Second, forgiven enemy
"If selfish people want to take you cheap, don't pay attention to them, don't want to retaliate. When you want to pull him flat, you hurt yourself, more than hurting the person ..." During the words, it seems that what idealist is said, it is actually. This passage appears on a notice issued by the Milvi Police Department. How can I hurt you? There are many hurts. According to the report of "Life" magazine, the retaliation will even harm you health. "The main characteristics of patients with hypertension are easily indignant." "Life" magazine said, "If anger is not angry, long-term high blood pressure and heart disease will come." Carnegie said, now you should understand the so-called "Jesus" Love your enemy ", not just a moral lesson, and is a medical medicine in a twentieth century. He is teaching us how to avoid hypertension, heart disease, gastric ulcers and many other diseases. A friend of Carnegie recently issued a serious heart disease, the hospital ordered him to lying in bed, no matter what happened, no matter what happened. Doctors know that people who are weak, a temper may send their lives. In Washington State, Hemoven, there is a restaurant boss because of being angry. Carnegie has a letter from Jerry Shiwat, Director of Washington State Stellen Police Station. The letter said: "Before a few years, a sixty-eight-year-old William Chuan Camber, opened a small restaurant in Shifeng Cai, because his cook must drink coffee in the tea disc, but make him live alive At that time, the boss of the small restaurant was very angry, grab a left round gun to chase that cook, and since the heart attack is falling to death - the hand is also tightly grabbed the gun. The report of the corpse declares: He caused heart attack because of anger. "When Jesus said," Love You ", he also tell us: How to improve our appearance. There are some women, their faces have wrinkles because of resentment, because remorse, the expression is stiff. No matter how beauty
The improvement of their appearance, nor is it half of her heart full of tolerance, gentle and love. Resentful psychology, even destroy our enjoyment of food. The Bible said: "With a love to eat vegetables, it will be much better than to eat beef." If our enemy knows that our resentment makes us exhausted, we are tired and nervous, so that we The appearance is hurt, so that we have heart disease, and may even make our short life.
Do they not have a call? Even if we can't love our enemies, at least we have to love us; we have to make the enemy can't control our happiness, our health and our appearance. Just like Shakespeare: "Don't ignite an anger because of your enemies, you will burn yourself." When Jesus Christ said, we should forgive our enemy "seventy seven times", he is also Teach us how to do business. George Rhone was a lot of lawyers in Vienna, but during the Second World War, he fled to Sweden, and it is necessary to find a job. Because he can say and write a few languages, I hope to find a secretary's work in an import and export company. Most companies have reply to tell him, because they are fighting, they don't need to use this category, but they will exist his name ... Wait. However, there is a person who has said to George Rhône's letter: "You know more about my business. You are both wrong and stupid, I don't need any secretary who write letter for me. Even if I need it, I will not ask. You, because you can't even write the Swedish Wen Wen, the letter is all wrong. "When George Rona saw this letter, it was simply angry. So George Rhône also wrote a letter, and the purpose would like to make the person a lot of temper. But then he stopped and said to himself: "Wait a minute. How do I know this person is not right? I have tried the Swedish Wen, but it is not my hometown. Maybe I really have made a lot. I don't. I know the mistake. If this is the case, then I want to get a job, I have to work hard. This person may have a big busy, although he is not the case. He uses this difficult way to express his opinion, and I don't mean that I will not owe him, so I should write a letter to him, thank him in the letter. "So George Ronalded off his letter, and he wrote a letter. The letter said: "You are not too troublesome to write to me. It is very good, especially if you don't need a secretary who write a letter for you. I feel very sorry for the business of your company's business. I write to you, because I am in listening to others, and others introducing you to me, saying that you are the leadership of this line. I don't know if there are many Chinese laws in my letter, I think it is very Hey, it is also very sad. I am going to learn from Swedish, to change my mistake, thank you for helping me go to improve the way. "In less than a few days, George Rhone received the letter of the person Please go to see him in Rhone. Rhone went, and got a job. George Rhône found that "the mild answer can eliminate anger." We may not like the saints to love our enemies, but for our own health and happiness, we must at least forgive them, forget them, this is really Very smart thing. This is also a policy that the former New York Governor William Geno Geno. After he was attacked by an insider, he was hit by a madman and almost delivered. When he is lying in the hospital for life, he said: "Every night I forgive all things and everyone." Is this too ideal? Is it too easy, great? If so, let's take a look at the great German philosopher, which is the author of uncle of "pessimism". He believes that life is a kind of no-worthy risk. When he walked, it was painful, but he desperately, uncle said: "If possible, should not be People have an angeed psychology.
