Carnegie interpersonal relationship
Three clever entertainment
In our lives, how to entertain it is a very headache. Carnegie has its own experience on this.
Carnegie believes that our daily life is theoretically, no matter how it is not reasonable.
There are many things that become uneven due to long-term habits and inertia. But you don't try to put these unreasonable habits.
Broken, otherwise, in the entertainment, it is necessary to encounter the other party "psychological resistance." The so-called "psychological resistance",
It means that the other party thinks you are not near human condition, since the other party feels some, your entertainment effect will be greatly reduced.
There are too many examples of these "unreasonable" daily habits and methods, and the most common little things are daily.
See the courtesy. For example, we met with friends, and there is no greece, but it must be said: "It's really gifted.
very. "Dictionary is that others invite you, but will always say sentences when they are in line:" Breeding you! "You go to a company to serve, points
It is not a person introduced, but when he asked you, you will say:
"Take your face, I entered a company."
But if you don't say this unreasonable, others will think that you are too none. However, if you arrived
Europe or some other places, you speak this kind of courtesy, it is not suitable.
In Japan, the public car ticket sector said to each passer, "Thank you!"
Can't afford it, let you wait for a long time. "If the domestic bus ticket staff say this, I am afraid that guests have to think this
There is a problem with the nerve of the selection. So this is not a reasonable unreasonable problem because of the birth of each place
Different customs need to pay attention.
A person's "first impression" is very important, others are the same for you, or you are doing others.
In the entertainment, "First Impression" is not good, if you want to save, you will have a lot of effort, "first impression"
Pay special attention to it.
How to give people a good first impression? Carnegie believes that there must be a good first impression, first pay attention to clothing.
Some people will have objection: "How can clothing become a problem? The content of entertainment is most important."
You see an adult wearing a jeans, will you have a light impression? You look at someone's trousers tube tube
There is no line in the middle, do you have a sense of "not good"? If your reply is positive, then you can't
Don't face the reality. Pay attention to your clothing, this means not calling you the most popular, most fashionable clothes, just
Please feel that there is a neat, clean, so that the clothes are new, it is old, the material is good, it is bad.
problem.
There are many companies in the United States have "specifications" on the costumes of the employees, and the so-called specifications are not specified.
How to look at it or specify the clothes, but "the level" of "see".
In the books of experts, 6 points that should be paid attention to before the assessment:
1. Is there any shoes? Second, is there a line in the trouser tube? Third, the shirt is all buckled? Four, shaving
Is there a beard? 5. Is there a hair? Sixth, whether the wrinkles of clothes noticed?
Not only in the United States, actually in the world. Thailand has an executive of an insurance company
The company reports that when they persuade the farmers, wear neatings than wearing it, it is different in business grades.
More, it can be seen that the peasants themselves are not well worn, but they always feel more trustworthy.
Therefore, don't have to laugh at the social hairy "first after the first queue".
When we carry entertainment, we should pay attention to reality. If you want to push others, if you want to have some unnecessary failure.
For unfamiliar people, we should find someone to introduce. Take foreign life insurance brokers as an example, they go to find new
The main way, now I have adopted the way "Trusters", because some people introduce, will never eat closed doors. of course,
Those who wrote the letter for you, must be in the opponent, very faceful, if it is a person who hates the other person,
Of course, exceptions.
Nowadays, gradually pops with business cards in the society, have been bossard with a number of words, which is a good way, because
When the other party of Shaoxin wants to open, some people will return the original letter to people when they read the trust in the letter.
The saver is very embarrassed; if the written business card will have this situation.
Cardik said in his "Word of Entertainment" in his "" and strangers met the first time, it is best to use the introducer to do the initial time.
Meet the topic. "This is very pertinent.
