The eyes are hailed as "windows of the soul", which is recognized by the psychological community; the psychological activities that peep people through the eyes are common to people in social life. But if you are interested, you must master the relevant theories and techniques in your mind from your mindset from your mind.
Vision is the king of the five senses
Studies have shown that humans are a visual animal, because in the creatures, it can be used as the color like humans, only a monkey. Indeed, from the perspective of medical perspective, the eyes are the most sensitive human five senses, and the field of feelings covers more than 70% of all the feelings. Take the food as an example, we will never rely on the taste, but will pay attention to the saliva of the food, and the method or arrangement of the method or the like. These are the phenomenon of visual influence. Make us dining in the dark room, just know that it is delicious, will have an uneasy feeling, so that we have no heart to taste, even the appetite is reduced. Conversely, in a clean, bright, light, soft, food in the restaurant, will eat good dining emotions. It can be seen that visually is ranking "the king of the five senses", enough to give other senses. In ancient Greek mythology, there is a sister three blame, and outsiders immediately turned into a stone. This mythical story fully illustrates the power of the eyes.
Therefore, it is very reasonable to express the mental content of the eye. So people think: The eyes are the windows of the soul. For the role of the eyes, I have already made a brilliant explanation in the Spring and Autumn Period, and the eyes are the benchmarks of judging their good and evil. He said: Among people, Mo Liang in the scorpion. The scorpion can't hide the evil: positive in the chest, it is awkward; the chest is not correct, then the scorpion is not.
In addition, the turbidity of the eyes also reflects the characteristics of psychological activity. People who often appear as sleepy, it seems to be a stupid phase; but the man is bright, the eyes are slick, and naturally is smart.
Furthermore, through the sight of the person, you can easier inner activities. People in social life, if there is any desire or emotion in the heart, it will inevitably be exposed on the line of sight. Therefore, how to understand the mentality of others through the activities of the line of view, is of great significance to the psychological communication between people and people.
The communication of the sight is the prelude of communication.
A person's sight can be learned from different angles and different perspectives. First, whether the other party is watching himself, this is the key; two, the other side's sight is active. The other party is staring at yourself, or when the line of sight is moving, his mental state is very different; how is its three, the direction of sight, is it to observe whether the other party is looking at himself, or looks at himself in itself; How is the location of the line of sight this is that the other party looks down, or looks up in it; its five, the concentration of sight. This means that the other party is concentrating on looking at yourself, or is ethereal, I don't know where it is. The meaning representative of these performance is different.
Whether the other party is watching themselves, that is, there is no line of contact, indicating whether the other party has a good or interest to himself. If the other party does not look at yourself, it is not interested in you or not. On the contrary, when we walk on the road, we will find that strangers have always stared at us, they will feel uneasy, and even feel scared.
In addition, when people don't know, they will open them from each other. This is because people think that one person is seen for a long time, and it will feel that they are seen to be inner or violated privacy. When we are waiting for a bus, or standing in the launch of a ticket to buy a ticket, this manifestation is a habit of people, which is not only in order to advance, but also to avoid it. The person's sight intersect. But there are also face-to-face, these people are more friends, husband and wife, loved ones, lovers, etc. These people will pass each other's privacy by some of the degree of violation, so they even interlaced, facilitate mutual speech, psychological communication. In summary, the associates intersect each other, that is, it is expressed as intentional psychological communication. But if this happens between women, it has different meaning. Because, when a woman is reluctant to pass his inner experience to each other, most of them will aggressive each other's behavior. The psychologist Ax Lane has done the experiment of people. The experimental results show that if the test is "concealed true" in advance, the ratio of the other party is in the test, the man will decrease, but the woman is instead improve. The man has 66.8% of the time in the conversation time in the case of not receiving the indication; but after the indication, only 60.8% of the time is watching each other. As for women, after accepting instructions, it is actually increased to 69% of the time to watch each other. Therefore, when you meet a woman in the public place, you may wish to think that she may hide anything, pay attention to her unique truth.