"There is a Carnegie once asked Barna Baru District - I have done six presidential consultants: Wilson, Had, Koli, Hoover, Roosevelt and Dulun - He will not attack him because of his enemies ? "No one can humiliate me or interfere with me," he replied, "I don't let them do. "No one can humiliate or trouble you and me - unless we let him do this." Sticks and stones may interrupt my bones, but speech will never hurt me. "Carnegie often stands in the Jess Pava National Park in Canada, looking up to the most beautiful mountain in the West, this mountain is named by Ii Fika Virk, commemorating the October 1915 Twelve days are like a saint, they are generous to death - a nurse who was shot by the Germans. What crimes have been made? Because she has a lot of injured France, the British soldier is also helped to escape to the Netherlands in Belgium. On October, the British priest walked into the military prison - her cell, when I was praying for her, I'm caught said two people who were engraved on the monument. Immortal Discourse: "I know that light is not enough, I must not have hostility and resentment for anyone. "Four years later, her body was transferred to the UK and held a burial ceremony in the Cathedral of Xitense Temple. Carnegie stayed in London for a year, often goes to the national portrait gallery to see the statue of Idi Cavel, At the same time, read her two immortal famous sayings: "I know that light is not enough, I must not have hostility and resentment for anyone. "There is an effective way to forgive and forget people who misunderstand your own, that is, let yourself do something that is absolutely exceeded outside our ability, so that we have encountered insults and hostility. Because we will not have The spirit is more ideal. For example, in 198, a great dramatic thing in the pine forest in Mississippi is almost triggered. Surlen Jones - one The black lecturer is almost burned. Carnegie once went to have a school created by Lawrence Jones, but also a speech for all students, the school can be a national whole country, but the following Things happened very early. During the First World War, the average human feelings were easy to urge, and there was a rumor in central Mississippi, saying that the Germans are inning to the black people. That is to be burned by them. Lawrence Jones is a black, someone accuses him to excite people's rebellion. A large group of white - outside the church - I heard that Lawrence Jones screamed loudly to his audience, "life is a battle! Every black must put on his armor to fight for survival and success. "These young people rushed out, gathered a big guy, returned to the church, tied this missionary, dragging him to one, let him stand on a large pile of cigles, And fired the match, prepared to use the fire to burnt him, and hang him. At this time, there is a person called: "Before we burn him, let this people who like to talk, talk!" "Lawrence Jones stands on the firewood, the neck is put on the rope, and published a speech for his life and ideals. He graduated from the University of Iowa in 1907, his pure personality and learning And his talents in music, make all teachers and students like him very much. After graduation, he refused a property left to him, and refused a plan to help him to continue to learn music. Why? Because he has a very high ideal. When he read the Baxl Washington biography, he was determined to dedicate his education to educate his poor in that family and no education.
