Three conquerous fear and establish confidence
Cultivating confident is the main purpose of Carnegie curriculum training. Most of the participants said that although they also got other benefits, the increase in self-confidence was the most important gain. How does Carnegie do this? He asked for every student in the class, at least in each class, at least a classmate who is happy and willing to encourage, "participation" can cultivate confidence that overcomes fear. Carnegie and his teacher conversation, asked Carnegie curriculum training as a tool to break the fear and establish confidence. He said: "Take the Carnegie course as a trainer of interpersonal relationships, as a new way of life, because the facts are true. After the fear, after the establishment of confidence, his vision is wider, and the field is wide. "Car Niki understands that graduates can encourage new students more than the teacher's speech. He suggested that you will invite the students who have just graduated to attend" newborn classes ".
And have the opportunity to report this experience is how happiness. He also suggested that he will graduate, confidence, to enhance what is the benefits of their body and spirit, and help what they work and life. Carnegie warns his teacher to remember their responsibility is: "Conquer the fear and cultivate, courage and confidence". Helping a person to get courage and confidently in daily life, let him speaking in front of a group. He said: "Because we know that criticizing a person's pronunciation, grammar, tone and gesture, will only increase - instead of removing - a person's self-fear, so we don't criticize these. Only let him get a sense of accomplishment After a sense of victory, it can help him cultivate courage and confidence. "Mary Weili is a blind man, she participated in the card Naji course in New York City. She guided by the blind dog to the classroom. In the head in class, Mary was afraid to post a conversation before the classroom, and the teacher and classmates did all ways to encourage and help her overcome this fear. After a few weeks, Mary is no longer very reluctant to walk to the front. Soon, she complained that the people in the class were too guarded, she said she would be treated as others. After a few weeks, Mary participated in another class, did not hesitate, fear or uneasy, and she published a good conversation to the new group of people. In the graduation talk, she stressed that she has already got enough courage, she wants to resign to the current work, find a good treatment, and make her love. The students have written a good recommendation letter for her, sending it to hire her boss. Cultivating courage is the fundamental of all Carnegie courses, which incentives for each course. Carnegie quoted military leaders, famous movie stars, singers, and political leaders, they all admitted that they would lose their courage in a lifetime, and Carnegie pointed out how they overcome feared and facing difficulties. A few years in Carnegie died, speaking at Milvi Business Association. He pointed out in summary: "I would rather pass confidence and courage to my children, not to leave millions of property." In a broadcast show, the host asked him: "In addition to encouraging people, What other ways can you cultivate a person's courage? "He replied:" There is a thing that can be sure, that is, the courage is spending money and can't buy, cultivating the real courage is like you exercise strong The arm is the same. You know, even if you have Rockfeller plus Henry Ford's wealth, you can't ran to the gym to buy a pair of strong and powerful arms. But you cut the firewood, you can exercise strong powerful The arms. The same reason, you can cultivate courage as long as you use courage. "Tomorrow start, you will do something you are afraid to do, I used to say: 'Be afraid to do things, Defescing is absolutely removing. 'What do you sit there? Don't do it, you will never cultivate courage. You only have to develop courage to in action. "Suppose you don't dare to meet someone, then you will worship him tomorrow, do what you are afraid. You may be afraid to go back and forth in front of his home or office door, then It is not as bad as you are afraid of as long as you are afraid of, and you will also support the views of Carnegie, wherever you are afraid. The most typical experience in these reports is the experience of Made Deng Xig, South Africa. This is the report of Robert Hao Jingshi, the Moderator, Madon. After her home, it is the stop of the sale of vegetables. She is not willing to go out to buy food. She can't buy her husband to buy. There is a painter to facilitate her house Brush paint, she is not willing to go out and painting, and the painter brushs the color.
