Three cultivation of a happy mood
Probably, everyone knows how a person's mood is very important for life. However, not everyone can spend every day with a good mood, people often encounter such unpleasant things, thus destroying mood, affecting life. Carnegie saw the importance of cultivating mood. One principle of Carnegie is: life is fully independent today. He talked about the famous Canadian doctor Osler, Osler compared life to modern cruise ship with waterproof spacer, and the captain can completely enclose each cabin. Osler also attracts this situation forward. "I advocate that you have to learn to control (your life) machine, living in an independent today, to ensure the safety of the sailing. In each stage of your life, press a button, and listen to you indeed it. Tiemen put the past - lost yesterday - after the body; you press a button again, use the iron gate to put the future - it is not coming tomorrow. Close the past! Buried the dead. Close the time to guide the fool to death, it is close to the future, and the future is the waste of today.
, Spiritual pressure, the tiredness of the nerve, followed by the pace of worried people to the abyss. Prepare the habit of cultivating the front and behind the big caps, ready to cultivate habits living in a separate today '. "Carnegie should figure out that the meaning of Osler is not going to prepare for tomorrow, but the best preparation for tomorrow is the concentration pay attention to the matter today. Famous The ancient Roman poet He Ricis also thinks. He has a poem saying: This person is very happy, and only he can happiness, because he can put it today, he can be safe, he can feel safe, Say: "No matter how bad tomorrow, I have passed today. "Every class of almost Carnegie said that they worry for a few months or more years ago - often annoying the spirit of spiritual collapse. Victoria, Florida, Florida, McNoma Mrs. said that her heart often covers the wrong thing to have done in the past (now the world), and often in the middle of the night, the whole body is sweat, but can not sleep again, In the day, she suddenly thought of this wrong thing. She reported: "I want to forget that this is not too easy, I still think of it. However, I am now learning 'live in independence today', just wants today's problems and joy. I have slowly learned to bury the dead past. "The President of San Francisco Furniture Manufacturing Company, Jame Feller, also has a problem that is difficult to fall asleep." As a senior supervisor, especially if you are responsible for your own career, you often bring your problem to bed. I have accepted Carnegie's advice since participated in Carnegie courses. I think I have done it every day. If you are lying in bed, you can't sleep tomorrow, you can't have enough energy tomorrow. Therefore, I will turn it off tomorrow in my mind. Until it comes. I am sleeping better than before, and the next day will be a hundred times. "Unexpectedly, the responsibility suddenly adds Robs Berlands, making him worry about a happy person. His boss suddenly got coronary artery thrombosis, he must bear the full responsibility of that department. He reported: "At the beginning, it is a bit chaos, and later it is a mess. My boss is a person who puts everything in my own head. Every time he only tells you a little bit, let you explore it. Soon I started upset, I was afraid that I can't assume the supervision work, and in the face of the gradual work of the mountain, I don't know which one you start. I am also worried that colleagues will not change their attitude towards me. The worst is that I still worry after get off work, I will bring my worries back home. I can't sleep well at night, turning over the bed, and faced the work that seems to be endless. "After in this case, I participated in Carnegie courses. One afternoon, I picked up" human nature "this book, read, suddenly recognize how stupidity I am. I found that I don't worry. Stop, work or do well, and often get the superior praise. I have been so worried about it. From that day, I decided to live in the life of 'Independence today in a day. It is very effective. "I especially deeply impressed by some of the atrokes quoted by Carnegie. For example, 'Today is what you are worried about yesterday'. So I sat down and concentrated my spirit. I wanted to worry about this word. I got a word language. I hang this word in the wall next to my desk. I only reduced your resources "Ohio Ganbill A student of the city card Niki Course, Qin Beli Berg, studied the principle of Carnegie, and also wrote the following poem.
