Five treatment good marriage life
The art of art also includes the art of giving together and family life. Carnegie once experienced a failure marriage, but he finally got sincere love and a beautiful family. He summed up the art of dealing with marriage life from his personal experience. A magazine of the United States published an article of "marriage why problems" in Amart Cruise in June 1933. The following issues are selected from this article. When you answer these questions, you may find these questions. If your reply is "Yes", you can get very much. Ask her husband's question: 1. Are you still "pursuing" your wife? If you occasionally send her a bunch of flowers, remember her birthday and marriage commemoration, or she is expected to be affixed, not her considerate consideration. 2. Do you pay attention to it never criticize her in front of others? 3. In addition to the family expenses, do you still give her some money, let her use it free? 4. Do you spend your own emotional problems in all aspects and help her spend tired, nervous and uneasy? 5, do you have at least half of the entertainment time, talk to your wife? 6, in addition to displaying her strengths, is you witnessed to avoid your wife's cooking crafts and scientific skills compare your mother or a certain person? 7. For her knowledge life, her club and society, what she looks at, and her view of the local administration, do you have some interest? 8. Do you let her dance with other men, accept their friendship, and will not say some vinegar? 9. Do you always pay attention to the opportunity to praise her, indicating that you appreciate her? 10. About her little thing to do for you, such as stitches, add socks, send clothes to wash, would you thank her? Asked Mother's question: 1. Do you make your husband have complete freedom to deal with there, and avoid criticizing the people who interact, his secretary, or free time he reserved? 2. Do you try our best to taste and attractive? 3, do you often change the taste, make him unclear what you will eat when he sits on the table? 4, for your husband's career, do you have an appropriate understanding so that you can do a good discussion? 5. When you are constant, you can face this situation courageously, you don't criticize your husband's fault, or to make him a comparison with the success of him? 6. Do you have a special effort to get along with his mother or other relatives? 7. When you choose clothes, do you pay attention to his love on color and style? 8, for the family harmony, are you sacrificing a little opinion? 9. Do you try our best to learn your husband's favorite hobby, so as to share your stay? 10. Do you read today's news, new books and new technologies, in order to cooperate with your husband in intellectual interest? For these issues, you may have the same answer, but you can reflect the situation and feelings between the couples, which is beneficial to our further development of good couples. Carnegie believes that in the life of the couple, it should be particularly vigilant to have some factors in the relationship between the couple. He first talked about the problem. Carnegie said that in hell, the devil invented the total number of vicious ways invented in order to destroy love, 唠 是 is the most powerful. It will never fail, just like a cobra, always destructive, always cause people to live. The Mrs. Tols Tetthai also found this - it was too late. Before she died, she admitted to a few daughters: "It is, I killed your father.
"Her daughters know that her mother said, and they know that she is constantly complaining, never finished criticism and never ending, and killing her father. From all respects, Torste Thai And the wife should be a pair of happiness. Two great "War and Peace" and "Anna Carlinina" laid the status of Torste in the world literature. Tolste is too famous, worshiping him The people follow him, and they are not happy with each word he say. "I think I want to go to bed," I have such words. In addition to the name, Torste and his wife also have wealth, social status, child The world has never like this marriage. When they start, their happiness seems to be too perfect, too sweet, will be white-headed. Therefore, two people are squatting together, praying all-round God, forever constantly putting happiness Give them. However, the good view is not long, Torste will slowly change, become a completely different person. He is ashamed of his own masterpiece, starting from that time, dedication to writing some propaganda and peace, and abolishing War and poor brochure. Tobene admitted that when he was young, I committed everything that I imagined - even including murder, he tried to follow the words of Jesus, give your own industry to Others, live a poor life. Work on the field, cutting the firewood, doing shoes, sweeping, using a wooden bowl, and trying to love his enemy. Torsti's life is a tragedy, and The reason why the reason is that his marriage. His lady love gorgeous, but he didn't usually. She loved the reputation and social praise, but these virtual floating things, but she is eager to wealth, but He believes that wealth and private property are sinful things. For many years, since he insists that the copyright of the work is not given to others, she has been embarrassed, scolding and crying. She wants to take back the book Money that can be earned. When he ignored her, she got hysterically, rolling on the ground, holding a bottle of opium, vowing to commit suicide, and threatening to jump well. When Torsort 82 When he was old, he couldn't stand the tragic situation in his family. So in October 191, he fled his wife - fled the darkness of the cold. I don't know where to go. Good. After eleven days, he died in a train station due to pneumonia. The request before the death is that it is not to come to him. This is the Mrs. Tobette, complained, and hysterical. The result. Lincoln's big tragedy is also his marriage, not his assassination. After Bus fired, Lincoln did not save personnel, never know that he was killed; but before this One day, what he got? According to the partner of his law firm, it is "the bitter fruit of marriage misfortune. "Almost in a quarter of the century, Lincoln said with him, harassing him, so that he would not complain about this, complaining, always criticizing her husband; his everything, never right She complained that he did not have elasticity, the gesture was not elegant; she imitated that he took the way and smiled, asked him to walk, and as she learned from Lady Monger, Mrs. Meng Den. His two. Only big ears, the horizontal is long, she doesn't like it. She doesn't even say that his nose is not straight, the lips are too high, the hands and feet are too big, and the head is too small. Abraham Lincoln and Marie Tao De, is the opposite of all aspects; education, background, temper, hobbies, and ideas. They often make the other party unpleasant.