The length of entertainment time is very important in an appropriate entertainment. Of course, we have to
The essence, purpose and species of rewards are determined, and it cannot be generalized. But we have to know, the current public electricity in the city
The basic call time is three minutes, and this provision is a very profound research. It represents
A small thing should be junction within three minutes;
If something is not a saying, or if you need to debate, it may spend an hour. But one is not
The principle of change is that we should try to shorten the time of entertainment, and we must protect yourself and the other party to generate "fatigue". because
Time this kind of thing, physical aspects and psychological differences, when you talk to a friend of a friend, and he
Look at the watch, yeah, 12 o'clock, there is no bus, the last class is coming soon ... this kind of entertainment is made
The person feels that the time is only 20 minutes of time, but there is an hour of feelings. Some people participate
Remuneration, for physical time, but very much attention to psychological time, that is, when he has this entertainment
When he is interested, how much time is he not spent; otherwise, the mind is like a sense of the year.
However, after all, our human beings are controlled by physical hours, so it is best not to waste time, convenient
It is also convenient for others, and it is more important to make the entertainment itself.
Carnegie reminds us that time is the last element of entertainment, and it is also the most important factor.
Time.
There is a principle in entertainment to: first sufficient for others to achieve its own needs. But very regrettable, this
In a society, people who can do this step are not much, because people are afraid of suffering from the psychology.
However, we can make a lot of examples to explain those who are successful in all aspects, but they always use this set.
Sometimes it can even be defeated.
Japan has a big newspaper, and the summary of the year ago, the newcomer has never served as more important positions in the newspaper.
"Even the big cars interviewed did not sit" (Japanese new reporters took a group of newspapers in the newspaper, if the qualifications were more
Old, you can drive yourself), this sentence is enemy criticism is the mouth of some journalists, but this
Some comments let the new editor-in-chief know. On the first day, he said in the "as a speech" and said to your colleagues:
"I have the position of the newspaper, don't say that I have the final editor, that is, the qualifications of the staff member, because
With regard to the statistics of the information, I only know twice in the economy. So I only have a wish, I hope to sit on the journalist's big car, and I hope that because I can get the experience of all of the foreign colleagues, I will go to a bank in the future.
Asking them to cooperate, replacing the colleagues to do a place in purchase in the urban area. ...... "
His words have not been finished, and it is already applause in the conference room, everyone supports him.
There is a female singer, from Japan to Hong Kong, after a small residence, go to Southeast Asia to perform songs and dances.
She needs one or two short scriptures, and in her mind, a very famous writer in Hong Kong can make a pen for her.
Great. This writer studied Chinese and Western and writing, but his temper is quirky, and it is very busy.
The singer called her friend and said that she has introduced by a director. I have to get dinner with a writer, but
She didn't know how to ask him to ask him.
"Do you plan to write some short play?"
"Just, as long as he will write it."
"This is not good, he doesn't understand your needs, it may be not ideal, and after he is finished, you find out
When I don't want to ask him, the problem will become serious! "
"I hope that he wrote a dumb girl for me, but there is a new content, not the previous story."
"This is very good, he wrote a lot of things before, as long as you know that he has written these scripts, and ten
I will not worship. ...... "
After two days, the singer called her friend, I am very happy to say: "He doesn't wait for me to ask for it.
I wrote two short dramas. "
Her friend said: "When you dinner, are you always talking about the proud of his past?"
"You are right, I mainly talk about his work in Japan how to accept people."
"Right, this is the success of the interest in the interested interest in the entertainment."
Japan has a women's organization, after get off work every day, have many ladies lady to play tennis there, but
A gentleman has gone tennis from the man every day. One day, his friend was invited to go to the same time, listened to him that
Some hesitants when the name of the organization. He asked: "Why don't you go to the municipal gymnasium?" The gentleman said: "I am not only
When I played tennis, and still the coach there, I also serve as a tennis game! "The reason is that
The children's tennis have not much good hands, and most people are still studying, and they have a principle: "It is better to play tennis.
Good practice. "In other words, since it comes to the tennis court, it is interested in tennis. Unless you are born, there is tennis.