The topic of poetry is: life is short, it is not to be in the past; now and the future, it will quickly leave us. Don't worry about the past, although they are in my heart, don't give up we will not know how to capture. Live your life, master each day; don't worry about future, I have to forget yesterday, because yesterday has passed away. And today is a new day, if you know how to master, you can do a lot of fresh things. Every day is full of vitality, although there is hope and disappointment, don't be too sinking, because everything will pass. In the past, it was now now, and it will now pass. In the future, I will arrive, and I will fly. Today, tomorrow is coming. Live your life, because life is so fast. Among the principles of Carnegie conquest, the most often quoted, may be three steps: Step 1: Ask yourself, what may happen? I am afraid that I can't get out of it, I am afraid that I will be expelled, and the family is not good. I am annoyed that I will have achievements in my life. I started to breathe. The doctor gave me medicine, but it was not effective. I only don't hurt when I don't go to work on the weekend, but I start working on Monday, and the stomach is hurt. "After a few weeks, I browsed in a bookstore and saw the book of Carnegie" humanity ". I turned to the 'Wanling formula" listed in the first second chapter, immediately decided to put this. The formula is used in my situation. "What is the worst situation that may happen? 'I can't be expelled, and the big company rarely expensive people. But I may be trapped in this boring work several years, I can't get out. "If you have no more, you will be prepared to accept the worst case. 'I think of it first, I have to accept the current work, because it is stable, but I am very fast to think about thinking' If I don't have a ', calm I want to do the worst case to improve the worst case. I can ask for a visit to improve my current situation! In today, this is really a good way, but then I have never heard of which low-level staff take the initiative Matching, usually facing a senior management person. However, I don't think I can drag this again, so I will ask a senior executive in the company the next day. As I was transferred to South America to do one More interesting is more interesting. "Also, I turn off the boring work, my stomach is not hurt, and I have never sent it. "Applying this magical formula, sometimes it will have meaningful effects. When the financial difficulties in New York City, the New York City Government is forced to dismiss some public officers, and some veteran are also dismissal. These public officials are originally I thought it was the most guaranteed, but now I have to face unemployment, so I don't exempt greatly panic. There is a firefighter William Baoji to worry. He is not in the case - unclear The annual capital can not keep work, and if the dismissal is decided in annual capital, his year may exceed the dismissal standard, or it may be lower than the standard. He is worried that if you don't have a job, but you may not be dismissal. The column. He applied the magical formula to overcome his worries. The worst case is: He will lose his work. He can accept this situation, he is still young, you can rebuild his life. So now What actions have been taken? He decided to go to the repair, preparing to create a new cause. Once this is determined, the worries will no longer dominate his life.
It is he to keep your work, he still wants to go to the repair, so that the New York City government must further dismiss people, or if he retires, or he decides to leave the fire brigade, he is very helpful. Swisheng, La Abbe, who participated in the Karie Course in New York City, also applied this formula to solve his problem. La Abbe is an accountant of a hospital in Long Island. He established a more efficient payment method, but it was opposed by a supervisor by the medical department. This doctor said in front of the hospital dean. La Barbern has been observed in the past, knowing that when the administrative department and doctor have disputes, the dean usually supports the doctor without supporting administrative staff, so La Abbe is worried that this dispute will be unfavorable. 1, what do I worry about? What are you afraid of being removed or attached? 2, what can I do? A road is that the dean does not pay attention to this matter at all. Another way is to apologize to the doctor, and let him not follow the new payment method. The third method is to report this matter to our direct head of the competent financial director. 3, decide what to do. La Abbe chose to report to his direct executive report. 4, when do you do it? Immediately. The next morning he went to the financial director to discuss this, and the financial director fully supported him, the dean also thought that his approach was very good. Using this formula, La Abbe solves the problem and eliminates unnecessary worries. Margaret Kiri, Mali Lankan, woke up a morning, and found that she had just renovated basement, she panicked. "I first react," she reported, "I want to sit down and cry, I am in my loss. But I don't have this, what will I ask yourself, the worst situation? The answer is simple: furniture The whole bubble is broken, the panel may give the bubble to be bent uneven, and the water stains are left, the carpet is also reimbursed, and the insurance company may not compensate these. "Second, I ask yourself, what can I do to reduce the disaster?" I first call all the furniture that can be moved to the room without water. I report to the insurance company broker and use the phone to clean the strainer cleaner. I washed all the things that can be washed with laundry machine, like a sofa chair set. Then I borrow some dehumidifiers with my child to neighbor, so that the basement can accelerate dry. When I got home from get off work, everything was ready. "I used it in Carnegie courses, and very effective. I consider the worst case that may happen, I want to do some remedies, then I am so busy, I have something you have to do. I have no time. Anxiety. "The disease caused by worry is more than physiological diseases. Some doctors pointed out that more than half of the patients in the hospital are caused by worry, or they have aggravated the condition due to worries. But after things, we will find that things worried about the past is a small matter, ridiculous. Many worries are just for trivial little things, only after a few hours, we will be surprising that it will be so good. A widely known legal affairs said: "The law regardless of trivial things." If we have to worry, it should not be trivial. People will not only be careful for small things, but also care for almost impossible. We will almost impossible diseases, almost impossible, and thousands of transactions may have a problem and countless things that countless. If we look at what we are anxious, there may be statistics that may happen, we may not be so worried about it. Arthur Robs said in the New York City Carnegieban, says his story for his son. In the early 1990s and 1970s, many American youths were on the small backpack and clouds, and his son did this. "He is only 18 years old, and he is going to find himself. He decided to go through the US. I am scared to my wife. We saw young people attacked on the road.
