I have been married for 8 years, I have always been a "happy little woman" that people see the people. The fact is true. The 8 years of time turns too late, and fortunately, the husband has not had many so-called "derail things", but it is more loved more than a year.
Have a friend asked me, why is it so lucky, I replied: In fact, happiness is not lucky, happiness is self-found. When I change my husband to others, I will not be happy. I can't guarantee that my husband will never go out in the future, but I can guarantee that even if he is derailed, you can still have a happy life. Because I am myself.
--- Generous Happiness 2004-11-30 9:14:50
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To be a woman first, learn to be kind to yourself. There are many women who don't know how to treat themselves. "My happiness is not important." This is what I saw in a version made me feel very sad. If you don't think it is, can you still want to care for your happiness?
Ask you to give up your happiness, is your husband happily? Are you happy with your loved ones? You are not selfless, it is selfish! Only learn to be kind to yourself will be kind to others in life.
Due to your own career, many of my contacts are married women, but there will be such a big difference between women and women, I haven't seen it before.
This also makes me understand why some women are so happy, and some women are so unbearable. There are often a lot of women who can't guess age, and I will enter the store, that is, the smile of profitability, revealing the peace and comfort. Talking about it, often has a happy marriage.
There are also some women, arbitrarily dragging the slippers, and smashing the hair, the face does not apply the powder. When talking to them, they will say, hey! How much is our family, how much can I save a year, I have to take more than a thousand yuan to make beauty, how can it be? I will ask: Do you smoke your husband? She said: Pumping. How much is a pack of smoke? 5 yuan. How much is it every day? A pack. Do you think smoking? Of course not good. Do you do beauty? Of course, good, how much is your husband smoking for a year? She laughed, how can this be better? The man smoke has formed habits. I don't care if I don't do it. I do a good job in my family.
I would like to ask her, what is the name of my family? Pack your home clean, a day three meals clothes, even if it is good? Don't he have an affair? I want to go into the beauty salon in the beginning, I will talk to my husband. I do beauty is not for yourself, for you! He asked why? I said, first, I am beautiful, you have light on your face, people praise you, I have a good wife; second, you don't want to go home to face a yellow woman every day? Third, the man is old slowly, I don't want to wait for 10 years, let others say that you take a little mother to go shopping. Husband nodded, "It's good, how much do you want?"
--- Generous
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I have also been there for a while, I will not be able to wear it, I always want to save some good things to give him some good things. However, it is still good, once two people got, they are very sad, and find that they pay for him.
Later, I feel that women really treat themselves. If you don't love yourself, can you still want to love you? So I started to buy a suitable costume, use some good cosmetics, to the beauty salon, often doing skin care with good friends. Slowly, I found that life can be such a better, not only his existence can make me happiness. And my husband, he actually surprised my change, once I took me out, I would say that my wife is so beautiful! He heard this, it is more happy than praising himself, and laughs without a mouth.
--- Generous
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Second, it is to be a woman to learn to improve himself. This improvement includes the improvement of integrated quality of accumulation, temperament culture, and improvement in image. I remember that I will talk to my husband to go to the night school to read the course. Friends don't care, I don't understand you, I don't understand you, what is it really useful?
Besides, there is a reading. I will let my husband Another peace of mind, I will not find trouble like you! This friend is a high school culture, and now the work is not very stable, even if there is a good job, what can I guarantee?
I said to her: I personally think that people must have a crisis awareness, whether it is treating marriage or a career, only this can be less hurt; the same, not only the husband of your husband, but also let your husband You have a crisis awareness, if he thinks you think you are absolutely safe, then you may not be safe.
Only you and him will always stand on a horizontal line, two talents will have a common language, and there will be similar life circles, and they will truly support each other, understand each other, and equality equality.
I still have a friend, my husband's cultural level is not high, but I have a business mind and business is doing the day. This friend has conceived his husband's business, buried his head and study, has read his master's degree, but the family life is indeed a mess, the husband is not going home in three days, go home is not a noisy.
My friend said to me, if not for the child, I am breakd out. In fact, thinking about it, although this friend is improved, the level of social interaction is not improved, the individual image temperament has not improved, but the husband is so rich, but it seems to have nothing to do with her, and the monthly salary income is not Physical, but Still riding a bicycle on a bicycle every day, I still wearing a college, I am not commemled with her husband's famous car; when I put forward her image, she said: I don't have to spend money to please him, talk to him. When I am in love, he said that I like my simple, now he has changed, not me change.
I said to her: You are right, because you have not changed, so he will change. The husband and wife are to adapt each other. Most women who have returned their husband derailed behaviors are not relying on old public, that is, the gap with her husband, no matter who this gap is.
--- Generous
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Third, learn to independent. Separate two, mentally independent and substance independence. First, we should have its own social circles. Have your own work and friends.
I have been saying to my friends, I would rather earn 500 yuan in work in a month, then take these money to hire, nor to stay at home. This is what you are positioning your own position.
Have you heard a lot of women: I can't earn how much money to work, it is better to stay at home. Then, when the husband and wife quarrel or the family, I shouted. What do you think, I am so hard, I am so hard, you are still like me? "I said, first of all, you will be positioned in this position, you still want others to see you? If your sky is very big, your husband is just part of it (it should be like this), then, Even if his sky collapses, what is the relationship?
Second, independence is a need for money support. I don't agree with the practice of all my husband's money in my own pockets, this practice is not true. Even if he can't hold his people, you can't keep his heart, let alone in this era of love, money can't be the standard of love.
The girls who love people don't love money are much, are you taking over? The most important thing is to make sure you have enough ability to support yourself, then learn your own income more reasonable, such as learning a variety of knowledge, such as drinking tea bubbles to KTV, such as beauty pedicure fitness body, color consultation clothing match Wait, I personally think that these spending is very necessary as a woman, I can choose according to my own strength, and I have improved your life while enjoying life.
And sometimes couples can meet each other. Everyone has the right, not just a man. For example, the pedicure, I believe that most women have tried it, and they are deeply sick for their men to enter this place. In fact, it is not necessary. You can go with him, you can enjoy it, and avoid it, I am always suspicious.
Including women do beauty, I often have some girls or my wife who have a boyfriend or husband in my store. After men have done, I finally know why their girlfriends or wife always like to go. The beauty salon runs, doing really effective, and very comfortable.
Of course, these consumptions are based on economic independence. As long as they work hard, the life in the traditional sense can enjoy, and you will be more happy. All is what you want and how to do it. If you can talk straight to him: "I can support myself, leaving you, I can live better." What are you afraid of? "
--- Generous
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In short, there are many women in this world who have suffering, with a large part of the reason for their own choice, not the arrangement of destiny.
I sincerely hope that every woman is full of flowers, clearing such as water, happiness like honey
