Avoid harmful art
Carnegie believes that when you get along with others, you should learn to respect others and minimize harm to others. A harmonious person is the basis of relationships between people from each other. The essence of the study and experience of the study and experience, Carnegie showed the art of avoiding harm when they got along with people. Carnegie briefed the experience between him and his niece. A few years ago, his niece Josephin Carnegie, leaving the hometown of Kansas City, and served as a secretary of Carnegie in New York. She was 19 years old, and high school graduated for three years, but the experience is almost equal to zero. Now, she is one of the perfect secretary of the West Hemisphere. However, when you have just started working, there are still many shortcomings. One day, Carnegie is trying to criticize her, but immediately said to himself.
, "Wait, Dell Carnegie. Your old age is doubled, your life experience is almost 10,000 times. How can you hope that she has the same point as you, your judgment Your rushing - Although these are very ordinary. Also, what are you doing when you are 19 years old? Remember your stupid mistakes and move? After honest and justice, think about it. After that, Carnegie has been conclusively, and Josephin is ninety-year-old than him, and he is very embarrassed, he has not often praised Josephine. From then, when Carnegie wanted to point out Josephin's When the error, always said: "Josephine, you made a mistake, but God knows that many mistakes I have made are worse than you. Of course, you can't be born, you will be proficient, success only can get from experience.
And you are much better than me. I have done so many stupid stupid things, so I don't want to criticize you or anyone. But don't you think that if you do this, isn't it smart? "If a person is modest to be modest, he may also make mistakes, not impeccable, then others will listen to him, maybe it will not be in the ear. Far in 1909, elegant Blo Princes feel that it is necessary to do this. The prince of Bo Luo is the minister of the Prime Minister of Germany, and the German emperor is William II - Germany's last emperor. He is arrogant - he established an army and The navy, and boast can conquer the world. Then, an amazing thing happened. This German emperor said some mad and some incredible words, shocking the entire European continent, causing a series of people around the world. The wind is more bad, this German emperor actually open these stupid, ridiculous words
When he served in the UK, he said, and did not allow the "Daily Telegraph" of London to publish what he said. For example, he claims that he is a friendly German in British. He said that he established a navy against Japan's threat; he said he saved the UK alone, so that the UK was from the surrender Su Russian and France; he said, due to his planning, Jazz, Robert, British Beat the Bolssen; In the peaceful period of more than a hundred years, there is no such surprising words without a European monarch. The entire European continent is immediately angry, and the UK is particularly angry, and Germany politicians are terrified. In this case, the German emperor he also panicked, and proposed to the prince of the Minister of the Imperial Prime Minister, he would bear all the blame, I hope that the Prince Bo will announce that this is his responsibility. It is recommended that the king said that these are difficult to believe. "But," His Majesty, "Parents of Bo said," This is almost impossible. The German and the UK, no one will believe that I have the ability to recommend these words. "Brusin said, Understand the big mistake, the emperor is very annoyed. "You think I am a stupid man," he called, "I will only do something you will not commit!" Bo said that he should compliment a few words, then propose criticism; but since it is too late, He had to take a second step: that is, after criticism, it will be praised. This commendation often does not want the effect. "I don't have this kind of meaning." He replied, "His Majesty is a lot of me, and the most important thing is natural science. Explain the barometer, or the radio report, or RMS radiation At the time, I often pay attention to listening, my heart is very admired, and I feel very embarrassed. Every door for natural science is ignorant, and there is no concept of physics or chemistry, and even explaining the simplest natural phenomena. However, "Block Princes continued," In order to compensate for this shortcomings, I learned some historical knowledge, as well as some knowledge that may be politically, especially the diplomacy. "The emperor smiled on his face. Parents praised him and made himself humble, this is worthy of all. "I don't often tell you," he enthusiastically declared that "the two of us have a short longer, can we be famous? We should unite together, we should be so!" He and Blot of Parents, he was very excited. Double punch said: "If anyone tells me the bad words of the Prince Blo, I hit a fist on his nose." If the light is a few words to borrow himself, they can make a arrogant The German emperor becomes a strong friend, then you can imagine, how big is it in our daily affairs, humble and praised your help. If it is used, they will be able to make a real miracle in the people. Even if he has not changed his mistake, as long as he admit his mistake, he can help another person change his behavior. This sentence is that Mali Lannimonnim is recently said, because he saw his fifteen-year-old son is trying to smoke. "Of course, I don't want David to smoke, but his mother smoked, we have always give him a bad example. I explain to David, I started smoking as he asked him, and Nikotine defeated I am almost impossible now. I also remind him that I have a cough now. "" I didn't advise him to quit smoking, or intimidate the harm to smoke. I just told him, how Smoking and its influence on me.
