A good habit
In human life, the impact of habits to people is obvious, habits have a variety of habits, good, and bad; have beautiful, and ugly. Cultivating good habits and is also an important part of the art of Carnegie. Carnegie first discussed the fatigue problem. Why do you want to prevent fatigue problems? It is very simple, because fatigue is easy to cause worries, or at least make you easier worries. Any student who is still studying in school will tell you that fatigue will reduce the body's resistance to general colds and diseases; and any psychotherapist will tell you that fatigue will also reduce your concerns and fear, etc. It feels resistant to prevent fatigue, it can prevent worrying. Dr. Idemond Jerbern has written two books on how to relax tension - "Elimination of tension" and "you must relax tight emotions". He spent many years, hosted to study the method of relaxing tension in medicine. He believes that any spirit and emotional tension, "It can't be existed after complete relaxation." That is to say, if you can relax tight emotions, you can't continue to worry about it. So to prevent fatigue and worries, you must first do it: often rest, rest before you feel tired. Why is this important? Because the increase in fatigue increases. The US Army used a few experiments to prove that even young people, if they do not bring backpacks, take a break every hour, the speed of the march is accelerating, and the army is more forced to do so. A person's heart is pressed out of your body's blood every day, enough to fill a car on the trains; the ability to supply every twenty-four hours, also enough to use a shovel to put 20 tons of coal shovel a three The energy required for a high level platform. Your heart can do so much unbelievable workload, and lasts for fifty, seventy or even for 90 years. How can your heart be affected? Dr. Harvard Hospital explained: "The vast majority of people think that people 's hearts will be jumped all day. In fact, after each contract, it has a completely stationary period. When the heart beats 70 times in normal speed, the actual working hours are only nine hours a day. That is to say, the heart has a rest for fifteen hours every day. "During the Second World War, Churchill has been more than 60 years old, but it is a great thing to command the British Empire a day. Where is his secret? He worked in bed every morning to see reports, oral orders, call, and even held a very important meeting in bed. After eating lunch, go to bed to sleep for an hour. At night, before dinner at 8 o'clock, he went to bed to sleep for two hours. He is not to eliminate fatigue, because he does not have to cancel it, he prevents it in advance. Because he often rest, it can be very mentally working until the middle of the night. John Rockefeller has also created two amazing records: he earned the most wealth of the world at that time, and also lived to ninety-eight. How do he do this? The main reason is of course, the people in his family have a long life, and the reason is that he sleeps half an hour in the office every day. He will lying on the big sofa in the office - when he is in nap, he does not pick up the phone call. In that name called "Why is it tired? "The good book, Daniel He Xilin said:" Resting is not absolutely nothing, rest is repair. "In the short-term rest time, you can have a strong repair ability, even if you only fight five Sleeping in minutes, also helps to prevent fatigue. The baseball star said Congli Mark, if you don't sleep a nap before you go, you will feel exhausted.
But if he sleeps in a nap, even if you only sleep for five minutes, you can also get a whole field, and you will not feel fatigue. Edison believes that he is endless energy and endurance, from him, you can always want to sleep. Carnegie had recommended a movie director of Hollywood to try this method. He later said that this method can produce a miracle. A few years ago, he is a manager of MGM's short film, often feels tired and exhausted. He has tried it, drinking mineral water, eats the peace and other tonic, but there is no help to him. Two years later, Carnegie saw him again, he said: "There is a miracle, this is what my doctor said. When I was talking about the short film, I always sat in the chair, very nervous. Every time I meet, I am lying in the long sand of the office. I feel much now, I can work more than two hours a day, but I rarely feel fatigue. "How do you use these methods? If you are a typist, you can't sleep like Ai Di or Sam Gell Wen, you will sleep in the office every day; if you are a public, you can't lying on the sofa to discuss with your boss. The problem of the account. But if you live in a small city, go back to eat during every noon, you can sleep for ten minutes after dinner. This is what Marshall often do. During the Second World War, he felt that the commanding the US military unit was very busy, so he must rest at noon. If you have already been 50 years old, I feel that you can't do this, then buy life insurance. If you have no way to sleep in noon, at least you will take a break before you have dinner, this is much cheaper than drinking before drinking a cup. If you can sleep at 5 o'clock in the afternoon, at 6 or 7:00, you can add an hour a day in your life. why? Because the hour before dinner, add six hours sleeping in the night - a total of seven hours - for you, more than eight hours more than a continuous. People who engage in physical labor, if there is more time to rest, you can do more work every day. Futek Taylor, when she was a scientific management engineer in Bedhan Iron, I had proved this matter. He once observed that workers can put about twelve tons of pig iron each day, and usually they have exhausted at noon. He made a scientific study on all the fatigue factors, and believed that these workers should only be 12 tons of pig iron, but should be able to ship 47 tons. According to his calculations, they should be four times the current score, and will not fatigue, but they must be proven. Taylor chose Mr. Schmid, let him work according to the rules of the horse. There is a person standing while holding a horse to direct Schmid: "Rui is picking up a pig iron, walking ... Now sit down ... Now ... Now ... Now, what is the result?" Others can only ship 12 tons of pig iron every day, and Schplend can ship every day to forty tons of pig iron. And when Futek Taylor worked in the three years of Badhan Iron and Steel Company, Schmitard's work ability has never been reduced. He can do it because he has time to rest before fatigue: Every hour he worked about twenty six minutes and resting for thirty-four minutes. His time to rest is more than his working hours - but his work score is almost four times that of others. Carnegie requires people, often take a break, do the way you do your own body - take a break before you feel fatigue, then you will add more than one hour. Below is a very surprising and very important fact: just use the brain to get tired. This sentence sounds very ridiculous. But a few years ago, scientists have tried to understand that how long the human brain can work without making "operating energy", which is the definition of fatigue.