We imagine that he hits the big truck when he stops the car, and it will be influenced by other bad effects. We are afraid that he will be in the hospital, sent to the hospital, or even a corpse in remote urban town. Every time you call, we are scared to die - I am afraid what terrible news that may come. "I remember the advice of Dell Carnegie: 'We have to look at the record. We have to ask yourself: What is the opportunity that what happened to what I am worried about?'" I went to the New York City Police Bureau to rescue, Their records show that only a small part of the youth is in a very small part. My friends working in the Associated Press also confirmed the youths who were traveling at home, only have a very few of the news. Mrs. I will no longer be too tight, I have accepted the current situation. He came back after three months. If we don't apply the principles of Carnegie to this issue, we may have already collapsed. "Another situation that often makes us worry is: We look forward to a happy thing, but it is afraid that there will happen to destroy this happiness. The new woman is afraid that the children are worried about what will happen. The matter can not go to a picnic, the parents are afraid that their children will get sick when they go to vacation. However, the chances of these situations are really too small. In the last class of NY, Tan Alman said, He Plan to take the plane to travel, but it may be worried about it. If he bought a plane ticket for a few months, airlines can play a lot of discount, but if it is temporarily refunding, it will be penalized. A few months Among them, Irman always wants to have something to make him have to refund, and is lost by money. But what happened, he destined on time. "If I knew the Dell Carnegie Office at that time Said, "Alman said," I will recognize how little opportunity I am worried about, I will not be able to die in that time during that time. "It is also a major factor that can't be changed. It is also a major factor that makes people worry. In order to change things, it is not only frustrating, but also damages a person's mind and health. Carnegie's advice is" Adaptable to inevitable things ". Mary Sheng Fanmao, Darles Town, Pennth, has just died her husband, leaving two young children, she is self-pity. She remembers that her husband has warmly talks about doing a card-resistant course. The student and assistant's situation, he often proposes a principle of Carnegie to deal with concerns: "Adapt to inevitable things." There is no hesitation, Mrs. Fanfa participated in Carnegie courses, which will help her overcome fear, with bigger Confidence and less worries face life. It is a pianist. She graduated from the famous Julia Music Academy to play the piano as the industry. After the first child is born, stroke It is a few months. She recovered very slowly, but she had been able to live a normal life. But because the brain is damaged, her right hand finger is always weak, it is impossible to play the piano as a business. Significant blow She didn't blame the world. She knew that there was no way to change this, and she used her to learn to the teaching piano. Today she is already a successful piano professor, life is also very happy. An old nursery rumor said: "All the king Horses, all of the kings, can not make past regeneration. "We should all abandon the things that can't change, and then re-start with all the power. Edwin Whito held the Kardiki course in Hawaii for many years, then served as a consultant, he also applied this principle. 1974 He was born seriously, but the doctor can't find what is going on. He returned to Hawaii accepted the testic surgery, and several ulcers were removed, and the body became very weak, and he was already in seventies. People, various signs show that he seems difficult to recover.