"The result of the conversation not only stops his son to stop the smoking, but also because of his family's support, he also successfully stopped smoke. Carnegi summarizes: To change a person and not harm feelings, or cause hate It is necessary to abide by such rules: "Before criticizing others, change your own mistakes first. "Carnegie pointed out that" suggestions "instead of" command ", not only maintain the other's self-esteem, but also makes him easy to correct the mistake, and cooperate with you. Carnegie has been honored to be the most famous Bioguo writer in the United States. Miss Tabel eats together, he told her that "how to be a human life" this important book. She told Ka Ni, when she wrote a biography for Owen, visited Mr. Yang's work in the same office. A person in three years. This person claims that during that time, he has never heard Ou Wen · Yang to anyone directly ordered. He always suggests that it is not a command. For example, Ou Wen is never said "Do this or do that," or "Don't do this, don't do that. "He always said," You can consider this, "or" Do you think, can you do this? "He often said after a letter," What do you think this letter? "When you check the letter written by a helper, he always said:" Maybe we change this sentence into this, it will be better. "He always gives yourself a chance; he never tells him how to do things; he let them do itself, let them learn success from their own mistakes. I like this method, make people easy to correct him The mistake, and maintaining people's self-esteem, making him self-righteousness, so that he wants to cooperate with you, not rebelring you. Carnegie reminds people to pay attention, the anger caused by the rude elders may last longer, Even if he is correct is a very wrong mistake, this will be the same. Tang Du T T Tari is a teacher in a vocational school in Wuling City, Pennsylvan. He has a student blocking an entrance to the college because of illegal parking. There is one The tutor rushed into the classroom and asked very fierce tone: "Whose car blocked the lane?" "When the owner answered, the mentor shouted:" You will give it to me immediately, otherwise I will tie it on the iron chain. "This student is wrong, the car should not stop there. But from that day, not only this student felt anger to the mentor's behave, and the students did not go with him, making his work more unpleasant. He It was originally handled in a completely different way. If his friendly asked: "Who is the car on the lane? "And suggest that" if you drive away, the other cars can enter and leave. "This student will be happy to take it away. And he and his classmates will not be so angry. We are in life. So, one sentence or two sentences, to others The attitude indicates that a tolerance can reduce the damage to others, keep his face. A few years ago, General Electric Appliances face a work that needs to be carefully handled: exempt from a certain department of Charles Standerz. Stanmez has more than others' genius in electrical appliances, but the supervisor of the calculation department has been completely failed. However, the company did not dare to commit him, the company absolutely could not have him - and he was very sensitive. So they Give him a new title, let him serve as the "General Electric Companies Consultant Engineer" - work or before, just changed a new title - and let others serve as the departmental supervisor. For this transfer, Stann Metz is very happy. The senior staff of General Company is also very happy. They have mobilized the work of the most violent big star staff, and their practices did not cause a big storm - because they let him keep it. face.
