More importantly, this real feeling will make you an important commitment to yourself and others, and this commitment makes people firm, and people have matured. As a psychologist said, the secret of success is that the secret of luck, the secret of luck is to make a commitment, and the secret of commitment is to love you.
In fact, there is only everything you love you, you will be willing to make a promise, otherwise, you are joking with yourself and others, even if you don't care about the material cost, or you can't avoid the loss of opportunities. - When you are together with a person, you can't be with another person; when you put in your own feelings, you are likely to slow down on other things.
The sad thing I saw is that a girl university has been with the lovers from early night, and when the boy told her "I played enough", she looked back at the university era, but found In addition to the fight, others are almost blank, and the years and scenery she missed will never find back.
This may be the law of "tide". When you get, you will lose; when you pay, you must bear; and if you can't afford it, you must not intervene it easily. I agree with a writer, love is not a jade, but a very serious thing. Its "serious" not only refers to its significance, but it refers to it. It is precisely because of this, I decided that love is to learn, and the education of love may be one of the most important education in a person's life.
As we know, talent is natural, but cultivation is cultivated and learned. For others, understanding and caring for others, they need to learn after tomorrow. True love is an understanding and respect, and it is also a kind of tolerance. You can take it to him because you know that this world is very big, people 's hearts are there; and you can be tolerant, because you know, more broad than the sea. It is sky, which is broader than the sky, should be a human mind.
In my green life, the realm I pursue is: After successful, I still have a real and transparent heart, and this is the most important person who I am relieved in my life. Good promise. Perhaps God deliberately let us meet a few people who have a noisy person before encountering life, so that we can learn to cherish this late gift, but in the process of this long wait and wait I learned to be patient and calm, learn to understand and understand, learn to respect each other and communicate with heart, and this is the best gift to us in the years. Big big harvest is, love education and careful waiting for me to understand that green life is the most needed to respect the feelings of others and honestly face themselves. And often, one person only does not grieve himself, will not be wronged others; only knows that he is a trust and respect will be obtained. It's hard to imagine that if a person does not respect his feelings and the body, he will respect others? Will others respect him?
Love, a mentality preparation
Psychological adviser of paint red (Beijing Hetrong Power Enterprise Management Consultant Co., Ltd.)
Love, if you can be prepared, it is fine. Love, if we can't encounter when we can't meet the prevention, it is not nervous.
Everyone has already begun in love from a birth, and the first person we love is of course our mother, then the first person to raise our people (may be mother, father, grandparents, parents and many more). So there is an experience in love everyone, let alone love or a human instinct, like a birthplace. There is a congenital endowment, and there is a lot of experience from a birth, so it is already prepared when he (she) enters youth.
However, why is the quality and ability of love seem to have a high part? That may be related to our so-called "preparations", this so-called "preparation" is actually about the publicity and education of love. We are in education, education, let us think that the so-called "love" is an ideal state and an absolute standard. In this way, we will look for our ideal love, and when you use a standard to measure it, then we will feel that our ideals is too hard to find, our love can not reach the standard, then we I will suspect that it is not enough to prepare for it, I will understand that there is so many setbacks and loss of love in love; if it will reflect, it will prepare more for more to experience more. The success of love.
If you say that love is ready, then the so-called preparation is in the concept "Don't have too absolute strips for love, love is different from person to person, the thousand people have each side, love is also the case."
If love is not ready, it is because every experience related to love is natural, it is understandable.
Love is a variety of performance methods, love has a variety of coats, love can seek to surveillance. Understand the diversity of love, understand the difference in love.
