Since its inception, the top seven years in the United States is in the top seven years, and 70 countries around the world have issued more than 100 million books in 28 languages.
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Dr. is also known as a tutor of human potential by the "Times" magazine and is selected into 25 most influential people in the United States. What is "the seven habits of high-efficiency people", what is the favor of such many readers?
In the past 25 years, I have been in the business, university and the family marriage advisor. I have been touched by the shape of the shape, but I feel the lack of lack, I believe that the problems they face is also what you are paying attention.
Habits 1: Active
Principle of personal vision
Active active this word now often appears in management work, its meaning is not just action, but also the representative must be responsible for himself. Personal behavior depends on itself, not external environment: reason can or overcome the feelings; people have the ability to create a favorable external environment. Once I gave a speech in the Sacramento, the theme was proactive. When I spent half, a woman suddenly stood up and comment:
You absolutely don't imagine my heart! I am a nurse, which is responsible for a patient that may be the most discerning, and most difficult to serve in the world. He has never grateful, but it is looking for it everywhere. Other nurses also have the same feeling, we just hope that he will die early.
And you actually talk about what is active on the stage, say anything I have not agreed, no one can treat me. Is my pain to be asked? This concept committee is unacceptable. But I still have a constantly playing, and I have been exploring the deepest place. I finally found that I really had this ability, swallowing this bitter medicine in hard studies, and admitting pain behind them, I experience people can choose not to suffer. At that moment, I stood up, I only felt that I was a reborn prisoner, no longer subject to the treatment of others. The more and more painful experiences, the willingness to hone will, improve the courage to face the future, and even respect others.
Frank has pointed out that there are three important value in life. First, the experience is worth it. The second is to create value, from personal creative; three is the attitude value, which is facing the predicament, such as the disease. These three values are the highest levels of attitude. Adversity often can stimulate thinking changes, enabling people to see people and things in a new point of view, and it is difficult to see it.
Habit 2:
Principles of self-leaders
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The habit of ending "can be applied to all different life levels, and the most basic purpose is the ultimate expectancy of life, which is based on all things through two creations. All things have a mind The first creating, and the actual, the second creation. We do anything to make a sense of mind, and then put into practice.
Habitual 3: Be the first
Self-management principle
Effective management is to master a focus management, which puts the most important thing in the first place. After the leadership decides, after the focus, rely on self-cultivation to master the focus, always put them in the first place, so as not to be blocked, emotional or impulse. To concentrate on the urgency, you have to rule out the tie on the secondary thing. At this time, there must be "not" courage.
Habits 4: Double Win Thinking
Principles of interpersonal leadership
The benefits of the benefits regard life as a team of cooperation, not a corner fight. The average person is very useful to use two bits: non-strong, weak, unreasonable. In fact, the world is big, everyone has enough space, others do not have to be considered as they lose.
Habits
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Know each other
Principles of interaction
If you want to use a sentence, I am in an important principle that I learned in interpersonal relationships. That is: Knowing the help of others - first seeking to understand each other, then trying to let the other person know yourself. This principle is the key to effective interpersonal communication. Assume that there is a ridiculous ophthalmologist for the patient with glasses, actually picking up his own glasses to try, the reason is: "I have already worn 10 years, the effect is very good, give you, anyway, there is a pair. "No one knows that this is not good, but the doctor said:" I have a very good, you try again, don't panic. "The patient said:" But I have twisted. "The doctor said:" Just Confident, you must see it. "The patient repeatedly protested, the doctor actually was angry:"
I am unlucky, I have no good news.
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This ophthalmologist has not diagnosed the prescription, who dares to teach? But when communicating with people, we often commit this problem that is not divided into blue and white. So I must emphasize that understanding others and expressing self is an indispensable element of interpersonal communication, but sometimes we have such a tendency to solve problems in a hurry.
Habitax: Integration
Creative cooperation principles
In the relationship between mutual relationships, comprehensive benefits is to deal with the most powerful ways of obstructing growth and changing. Helping is usually active, reasonable, conscious, in line with economic benefits; conversion, severe resistance, negative, non-logical, emotional, unconscious. Do not try to eliminate the resistance, just increase the thrust, as if it is in the spring, there will be a rebound in the spring. If you cooperate with a win-win motive, the integration of integration of integrated integration, not only can crack resistance, but even the resistance is power.
One morning, I received a call from a land developer. Since he did not repay the loan on time, the bank intended to confiscate mortgage, in order to keep the land, he reversed the bank. In addition, due to the backward progress, nearby residents protested, the municipal government is also a sense of feeling. At this point, banks and developers have put into huge amount of prosecution, but it is still a few months from the opening ceremony.
After some call, he barely agreed to negotiate with the 4th, 5th, 6 habits of 7 habits. At 8 o'clock in the morning, the negotiations were in the beginning of the sword. One and a half hours, I told the concept of win-win thinking, know each other and integrated and integrated integration, and then written on the blackboard according to preliminary understanding, putting banks on the blackboard, and two sides discussed and clarified.
At noon, the time of the original end meeting, the atmosphere discussed on the venue was very enthusiastic, and the recommendations made by the developer were enthusiastic response. Although this negotiation lasted for a while, the lawsuit finally withdraws, and the land is also finally covered a tall building.
Habit: constantly updating
Balanced self-update principle
The most worthy investment in life is to hone yourself, because life and service people have to rely on themselves, this is the most precious tool. The work itself does not bring economic security, with good thinking, learning, creating and adaptability, can stand in an invincible. With wealth, it does not represent economic independence and has the ability to create wealth.