Let him have a face! How important is this, how extremely important, and we have few people think of this! We cruelly smudge the feelings of others, and self-righteous; we criticized a child or employee in front of others, find a mistake, threatening, and even consider whether to hurt others. Self-esteem. However, one or two minutes of thinking, one or two sentences are considered to beware of the attitude of others, can reduce the damage to others. Next time, we should remember this when we are resigning a maid or employee. Carnegie cited accountant Marshall Grant wrote to him. "" Extending employees is not very interesting, is being opened, and our work is seasonal, so in March, we Many people must have to walk. "No one is happy, this has become the motto of our industry. Therefore, we evolve into a custom, and processes this thing as soon as possible. It is usually performed in the following manner: 'Please sit, Mr. Smith, this season has passed, we seem to have no more work to handle it. Of course, after all, you also understand that you just hit the most busy season, "Wait." These words bring them disappointment and the feeling of 'abandon'. Most people in them are engaged in accounting work in their lives. I will not abandon their companies so soon, and of course I will not have special love. "I have recently decided to dispassionate our company's excessive people. Therefore, I am carefully considering that each of them will come in by each person in winter. I am like this to them. : Mr. Smith, your work performance is very good. That time we sent you to New Warc, it's a very hard task. You have encountered some difficulties, but it is very appropriate, we hope you know you know, company I am proud of you. You are very popular on this industry - no matter where you work, you will have a bright future. Company has confidence in you, support you, we hope that you don't forget! 'Results? Leaving the company, but for your own dismisions, they don't think 'abandoned'. They know that if we have a job, we will stay them. As long as we need, they will also It takes us for us. "At a semester of Carnegie courses, two students discuss the negative effects of picky errors and let people retain the front effect of the face. Ferry Clark, Harrisburg, Penno, provided a thing that happened in his company: "In our production meeting, a viendian board is a very sharp to eat, ask a production supervision, this The supervision is a management process. His tone is full of attacks, and it is clear that the supervision is improper in working methods. In order not to be humiliated in front of him, this supervised answer is unclean This is more like a vice director, he strictly blames this supervision and says he lies. This time, all the achievements were destroyed at this moment. This supervision, it is a very good employee. From that moment, he has not used our company. After a few months, he left our company and worked for another company. As far as I know, he is very competed there. "Another another Personnel, Anna Mazzi provides a very similar thing to the above situation, which is different from handling methods and results. Miss Mazi, which can be able to get it, is a market acquisition expert in a food packaging industry. Her first job is a new product market test. She told the class to say: "When the result is coming back, I can be really miserable. Worse, before the next meeting, I didn't have time to discuss with my boss.
"When I report to me, I was really afraid to shook. I didn't make my own spirit, and I know that I can't cry, I can't let those who think that women are too emotional and unable to serve as an excuse. I The report is very short, just saying that because of a mistake, I will re-study before the next meeting. After I sat down, I thought the boss will criticize me. "But he thank you for your work, and Emphasis is not very unrest in a new plan. And he has confidence, the second census will be more meaningful to the company. "After the snake, my thoughts are chaotic, I will decide, I will never let my boss disappoint again." Carnegie believed that we were right, others were absolutely wrong, we will also destroy others His self. The legendary French flying pioneer and writer Antona De St. Sohe is written: "I have no right to do or tell anything to devalue a person's self-esteem. It is important not to think he thinks, but People think that herself, the self-esteem of hurt people is a crime. "Carnegie tells us that when dealing with interpersonal relationship, give people a beautiful name, just like the" Cinderella "story, point In his body, this will give him a new from the beginning to the end. If a good worker has become a crude worker, what will you do? You can dismiss him, but this doesn't solve any problems; you can scold the worker, but this usually only causes grievance. An example of Carnegie illustrates this problem. Henry Hanke is a service manager of a truck dealer in Lowestin, Indiana. His company has a worker and works every condition. But Henry Hanke did not roar or threaten him, but call him to the office and talk to him. He said: "Bill, you are a great mechanic. You have been working on this line for a few