The genius, otherwise it will practice.
Carnegie tells us that it is better to taste it in entertainment. Can we pay attention to other people's interest? We with
People exchange, can I work hard in this regard? Some people are naturally enforced, which is naturally gratifying. But if not
If you genius, we need to learn.
When we went to a larger banquet, everyone will have an unconscious idea, that is, the best
Avoiding and strange people with the same seat, because there is a laughter with the mature people, and there will be fun with strangers. its
Really, this idea is really awareness that escaping to learn entertainment, just like walking into the tennis court and not wanting to practice the ball.
In the banquet of strangers, I took the initiative to talk about one of more friends, in the entertainment, we
You can quote a noun, ie "work hard to learn entertainment."
Only want to know more people, and make these people become their own friends, is the real entertainment of life.
policy.
You will say: "I don't plan to have a head of the wind. I just do my own, I have to do myself, what do I have to know too much friend?" If you have this idea, then you can tell you, Mark · Tween also
It is not a person who relying on the limelight. His main business is just a work, he only needs genius and more humor.
Sense, however, anyone recognizes that Mark Tween is a friend who is best to get along with friends.
He has said: "A person, only can get along with a person who has no stakeholderless relationship.
That is really happy. "
A female student returned from a child teacher, in the washing banquet, everyone celebrated her academic success, but the card
Narbyz She chose the best understanding of this door, because kindergarten, the beginning of the door of school, also. Initial
The child is the most difficult, she specializes in this door, it is difficult to be expensive. There are a lot of people from teachers, but young
The children's teachers are very lacking, and there are not many people who are willing to enroll their children.
Carnegie asked her to ask some of the way to have a child, saying: "You will read you in the 'kinder'."
It's more important than others. "
"Yes." She said: "We have spent seven times to learn the theory and knowledge in this area."
"Look at you, where is the most difficult place to pay?"
"People who have received kindergarten teachers will not feel that the child is difficult to deal with."
"That is to say, when you are in class, they will eventually accept your discipline, but you have to know that there are still many things to do.
Coping, such as fear of strangeness, crying, size, etc. I think you must have some tips. "
"I don't know any secret, but when I am going to the venue, I can deal with it, you have to do it, we start,
Take a look at how we'rs 'will' them. "
Carnegie is curious, and I personally go to see how these "child teachers" experts will be small when they start in kindergartens.
Child.
Going to see the kindergarten starting classes will also understand why parents' love for their children is great. Carnegie
The garden is located in the suburbs, and it is a bit amazing. This semester has a total of 18 classes, which is far from them.
It is necessary to have more primary schools and middle school students.
On the first day of school, the car came to pick up, and the students were full of designated waiting places, and the people accompanyed, ten eight nine-nine
And knowing the child's parents, not babysitter. Since the car does not allow parents to take, these young children who are beginning to parents, more
Half crying, caught parents more unassured, their only way is to take the bus, follow the school bus,
As a result, the traffic is crowded.
It's hard to arrive at the school gate, and the school is crying outside the school! You can imagine hundreds of children, plus hundreds of people
The parents, crying, chaotic, crowded, calling men, queueing class ....
However, Carnegie saw teachers, including female students, that is not worried about them.
I know that they must have a way to calm down this chaos.
Carnegie listened to the school with a broadcast to broadcast to parents, please don't be too nervous, don't be because of the child
When I cried, I was smashed to them, because this is the first time that the children have left their parents to come to this strange place, the school's own way
Teach, please rest assured that the next day, it is best not to follow the child to the school.
Kindergarten entertaining the secret of children, in fact, there is only one kind, is the "adapt to others"
interest".
What is the interest of a child? As long as you can figure out their psychology, you can solve it. It is said that when I just went to class, there were many children to be accompanied by the parents. However, this situation only maintained a day,
The next day, the child didn't want my mother to accompany, because the teacher said to him: "Xiao Li, you see, Amei don't want
Mom is accompanying, let my mother return home for your lunch, isn't it better? "The child's temper is strong, she looks at it,
Amei really doesn't have a mother, then you are not embarrassed.
