Four active psychological hint
Handling of interpersonal relationships must follow many rules, Carnegie has put forward a lot for us. However, in terms of self, psychological positive suggestions are also very important, it can help yourself out. Carnegie believes that the most important class he has learned is: the importance of thinking. Just know what you are thinking, you know what kind of person you are, because everyone's characteristics are caused by thoughts. Our fate is fully determined in our psychological state. Emerson said: "A person is what he thinks all day." The biggest problem you must face - in fact is the only problem we need to cope - how to choose the right idea. If we can do this, you can solve all the problems. The great philosopher of the Roman Empire believes that "life is caused by thoughts." Yes, if we think is happy, we can happiness; if we think is Sadness, we will be sad; if we think of some terrible situations, we will be afraid; if we think is a bad idea
We are afraid that we will not be peaceful; if we think is the net is failed, we will fail; if we are immersed in self-pity, everyone will intend to avoid us. This is said that it is implicit to all difficulties, should we treat it with habitual music attitude? no. Life will not be so simple, but everyone should choose a positive attitude without adopting the attitude of the opposite side. In other words, we must be concerned about our problems, but we can't worry. What is the respective concerns between concerns and worries? The meaning of concern is to understand the problem, and then take a variety of steps to solve it, but worry is madness to swim in the small circle. A person can care about some serious problems, while inserting a flower in the clothes. Once, Carnegie helped Rovil Tomas starring a famous film about Allen and Lawrence in the First World War. He and several assistants filmed the shots of war in front of the wars, and recorded Lawrence and his multicolored Arab army with the film, and also recorded the Ellen's conquest. His speech wearing in the movie - "Palestinian Allen and Arab Lawrence", is very sensational in London and the world. After winning the grand success in London, it was a very successful week to travel several countries.
, Then he spent two years, ready to shoot a record film in India and Afghanistan. When Rovil Tomas faces huge debt and extremely disappointed, he is very concerned, but it is not worried. He knew that if he was frankly fostered in the heart, he was worth a month in people's eyes, especially their creditors. So he has to buy a flower before going to do things every morning, plug in the clothes, and then take the Oxford Street. His thoughts are very active and brave, and they are not frustrated. For him, frustration is part of the whole thing - it is a beneficial training that you have to achieve a peak of career. His psychological quality is very strong. After some struggle, he finally got rid of the dilemma. In order to illustrate the magic of thought, Carnegie tells the story of a strange thing that happened during the American Civil War. The founder of Christian belief therapy Mary Baker Emie thought that only diseases, suffering and misfortunes in life. Her pre-employment husband, she will die until after marriage, the second husband will abandon her. She only had a son, but she had to send him away from him for four years old. She didn't know that her son's drops have been thirty-year years, and they have not seen him again. Because her own health is not good, she has always been interested in the so-called "confidence treatment law". However, her life in her life has happened in the Massachusetts. A very cold day, she suddenly slipped when she was walking in the city.
I fell on the pavement of the frozen, and fainted. Her spine was hurt, so that she kept spasts, the doctor didn't even think she was soon. The doctor also said that even if the miracle has caused her to live, she is absolutely unable to walk. Lying in a shot is the end of the bed, Mary Baker Eddie opens the Bible. She later said that she read the sentence in Matthew: "Someone lifted a paralyzed to Jesus with the stretcher to follow, Jesus said, rest assured, your rollers ... get up, take your 子Going home. That person stands up, go home. "She later said that these words of Jesus have made her a power, a belief, a kind of ability to treat her, so that she" I immediately took the bed and started to walk. "" This experience, "Mrs. Eddie said," Like the apple that triggers Newton's inspiration, let me find what I do, and how to make others To this, I can say it very confident: Everything is in your thoughts, and all influence is