years. The car you repaired is also very satisfied. In fact, there are many people praise your technology. But recently, The time you need to complete a job is extended, and your quality is not more than the previous level. You used to be an outstanding mechanic, I think you must know, I am not very satisfied with this situation. Maybe we You can think of this problem together. "Bill replied that he didn't know that he did not have his duty and he assured his boss. He did not exceed his expertise. He will definitely Will improve it. His did he did it? You can definitely do it. He used to be a fast and excellent mechanic. Since Mr. Han, he will work hard to respect his honor. Mrs. Rubsham Hapkin, a fourth-year teacher in Brookly, New York, when she read the student roster in the class, the first day of the semester, the excitement of the new semester and the color of happiness : This year, there is a "bad child" in the whole school in her class - Tom. Tom's third grade teacher, constantly complaining to colleagues or principals, as long as there is anyone is willing to listen, he will keep Tom's bad things. He is not just a prank, fighting with boys, playing girls, rude to the teacher, disturbing order in the class, and the situation seems to be more worse. The only thing he can rest assured is that he will learn the school's homework and very skilled. Mrs. Hapkin decided to face "Tom Issues" immediately. When she saw her new student, she said: "Luo, the clothes you wear are very beautiful. I heard that you have a lot of painting." When she read Tom, she looked straight to Tom To him: "Tom, I know that you are a born leader, this year, I have to rely on you to help me get this class as the best class.
"At the beginning, she has always emphasized this, praise Tom, and commenting his behavior is a good student. With a good name worth struggling, even a nine-year-old boy It will not make her disappointment. And he really did it. Carnegie summarizes, if you want to surpass yourself in the leadership method, please remember this rule: "Give others US name, let him struggle for this. "We usually hope that others can follow their own wishes to do something, but let others be happy to do your wishes, you must let him understand, he is more important to you, this, he will It is important to think about him. Looking back in 1915, the Americans at the time were uneasy. Because of more than a year, European countries have slaughtered each other, and there has never been such a tragic situation in human bloody records. Peace? No one knows. But the US President Urr Wilson was determined to try. He sent a private peace to make a strong conference in Europe. Secretary of State William Gin is a peaceful support, I really want to do this. He thinks this is a chance to recommend yourself and make your own name. But Wilson assigned another person - his friendship and consultant Croinil Edward House. This. The thing is very difficult to House, he doesn't know how to tell this unopened news and do not let him. "Bew Yang knows that I am a resiliency in Europe, which is very disappointed. "Croil wrote in his diary:" Before this, he planned to do this. If he goes, it will cause many people's attention, people will weird send him? "You see this suggestion? House is actually telling Bew Yang, he is too important, take this task too much eye, Bew Yang has nothing to say. House is fine, he complies with interpersonal relationships A very important law: let others be happy to do what you suggested. Urre Wilson is also using the same method when inviting William Djib Mike Adu to participate in his cabinet. Being a pavilion is a president Can give the highest honor, but Wilson invited Mike Adu in another way. The following is what McAdu said: "Wilson said that he wants to group a cabinet, if I am willing to accept The Minister of Finance, he will be very happy. His way to do is very pleasant. He has made an impression, making me feel that I accepted this glory, I helped him. "Unfortunately, Wilson does not often follow this method. If he is always like this, history may be rewritten. For example, Wilson initiatives set up an international alliance, did not make Congress and Republican Gaoxing. Wilson refused to take Republican leaders to participate in the Peace Conference, On the contrary, he went from his own part of the unknown person. He refuted the Republican parties that he participated in the International Alliance is his idea of his Republican, and refused to put them on a foot. He is so rudely The results of the interpersonal relationship are to destroy their own political career, destroy their own health, shortened life, so that the United States does not participate in the National Union, change the history of the world. Politician is not the only person in this method. Indiana. Indiana Dell Franui, also made his child voluntarily to do his housework. Carnegie said that he knew that a gentleman must refuse from a friend, the requester's speech, but he did a skill, What did he do. What did he do? He is not only telling people that he is very busy, or very this is very, but it is sorry after the invitation of the people and cannot accept it. Bit replacement.
