Do you have the following situation:
Others make you do something, you don't want to do it, but you can't be pushed;
In the face of colleagues, you can't talk about a word, you will only lying on the bed secretly crying;
When you buy something, you will pick it a little. If you are afraid that the salesperson gives you your face, I bought something you didn't want to want;
Your own interests were obviously infringed, but they were swallowed and did not dare to speak.
If you often face the above situation, then your personality is weak. You don't dare to force the reason or is afraid that others can see, or if you do bad relationships, or you don't know what to do.
In fact, you are lacking confidence. Because you are not confident, you look very weak; because you are very weak, you will be more confident. The behavioral psychologist believes that there is no natural and weak person, and all the personality is learning after tomorrow. This is to say, people are small, do not dare to protect their rights, not good to reject others, do not dare to speak loudly and other behavior performances are not known. But the actions learned can change it by learning. Modern psychology provides a specific and effective training for changing behavior. Below we will introduce it to everyone:
But before starting training, I will remind you to pay attention to three points:
First, you have to ask if you are weak, or there is still a little more appreciation, if you have a little "weak" to your weak, you will not try it;
Second, you must press the class according to the class, don't break the following training "homework", can not leak, otherwise it will have no results;
Third, a part of the following homework may be very difficult, but if you regard it as a performance, it is a performance rather than true, so you can forget your identity, enter the role, It will be easier to do.
All training is divided into four weeks, each week as a phase, including:
The first week: ask the road to a strangeness. In the place you are familiar, you are pretending to be a narrow asked. Please see the same age zone from the opposite side, you have to welcome it without panic, there is no expression of each other in both eyes, then ask: "How to go to Wangfujing?" After he answered, You don't understand what you don't understand. This performance is successful for a week. For those who are ashamed to deal with the same stranger, the completion of this job will have an excitement and delightening that has never been seen.
Second Week: Change the zero line to the salesperson. This is more difficult than the "performance" of the first week, because it gives the other party a certain amount of trouble, of course, gives you a certain psychological pressure. Please take ten yuan to the store, find a facial expression, but more attractive heterosexing, the two eyes are facing each other, and the local said: "For me to change the change of ten dollars." No matter the other attitude It is good or bad, no matter whether it will give you money, you must calmly look at each other, the more the expression is, the better. As long as this "performance" is completed three times as required, even if it passes. If there is halfway, it is necessary to make up three times.
Third, four weeks: learning quarrel. Soft people must learn to express their feelings, especially to learn dissatisfaction and angry emotions. To this end, you must learn to quarrel. This training can be carried out this: Choose a classmate or colleague who is very good, first, he oftens the debate on the topic of the defending or arguing with others, and exercises several times. Then find the opportunity to argue with him to exercise your ability to express your feelings, enhance your confidence. There are two results in the debate, one is that you fight each other, and the other is the other party to take advantage of the wind. If it is the result, as long as you talk about it, you can see the performance of the other party, or simply say: "Don't make a strong word, I still have something, goodbye!". This kind of training that makes you first brave to "strong", it is very meaningful to change your weakness. In the future, you can take advantage of the move, continue to train until it produces a new self, new lifestyle and self-confident psychological structure.