Some children have been crying when they are in class, and teachers also use the same way, say to him: "You don't cry."
If you don't cry, wait for a while we have a cake. "The child didn't cry.
Speaking with a child to use a child's tone, otherwise he will not accept it at all, and you can't talk about him.
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I have to say it back, but the above, but the general situation, such as the chaotic scene when the kindergarten starts school.
How do you pack it? Soon Qi Shui asked the female student who graduated from the child, she said: We all press one
The principle is to understand this scene: the first day, crying and noisy; the next day, still crying, noisy;
On the third day, everyone is embarrassing; on the fourth day, the children began naughty.
I saw the kindergarten teacher to treat the child's enforcement, Carnegie believes the reason for their success, because they can
Sacrifice, it should be said: "Abandon" your own personality to cater to the interests and ideas of children.
This approach is sincere, but sincere, it is always the elements of success.
When your heart is full of enthusiasm, you will be put forward to others, it will not be a problem, but he is happy.
In answering or what she is familiar with.
You know that someone has been to the United States, if you ask him and the United States, he must be very happy or endless.
Many things in the United States, even if your purpose just want to ask about the formalities of the United States, and he will come together
Invoraityance to your elevator of the New York Empire Building, some places in the streets of San Francisco are like Hong Kong, because you
Celebrate his interest.
Carnegie further analyzed that human beings have had a conflict psychology, as some human master men
Female equality, but on the other hand, we hope to maintain the privilege of men; so in words, it will cause the other party to be difficult
Understand the situation. It is said that a celebrity in Japan has said to people's equal issues in a certain entertainment situation:
Q: Do you think women should have the right to participate in politics? A: Of course, I think it is too late to give women's participation in politics.
Q: Do you think it should be prohibited? A: Private should be sweep immediately. Q: What is your opinion on men? answer:
Na is true for men. Q: What should my wife should come out? A: It should be, it should!
When you listen to a few replies, you will have an impression that this person is a standard male and female flat.
You continue to listen.
Q: Do you agree with men and women? A: The men and women have characteristics, if they learn together, they will inevitably lose their own special
Sex; however, students also have the benefits of classmates.
Carnegie please pay attention to: His problem with men and women is to retain two opinions, change
In order to take neutral, he is not set.
But people with his conversation, the "neutral" understands "it" is "in favor of his previous answered," said that many arguments for men and women, the audience is affected, hard to put him " Neutral opinions are also counted
"In favor".
American psychologist Haiman In a similar test, there were hundreds of people, and seventy-three people replied to each other.
In accordance with the direction you expect, this is not understandable when you have.
The learning and art of entertainment and art are not able to learn from the morning, so they also have experienced accumulation. Entertainmentist
Dr. Gan Bao is in his discussion, put "experience" in the first place. Second, it is:
(2) If the content of the topic should have special knowledge - when you talk to the other party, you must
I don't know this, otherwise it is lacking attractive and cannot make the other person.
(3), fully understand the truth of the relationship between people - there are many things that are different, but the reason is
Never change, this kind of "never change" the truth, you should always put it in your heart.
(4) To cultivate endurance - avoid all kinds of small parts. Experience proves that "small device" often makes yourself lose money.
(5), you can use tone to express your own desire - don't make people can't make trouble. Some people think
Degree ambitions can be a trick, in fact, is quite bad. People who really understand how to use entertainment technology will make yourself
The stand is open quickly.
(6), often maintain neutral, maintain objective - people who are neutralized according to experience, often compete
Take more friends. Even your "Dead Party", you don't have to say the mouth to him, as long as it is "dead
Party "
(7), there must be a measure of all kinds of value, don't just insist on a certain view.
(8), it is necessary to be dedicated to things. One person can't keep secret, I will find a lot of negligence on any incident.