In other words, he does not let others have time to consider the refusal, he immediately puts this person's thoughts, and guides the person who can speaking. Hante Schisi, in the course of Siede, Carnegie, he mentioned this: An employee often invested the price card in front of various items in the food store, which makes the customer can't figure out the price. And complained in this matter frequently. Remind her to advise her, nothing to talk to her. Finally, Mr. Schisi took her into the office, talked to her, please be responsible for the price of the whole store, this immediately made her attitude completely changed, from which, she was very responsible for her price card supervision . In this way, some people will think that childish, and this is also what people criticize Napoleon. When he could customize the honorary medal, he issued 15,000 to him, and raised the 18 general to "French Marshal", and said that his army was "invincible land army", some people criticized Napoleon used " Toy "Torn the veteran of the war baptism, and Napoleon:" People are led by the toys. "This policy of" Given the title "can be used for Napoleon, of course, can be used for you. Carnegie said, for example, his friend Ennist Jarete, lived in Shikasdar in New York, she was in a group of boy tied to her grass and worried about her grass. She tried to rebumer, kid, but both were useless. So she tried to give him the most worse name of the group to give him a sense of authority. She gave him to her "exploration", which is responsible for expelting all invasion grassers, which solves her problem. Her "exploration" ignited a fire in the backyard, burned a soldering iron, and threatened other children, don't step into the grass, otherwise he would brand it. Carnegie warned, an excellent leader, should put the following books in your heart, when you need to change people's attitude or behavior: 1, you must be sincere, don't give you unable to honor, forget your own interests, concentrate on others The interests are thinking. 2. To know exactly what you want others to do. 3, think about others. Ask yourself, what others really want. 4, it is estimated that someone else is doing your suggestion, what is the interest. 5. Take these benefits with him. 6. When you ask your request, let others feel that he will benefit. For example, we can say this: "John, tomorrow, there is a guest, I hope that the bun room looks clean, so I cleaned it, put the goods well on the shelves, the counter wipes clean." Or we can change one way To ask him to do this, and let him know the interests he can have: "John, I have a job. If you do it now, you will not have to do it. I will take some guests tomorrow, visit some guests. Our equipment, I want to take them to visit the room, but there is dirty, if you can sweep, put the goods on the shelf, and wipe the counter so that we look more efficient, and you also have good for the company. The impression of a force. "John will do your suggestion?" May not be very happy, but if you don't say interest, he will be more unhappy. Assume that you know John's cleaning in the warehouse, and is interested in the company's image, he will work together. This can also make John know that this work must be done. He is doing now, and you will not have to do it. If you think that the results you have when you use these methods, it's too irritating. But most people's experience shows that if you use this way, you can change people's attitude than if you don't have to use these principles.