psychological. "Cat-resistant people are not the believer of this sect, but he live longer, more Confident to believe in the power of thought. Experiences engaged in adult education for 35 years to make Carnegie know men and women to eliminate worries, fear and many diseases. As long as they change their ideas, they can change their lives. This type of change, Carnegie has seen hundreds of times, because it is too much, of course, it is not blamed. There is an unbelievable transformation that can prove the strength of thought, and it happens on a student in Carnegie. He used to collapse once, the cause is anxiety. That student told Ka Ni: "I am worried about me. I am worried because I am too thin, because I think I am getting hair, because I am afraid that I will not make enough money to marry a wife, because I think I will always There is no way to do a good father, because I am afraid that I have lost the girl I want to marry, because I think I have a good life now, I am worried about I have a bad impression of others; I am worried, because I think I think I got a stomach ulcer, I can't work again, after the resignation, I am more tight in my heart, like a boiler without a safe valve, and the pressure is finally unbearable. If you have never experienced the spirit of the spirit, pray God makes you never have this experience, because there is no one in any body, you can exceed the spirit of the spirit. "I am a spirit of collapse, even serious to no way and my family. chat. I can't control my own thoughts, full of fear, as long as there is a little voice, I will scare me. I escape everyone
, Often crying for no reason. "I have suffering every day. I feel that I was abandoned by all people - even God also abandoned me. I really want to jump to the river suicide." But I decided to travel to Florida, I hope to change the environment to me. Help. After I got a train, my father gave me a letter and told me, waited until Florida was opened again. When Florida is just a peak season, you can't rely on the room in the hotel, you can rent a room in a room. I want to find a difference, but I have not succeeded, so I put the time on the beach. I am more sad when Florida is more sad than at home, so I dismantled the letter and see what my father wrote. He wrote in the letter: 'Son, you are now 1,500, but you don't think there is something different, right? I know that you will not think there is something difference, because you still have your trouble - too yourself. No matter what your body or your spirit, there is no problem, because it is not what you have encountered so that you are frustrated, but because of your imagination of all situations. In short, a person thinks about what, he will become something like; when you understand this, go home. Because you are doing well. '"My father's messenger is very angry, I want to sympathy, not lessons. I am now that I will never go home. That night, after a church that is being held, because there is no other place, I went in and listened to a lecture. The topic is' Can conquer the spirit of people, and I can sie in the city. I am sitting in the temple of God, I heard the same idea of my father - this Just sweep all the crancesses in your mind. I first clicked and reasonable ideas, and found that I was really a fool. I saw myself, I really shocked, I still want Change this world and all the people around the world - and the only thing that truly needs to change, just the focus of my brain thinking camera lens. "The next morning I packed the baggage to go home, after a week, I Back to the previous work. After four months, I married the girl I have been afraid of losing girls. We have a happy family now, have five children, whether in terms of matter or spirit, God is very good. When I collapsed, I am a small sector night shift foreman, and there are 18 people under the hand; now I am a factory manager of a carton factory, manage more than 450 employees. Life is more fulfilling more than before, more friendly. I believe I can understand the true value of life. Whenever I feel uncomfortable, I will tell yourself: I just make the focus of the camera, everything is fine. "I want to say honestly, I am very happy to have experience in the spirit of spirit, because it makes me discover my thoughts on the body and mind. I can make my thoughts for me, but will not damage it. I; I now know that my father is right, makes me painful, it is really not an external situation, but my opinion on all situations. Once I know this, it is complete, and I will not Regeneration. "This is the experience of the student. Carnegie pointed out that our heart is calm, and the happiness we got by our life is not where we are, what are we there?