(9) Don't say too much, I want to let others say more.
(10), treat people, care, and try to understand the background and motivation of others.
There is no ready for preparation, often not just unsuccessful, and will suffer from unavailable failures.
Especially for salesmen, be careful.
There is a life insurance man in the United States, relying on his "prepare" work, becoming "Wang." His secret is:
When he went to persuade a guest, he first understood that he did not bought someone's life insurance, if there is already in other homes.
Life insurance, you still have to advise him to buy your company, this successful hope has subtracted half.
"I touched this situation," he said: "There must no longer refer to life insurance, may mention another insurance,
For example, unexpected insurance. "
Low energy life insurance, will attack other life insurance purchased, then recommend their own company.
A book newspaper is sent to go home to sell, undertake a variety of newspaper subscribers, and he went to a customer, and people have been subscribed for a long time.
A magazine, he also booked a group B. The guests were returned: "We don't
Support for two magazines. "When this is said, the atmosphere is very unpleasant, then introduce another magazine,
That's too late. There are many things, psychology can be pre-prepared, have prepared, everything is much better, but unfortunately
The average person is indifferent to this preparation, and the opportunity to let go of a good success.
Even in the phone, there is this situation, how do you prepare someone else say "Yes" or "No" when you should
Coping, you can avoid too much unnecessary unnecessary.
Two people talk, from the "non-specific topic" to "topic" is a fairly difficult thing. There are many people like to say a large number of external words, then say: "The words come true, I am looking for you today, but for ..." or:
"Today's visit, actually for ..." This turned into the topic, the surface seems to be straightforward, but this will make
All the questions you have said are completely lost, because the other's brains have been divided into two. in case
You have this habit, don't understand "turns", it is better to open the door, and you will be much better when you see people.
A washing machine salesman went to visit a friend, and the purpose is of course a sales laundry machine. If he first talks about someone else
The forever, then said: "Today, there is no other purpose, it really wants to sell ..." I think he is mostly to fail.
of. But he was talking about it in a long time, the water is dry, stopped, and then said: "These days are hot, every day
To change the shirt, you will be a big injury every day. "From this to the sales laundry machine, there is really a seamless
Wonderful, even if the other party discovers this "seam", it will not feel uncomfortable.
Some occasions need to state "gossip less, not" correct ". For example, the other party knows you, or each other
The agreement is to talk about something, it is officially announced, but it can make the other's emotions, set the spirit.
Talk about what you want to talk.
Some things must never get answers immediately. If you have to make a judgment beforehand, you encounter such things.
Love, it is best not to wait for a reply:
"You are very busy, I don't delay you, please consider it!" This is also a way of pleasing, and you also
Leave a next time the next time.
Carnegie pointed out that we nourish our children, friends and employees, but rarely nourish their self-esteem.
We supply them beef and 洋 芋, cultivate energy; but we forgot to remember many years in memory.
The praise of the Morning Star.
Paul Harway said in a radio show "The end of the story" in his hosted, said sincerely
Yang and appreciation, how to change a person's life. He said, a few years ago, a teacher in Detroit asked Steve.
Mo Ruis helped her to find a mouse that was running in the classroom. She learned that God gave Shif, Shif, such something
It is not there in our house. God gave Steve a pair of great ears to compensate for his eyes
Blindness. So the teacher's request, so that Steve first felt his specialty for the appreciation of others. several years
In the future, Shif said that he received the attention and appreciation, it is the beginning of his new life. From that time,
He began to develop his hearing talents and finally became the greatest pop songs and composers in the 700s. His art
The name is Steve Wang Del.
Some readers see the above examples will say: "This way of shooting the horse!
I tried. No use - will not have effects on people with knowledge. "
Of course, the slam fart can't lie to understand, it is skin, selfish, hypocritical, it should fail, and true
It is often a failure. Some people appreciate others is very hunger, anything can be accepted, just like a hungry
People who want to die, even grass and bait will eat.