"January 777, 1975", Whitro report, "Nick Ryast (one person of Carnegie) went to Japan, after Hawaii, I saw me. I was very ill. I almost can't talk. I asked him when he came back from Japan. He said that he will go to Hawaii on January 28. I said that my wife Vioa and I have to ask for dinner, Nick does not believe. But When he came back, we really asked him to eat a good Hawaiian dinner. "How did I do? After Nick left, I said to myself: 'Two things you can do: Be a weak old man, sitting there will never get up; or try to enhance health. 'That day, I will help me get a few steps, then take a few steps a few steps, and finally I can walk one day, then two miles, and add it every day, one day I walked ten Five miles. At that time, I have to go to the four miles every day. I have now fully rehabeled, implement consulting customers, and trails all over the world. I think this is because I have a resumption of health. "Another reason to cause worries, it is something that others are not grateful, do not appreciate us. At the Carnegage, Jack Mora, Jack Morao told him that the classmate said, he wasted for five years. Every day, I caught his nephew and I don't know what to be grateful. When Jack is sixty years old, I decided to celebrate my birthday in the way of giving gifts and don't accept the gift. He didn't have children, so he gave three nephew for one hundred dollars. The nephew was very surprised, said thank you, but I haven't mentioned this matter later. They didn't come to see him, even the phone didn't play one, and I didn't send a birthday card in the second year. Come. In five years, Jack has been reading his nephew and not knowing gratitude, constantly telling friends, even dreaming of this, making him very unpleasant. He looked "humanity" The advantage of this book, only recognizes that people are very grateful. Carnegie told us that Jesus cured ten jazy patients a day in the afternoon, only one patient thanked him. If we expect others to gratitude, We are looking for sadness and trouble. Carnegie suggest us, if you want to live happiness, don't expect your own things, we give things just to pay for yourself. Just like a lot of people who accept Carnegie, Jack is no longer Excessive expectations, life is much happy. We are often heard of this sentence: Think about your own happiness. We often think that all the benefits and property is we "should have". We have a number of our happiness, and then use some heart, you can overcome our worries. In our lives, there are about 90% of the things, only 10% is not very good. If we want to be happy It is necessary to think about the ninety percent, not to pay attention to 10%. Villei Shi Sheng came to New York City from a small town of Minnesota, wanted to create a performance. Her high school is the star of theater group. When the third grade is chosen as school flowers, the fourth grade is once again elected. She reads two years in the local university, excellent results, and the protagonist in the annual drama performance Therefore, she decided to go to New York to read the American Performing Arts. In the Performing Arts, she has to compete with men and women in the school, and the results are not very good. She said to the classmates in Carneglass, "I have a long time." Not bad, there are some days and experience. But compared to other young people, I am not able to succeed in the entertainment industry. I am getting troubles for a few weeks, I can't sleep in the evening, and the performance in the college is even worse. Finally, I have dropped it before a few months.
I didn't dare to tell my parents, but I think I am not going to school, I can't accept the money they sent, so I start looking for work. But what can I do? I don't have any skills to go to the office or do anything, because all the dreams and plans in my past are the performance of life. "After many setbacks, the lady of a employment counseling unit noticed me, she suggested that I will see my strength. She said: 'There is a popular song a few years, you have to remember the two lyrics - Strengthening the advantages, eliminate the disadvantage. '"I recall the past, see what the strengths I have. I remember the happiness that I got on the stage. I have a very fluent ability in front of the crowd. I also have a quite wisdom - at least I am not bad in school. As a result, I no longer be annoyed for the truly dynasty, I started to strengthen my strengths. I decided to study back to school and obtain teacher qualifications. For tuition and living expenses, I re-learned typing, now I get a receptionist. I value all my strengths, I hope to play these strengths in the future and create a satisfactory career. "Our strengths can be strengthened because they have helped others. People who do not do will often add trouble to themselves; busy people, especially those who are busy helping others, there is no time to indulge in worry. New York City Bai Pingyuan City card The famous student said her story. "I am very unhappy since eight years," Mrs. Ruth Floro said to the students, "My children have grown up, no longer need me, I think I feel very emptiness. "A Sunday morning, my neighbors crying and calling, I have no time. I ran to her home, I found that she was fainting, obviously uncomfortable. I got her bed, please doctors, followed