These scientists are very surprised that they find signs of blood, no fatigue through the blood of brain cells in the event. But if you take a blood from a person who is working, it will find "fatigue toxins" in the blood. But if you draw a blood from Einstein's brain, even if it is the end of the day, there will be no fatigue toxin. If you only discuss the brain, then "after eight or twelve hours, the work energy is still rapid and efficient as the start of the start," the brain is completely not tired ... So what makes you tired? ? Psychotherapy experts say that we feel fatigue, mostly caused by spiritual and emotional factors. The most famous psychological analyst in the UK said in his "Psychology": "Most of the fatigue we feel is due to psychological impact. In fact, purely caused by physiology is very small. Dr. Bolier, a famous American psychological analyst, said more detailed. He said: "A worker who is sitting, if the health is good, his fatigue is a psychological factor, which is the influence of emotional factors." What psychological factors will affect the workers who are sitting, so that they What about fatigue? Is it happy? Is it satisfied? It is bored, hateful, a feeling of unwind, a useless feeling, too hasty, anxious, anxiety - these are all exhausted psychological factors that have worked hard. Metropolitan Life Insurance Company, specifically pointed out this in a brochure of a discussion. "The hard work itself, rarely causing fatigue after rest ... Worries, nervous and emotional uneasiness, is the three reasons for fatigue. Usually we think that it is fatigue generated by Laurent's labor, actually These three reasons are caused by! Nervous muscles, it is the muscles that are working, should be relaxed, put your physical strength, to cope with more important responsibility. "Carnegie please check itself: you When these words, have there been a frown? Do you think there is a pressure between the eyes? Are you very easy to sit in your chair? Still towering shoulders? Is the muscles on your face are very nervous? Unless your body is relaxed as soft as an old loose doll, you will be in making tension in making nerves and muscles, unless it is manufacturing fatigue. Why do we generate these unnecessary nervous when we are working? He Xilin said: "I found the main reason ... It is almost all people who believe that more difficult work, the more it has a feeling, otherwise the result is not good enough." So we have concentrated spirit Wrinkled with a brow, shocking the shoulders, all the muscles come to "force". In fact, this thinking about us, there is no help at all. What should I do if I encounter this mental fatigue? To relax! Relax! Relax again! Learn easily when you work. It is not easy to relax, but this effort is worth it, because this can make your life a revolutionary change. William James said: "Americans are overcomperse, sitting upset, emergency and nervous expression ... this is bad habits, uncomfortable habits." Tension is a habit, relax is also a habit, and bad habits It should be removed, good habits should be developed. How can you relax? Is it necessary to start from my thoughts, or starting from your nerves? Nothing is. You should relax your muscles first. We started from your eyes first, first read this paragraph.