"One night, her husband pays the tongue to say that she will participate in the 'Carnegie Demonstration Rally' and won the free to participate in the card Niki course. Called her name three times, her husband reluctantly pushed her to the walkway. When she walked on a podium, she was exuded with a fear. "Made participated in Carnegie courses." She is too nervous, so she heard the first class, she didn't fall asleep all night, and she shaken. Waiting for her to go to the third class, she found that the Carnegie class is the most exciting and happiest thing in her life. The Carnegie course pulled her from self-enclosed narrow days and suddenly became a challenge. "After the end of the card, Mada took the assistant of Carnegie courses. South African Broadcasting Company invited her to participate in the broadcast of 'Women's Time' shows. She said her own story in the show, and said that she experienced everything is A 'miracle'. "The same is the 'miracle' is that many business seniors have gained greater confidence, their lives and careers are greatly launched. Bill Mo Rui is now retired. He used to be a senior person in charge of a construction company in Phoenix, Arizona. He is not afraid to handle millions of dollars, but in front of a group, you can make him fear of both hands. trembling. In the Christmas conference held every year, he has to spend a speech for himself. After accepting Carnegi training, Bill not only delivered his speech, but also became the company and the major spokesperson of the entire architectural world in the United States. The woman who has just passed away, especially if I need to cultivate a bigger confidence. Their consequential life is often a husband, and their difficulties are unable to face the future by independent spirit. The speech in Carnegieban, and the support of the teacher friend, so that they have got courage and satisfaction, and they helped them rebuild meaningful life. Hasser Labor, Hussen, Michigan, Dragon, her husband, she wants to overcome the shock of losing her husband with travel. She travels to South America, Africa, India and the Soviet Union, and then travels two times. After traveling back, relatives and friends asked her to talk about travel. Mrs. Labor said: "Our college graduates, I have repaired the course of public speaking, but I have to speaking in front of the public, I am afraid to die. I also know if I only slide slide, and not explain the wonderful every place. Wherever everyone, everyone will feel very boring, and the Carnegie course helps me solve these two questions. "Carnegie believes that the students must stand in front of the whole class, can overcome fear. He said: "No matter what the person stands up and talks." Even if he or she is afraid to only say half of the sentence, this person should congratulate, because he did one thousand people to have a courage. What to do - Improving the most important person in the world - this person is myself. "This way, the training, maybe it may be the best way to eliminate fear, cultivate courage and confidence, how to say? Because when a fear of a group of people, he could overcome the fear of himself, for others and the life itself, he has a new idea, so he is encouraged, and dare to do and complete it before. I didn't think about what I could do. The first step of cultivating courage is to see the attitude of people who are afraid. We should remember the ambient motto of the ancient Roman emperor and philosopher Makas Oriss: "What is our life looks like this is determined by our ideas." Carnegie and his assistant, how to cultivate the courage The topic has been a wide and in-depth study, and they have studied books on the living conditions of the great men and women. Card resistant people also discuss how they overcome difficulties with many famous characters to achieve their goals, like President Rozford, Charlis Schwab, Wireline, inventor Marcni, Helen Keller, and many other famous characters They have said how they overcome difficulties, establish confidence, and eventually achieve success.