For example, why did you have multiple married Divani brothers, will it be so smooth in the marriage market? why
These two so-called "Gong Ge", there is a way to marry two famous and beautiful movie stars, a famous world
Chief female singer, a value of hundreds of thousands of dollars? He Don? What do they do?
"Divani brothers have the charm of women," Yadi Luoer St. John said in an article in "Freedom" magazine, "... for a long time, for many people, it has always been a mystery."
Polanieney, a woman who saw Guangbo, a man's appreciation home, is also a great artist.
Her explanation of Carnegie was proposed once. She said: "They understand the Word of any man I meet.
And the way, in this reality, there is almost the same forgotten things in this reality. I can follow you.
Guarantee, this kind of compliment is the secret of the Divani brothers attract women. "
Even the Victorian Queen is also complimented. Delai admitted that he often used compliment before the queen. Quote
He himself, he said that he was "shamelessly complimented". However, Deliry is all people who have ruled over the British Empire.
One of the most technically practiced, most technically, the most ways. In his line, he is a genius. Of course, there is
Effective method, not necessarily valid for us. Compliment is more beneficial to you, compliment is fake, just like counterfeit banknotes, if
You have to use, and finally will give you trouble.
What is the difference between compliments? Very simple. One is sincere, the other is untrue; one
From the heart, the other is from the teeth; one likes the world, the other is none of the world.
In the Chaptrus Palace of Mexico City, Carnegie saw a half-length image of the Aubargang General. In that half
Under the image, the philosophical wisdom of the Aubargang General: "Don't worry about attacking your enemies. Be worried
To maintain those friends. "
Therefore, Carnegie is not advocating compliment! Carnegie said is a new way of life.
George Idea, on the wall of the Buckingham Palace, showed a six-sentence motto. One of them is:
"Teach me how to don't flatten the cheap praise." Compliment is just a cheap praise. Carnegie said he had a reading
To a complimentary definition, maybe introduce you to you: "Compliment, is the other person, it is exactly what he is right.
Idea. "
"No matter what language you use," Emerson said, "What you said is still written by your own."
If you can achieve your goals, everyone will compete for each other, then we are doing people.
Experts.
When we don't think about some identified questions, we usually use the 95% of our time to think
ourselves. Now, if we stop do not want yourself for a while, we will start thinking about others, we will not resort
I haven't said that I haven't said that it is a virtual feeling.
One of the most often ignored many virtues in our daily lives is to appreciate and praise others.
How to pay back. When our son and daughter brought back a good transcript, we turned out, but no
When he or she praised, or when they first successfully made a cake or a bird cage,
We didn't encourage them. There is no thing more than the parent's concern, and praise the children.
They are happy.
Carnegie suggested us, the next time you eat a good dish at the hotel, don't forget to say this dish is good.
And passed this sentence to the master. And when a runarable salesman show you polite attitude, please
You give him praise.
Every missionaries, teachers, and speakers have experienced all things in the belly but not get
The discouragement of the audience praised.
These people will encounter this situation, those staff in the office, shops and the factory, and our home
People and friends will encounter this situation.
In terms of interpersonal relationships, we should never forget that all our colleagues are people, and they are eager to others.
Appreciate and praise. Appreciation and praise are all people welcome. On your place you get every day, you may wish to say a few words thanks, leave some friendly little sparks. You will
Imagine these small sparks how to ignite the flame of friendship, and when you come to this place next time, this
Friendship's flame will illuminate you.
What is the secret of a successful business talk? According to the kind scholar Charles Iria,
Law, "successful business conversation, there is no mystery ... concentrate on watching people talking to you, it is very heavy
need. There is no more compliment that is more complimentable. "
Eliot is a skilled listening to art masters. A number of novels of the United States Henry James recalls: Ai
Listening is not silent, but in the form of activity. He sat very straight, put his hand on the knee, except your thumb
It is said that it is anxious or slow to wind, and there is no other action. He faces the other party, it seems to listen with your eyes and your ears.