When you finish your head, close your eyes, then you said to your eyes, "Relax, relax, don't be nervous, don't frown, relax, relax." So slowly Repeat, repeat again ... Do you noticed that after a few seconds, the muscles of the eyes began to obey your order? Do you feel that there is an invisible hand to move these tense emotions. Although it seems difficult to believe, you have tried all the key and secrets of relaxing emotional art in this minute. You can use the same way to relax your face muscles, your head, your shoulders, you whole body. But your body is the most important organ, or your eyes. Dradmond Jebsen, the University of Chicago, once said that if you can completely relax your eye muscles, you can forget all your troubles. When eliminating the nervousness, the eyes are important because they consume a quarter of the energy exudated. This is why many people who have a good eyesight, but they feel "nervous" because they feel nervous. Below is the five recommendations to help you learn how to relax: . 2, relax yourself, so that your body is soft as an old sock. If you can't get an old sock, a cat can also. Have you hugged a cat in the sun? When you come up with it, its head is like a newspaper that is wet. India's yoga also teaches you. If you want to relax, you should go to the cat. If you can learn the cat, relax yourself, probably avoid these problems. 3. Take a comfortable posture when working. Remember that the body's tension will generate the pain and spiritual fatigue of shoulders. 4. Review 5 times a day, ask yourself: "Do I have to make my work more heavier than actually? Can I use some muscles with my work?" These help You develop a good habit of relaxation. Just like David Harrove Fink said: "Those who know the most psychology know that there are two-thirds of the tiredness." 5, review once every night, ask you Irself: "How much is I tired? If I feel tired, this is not what I am too laborious, but because I don't work." "I calculate my own achievements," Daniel He Xi Lin said, "Not see me After all the day, there is more tired, but I am not tired. "He said:" When I passed the day, I feel particularly tired, or when I feel particularly tired, I will know no problem. This day is not enough in the quality and quantity of work. If every businessman can learn this, because the nervousness is nervous, it will be reduced immediately. And in our spiritual nursing house It will never have people who have caused spiritual collapse because of fatigue and worries. "In some ways, psychological analysis is based on the therapeutic function of language. Starting from Florid's era, psychological analysts know that as long as a patient can speak - as long as it comes, he can relieve his heart. why? Maybe after saying it, we can see our problems more deeply and can see better solutions. No one knows the exact answer, but all of our people know that "the sulking in the breast" can immediately make people feel much more. So, when we encounter anything about emotional problems, don't you find someone to talk about it? Of course, this is not to say that when you caught a person, just give him all the bitter water and complaints in our hearts.
We have to find a person who can trust, with him for a time, maybe find a relative, a doctor, a lawyer, a priest, or a priest, then say to that person: "I hope to get you Advice. I have a question, I hope that you can listen to me talking, you may give me a little advice. Maybe bystanders clear, you can see the problem I can't see. But even if you can't do this. As long as you sit there, listen to me talking about this, it is also very busy. "Say your heart, this is the most important treatment in the course arranged by Boston Hospital. Our approach is: 1, prepare a "supply inspiration" scrapbook, you can post your favorite, or the celebrity of the celebrity. Afterwards, if you feel the spirit of the spirit, maybe you can find the treatment of the treatment of the treatment. Many patients in Boston Hospital have saved this scrapbook for many years, they say that this is equal to "I have a one hour" in my spirit. 2, don't worry too much for others. Maybe after reading all of his advantages, you will find that he is the person you want to encounter. 3, you have to be interested in your neighbors. There is a very friendly interest in those who live together with you in the same street. There is a very lonely woman, I feel that I am very "isolated", and she is not there. Someone wants her to try her next person as the protagonist, edit a story. So she began to create a story for the people she saw in the bus. She is imaginant that the background and living case, try to imagine what he lives. Later, she talked about others, today she was very happy, turned into a very discussion, and eliminating her "pain." 4. Before going to bed tonight, arrange the tomorrow's work procedure. In Carnegieban, there are a lot of housewives, because they can't finish their family, and feel tired. They seem to have done their jobs forever, and they always have to go. In order to cure this kind of hasty feeling and worries, it is recommended that the housewives have arranged the work of the next day after the first day. They can complete a lot of work, but they don't feel so fatigue. At the same time, I was very proud because there was a grade, and even time to rest and "dress up". 5, finally, the only way to avoid tension and fatigue is to relax. It is more likely to make you old things than tension and fatigue; there will be no more harmful to your appearance. Carnegie's assistant, listened to the person in charge of Paul, strong forest, talked about a lot of relaxation methods in the Boston Hospital Ideological Control Course. If you want to eliminate worries, you must relax. Carnegie tells us that you must know how to relax yourself, just want to lie down and you can lying down. We may wish to try this: 1, as long as you feel tired, you will lying on the floor, try to put your body straight, if you want to turn, turn around, do twice a day. 2. Close your two eyes, as I suggested by Professor of Strengthening: "The sun is on the head, the sky is blue, the nature is very quiet, controlling the whole world - and I am a child of nature, can also be harmonized with the entire universe. "3, if you can't 下, because you don't have time, then, as long as you can sit on a chair, the effect is exactly the same. 4, now, slowly turn your ten toes - then let them relax; tighten your leg muscles - then let them relax; slowly facing, moving the muscles of each part, finally Always go to your neck. Then let your head turn around, as if your head is a football.