Wah Yang is a famous figure that enhances himself from silently and poor. Once in the broadcast visitor, he told Ka Niki in his story. At this time he is one of the most successful insurance salesmen in the United States, and one of the largest salesmen in the world. He also wrote five books, of which The four are more popular. Yang said that his past poverty and has not been educated. He said that he once wanted to jump out of suicide from the window of the hotel. He said: "I have drank a lot of whiskey, I want to get the courage to jump out the window. But I drink too much. I forgot to go to the window. Wake up the next morning, my situation is even more wolf. "This situation made Yang re-evaluated his life. He said to himself: "Suppose you have a factory originally want to make ice cream, and you find that it does not produce ice cream, and actually produces carbonated, what kind of action do you have to take? Vah Yang, you have a thought Factory, it is in your heart. You have this factory, you can dominate this factory. But do you dominate this factory? I let this ideological factory become a group, my ideological factory produces some waste, production worry , Fear, envy, anger, self-humility, mourning, unhappy and poverty. I don't want these waste, no one wants these waste. "After the enemy of self, I turned another friend. I suddenly realized that change my idea can change my life. I abide by the Bible: 'What I think of a person, what he will become. "It is not easy to win this war. Yang Xiang should cultivate nine quality: love, courage, pleasant, active, mercy, friendliness, generosity, tolerance, and fair. He often resists the idea he doesn't want." My The practice is, "Yang said," I am arguing against the idea I don't want. I took this situation as a kind of contest, and I found out the idea of envious or fear, I quietly climbed into the door of my mind, I will immediately say, 'You go to the river. You have ruined my life in the past - now, don't come again! "If the attitude is the foundation of establishing confidence, the determination is the skill of integrating attitude into life. Carnegie in his book, the speech, private consultation, and in the class." If we are really Improve yourself, we must develop new habits. Our life, our character is just the accumulation of our habits, our habits are our own. "Carnegie often said the four principles of American psychologists and philosophers William James to help people cultivate new, ideal habits:" 1, start with all of you can have. Talking about how to cultivate new habits, no one mentioned Bangjie Ming Franklin, and Franklin booked a table when they were young, listed that he had to cultivate the thirteenth characteristics, he called it 13 o'clock . Every week, he concentrates on a virtue. After thirteen weeks, he started from the beginning and repeatedly. He understands how habits are just repeated - and repetition is habit. "Most people in us, sometimes very good decisions, but in a long time, we will forget it. Franklin will not forget, keep it on day. He takes this effort as a game competition. Never let your enthusiasm cool down. Therefore, our first principle we learned from Franklin is: If you want to cultivate new habits, then you will start all your own enthusiasm, seeing new habits as you The most important thing in my mind. Then new habits will naturally bring your wonderful things and constantly remind you. New habits may enhance your health, maybe you will increase your feathers, income or your self-esteem. Continue to use these Benefits remind you of yourself until you have a boiling point until you have a boiling point. "2, grab each chance to implement your new decision. I know a person named William Stimhand, he is a person who is a bitter, but after I talked to a smile, he decided to start learning smiling, and he did not hesitate to start.
"The next morning he began to learn smile. From this day, you can see him smile every day. He smiled at everyone he met, he had never seen him for those who have never seen him. People smile. "3, don't allow yourself to have a failure. Van Wenke Every time I drunk, I said this time. 'You can't learn him. Professor William James once pointed out: 'One lost is like a woolen ball to the ground. The shuttel is going to spend a lot of time. Therefore, you will take it on the ground, you will spend a lot of time to get it around it. '"4, burn the bridge behind you. Caesar through the English Channel, led his army to log in to the place of England today, he will do this. Of course, he burned is not a bridge, but it is a boat, His boys were burned. He told his army. They did not retreat in the enemy. They only be able to move forward, conquer, and they did to advance, conquer. "Now you do I want to cultivate a New habits, then learn Caesar's way, so that we have no way to retreat backward. "How to turn these ideas into action in the classroom? Students often have praised, applaud and rewards from teachers and students, and they are encouraged. This mutual support is more than comment, teaching, reading inspirational articles or private Consulting can more cultivate confidence. Additional encouragement: Report is rewarded, the effectiveness of the principles used to use interpersonal relationships, and the facts that enhance confidence because of control worries. If each student is full of courage, then of course is very good But in fact, it is not the case, many students still need to continue to strengthen and encourage, and every class can make students add some confidence, because the classmates applauded, teachers praise, reward, rest time, no matter Or after class, you can consult with Teacher and Teacher. Just as the Mik Standz, Shidton, Texas said: "When I just moved to Houston, there was no friend, very lonely, I I am very sad in my heart, but I have no courage to go out with people. Carnegie courses gave me confident. Since I accepted Carnegi training, friends I got in the past two years were more than I moved to Houston City. Now everyone comes to find me, tell me suggestions. And before years ago, I also hope that there is a person I can tell my heart, but now I am an object of others. "Taking the main line of Carnegie various courses is to help people cultivate confidence. It is the theme of the salesman class, if the salesman doesn't have confidence, how can people ask people to believe and buy their products or services? The same reason, Customer Relationship Duty. Norman Scy, General Manager of Petersburg Pepsi, Virginia, assigned a lot of staff to participate in customer relationships. He said: "This class makes my staff confident - believe in themselves, make it They have confidence and ability to express themselves. Many of these people are drivers. They have not been educated, but after their confidence is increased, they can do things more efficient, and the most important thing is that they can upgrade their intermediate management positions. "They have confidence, this performance is in their ability to discuss management. They express their opinions, views, have benefits to the entire company." In 1974, Washington Seattle City The US military team ranking station, using the card Naji salesman class to assist their random soldiers to absorb and persuade young men and women to join the Marine Corps. Do you need to cultivate confidence? They may be very confident to face the enemy, but to persuade others again. The commander of this fundraightener write a letter to the Ken Harui, who hosted the card Naji course at that time, and said: "In the fourth, fifth, June period of 1974, a group of land fighters in our fundraising station, Accept the training of Carnegie sales staff.