Perspective through the activity of the line
People's sight activities also reflect people's mentality. It is generally considered that the people who have a touch of the other party's conversation are more honest. But it is not necessarily that it is staring from beginning to end. Psychologist Kenrton, has been done when talking when talking to the other party's attention; while it is about to end, how much is it? In this way, it is possible to perspective from the eyesight to the psychological movement of the other party.
Instead, how is the movement of the line of sight? Generally speaking, when you first meet, first remove the sight, its personality is active. In addition, in the conversation, people who are interested in dominant positions think that if a person can stand in the upper wind, it can decide in the initial 30 seconds. When the line of sight is in contact, the person who first removes the eye is the winner. On the contrary, because the other person moved away from the line of sight, I might think about it, thinking that the other party dislikes himself, or I can't talk, so I have a mind on the other side's sight, but it is completely covered by the other party. . Because of this, the challenge of people who don't concentrate on the line of sight for the first time, should pay special attention to the challenge object with your conversation. However, it is also an act of open the line of sight. If it is removed when he is paying attention, then it is another matter. In general, when our hearts are guilty, or when they have something to hide, they will produce this phenomenon. A architecture called James Xue Nong, who has drawn a frowning eye abstract painting, set on a large transparent board, and then hanging in front of several stores, its original intention is to reducing stealing behavior . Sure enough, during the suspension, theft is greatly reduced. Although it is not a real eye, but for those who are guilty, it constitutes a threat. Try to avoid the sight, so as not to be tail, so I don't dare to enter the store, even if I entered the store I don't dare to steal.
Look at the direction of the line of sight
In the exchange of activities, through the viewing direction of the person, it can also connect people's mentality. In the interaction, if they face the opposite sex, they are only in the eyes, and those who deliberately remove the line of sight, mostly because of their strong interest in the opponent. For example, on the train or bus, you have a young woman, everyone's eyes are almost concentrated on her, but young men tend to bring their faces to the side. Although they are also very interested, they produce self-made behaviors based on strong suppression. When the desire of interest is increased, it will be peeable with a strabism. This is because I want to see the other party, but I don't want to let the other person know my own mind. In addition, behavioralist Yabin. Gao Mangan believes that after the opposite sex is aimed at a glance, it is closed, which is a "I believe you, not afraid you". So, when you look at the opposite sex, it is not to remove the line of sight, but after closing your eyes, you will look around, so repeated, it is the performance of respect and reliance. Especially when women look at men, they can think that there is a possibility.
Perspective by eye movement
In the exchange activities, the position of the eye position is different, and its mentality is also very different. For example, when the superior is discussed with the lower level, the superiors will definitely be issued from the height, and it will naturally projection directly. Conversely, as a subordination, although there is no mistake, the line of sight is often upward, and it is often weak and weak. This is due to high positions, always hopes to maintain its majesty psychological role against the lower level. But there is also an exception, which has nothing to do with the high and low position, but the reason. In general, people introverted in the personality in communication. The US Comparative Psychologist Richard. Coes had done an experiment, giving birth to a "self-closing" child and unfamiliar adults to observe the length of the adult time. Compared with both adult eyes, it was found that the child's attention was found to be three times the latter. That is to say, both eyes are in contact, and children will immediately remove their sight. It can be seen that people introverted in the personality, mostly can't always look at each other.
"See the other mentality in the eyes"
1. Always stare at the women's women, there may be hidden in your heart;
2. In the speech, look at the other party, indicating that the other party pays attention to the content of himself;
3. When you meet for the first time, you will first remove the sights, indicating that you want to be in an advantageous status;
4. When you are watching the other party, you will immediately remove the sights, most of them have inferiority or defects;
5. After the same look, I will deliberately remove the sight, indicating that there is a strong interest;
6. Take the other party in the oblique, indicating that the other party is very interested, but don't want the other party to see;
7. Eight-eyed people, indicating that there is respect and trust in the other party;
8. Outside the other party, I want to show a gentleman against each other;
9. The line of sight is not concentrated in each other, soon removing the sights, most of the personality is in the personality.