To keep your muscles: "Relax ... Relax ..." 5, with a very slow and stable deep breath to set your nerve, the law is the best way to appease the nerve. 6, think about the wrinkles on your face, try to make them flat, loose your frown, don't close your mouth. So, do twice a day, maybe you don't have to go to the beauty salon to massage, but also put these wrinkles will disappear. Carnegie reminds us to develop four good work habits. The first kind of good work habits: eliminate all the paper on your desk, leaving only the questions you are going to address. Luonan Willianshi, Chairman of Chicago and Northwest Railway Company, said: "A person who is full of many files on a table, if you can clean his desk, leave some of his hand, will find him It is more easy to work, and it is more real. I call it home, this is the first step in improving efficiency. "The poet Budu wrote such a sentence:" Order, is the first rule of heaven. "Order It should be the first rule of business. The general businessman's table is full of files that may not look at it for a few weeks. The issuer of a Newo Liang newspaper had a told Carnegie. His secretary helped him clean up a table and found a type of typewriter that came in two years. The light is to see the messenger, report, and memo, etc., which are not returned, etc., it is enough to make people with confusion, tension and worry. The worse thing is that you often think that "there is a million things to do, but there is no time to do it", but will not only make you worry and tired, will also make you worry about hypertension, heart Sick and gastric ulcers. Dr. John Stok, a professor of the Pennsylvania Medicine, awarded a paper at the National Assembly of the American Medical Society - "Psychological complications caused by physiological diseases." In that paper, Dr. Shi is listed under the topic of "Psychological Status Research", which is the first one: "A necessary or have to feel, seem to have to Things to do, I will never finish. "It's like cleaning the table, doing various decisions, etc., how can these basic things help you avoid those serious stress - this must have a feeling, and that must What does it feel will never do it? The famous psychotherapy, Dr. William Shandel, let a patient use this simple approach to avoid spiritual collapse. This patient is a senior executive of a big company in Chicago. When he first arrived in Shandel, it was very nervous, uneasy, and worried. He knew that he could collapse, but he had no way to resign, he needs someone to help him. "When this person told me his question, Dr. Shandel said," My phone is ringing, it is the phone call. I don't discuss these problems, I decided on the spot, I Always solve the problem as much as possible. I just hung up the phone, the ringtone rang again. This time I am an urgent thing, I spent a little time to discuss. I have to fight for my worry is mine. A colleague solves my opinions for a patient who is very serious. When I discuss with him, I turned to apologize to my patient, sleepy, I have been waiting for him. But his face The expression is completely different. I am very happy. "" Don't apologize, doctor, "this person said to Shan Del," In the 10 minutes of just now, I think I already know where my problem is. I now I have to go back to the office, change my work habits ... But before I got, can you let me see your desk? "Dr. Shandel opened several drawers in his desk, it is empty. - Only put some stationery. "Please tell me", the patient said, "Where are you not finished?" "All done," Sandel said.