If you only increase the success of 10%, then you have more than 10% of the leadership efficiency - this is your interest. People will do more, if you abide by the following rules: "Let others will be happy to do what you suggested." The world famous psychologist Stephen's proves in his experiment, in terms of learning, one Good behavior is a reward animal, more than one animal, which is punished due to poor behavior, and can remember it. Further studies have shown that humans have the same situation. We use criticisms and cannot make people with permanent changes, but often cause a resentment. Another great psychologist, said: "We are very hoped to get praise from others, the same, we are also very afraid of the accusations of others." Criticism caused the resentment, often reduces the morale of employees, family and friends and Emotion, and the situation accused is still not improved. Jiang Shidon, Oklahoma, is a security coordinator of an engineering company. One of his duties is to supervise employees working on site to wear a hard hat. He said that he had encountered a person who did not wear a hard hat, and he told them to the official regulation, and they must abide by the company's regulations. Although the employee accepted his correction, it was unhappy, and he often took the hard hat after he left. He decided to take another way. Next time he found someone when he didn't wear a hard hat, he asked them that the hard hat was uncomfortable, or what is not suitable. He then reminded them with a pleasant tone, and the purpose of wearing a hard hat is to protect them from harm. It is recommended to wear a hard hat when they work. The result is that people who comply with the regulations that wear a hard hat are more and more, and they have not caused resentment or emotional dissatisfaction. The famous argument has taken a famous argument between the President of Tago Roosevelt and Tower - the debate splits the Republican party, so that Wilson enters the White House and wrote the brilliant page of the world war. When Roosevelt stepped out of the White House in 1908, he made Tower to the President and then went to the hunted lion in Africa. When he came back, it was a big thunder. He rebuilt the conservatism of Tihu, which intends to get the second nomination for himself, so it consists of a male babies, and the Republican also cars. Then the results of the election, the tiger and the Republican Party only gave the votes of the two states - Vimonas and Utah. This is a republican party's unprecedented fiasco. Ross volley tower, but the Tower Turning president blame himself? of course not. Tower said: "I can't see how I do it, I can do something to do with me." Who is it? Roosevelt or Tower Turning? Carnegie's promise he doesn't know, and no matter. But Carnegie has seen another aspect of the problem: all Roosevelt criticism can't make tiger acknowledged that he was wrong. The result is only to defend the tiger to defend himself, and the tears said repeatedly: "I can't see how I do it, I can do something to do before I have done before." Take the "Teapot Cover Oilfield" fraud Bar. The report was attacked for many years. As a result, the entire country fell. In this generation's memory, the US political community has not had this kind of thing. The tropical truth is this: Haden President's interior of the Ministry of the Interior of the Ministry of Obm, the main government in the Alke's hills and teapot, and the oil field is reserved for the future use of the Navy. of. Does Fur Minister have to make others public bidding? No. He simply handed the interests of the contract to his friend Edward Dubi. How do Dubani do? He gave Flem to 100,000 US dollars "loan". Since then, Flem Minister ordered the US Navy to enter the area, lie to those opponents, lest the oil wells from the surrounding oil. Those opponents, after being rushed under the tip of the gun, rushed into the court, exposed a 200,000 dollar teapot capsae field fraud.
The result is a lot of boiling, ruining the ruling of the Haden President, provoking the public anger of the country, to get the Republican party, and make the Fu fall into the iron window. Fluore was scallted to the dog's blood head - no civil servants were so miserable. But he didn't regret at all! After many years, Hoover hinted to the death of the President of Haden in a public speech, which made him focus and worry. When Mrs. Flas heard this passage, jumped from the chair, tears, holding his fists, screaming: "What! Haden is sold by Fleder? No! I never never Selling anyone, the golden houses can't make me a charm. He should be a person who is sold on the execution ground, nailing a cross. "Here, humanity is showing, people who do wrong things will only We will blame others, and we will not blame yourself. So when you want to criticize others tomorrow, we must understand that criticism is like a family pigeon, they will always come back. We must understand that people we prepare to correct and accuse may defend themselves, in turn condemn us; or, like Wen Ya's tiger, he will say: "I can't see how I do it, I can follow me The difference is different. "On April 15, 1865, Lincoln lying on the bedroom of the Ford Theater is opposite a cheap inn, and some people shot him in the theater. Lincoln's thin body is oblidered in the bed. Above the bed, there is a cheap replica of the famous Losaman famous painting "Master", and a gas lamp has a bleak yellow haak. When Lincoln lying down, the War Minister Stadon said, "What is the most perfect head of the world in history," What is the success of Lincoln's success? Carnegie has studied Lincoln's life for ten years, and spent three years of time, writing, and retouching a book called "the glory of human nature". He believes that he has done all the possibility of human beings, and has made detailed and thorough research on Lincoln's personality and home. During the way of Lincoln with others, Carnegie has done a special study. Does he like to criticize others? Yes it is. When he is young, in the pigeon rig in Indiana, he is not just criticism, but also writes the letter to the poem, and throwing those letters, will be discovered by others. Among them, there is a letter caused by the dislike, lasted for a lifetime. When Lincoln implemented a lawyer business in Yichun Township Town, Lincoln, even sent a book to the newspaper, publicly attacked his opponent. In the fall of 1842, he laughed with a conceited Irish named James Stuz. Lincoln reported an unsolicited letter in the spring of the Spring Festival, ridiculed him, and the people in the town laughed. Sylz is a sensitive and proud person who is angry. He found that the person who wrote that letter, jumped on the horse, looking for Lincoln, and made a duel with him. Lincoln didn't want to fight with him, he opposed the duel; but for his face and had to duel. The other party gave him the freedom to choose the weapon, because his arms were very long, he chose the long sword of the cavalry and learned the dance sword with a graduate of a West Point military school. On the day of the duel, he met in a beach in the Minissi River, preparing for duel. However, in the last minute, their assistants blocked this duel. This is the most horrible private event in Lincoln. In terms of being a human art, he learned an invaluable lesson. He has never written a letter of insulting letters, and he no longer makes anyone. From then on, he had almost unscrupled anyone.