For example, Lincoln couples have just got married, and the Mrs. O'Cs, who is Biki, Lu, who is a doctor who is a doctor, the environment makes it to rent a house and provide meals. One morning, the Lincoln couple are having breakfast, Lincoln did something, causing a violent temper. Mrs. Lincoln was in the anger, put a cup of hot coffee on her husband's face, and there were many other tenants present. The jealousy of Lincoln is so stupid, violent and unable to believe that as long as she reads her sad and outstanding scene in public occasion - and after seventy years later - people surprised No. She finally finally came crazy. She is tempered, perhaps, is affected by her initial mental illness. Such a jealousy, cursed, lose his temper, will it change Lincoln? From a certain aspect, Lincoln has changed. Indeed, he has changed his attitude towards her, and he really regrets unfortunate marriage, and makes him try to avoid her with her. At that time, the lawyers in Chun Tian Town had a total of eleven. It is not easy to earn a living fee; therefore, when the judge David Tetham is present, they ride the horse and follow him, from a county to Another county. In this way, they can get some businesses in the towns of the county county governments in the eighth judicial area. Every Saturday, other lawyers want to go back to Chunsian Town, and their families will spend the weekend. But Lincoln does not return to Chun Tak Town - he is afraid to go home. Spring three months, then in autumn for another three months, he stayed outside as the tour court, and he did not take near Chunfu Town. The situation in the countryside is often very bad; but despite bad, he is rather stayed in the hotel, but he is not willing to return to his home to listen to his wife's jealousy and suffering from her violent temper. These are the consequences of Lincoln and Tolstit Mrs. They bring the tragedy to life. They destroy all the most precious things they are. Beth Hanberg is in the 11th year of the New York City Furniture Relations, and she has tried a few thousand abandoned cases. She said that one of the main reasons why men left the family - because Mrs is not stopping. Or, like the Tailon Post: "Many ladies kept sculling the graves of the marriage." So if you want to maintain the happiness of your family life, please remember: "Absolutely you can't ignite. "The above is the hazard of a woman jealous with marriage life, which is for his wife. But marriage is between men and women, so I will talk about my advice to my husband. Since ancient times, the flowers are considered to be the language of love. They don't have to spend how much you have, especially in the flower season, and some people sell in the corner. However, from the husband to buy a bunch of daffodils, you may think that they are as expensive as orchids, like a thin cloud grass on the cliffs of the Alps into the cliffs of the clouds. Why wait until Mrs. Miao is hospitalized, only to buy a bunch of flowers for her? Why not buy a bunch of roses for her tomorrow? You are a person who likes the trial, then you will try it. George Kehan is so busy in Broadway, but he has to call him a mother twice a day, until she died. The significance of these small things is that people who love you said that you are thinking about her, you want to make her happy, and your heart attaches great importance to her happiness. Women attach great importance to their birthday and marriage anniversary - why this will be one of the mysteries that will never understand. Although the average man does not remember many days, it is still able to make a lifetime, but some days must still remember: a four-ninety-nineteen (Columbus discovering new mainland), a seven seventeen years (independence in the United States), his wife Birthday, as well as the date of marriage of himself.