So he returned to the pool of the south - the small place in the south of Jack Town, Mississippi, and after a six-fifth dollar bill, it was in the woods as a table, started His open-air school. Lawrence Jones tells those angry people, waiting to burn him, what he has done - educate those boys and girls who don't have passed school, training them to do farmers, mechanics, cooks ,housewife. He talked about that the white people have helped him establish this school - those white people gave him land, wood, pigs, cows and money, helping him continue his education. Later, someone asked Lawrence Jones, asking him if he would hate some people who dragged it out and prepared to hang and burn him? He replied: He is busy achieving his ideals, there is no time to hate others - he is a major event that exceeds him. There is no time to quarrel with others. He said, "I don't have time to regret it, and there is no one who can force me to hate him." At that time, Lawrence Jones was very sincere and touched. He didn't ask himself, and he only hoped that others understand his ideals. That group of mobs began to soften. Finally, there was a veteran of the people who have participated in the north-south war. "I believe this child is telling the truth, I recognize the white people he mentioned, he is doing a good thing, we get Wrong, we should help him without hanging him. "The veteran won his hat, transferred in the crowd, from those who burn the educator, raised 50 Two four-cents, handed over to Jones - this once said, "I have no time to quarrel with others, I don't have time to regret, and there is no one who can force me to hate him." Upper Trick Trick I have pointed out that we will be fruitful, regardless of how, fate can always give us a price. "Creating the bottom", I don't pay for his own mistake. People who can remember this will not be angry with anyone, will not argue with anyone, will not insult Others, blame others, violates others, hate others. "In the history of the United States, I am afraid that no one has been blamed, resentment and framing more than Lin will. But according to the biography, Lincoln but "never criticizes others with his own good evil. If there is any task to do, he will think that his enemy can do it as good as others. If a former has been humiliated before People, or people who have someone who own individuals, but the best candidates of a location, Lincoln will still let him take the position, just like he will send his friends to do this ... and he Also never because someone is his enemy, or because he doesn't like someone, it will lift the person's position. "Many people who were taken by Lincoln and lived in high positions. They used to criticize or humiliated him - ratio McIrland Edward Stanton and Chase. However, Lincoln believes that "no one will be praised because he did what he did, or because he did something or did not do anything," Because all people were conditioned, the situation, the environment, education, living habits and genetics Impact, making them now, and will always be this. "From small, Carnegie family will pick up the chapter sentence or verse from the Bible every night, then kneel down," Family Prayer ". He now seems to hear, in a lonely farm in Missouri, his father During the words of Jesus Christ: "Love your enemies, be happy to hate you; cursed you, you have to bless him; insult you, you have to pray for him. "Carnegie's father did this, but also made his inner heart to get the calm of the official and monarch. To cultivate peace and happiness, please remember this rule:" Let us never try to revenge our Enee, because if we do it, we will deeply hurt yourself.
Let us like the generals of Eisenhower, don't waste a minute, think about those we don't like. "Carnegie has encountered an angry businessman in Texas. The thing he angry happened before the 11 months, but his fire is still very unfortunate. That thing - he sent 34 employees for a total of 10,000 dollars of the year-end bonus, but no one thanked him. "I really regret it." He is very sharply complained, "should not give it a lot of money. Their. "Angry people," the ancient Shengxian said, "the psychology is full of angeation. "This person is full of angeation. Carnegie is very sympathetic him. He is about 60 years old. According to the calculation method of life insurance company, we can probably live to the age of 8. Two-thirds of the gap, so this gentleman - if he is lucky - may have 14 to fifteen years, but he is a waste of almost a year, come to blame The thing that has already passed. He shouldn't be immersed in an angeation and self-pity. He should ask himself: Why don't anyone feel grateful? Maybe he usually pays the salary of employees very low, but the work sent to them is too much. Perhaps they think that the year-end bonus is not a gift, but they spend labor, maybe he is generous to others, too disappointing, so no one dares or willing to thank him; maybe they feel that he is paying the year Bonus, because most of the benefits have to pay taxes. From the other hand, maybe those employees are very self-private, very bad, very polite. Maybe this, maybe it, we don't know how the truth, However, Dr. Sam, Johnson, said: "Thanks are the results of good education, can't find it in the average person. "Carnegie wants to say: This person hopes that others are grateful to him, is committing a common shortcomings of the average person - can be said to be completely unreasonable. If you save a person's life, do you want him to thank you? Will. However, Sam Riboviz is a famous criminal lawyer before serving as a judge, which has saved the life of seventy-eight people, so that they don't have to sit on the electric chair. Do you think how many people will thank the people? Vitz, or only send him a Christmas card? As for the problem of money, this is even more hopeful. Charles Shu Shobo once said, once he saved a cashier who misappropriated bank public funds. That person spent public money In the stock market, Shusanbo saved the person with his own money, so that he did not be punished. When the cashier is grateful? Yes, there is a short while. Then he turned to insult and criticize Shu Shobo. - This makes him free from the people who are in the arm. If you give a relative one million dollars, will you want him to thank you? Anzu Carnegie has done such a thing. But if Anzu Carnegie can From the grave, he will definitely find that relatives are cursing him. Why? Because Carnegie donated 3002 million US dollars to public charity - the relatives, "only gave a district Million dollars. "Things are the case, people are always people, I am afraid there will be no change in the date of him. So, why don't you accept this fact? Why don't you recognize the reality, like the smart Malcass Assassay of the Roman Empire The serge is the same. He has written in the diary: "I have to see those people who have a lot of people today - those who are selfish, self-centered, and I don't know how to be grateful. But I am neither surprised, it is not sad, because I can't imagine a world without such a person. "This is very reasonable. If you resent others everywhere, you should not know how you are grateful? Is it so blame? Is it true? What should we do? Let's try not to tell others to repay, then if We accidentally grateful, it will be an unexpected surprise; if we can't get it, it will not be sad.