"So where is the trust you have not returned?" "Betful," Sandel told him. "My rule is that I don't want to come back. I have a letter to reply immediately, let my secretary typ," After six weeks, the senior supervisor took Dr. Shandel to his office. He changed throughout, his desk is different. He turned on the drawer of the desk, the drawer no longer had no business. The senior executive said, "I used to have three writing stations in the two offices - I buried my whole person in my work, things will never finish. When I talk to you, I returned to the office. In the clearing out a lot of reports and old documents. Now my job only needs a writing desk, things will be finished, so there will be no more people who have not finished the mountains, let me nervous And anxiety. However, what I can't think of, I have completely restored health, I am not ill now. "The second kind of work habits: do things according to the importance of things. Franklin Baijir is one of the most successful insurance salesmen in the United States. He won't wait until five o'clock in the morning plan his head, he has planned well at the end of the night. He put a goal for yourself, letting a goal to sell how much insurance on that day. If he doesn't do it, the difference is added to the next day - so on. Of course, a person cannot decide to do things in the order of the important level. But do things according to plan, it is definitely more than going to do things more than the usage. If Haiber does not stick to this principle, he may not be a writer, and a bank will be a bank. He develops a plan and must write pages every day. This plan continued to write nine years from page every day, although he had a total of more than 30 dollars in this nine years. Even Robinson drifting on the desert island, also booked a plan to do every day every hour. The third kind of good work habits: When you encounter a problem, if you have to make a decision, you will solve it on the spot, don't hesitate. A student before Carnegie, the late Huohua is a director of the American Iron and Steel Company, and the board will always spend a long time - discussing a lot of problems in the meeting, there are few resolutions. As a result, every director of the board has to go home with a large bag. Finally, Mr. Huohua persuaded the board. Every time I will discuss a problem, then do conclusions, don't delay, don't delay. The resolution obtained may also require more information, but in any case, this issue must be able to reach a certain resolution in any case before discussing the next problem. The result is very amazing and very effective. All old accounts are cleaned up, and the calendar is clean. The fourth good work habits: learning how to organize, hierarchical responsibility and supervision. Many business people dig a grave tomb for themselves, because he doesn't know how to share the responsibility to others, and insist on doing things. The result is: Many small things in the branches have made him very confused. He always feels very hasty, worry, anxious and nervous. It is not easy to learn to be responsible for division of labor. If people who are responsible, they will have a lot of disasters. However, although the hierarchies are very difficult, one is the superior supervisor, if you want to avoid worries, nervousness, and fatigue, but don't do this. A person, due to psychological factors, usually more prone to fatigue than physical labor, this is the fact that everyone knows. A few years ago, Joseph Bamac issued a report in the "School of Psychology", talked about some of his experiments, proves that you will have fatigue. Dr. Bamak made a large group of students made a series of experiments. He knew that these experiments were not interested.
What is the result? All students feel tired, doze, headache, eyes fatigue, it is easy to lose their temper, and even a few feelings are very uncomfortable. As a result of the experiment, when a person feels bored, his body's blood pressure and oxidation, actually reducing it. Once this person thinks that his work is interested, the entire metabolism will immediately accelerate. Carnegie believes that it is very important to make yourself every morning, which is very important in psychology. Because "our life is caused by our thoughts", each hour is told you, you can guide yourself to think about a lot of brave and happy ideas, or it can be so power and calm. Talking to yourself a lot of gratitude, you can fill up in your mind. As long as your thoughts are correct, you can make any job is not so annoying. Your boss wants you to interested your job, he can make more money. But we don't care about the boss, you have to think about it, if you are interested in your work, you can have any benefits to you; often remind you yourself, do you can make you double your happiness from your life, because you are awake every day In the time, more than half of your work is going to work. If you can't get happiness in your work, you can't find happiness in other places. To keep yourself, I am interested in my work, you can make you no longer worry, and you may bring you promotion and salary. Even if there is no such good result, at least you can minimize your fatigue, so you can enjoy your leisure time. Talking about sleep habits, Carnegie pointed out that no matter how strong willpower, nature will force a person to sleep. Nature will make us don't eat things for a long time, don't drink water, but will not let us not sleep for a long time. So, if you want to worry about insomnia, the following is five rules: 1, if you can't sleep, you will work or read the book, to you doze off. 2, never died because of lack of sleep, for insomnia, the damage to you, usually more more than insomnia. 3, try to pray 4, let the whole body relax, see "eliminating the nervous" book. 5, more exercise, so that the body is tired of labor and not keep awake. The habit of living and working habits said by Carnegie may differ from our Chinese behavior, but we can also test these recommendations to see how the effect. Perhaps someone will think that there is no integrity in the negotiation, because once honest, to the other party, will lead to the rupture of negotiations, or let your own adverse status. It should be noted that integrity here is integrity licensed within the principle, not the exposure to the other party, and people who go to the negotiation table have not honestly. Integrity is the integrity of both parties in compliance with principles, conservative secrets. After all, the two sides come to the negotiation table to reach an agreement to form a cooperative relationship. Therefore, the thing that the saying is introduced to the other party, letting the other party better master the situation, in order to consider a better cooperation, this is a positive way. Integrity also has a layer of meaning to actively consider the other party and provide constructive advice to the other party to help each other out of the predicament. This method will cause the other party's good feeling, making the collaboration in the future. When the negotiations are often encountered, the scene is embarrassed, everyone is silent, and the air is tight. At this time, you may wish to take a golden shell or suggestion. The negotiator should fully consider that try to change the environment when negotiating is unable to solve. Even if you can't reach an agreement, you can also explore the other party's virtuality, or contact your feelings to enhance understanding in a relaxed and enjoyable atmosphere, eliminate the tension on the negotiation table. This approach has generally adopted.