The President of Tido Roosevelt said that when he was president, if he met a tricky problem, he often rely on, looked up at the huge portrait of the Lincoln on his white house office, asking himself, "If Lincoln In this case, what will he do? How will he solve this problem?" When we wanted to take someone "狗 血 血 头", I took a five pieces from the pocket. The baby's banknote, look at the portrait of Lincoln on the banknotes, and asking: "If Lincoln encounters this problem, how will he dispose of it?" Mark Temina often makes the temper, the written fire is enough to carry the letter paper . For example, once he wrote a letter to someone opposed him, "I should be a death burial license. You will definitely help you get this license." Once, he Write a letter to a editor, talk about a school to attempt to "improve my scrabble and punctuation". He wrote in the tone of order: "The situation in this regard must follow my discretion, and to teach the school to leave his suggestions inside his already decayed brain." Write these can tingle others Letter, it is very good to make Mark spitting. In this way, his angry, and these letters have not caused any bad response, because his wife has quietly taken these letters, no post, these letters have not been sent. Do you want to persuade someone to change some bad habits? Carnegie thinks this is very good, he is very good. But why not start from yourself? From a pure selfish point of view, this is much more beneficial to improve others, and there is a lot of risks. Bairan Ning said: "If a person starts with his heart first, he is a valuable person." To revolve all your shortcomings may have to go to Christmas. At that time, you can rest well in the holidays, then use the New Year's Day to persuade and criticize others. Carnegie emphasizes that you must practice yourself perfect, then you can persuade others. "Don't complain to the snow on the roof of the neighbor, when you are in your own mouth." Carnegie recalls: "When I am still young, I want to show someone. I wrote a letter to the writer. Ding Davis, he once in the American literary altar. I was writing a magazine article about writers at the time; I asked Davis to tell me his writing method. Before this a few weeks, I I have received a letter, my letter is written: 'oral letters, didn't read.' "I think it is great. I think people who write the letter must be very unrest, very busy, very important. I am not busy at a point; but I am eager to show someone in the Harding Davis, so I am at the end of the short quarter, with these words as a conclusion: 'oral letters, not read. '"He didn't look at my letter at all, and only gave me the merits, and wrote on the tail of herbs:' Your politeness is really no polite. 'Yes, I was doing wrong, maybe I am picking up. But as a mortal, I don't think it is so deep. When I learned to know the death of Rhazha Davis, my heart was still thinking about my injury. "Carnegie reminded:" If you want to cause a decades after tomorrow, until death can disappear, as long as you gently spit out a vicious comment - no matter how much you know yourself. "So Carnegie believes that when we are in place, we have to remember, and our people are not logical, and our people who are full of emotional characters are full of prejudice, proud and vanity. Slim criticism, making sensitive Tom Mas Hadi - he has made one of the best writers of British literature, always abandoned novel writing; criticize the British poet Tom Mas Chatrie to commit suicide.