Carnegie puts forward his first point to grievances: human nature is easy to forget to thank others, so if we give a little gratitude, I hope that others will give us a big headache. Carnegie recognized a woman living in New York, she often kept complaining because of loneliness, her relatives were willing to approach her - this is really not worthy. If you go to visit her, she will keep talking about her all kinds of good things. The niece she helped occasionally came to see her, just for the sense of responsibility. However, they are very afraid to see her, because they know that they must sit there for hours, listen to her turn around, but also listen to her endless complaints and self-pity. Later, this woman was unable to lure her niece. When she came to see her, she still had a "magic": heart attack. Is she true heart disease? Yes, the doctor said that she has a "very nerve heart" to have heart hypervision. But the doctors also said that they did not have a certain way, her problem is completely emotional. This woman really needs love and attention, but she called "Thanksgiving]. And she will never get gratitude and love, because she wants to ask it, she thinks that she should have. Women like this in the world don't know how much. These women are sick because of the "other people's forget", loneliness and being neglected. They hope that someone loves them, but in this world, the only way to be loved is no longer asking, and begins, and does not want to return. Is this like this sound too ideal? Not, this is just a common sense, this is a good way to make you and I get happiness. Carnegie has such an experience. His parents are very happy to help others, but their family is very poor - always debut, but although the poor, his parents always try to send some money to the orphanage every year. That is a Christian orphanage in Iowa. His father and mother have never seen there, maybe no one has thank them for their money - except for writing - but they have received very rich, because they get the fun of helping orphans, and I don't want to be grateful or waiting for others. When Carnegie leaves home, the annual Christmas will send a check to the parents, let them buy a little extravagant. But they rarely do this. When he returned to the family a few days before Christmas, his father would tell him that some coal and groceries sent to the town some "poor women" - those have a lot The child has no money to buy food and firewood. They also get a lot of happiness when they send these gifts - just that they have to pay, and don't want to get any rewards. Carnegie believes that his parents are eligible for people in Aristotle, which is the most happy person. "The ideal person," Aristotle said, "Schoishi is ashamed because of others, but it will be ashamed because of others. Because it can express the benevolence is a high-level, and the benefits of others can be sent, but represent the low person. "The second key to Carnegie is to say is that if we want to get happiness, we don't want to be grateful or forgive, and enjoy the happiness of the application. I have been very sad for my children for thousands of years. The Lear of Shakespelli also said: "A child who is grateful is more sharp than the teeth of the poisonous snake." But why the children should be grateful - unless we teach them. Forgetting is the nature of humanity, just like a wild grass, and thanks, it is like a rose, you must fertilize, water, and give it to teach, love and protect it. If our children have forgive me, why should I blame? Maybe we should blame us. If we have never taught them how to expressed grateful to others, how can we want to express our gratitude? We must remember that the behavior of children is completely caused by parents. So we still have to remember: I have to teach the children who want to report to the map, I have to know grateful.