"In the Seattle Fundraightener Station, a raised soldier can raise four a month. The three is excellent." We compare this group and another set of comparisons without the training of Carnegie. At the end of March 197, the average of each raised army was raised from two o'clock to the land team. By the end of March 197, a group of rises without training to an average of three four-point new soldiers per random soldier, and a group of Qaai's sales training will rose to an average of each random. The month will raise three nine new recruits, only the standard of Dattere. The biggest difference between the two groups is that people who have been trained will handle their daily work with confidence. This kind of confidence and sales of sales, in my opinion, is the direct effect of training. "There is a thirty-three-year-old truck salesman in the first graduation student, named John Wei Shite. John and his friends decided, in the battle of the resurrection Baiyangya, the first step is to choose one New Mayor, this mayor must support their plans. The current mayor does not do anything, and the Miss Master of the City Council is the batch of so-seizure guys who will be died in Poplar. John is It is recommended to come out and the current campaign. Because of the support of the students in Carnegiebu, he can clearly express his views clearly and enthusiastically, he is easily elected as the mayor. After office, John Wei Shite Immediately develop the first batch of plans to rebuild Baiyang Cliff. The things that need to be done must be done. The funds must be raised. Emergency improvement has a rebuilt drainage system and establish a power plant, which will spend a million US dollars. The street pavement oil and the new road have two million dollars. The mayor and the city council have adopted the necessary legislation in order to launch these programs. Another graduation student in Carnegieban is Lu Shi Nide He is the boss of the Baiyang Cliff Supermarket, nominated as Chairman of the Drainage System Reconstruction Committee. He must make this main program to pass, raise funds, must put the vote of the city's people. Shi Nide is a silent youth, This turns into a vibrant person due to ideals. He gave a conversation to the masses and went to visit, carefully explained, so that the people of all white Yangya did understand the meaning of this step. His enthusiasm and self-confidence make the public It's more pleasing to accept his opinion. When the new drainage system project proposed a vote, three of the people of Baiyang cliff voted to support tickets. John Wei Shite strives to bring new vitality for the municipality, Carnegie class Other graduates have also been selected for the Education Committee. Due to their efforts, adopted a plan for $ 1300,000 bonds, enabling them to build new junior high school and high school school buildings. So, the Carnegie course is What did the Baiyang cliff do? "Carnegie training gave courage, so I can stand up. "Lu Shi Nide said." Carnegie courses teach me how to ignite enthusiasm in my town ... From the results, it is worth it. "Pitt Galura said." Carnegie's course made me learn how to change others without any person. "Mrs. Aijerry, President Park Club. We take the active behavior to regenerate our city, this is the inspiring of more than two hundred Carnegie graduates, the Mayor of John Wei Shite said "They encourage interest, strive to support, so that the municipal improvement work and expansion industry have benefited the city. We are very happy to karene to Baiyang Cliff to start. "Here, we used Dr. Harry Emerson, Dr. Fu Dick, said:" On the hillside of the Colorado Great Mountain, a big tree is full of body, it has four hundred Many years of history. In its long life, it was shot 14 times, and there were countless wind storms attacked it, it all did not move. Finally, a team of beetle made it on the ground.