Or why we are, but just in our mood, there is not much relationship with external conditions. Three hundred years ago, Milton also found the same truth: "The use of thought and the ideology itself, you can cause hell to cause hell, and cause hell." Elike specialist, this great Stu, Schozi philosophers, warned us to say: We should try to eliminate the wrong ideas in our ideas, this is much more important than cutting "tumors on the body and abscesses". The phrase that Pechtch said in the 19th century has been supported by modern medicine. Dr. Campbin said that in the patient's patient, there were five-fifth of the patients who were accommodated due to emotional tensions and stress, and even some physiological organs were also. He announced that "these can be traced back to life and problems." Montan, this great French philosopher, the following two sentences to make his life motto: "A person who happened The harm that is affected, can't be deep due to his opinions on what happened. "And our opinions on what happened, completely see how we will decide. When you are troubled by a variety of troubles, when you are interested in nervousness, you can change your mood with your own willpower. This may take a little strength, but the secret is very simple. William James is the authority of practical psychology. He once published this theory: "Action seems to be with feeling, but in fact, action and feeling happen at the same time. If we make yourself in the willpower Regularization, it is also possible to indirectly understand the feeling of the feeling of the willpower. "William James told us that we can't change our emotions with" decisive "- but we can change our actions, and When we change the action, we will naturally change our feelings. He explained, "If you feel unhappy, then the only way to find a happy way is to make the spirit, make the action and words seem to feel happy." Is this simple way is it useful? " You may wish to try it yourself. Let your face come out a very happy smile, look at the chest, take a big breath, then sing a small song, if you can't sing, blow your whistle, if you don't whistle, just a song . You will quickly find what William James is what it means. When your actions can show you happiness, it is impossible to worry and fell. Carnegie met an Indiana person, named Indelette. He is still alive now, just because he discovered this secret. Ten years ago, Mr. Ingelet has got a scarlet hot. When he rehabilled, he found that kidney disease was obtained. He has found a lot of doctors, but no one can cure him. Then he got another complications, his blood pressure he had high. He went to see a doctor, the doctor said that his blood pressure has reached the highest point of the two hundred and four. The doctor announced that he has not saved - the situation is too serious, it is best to take the event immediately. "I am back home," he said, "I figured out that all my insurance has been paid, then repent to the emperor I have made all the mistakes that I have committed before, and it is hard to silently silently. I harm all. People are very unhappy; my wife and my family are very sad, I am deeply buried in the mood of the lost. However, after a week of self-pity, I said to myself: 'You The child is simply a big fool. You are afraid that you will not die in a year, then when you are alive, how is you happy? '"I looked at the chest, my face was smiling, trying to let myself It shows that everything is normal.
I admit that I am quite laborious, but I force myself very happy, I am very happy, it is not only good for my family, but also help me. "Then I find that I have started to feel much. This improvement continues, I am not only very happy, very healthy, live well, and my blood pressure also falls. One thing I am sure: If I have been If you want to die, if you will fall, the doctor predicts will be realized. But I give my own body a chance to recover, there is no use, in addition to changing my mood. "So, Carnegie believes If you make you feel happy, the courage and healthy thoughts saved a person's life, then why do you have to be saddened to some little unhappy? If you can make you happy, you can create happiness, but why do we haven't happy with our people? For many years, Carnegie has seen a small book. It has a long-term and good impact on his life. The book is called "human thoughts", the author is James Allen, the following is a section of the book: "One People will find that when he changed the views of things and others, things and others will change him - if a person puts his thoughts, he will be surprised, his Life is greatly affected. People can't attract them, but they may attract them ... can change temperament, they exist in our own heart, which is our own ... A person can get it, it is Their own thoughts directly ... After you have a hard-to-face idea, a person can rise, conquer, and have achievements. If he can't fight his thoughts, he will only weaken and suffer. "According to the Bible God ruled the whole world, which is really a quite gift. But Carnegie is nothing interest in this privilege, what he hopes is to control his own ability - can control your own thoughts, control your own fear, can control your own inner and spirit. No matter when, just control your own behavior, you can control your own reaction. So let us remember William James: "... Usually, as long as the inner feelings of the suffering, you can change most of our so-called evil, change to you." Let We strive for our happiness! Let us use a plan that can produce happiness and constructive ideas every day to struggle for our happiness. Here is this plan, name is "just today." Carnegie thinks that this plan is very effective, this is written by Xibei Paiji, thirtyteteen years ago. If we can do it, we can eliminate most of the worries, and increase the "happiness in life". 1, just today, I am very happy. If Lincoln said, "Most people can make a good determination can be very happy", so happiness is from the inner, not from the outside. 2, only for today, I want to adapt everything, and don't try to adjust everything to adapt to my desire. I want to accept my family with this attitude, my career and my luck. 3, just today, I want to protect my body. I want to exercise more, kindly care, good and cherish it; don't damage it, don't ignore it; make it a good foundation for me to fight for success. 4, only for today, I have to strengthen my thoughts. I have to learn some useful things, I don't want to be a thoughtful person. I want to see some books that need to be thought, more need to concentrate on the book. 5, just today, I have to exercise my soul with three things: I have to do a good thing for others, but don't let people know; I have to do two things I don't want to do, and this is like William James is recommended, just to exercise.