He talks. He listened carefully and listened to what you said with your heart. Finally, this person who talks to him.
I will feel that he has said that he is going to say.
Light and easy to understand, you don't have to find this in Harvard University last four years.
But we know, some merchants will rent an expensive place, and they will buy their goods, and the store is decorated.
Drifting the bright, spent a lot of advertising fees, but hired some clerk who didn't know how to listen to others - those clerk
If you interrupt the guest, you will fight with others, you will be embarrassed, you will only drive out.
We noticed that the people who complain, even the most difficult people, in a patient, compassionate
The listener will often be softened and yield. Such a listener, picking a bone with bones in being eggs
When you are, you will remain silent. For example: New York Telephone Company found a few years ago, the company hit a
The most ferocious user who spits the porter mouth. He burned in his anger, threatened to pull the phone, refused to pay
Some expenses say that those expenses have no born. He wrote to the newspaper and went to the public service committee to do numerous applications.
I also record the phone company very much.
Finally, one of the most practiced "mediators" of the telephone company is sent to meet the users who have a chance. this
The "mediator" listened quietly, so that the old users spit out his dissatisfaction. Telephone company
"Medition" is patiently listening, constantly saying 'Yes', sympathizing with his dissatisfaction.
"He said hears, and I listened, almost three hours." The "mediator" put his
The test is described in Carnegieban. "Then, I will continue to listen. I have seen him four times, in the fourth meeting
Before the end, I have become a member of an organization he wants to set up, he called it a 'Phone User Support Association
meeting'. I am still a member of this organization, but I know, except for the old brother, I am today is the world.
The only member of this organization.
"I listened, holding the attitude of each of the arguments issued in these few meetings. He never
I have seen a telephone company talking to him, so he became friendly. When I met, I
There is no reason I have to find him, and there is no second and third times. But when the fourth time, this matter
Completely solved, he paid all the bills and revoke a complaint against the Public Service Committee. "
Undoubtedly, the old brother believes that it is a sacred presidency, maintaining the rights of the public, so as not to be exploited.
But in fact, what he wants is an important person, he first got this in the way
The feeling of important people. But when he got this feeling from a representative of a telephone company, there was no born.
Grouped into Wushui. Singerman Flord is necessary to be a very great listening master in modern times. A person who has encountered Flord,
Describe his attitude towards others: "That is too shocked, I will never forget him. His kind
Quality, I have never seen it in someone else, I have never seen such a focus, there is such a keen soul.
Insight and staring at the ability. His eyes are so humble and gentle, his voice is low, and there is very little posture. but
He focused on me, he showed the attitude of I like me - even if I said is not good, it is the same, this
Something is right and unusual. You really can't imagine that others are like this, what is the meaning representing you? "
If you want to know how to make others dodge you, laugh at you behind you, even despise you, here there is a method:
Don't listen to others, talk more, constantly talk about yourself. If you know what others say, don't
Waiting for him to finish. He is not as clever, why should you launch your time to listen to his chat?
But the result of this can only be in an unfavorable position.
Only people who talk about themselves, only yourself. And "I only want to be my own", Columbia University
Dr. Chang Nikra, Sabtler said, "Is an unreserved person who is unhaded." "He has not been educated," Si
Badler said, "No matter how many books he read."
Therefore, if you want to be an excellent talk home, please be a person who pays attention to listening. Just like Charles
Novshan Li said: "It is necessary to feel interesting, you will be interested in others." Proven that others like to answer questions,
Encourage him to talk about himself and his achievements.
Keep in mind that people talking to you, for himself, his needs and his questions, more interesting thousands of times. He's right
The pain of your neck is more interested in more interest in the forty earthquake in Africa. When you start talking to others next time,
Don't forget this.
So if you want others like you, remember this rule:
"Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves."