He can even do two days in front - but absolutely not forget these two! Judge Chicago Sabas judges have tried 40,000 cases of marriage conflicts and made two thousand couples. He said: "Most of the couple are not, it is because of many trivial things. When the husband left home to work, the wife waved his hand again, and many couples may be free from divorce." Laube The marriage of Browning (British poet) and Elizabeth Barron Ning (British female poet) may be the most wonderful. He will never be busy forgetting her and take care of her and take care of her to keep love. Too many men underestimate the importance of considerate considerations in these daily and small places. Just as Geno McDo said in the "Comment": "American family really requires some new patterns. For example, breakfast on the bed is the things that most women like to indulge. Eating breakfast in bed. For women, it is like a private club, there is a big effect on the man. "This is the truth of a long-lasting marriage - a series of delicate little things. The couple who ignores these small things will not be. Adina St. Wenheng Mi Leishe said in her little rhyme poetry: It's not lost to destroy my wonderful time, but the loss of love is in a small place. This is a good poem worthy of remember. There are several courts in Renault, and I have been married and divorced for six days a week. Every ten pairs of married, there is a pair of divorce. How much is the true tragedy? It's a little less. If you can sit there from early to night, listen to those unhappy husbands and wife, you know "The loss of love, do you have a small place." So if you want to maintain family life Happy happiness, please pay attention to the following rules: "Pay more attention to small things." Not explained is to swallow love cancer cells. Although we all know this, but bad, we treat our own family, can't catch up with strangers. For strangers, we will not think of talking about his words, we don't get allowed, we will not want to disassemble our friends, or voyes their private secrets. Only for our own family, that is our closest person, we dare to insult them when they have a mistake. We will then quote Tao Le Dicks: "It is very surprisingly, but it is true that the only person who has been surrounded by our mouth, insult, hurting the feelings of our own home is. "Polite to marriage, as important as the motor oil is the same as the motor. Olivers Wen Del Homs wrote, and the reader's favorite "dictator" this book, may have any family, but his own home is not. In fact, he is too concerned about others, even if the mood is not good, try to do his family to know. I have to bear these unhappiness, but I don't affect others, it is really enough. This is Hills practice. But what is the average person? There is a mistake in the office, he lost a sale, or a slap in the boss, he tired of his headache, or did not catch the car - he almost didn't return home, I wanted to take the breath on the head of the family. . In the Netherlands, you have to leave the shoes outside the porch before you can go to the house. According to the opinions of Harry Sir, we should learn from the Dutch people. Before entering the house, you will take the trouble on the day and leave it outside. William James has written an article called "some blindness of humanity." "This paper is to discuss the blindness of modern people." He wrote, "I don't know the feelings of animals and people. This blind makes us suffer.
"This blind makes us suffer. "Speaking against customers, or even business partners, many people will not think of it, but they are screaming, but they don't think about it. However, marriage is more important than career in individual happiness, and more serious. If you have a happy marriage, you will live happier than a single genius. Russian great novelist Tuger is acclaimed by the whole civilized world, but he said: "If there is a woman in some place, there is a woman to me I haven't returned home for dinner, holding a very concern, I would rather giving up all my genius and all work. "Happy and happy marriage, how much? As we have mentioned, Tao Le Silles believes that half of the marriages failed; but Dr. Paul Pinino is the opposite. He said : "The opportunity for men succeed in marriage, which is bigger than when he has successfully succeeded in any industry. All men entering the buyer of food groceries will fail. All men and women in the wedding auditorium will succeed. "For this matter, Tao Le Dix's conclusion is this:" Compared with marriage, "she said:" In our lives, life is a episode, and it is a little thing. "Although, there is a satisfied wife and a happy family, for a man, it is more important than earning a million yuan, but the one hundred men, I can't find a cautiously. Or sincerely tried to make his marriage success. He handed over the most important thing in his life, and he saw whether the god of luck was taken care of him. When banknotes are in the husband's pocket, they can use soft ways without a strong means, why don't they treat a wife? This is really talents don't understand. "Every man knows that the way of being flatter can make his wife will be willing to do anything, and nothing doesn't care. He knows that if he only praises her a few words, how her family is well managed, said How did she help him without spending a money, she will pay each penny. Every man knows that if she tells him that her clothes she put on last year will be How beautiful, she will prefer to buy the latest style imported from Paris. "Every lady knows her husband to understand these things, because she has already told him how to treat her. But he would rather not obey her meaning, but spend money to eat bad, put the money is to buy new clothes for her, new luxury cars, not the spirit of the flower to flatter her, do not want to take the way she wants. Treat her. She really don't know what to like him, still hate him. "So if you have to maintain the happiness of family life, please remember this rule:" Be a courteous. "When the relatives are unfortunate, although the heart is incomparable, they must suppress their feelings, calmly handle; interact with friends, encounter the opponent's mistake, and we must adversely adversely, but not to stand by.