6, only for today, I have to be a discussion, the appearance should be modified as much as possible, the clothes should be decent, the words are low, and the action is elegant, and there is nothing to do with others. Do not pick up your abilities, do not interfere or teach others. 7, just today, I have to try only how to spend today, but I don't expect my life. Because I can do something for twelve and airs, but if I do this, I will be frightened. 8, just today, I want to order a plan. I want to write something to do every hour; maybe I will not do it all, but I still have to order this plan; this can at least exempt from two shortcomings - too rushing and hesitating. 9, only for today, I have to leave quiet half an hour, easily. In this half hour, I want to think of God and make my life more hope. 10, only for today, I want to be afraid in my heart. Especially, I don't want to be happy. I want to enjoy everything in the United States, go to love, and believe that those who love will love me. If we want to cultivate peace and happiness, please remember this plan: "With happiness, you can feel happy." Carnegie believed that self suggesting this noun, which is suitable for people's facial features to enter personal consciousness. All implied with all autonomous stimuli. That is, a process of generating a stimulus with a language or other way to generate a stimulus on his own perception, thinking, imagination, emotion, will, etc. Self-suggestion is automatic hints, it is a communication medium between a person's psychological activity and a part of a subconscious action part. It is a revelation, reminder and instruction, which will tell you what to pay attention to, what to do, what to do, and how it can dominate your behavior. This is a magic weapon that everyone has. Since its own humans, I don't know how many thinkers, missionaries and educators have repeatedly emphasized the importance of confidence and will. But they all did not clearly point out: confidence and will are a psychological state, a positive state of positive psychological state that can be induced and cultivated in self-suggestion! Success begins with awakening, mentality decides to fate! This is the great discovery of the current era and is the superior contribution of successful psychology. Successful psychology, the core of active mentality is the self-confidence, active awareness, or active self-consciousness, and the source and results of confident consciousness are often psychologically active self-suggestions. It is also the same, negative mentality, inferior awareness, is often psychologically negative self-suggestion. That is to say, different consciousness and mentality will have different psychological implications, and the difference between psychological hints is also the root cause of different consciousness and mentality. Therefore, the mentality determines that fate is based on the fact that the psychological implies determines the act. For example, Sunday, you have been playing with your friends, but you will look at the window in the morning, raining. At this time, what do you think? You may think: bad! I can't get it in the rain, I'm really bored at home ...; if you want: it's raining, it is good, I read reading at home today, listen to music ... These two different psychological hints will Bring two different emotions and behaviors. The live situation of us is neither all, everything is bad; it is not all good, everything goes well. This general situation is equivalent to "Half Cup Coffee". You face this half a cup of coffee, what idea does your heart? Negative self-suggestion is to have a less than half a cup and is not happy, and the emotions are depressed; and positive self-suggestion is to celebrate that he has already got a half cup of coffee, then enjoy it, and active.
It can be seen that the psychology suggests that this magic will have a positive side and negative side. Different psychological hints will inevitably have different choices and behaviors, and different choices will inevitably have different results. Some people have said: "Everything achievements, all the wealth begins with one mind." We can also talk about some of the comprehensiveness: Are you used to doing what kind of self-suggesting in psychologically, is your poor and rich, become The root cause of defeat. Therefore, we have always emphasized that the development of active mentality, the main way to success is: insisting on psychologically active self-suggestion, do things you want to do, especially, especially to be shy, self-expression, fear Communicate with people, change to dare to self-performance, willing to communicate with people! As mentioned earlier, everyone takes a fascinating magic weapon. This magic weapon has two different roles. These two different power are magical. It will let you take confidence and courage, seize the opportunity, take action, get wealth, achievement, health and happiness; will let you reject and lose these very valuable things. The two sides of this magic weapon are two distinct psychological self-suggestions. The key is where you choose, which is often used. A child, the family is poor, life is distress, have to pick up the coal block often, pick up the broken, and some students can't afford him. After school, there are often children who bullied people to attack him and take this way. Every time he is scared or smashed, he only went home with tears and felt fear and inferiority. Later, he read a book "Robert's struggle" and inspired and encouraged. He has made positive self-suggestion, and he is determined to fight, defeat each other. On this day, he encountered the three strong and weak children. The three children shouted together to rush to him. He is not escaped, not afraid of begging for mercy, but string to fight, a drum and spelling them. This is a fierce battle. He knocked down one, and the other is not a good escape, and the one leader has only returned. Since then, the three children don't dare to bully him. In fact, he is not strong than a few months ago, and the three children attacking him have not become weak, and the difference between his psychology is different. He changed his psychological attitude, and he also changed his fate. Psychological self-impliance is a magic weapon, but this magic weapon has a huge magic of this magic weapon, but it needs to be used to form a sense of consciousness. People with confident active awareness will now make a long-term positive self-suggestion, and people with inferior passive consciousness always use negative self-suggestions. It can be said that people who are often positively suggesting are opportunities and hopes in front of each difficult and problem; and people who often have a negative suggestion in every hope and opportunities are issues and difficulties. Obviously, this consciousness formed by thousands of psychological suggestions determines whether a person has no development and can succeed. Dr. Walt Rewick, US Society, studied such a question: he found two sets of different students from the sixth grade students of two primary schools as research objects. A group is a bad performance, it is difficult to save; the other group is excellent, it can be up. Those who have poor conducts, when they encounter some difficulties, they often expect themselves will have trouble, feel that they are lower than others, and they identify their families. And those who have excellent children believe that they will succeed in learning, I believe I will not encounter any trouble. After five years of tracking surveys, the results show that the original expectations: Good children can maintain a record of continued progress; and those who have poor conduct often have problems, and some people have passed the juvenish court.