by the doctor God, I will take care of her, take care of my own home. In the fourth day, she felt a little, I gave her back, she said, 'Do you know? You are really like a Nurse. '"From that time, what I can think of is to do something like nurse. In the second week, I went to a hospital nearby, and the hospital accepted me to be a volunteer nurses. I love this job very much. At the end of that year, I applied to participate in their nurse school. That is the most hard year in my life. I have to reach the hospital at 7 o'clock in the morning. I will go home at four o'clock in the afternoon. I have to do it. I have to do three, four hours homework at night. Several times I would like to give up, another woman and me are the top of the class. We must take each other to stick to each other, and finally we have graduated. Graduation is really my happiest day, family and friends participated in my graduation ceremony. "I will continue to work hard, become a licensed nurses, and get a bachelor's degree in nursing, now I am working hard to a bachelor's degree. My family problem and emptiness are swept away, I am busy with my new business, music Among them. "We often face those who have caused suffering to our lives and we can't control. For this situation, Carnegie puts out an extremely optimistic solution. He believes that suffering is part of life, no one can escape. His suggestion is to learn to cope with the problem, and accept that inevitable, but don't have to worry about suffering, because this is more harmful to us than the problem itself. Carnegie in order to let us know more about his views, it is recommended that we look like a problem with us, and to those who are worse than those of our situation. He quoted two unknown poets: I didn't feel sad because I didn't have shoes, I went to the street, and I saw a person without a feet. People feel worried, a very common reason is to win someone else or want to do someone.
Everyone must do ourselves, we can't be completely like another person, we can't succeed if we want to do something in a way that does not belong to us. Emerson said in his "relying on your own", summary: "Everyone accepts education to a certain stage, it will get a view, that is, 'Envious is ignorance, imitation is equal to suicide'. No matter what the result is It is good to be bad, everyone has to do his own way. Although the universe is full of good kind, he must have a hard to cultivate him, and then nutritious food will come to him. One The strength of the human body is new in nature. There is no other person. Only he knows what is the power of his body, and what he can do; and know what he can do, only after he tried it. " One of the Caterie principles typically quoted is: "If you have a lemons (meaningless things that are worthless), then do lemon juice." Each of us may get a lemons. The fool gets the lemons. "I failed, this is a fate, I have no chance." Then he hurts this world, not angry with his luck, then indulgent Patient. Smart people got a lemons, I will ask: "What can I learn in this bad luck? How can I improve my situation? How do I put this lemon into lemon juice?" Turn the lemon into a lemon juice is not Easy things, no guarantee success, but we should still try. How much we can have, and never lose. Reason 1: We may succeed - the opportunity of our success is always more. Reason 2: Even if there is no success, when we try to turn the bad, it will make us look forward to the back. This makes us replacing negative ideas with a positive idea, so that we will play a creation, so that we are busy, so that we don't have time to be sad. Sad. Anyone who wants to participate in the card-resistant training class, first to fill in a table, explain why you want to participate, and what you want to get. Surprisingly, only a few people wrote their goals to overcome worries, but in the last class, the students are reporting about what they are most helpful to them. Many students say how to overcome worry books. And talking, the most meaningful for their lives. Some people will worry about those things that are not important, they are over-emphasizing some damage to life, and often cynical. In New Jersey participating in the card Niki course, Dadra Mofi said that she wounded her "big nose". "I have used the neighborhood tape to pull the nose, think that it will play, but no. I don't let people look at me from the side. I have been bothering my nose." After I graduate, I entered the business world. " Always bother for my nose. I think if I have a beautiful nose, others will like me. Finally, I went to make beauty surgery, in the hospital, they cut my nose and put my nose mat. After the operation, my eyes had a black circle, the cheeks were swollen, and they had disappeared after a few weeks. "Because the first surgery is not good, I moved again after six months. After six months, I hit the nose in a car accident, so I did the third surgery." In order to hope, My nose is moving three times, do you believe? When I go home, my mother and friends don't have someone to pay attention to my nose change. "Those who like me still like me, those people don't pay attention to me or not. I have learned: people like you because you like people, not because you look. Unfortunately, I have worried about my nose for many years.