Friends are not more than family, how many scruples are in this, so, ordinary people often don't want to make advice, so as not to succinct, hurt friends and gas! According to the records of "Analects", Confucius believes that "Shi" is indispensable for: can earnestly admire friends to encourage each other; can live with Yan Yue, harmony! This is also a way to be a person! Friends are both compliant with their own interests. Once he happens, it should be adaptable to the hinterland. If it is a standing, it means that each other is shallow, and I am worried that it is damaged to friendship! There is an indiscrunable relationship between the bone and blood. When one of them happens, people will make people have a pain, but at this time, be sure to suppress the sadness of the heart, keep the mind calm, consider how to deal with, if it is too excited , Not, but no, it will make the situation more disordered. Li Lan Fast Detri's comment in the book "in the family in the family" is a comment: "To be a successful marriage, it is not only to find an object, but also becomes a good object. "So, if you want family life happiness, please remember this rule:" Don't want to press you to change your partner. "About the reason for marriage is not happy, authoritative people Tao Le Dik Scorbilly said that more than 50% marriage is unhappy; many Roman Dreams are destroyed in Renault (United States divorce city) rock, the reason is that the reason is criticized - there is useless but the heartbreaking criticism. So if you have to maintain the happiness of family life, you should also remember this rule: "Don't criticize." "Most men, when looking for Mrs." Los Angeles Family Relationship Socialist Pope Pinino Say: "Not looking for a person who can do something, but to find a tempting and willing to satisfy their vanity, and can make them feel a superman. Therefore, a company or agency The supervisor may ask her to ask her to eat, but only once. She is likely to move her, and they have moved at a point when the college is "the mainstream of modern philosophy", and even insist on paying own Account. Result, after she had to learn a person to eat. "There is no lady who is not going to college, but when I was invited to eat, she will look at her flower gossip with enthusiasm. Talking with infinite affection. 'Please tell me some things about your own. 'Results, men said to others,' she is not very beautiful, but I have never encountered people who speak more. '"For the woman, the man who spends the beauty and wearing a time, the man should show his appreciation. All men know that women pay attention to clothes, but they often forget this. For example, there is one Men and a woman encountered another man and woman on the street. This woman rarely looks at another man; she usually pays attention to another woman's dress. Carnegie said his grandmother in ninety-eight The age of elderly died, just soon she was dead, everyone gave her a photo of her in a third basis.
Her eyes are not very good, I can't see the photo, but she only asked a question: "What kind of clothes I do?" An old woman in the old man was in bed, the time in the past century has Dissive her, her memory is so fast, and even her daughter can't recognize it, still want to know what clothes she wear before one-third of the century! The male reader of this book does not remember what it is in a suit or shirt before five years, and does not remember the idea of these things. But women - they are different, and our men should really recognize this. A man in the French upper class is very educated in this area, not only praises the clothes of women, but also praises it once in one night, but a few times. Tens of millions of French men do this, must have their truth. In the clipping of Carnegie, there is a story, although never happened, but it explains a truth. A woman in a rural area has worked hard for a day, and a large pile of herbs in front of her man. When he asked her when she was angry. She replied: "How do I know that you will pay attention to something? I have cooked for 20 years for you, I have never heard what you said, so let me know that you are not eating pasture. ! "In the past, in Moscow and St. Petersburg, you are very popular, and the attitude is better. There is a habit of Russia in the Dasha Em, and after they enjoy a good dinner, they must ask the master to come out and have a prize. Why don't you do this for your wife? Next time, when the chicken is fried and delicious, I will tell her so that she knows that you can appreciate her crafts, not eating pasture; or like Texas Junan, " It is a little girl who cheers. "If you are like that, she knows that she has an important role in your happiness. In a magazine, Carnegie saw a record of visiting Eddie Cangta. "I have to help, I have more people from anywhere in the world," Eddie Cang Tam said, "When I am young, she is my friend, so that I am going forward. After we get married She saves every dollar and takes investment and investment. She has established a big asset for me. I have five cute children. She often makes it comfortably. If I can have The achievements, everything should be due to her. "In Hollywood, marriage is an adventure, even if London's Lu Yi insurance company does not dare to insurance, Warner White's marriage is a few special happiness marriage. The name when Mrs. Baist is Wei Ni, Brui, she gave up the stage of the day in the day, but she never destroyed their happiness with her sacrifice. "She lost the opportunity to be cheered by the public on the stage," Warner White said, "But I do every effort, to make her know that I cheer for her. If a woman is happy from her husband, That must be self-admirable and loyal. If the appreciation and faithful love from him, he will get happiness. "So, if you want to maintain the happiness of family life, one of the most important principles Yes: "I sincerely expressed appreciation." Since ancient times, people think that fertility is a patent, and men only need to optimize their achievements. This concept will bring two troubles: First, women must have a child who is born, it is well known to give birth to childbirth without learning. The earlier family is often used to hunt through the experience, but today, there is no practical experience in addition to the "expectant mother's classroom".