The above facts and research results have once again confirmed: self-awareness, self-evaluation itself can indeed the development of a person. If a child has a bad self-consciousness, there will be a bad performance, which is very easy to be seen as "no interest", "useless", even "criminal intentions". A person's psychological implies often, he will really become like that. If you want to quit smoking, if you tell yourself: "I can't quit smoking", then he will never quit smoking. Everyone thinks "I don't do", "I have been destined to fail", how can he succeed? There is only a few differences between people and people, but this small difference has often caused huge differences! The huge differences are of course determined to be successful, happy, or mediocrity, misfortune. And the original difference is that the psychological implies taken by everything. Therefore, two different psychological hints will inevitably produce two different results. A person's destiny is determined by self-consciousness. The meaning of this sentence includes subconscious. Because positive psychological suggestions should be carried out, long-term persistence, this means that positive self-suggesting can automatically enter the subconscious, influence the awareness, only have a hosted, will become a habit. Carnegie pointed out that subconsciousness is a psychological activity that has been used to natural, no intentional control. According to the structure of nature, human beings are fully controlled by various information stimuli and substance for entering potential through various sensory organs. However, this does not mean that people often use their own control anytime, anywhere, and in most cases, many people do not use this control. If people can dominate themselves, how can there be so many people's mentality negative, a lifetime is poor? The subconscious is like a fertile land, and if it is not a good species of success, it will be wild grass, a ridiculous. Self-suggestion is a control medium of broadcasting, a person can automatically put successful seeds and creative ideas into a slutty in the soil of sooses via a positive psychological hint. Instead, you can also instill negative seeds or destructive thoughts, and so that this fertile land wild straightening. Adhere to psychological active self-suggestion, it is very important to succeed for individuals. First, through the role of psychological implies, it has established successful psychology, and the development of active mentality has become a manner and means that can be manipulated. That is to say, transform awareness, develop positive attitude, will start from psychological self-impliance. Second, psychological hints is a communication medium between "consciousness" and subconsciousness in human self-consciousness. People's ideological behavior cannot be consciously selected and controlled. Through frequent persistent positively suggestions, let the confident active currents and subconscious are turned on, which is the true virtual self-consciousness. Third, because the content of psychological hint is specific, actually, so adhere to the positive self-awareness must choose to establish its own goal, and the main goals will penetrate in subconscious, as a model or blueprint to dominate you. Life and work. Fourth, through the psychological implicit, we can operate, we can integrate the content of successful psychology, simple and clear confidence and will, and will move immediately. Because psychological hints can directly dominate your actions, "Self-consciousness decides whether you have no development, can succeed," this sentence is more real. However, in the actual life, how to make all the things and work that have encountered by psychological hinders? Please see how the following is doing. This lady works in an oil company in Tossha City, Oklahoma. It is the most bored that it takes a few days to spend a few days, and fill in a statement stuffed with statistics. How to make this boring work become interesting? She fell out the quantity filled in each morning, try to break my record in the afternoon; then click on the total number of days, the next day I want to break the previous day.
